The Conscious Locker Room
By with Tully O'Connor
The Conscious Locker Room Oct 30, 2019
ME#5 - How to Support Your Partners Growth
Show Summary:
In this episode I dive into the process of creating change and how we can support our partners growth and evolution.
So often in relationship we can be sabotaging our partners growth without even realising it.
I dive into how this works and give you 3 Steps you can implement right now to create a culture of growth and teamwork within your relationship.
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#14 - Finding Fulfilment on the Entrepreneurial Path with Alex Waters
Show Summary:
This was an incredible conversation with Alex Waters. Alex dropped out of highschool and started pursuing the entrepreneurial path from a young age. He founded two real estate agencies in the Pilbara, as well as a company called WORKSPACECO, which is an outsourcing agency in the Philippines that provides online remote staff to businesses around the world. He’s also involved in property development and investing.
We dive straight into the deep end as Alex shared his process of navigating the grief involved with his recent separation. He also shares his experience of self exploration and development after hitting a really tough spot in his life where he was achieving massive material success but lacking fulfilment and happiness.
We spoke about leadership, business, fatherhood and his current mission of creating connection by having 100 coffees with 100 strangers in 100 days and everything he’s learnt in the process.
Relevant Links and Website:
Instagram: @alexanderwaters
Linked In: https://au.linkedin.com/in/alexander-waters
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#13 - Embracing both the Wild and Wise within us with Trevor Spring
This was an insightful and inspiring conversation with Trevor Spring, the founder of Wild and Wise, a Men’s archetypal embodiment experiential workshop and Wild & Wise Online, an online course of Health, Breathwork and Brotherhood.
Specializing in emotional, primal embodiment and the underlying states of health required to house mature masculinity, Trevor has spent the last 17 years working deeply as a holistic health and movement coach. Men’s work was beginning to feel heady, conceptual and based in story...full of important brotherly connections but like a support group for keeping things the same and just surviving within the existing paradigm. So Trevor began his process of experimentation.
We discussed the importance of embodied practices that keep us connected to our physicality and the limitations of trying to deal with things from purely the mind/talking about it. Trevor gave a great overview and insight into the different masculine archetypes and how we can use them as a powerful self awareness and development tool. He spoke about the birth of Wild and Wise and the medicine that this offers the men who step into that space.
We also touched on the challenges that present themselves during the transition to fatherhood, conscious relationship as an initiation for growth and evolution, and the importance of honouring that natural cycles and phases of life.
This episode was deeply insightful and I can guarantee there will be more that one significant take aways for you. Enjoy!
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Relevant Links and Website:
Trevor Spring
Instagram: @wild_and_wise
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#12 - Gut Health, Fertility and Testosterone with Holistic Lifestyler, Jeremy Princi
Enjoy this insightful conversation that I had with Jeremy Princi, the Holistic Lifestyler. Jeremy is an expert in Health and Wellness has undertaken postgraduate studies in Sports Chiropractic, International Sports Chiropractic, Holistic Lifestyle Coaching (CHEK Institute) & Australian College of Environmental and Nutritional Medicine (ACNEM).
We spoke about all things gut health. We explored the link between the gut and mental health, fertility, factors affecting Testosterone production and the impact this can have, living a values aligned life and much much more.
If you’re curious or passionate about holistic living, you’ll get a LOT out of this conversation.
Key Points:
- Jeremy’s background
- Interests in gut health
- Fermented Foods
- The types of Jeremy’s clients
- What is it that interests the blokes
- The link between gut health and mental health
- The foundational principles
- Gut and Conception
- The dangers of probiotics
- Issues with young men relating to gut health
- Testosterone deficiency
- The Hoffman process
- Jeremy’s shifts
Relevant Links and Website:
Jeremy Princi
Instagram: @holisticlifestyler
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Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#11 - Deepening Mateship through Rites of Passage Experiences with Mike Dyson
In this conversation with Mikey D we dove in and discussed the importance of Rites of Passage experiences to build healthy individuals and communities. Mike shared what a Rites of Passage experience entails and how it can help people navigate life transitions in a much more empowering way. He’s really passionate about deepening mateship, building strong communities and showing guys “a better way to bloke”.
Key Points:
- Mikey’s significant challenge of severe panic attacks
- Where Mikey’s passion for supporting men comes from
- Recalibrating his belief system on mental health
- Journey from then to now
- The power and importance of Rites of Passage
- The different stages of Rites of Passage
- Why young men are becoming more destructive
- What can we individually contribute to life?
