the colour mom

Join us as I chat with Surabhi, my twin (j/k), over a cup of tea. Surabhi shares her story with us on identity loss as a teenage immigrant and how she navigated her way through these years. She talks about the pressure to 'fit in' and living two completely different lives, all while trying to figure out who you really are. 

Surabhi and I share so much in common that even after the recording we talked for hours. So I basically call her my twin! 

Be that fly on the wall today, grab a nice cup of tea and hit play! 

Surabhi Veitch is a physiotherapist and Pregnancy/Post partum coach who is passionate about helping women live their best lives. You can reach her at www.thepassionatephysio.ca or on instagram: https://ww.instagram.com/thepassionatephysio

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When you marry someone at will, you step into a life full of aspirations, dreams and desires. But what happens when that marriage slowly starts becoming toxic and abusive? How do you even recognize the signs when you may be in denial? How do you seek help? The thought of getting a divorce and moving forward in life as a single mom is one that is daunting and stigmatized in the community. How do you move past that and see light at the end of the tunnel?

Today I chat with Taneet Kaur, who is a writer and a single mom of two girls, as she tells her story of how she broke the cycle for her daughters. 

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i am a mother’s womb

empty and abandoned

all i want

is to be with my baby

i often dream that he is inside of me

cuddled and wrapped in my blanket

i fear that i will be forgotten by mother

as i am already forgotten

by the life i once created

mother’s heart keeps me up at night

when it beats

it reminds me of him

the one i sheltered for nine months

it was a long journey to conception

and i couldn’t bring him into this world

the way i had hoped

keep me in the sunlight so i can soak in the rays

and take care of me

i am here to nurture and protect mother too

remember me for i gave life to the two

by simi @MamasHighOnChai

How does one navigate through the complexities of culture intertwined with the challenges of infertility. An anonymous story takes us through the journey of a couple who discover their infertility and the barriers they face in the name of misogyny and gender biases. Y'all choosing science is not an option for some but a must. Nevertheless, it sucks every ounce of your mental, physical, and emotional energy out of you. Can you imagine adding a cultural layer to all of this? oh...the things they hear from their families and the society! 

Submit your story anonymously. instabio.cc/mamashighonchai 

Connect with me on Instagram @mamashighonchai

well-behaved indian women, a debut novel by Saumya Dave, is a fictional tale of mother-daughter relationships across three generations. It is a one of a kind story that beautifully portrays the complexities and intricacies of womanhood and motherhood in the Indian culture. Since its release in July 2020, the book has been flying off the shelves and has had remarkable reviews.  We meet with Saumya for some chai and learn more about her journey as an author in creating this contemporary piece of art. Saumya talks about how each of the main characters came to life through her writing process and how some parts of the characters that she explored in her book may have come from her own personal experiences. We delve into what it really takes to become an author, who is a woman of colour, in today's modern world. Connect with us on Instagram @mamashighonchai and @saumyajdave 

Last week we were in conversation with Dhara as she walked us through her fertility journey. This week we continue to explore her story and discover  the impacts of IVF on several aspects of her life. What goes through her mind when she finds out she has less than 3% chance of getting pregnant? what was the role of her husband as they went through the most testing phase of their marriage? How did she cope with all the treatments, the drugs, the hormone injections? What was the impact of all this on her physical and mental well being? Really, what does it take to choose science as an option to have a baby! 

Connect with us on Instagram @mamashighonchai and @dharasworld 

This one is for your little ones! Roses and thorns is a mindful activity I recently learned about and have been practicing with my daughter daily since. Every night we reflect on our day. Essentially, we talk about our highs and our lows. It gives us a chance to bond and makes for a very special mother daughter time. 

I would love to know if you and your kids listen in on this episode. Connect with me on instagram @mamashighonchai

Two mamas connect over a glass of wine on a shitty day. Literally!! 

Be the fly on the wall and join in for some real conversations about being South Asian women, and the joys and challenges of motherhood. We unravel the concept of beauty, body image, body hair in the modern world, and how it relates to our South Asian culture and our motherhood journeys. 

Meet Pearly, a beauty, a wife, a mama, and an artist @diatribepodcast 💛. Pearly is a multi-faceted South Asian woman who is living in her revolutionary truth simply by existing. Through storytelling and her truth, she finds healing and understanding. Her unfiltered approach makes South Asian women and women of colour feel heard.

Do you have the good girl syndrome? 

Five mamas talk about the concept of being a 'good girl' in our culture. What were the expectations of them growing up? Were their choices, decisions, behaviors based on what was expected of them? Did they conform to the societal and cultural norms? Join us to hear how each of their stories are different yet have a common string and how they perceived their journeys into motherhood.  

What a time to be launching this podcast! 

Hi, I am your host Simi. 

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This totally didn't go as I planned. I have been planning to launch a podcast for months now. I knew WHY I wanted to do this. I wanted to create a support network for South Asian Mamas. I had a vision of what I wanted to talk about and what my show would look like. Things have taken a sharp turn since this global pandemic has creeped up on each one of us and affected our lives in some way or the other. 

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I was going to put this podcast on hold. But then I thought, if there is a time to build a community, a support network for mothers, it is now! Now is when all of us need the most support because things are not normal.  We are going through exceptional circumstances that never existed. We are all going through this together. I decided to still launch this podcast as my reason has not changed. We can still support each other in the toughest of times. 

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I am calling all South Asian mamas to contribute to this podcast.  Please leave me a voice message on the link below and share your challenges and struggles with this COVID-19 pandemic.  

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We got your back Mamas!