- How Mikey creates the space for father and sons
- The ‘Dad’s’ experience
- Developing the skill-set to have the ‘hard’ conversations
- Take responsibility to create friendships where you can reach out
- How walking with Men and Boys has shifted Mikey
- Mikey’s systems and practices
- All about Good Blokes Co
- How chinese medicine combined with Good Blokes Co
- How Mike wants GBC to expand
- How other people benefit from GBC
Relevant Links and Website:
Mike Dyson
Instagram: @goodblokesco
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/goodblokesco/
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#10 - Tapping into the Power of Breathwork with Luke Smith
Key Points:
- Luke’s most current excitement
- Beginning as an intellectual
- Luke’s relationship step up
- Luke’ s first breathwork session
- Breathwork 101
- Energising the body
- A quick way to changing our state
- How to get started?
- Luke’s main transformation
- Lukes relationship transformation
- Breathwork is a process
- Acessing a deeper sense of knowing
- Trauma and its connection to the breath
- Understanding trauma
- The victim
Relevant Links and Website:
Instagram: @luke__smith
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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ME#4 - Purpose and Power of Perspective
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Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#9 - Mountains and Marathons with Jamin Heppell
This was a really inspiring conversation with Jamin Heppell who is the Co-Founder and Director of Mountains and Marathons - a company that runs 6 month long leadership programs that culminate in the physical challenge of either running a marathon or climbing a mountain. Before co-founding Mountains and Marathons, Jamin was the director and founder of three leadership organisations centred around the development of health and resilience. He has had the privilege of working with over 15,000 people from diverse communities across Australia and North America. Having bounced back from burnout, depression and seven major surgeries, Jamin knows what it's like to struggle and what it takes to transform. He is committed to peak health and performance and supporting others to do the same.
Key Points:
- Jamin’s biggest challenge
- Creating a new relationship with his father
- How he challenged his father
- Jamin’s natural instinct for leadership
- How Jamin combined his two greatest passions
- How Jamin navigated confronting his father
- How Jamin created ‘Game Changers’
- The time it takes to create your vision
- Combining aligned action with manifesting
- Jamin’s restart in career
- His first experience in working with young men
- The beginning of The Man Cave
- The creation of Back to school fitness
- Jamin’s burn out moment and epiphany
- The beginning of Jamin’s relationship
- Jamins experience with anxiety and depression
- What helped Jamin find balance
- How our systems support us
- Difference between intuition and mind
- What is Mountains and Marathons
- The Why
- The importance of rights of passage
- What is a true ritual space
- What are the symptoms of a lack of rights of passage
Relevant Links and Website:
Jamin Heppell
website: https://mountainsandmarathons.world/
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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ME#3 - Effective Communication: Context vs Content
In this episode of The Conscious Locker room Tully goes into clear communication and how we can better navigate this area and go beyond just what is spoken.
Key Points:
- Context vs content
- Conflict happens when we are in a stress response
- Going beyond what’s being said
- How to communicate effectively
- The issue is rarely the issue
- Be intentional with setting up space to connect
- Developing our second awareness
- How to come to the space with presence
- Conditioning the body
Relevant Links and Website:
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#8 - Embracing the full spectrum of Healthy Masculinity with Marc-John Brown
Today’s episode was jam packed with both the practical and the profound. We dove into a variety of topics all linked to developing and embracing the full range of healthy masculine qualities and how that flows on to benefit both our work life and our family life.
Key Points:
- How taking radical responsibility was the key to overcoming a rough upbringing.
- Beginning to work with masculine men
- Tasting the medicine of our own hearts.
- Finding harmony in our masculinity.
- Facing our emotions properly.
- Using journaling to embody our awareness
- Processing Ancestral wisdom
- Masculine conditioning in society
- The positive effects in Marcs life from doing this work
- Making sure YOU are nourished first
- Why Breathe is key
- Where conflict actually arises from
- What should we do when we get stressed
- How a physical practice influences us
- How we can sustainably where lots of hats
- Time Blocking and transitioning
- Remembering our intention every day
Relevant Links and Website:
Marc-John Brown
Marc-John Brown is a vastly experienced coach and writer who acts as a voice for both transformational businesses and for the world’s indigenous populations. He has walked the path of Shamanism for well over a decade and, in the world of modern institution and business, he originally qualified and operated as an interpreter and translator, before moving on to write copy for some of the world's biggest corporations. He then amassed an array of experience both succeeding and failing spectacularly launching and growing several corporations of his own.
Nowadays, when not training jiu-jitsu, investing in cryptocurrency or tending to his only remaining property brokerage company, you can find Marc-John writing copy for some of the world’s most successful transformational businesses, as well as providing plant medicine integration and life coaching for individual clients, facilitating transformational group work, sitting in ceremony with ancestral shamans, or indulging in his favourite activity of them all - spending time with his beloved Peruvian wife and their young daughter.
Website: www.marc-johnbrown.com
Instagram: @marcjohnbrown
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marcjohn.brown
Tully O’Connor
Website: https://www.tullyoconnor.co/embodied-living
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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ME#2 - Embodied Living: What actually is it?
Show Summary:
In this Monday Mini Episode, Tully simplifies the meaning of embodied living and explains what it truely is to him.
He also talks a about his new course which is a 10 Week Online Incubator specifically designed to support you to live purposefully, lead powerfully and love passionately. You can find the link below
Relevant Links and Website:
Embodied Living Course:
https://www.tullyoconnor.co/embodied-living
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#7 - Connect with Your Power and Purpose with Tim Morrison
Key Points:
- Tim shares how he overcame a severe Neck injury and hitting rock bottom
- How to connect with your purpose.
- The true definition of Warrior
- Understanding your shadows and internal dialogue is important when stepping into your purpose and power
- Tims journey with Soul Flight Cacao Journeys
- What True embodiment requires
- Ingesting vs digesting information
- Accountability is key
- The little things matter when it comes to the inner critic
- If you’re not trusting yourself, shits gonna unravel really quick
- The power of contemplating death.
- Overcoming the fear of outshining.
- Trusting our own internal guidance.
- Allowing yourself to change and move in other directions.
- Tim share his personal vision for the future.
Relevant Links and Website:
Tim Morrison
Website: www.tim-morrison.com
Instagram: @timmorrison_
Facebook: Tim Morrison
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#6 - A Framework for Emotional Health Care with Simon Martin
Show Summary: This episode was an absolute game changer. I dive deep with Simon Martin to find a framework for Emotional health Care.
Simons thorough understanding of human anatomy, neurology and behavioural psychology allowed for both some deep insights and some solid practical takeaways. If you’re passionate about living a connected and fulfilling life, you’re going to get a lot out of this conversation.
Simons work is groundbreaking, practical and backed by science. Simon is a registered Chiropractor, Trainer in Emotional Health Services and the founder of HeartSchool. He specialises in treating both physical pain & emotional stress while helping his clients to understand the link between them. He studied Psychology and Anatomy streams at Curtin University before completing my Chiropractic Degree at Murdoch University. He’s had the opportunity to teach Neurology at tertiary level and also work in Singapore's Camden Medical Centre. As the Director of the HeartSchool, his passion is building their team, culture and community, as they create a new model of Emotional Health delivery. He’s been teaching hands-on-healing, workshops, retreats & certified-trainings across Australia since 2014.
Key Points:
- One of the biggest challenges Simon has faced, how he overcame it and what he’s learnt from it.
- Reconnecting with the wisdom of the body.
- Developing our own check in system.
- How being in a stress state impacts all areas of our lives.
- Dealing with feelings vs thoughts
- Our second awareness
- Unless the heart is opened, the manifestation of rejection and failure is going to be a trauma attracter no matter who it is.
- Framing emotional health as something that is heroic and something to be acknowledged.
- Nutritional Psychology, how our biochemistry effects our mental wellbeing.
- Get the water the fish is swimming in clean before you even get into the mindset etc of the fish.
- Creating safety in the body
- Recognising how safe someone is in their body is beginning of second awareness
- If we feel safe in our body, we can be more productive as a tribe
- The history of having locked up bodies
Relevant Links and Website:
Simon Martin
Website: www.heartschool.com.au
Insta: @heart.school
Fb: Heartschool
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#5 - Recreating Your Financial Narrative with Dan Harrison
Show Summary:
This episode is with Dan Harrison. Dan is a Financial Therapist, Certified Financial Planner(CFP) and Business Coach who helps people address both the internal and external elements of creating a rich life. He lives in Kelowna, BC with his wife Kim and daughter, Isla.
Dan believes that financially free and emotionally connected humans is the foundation for personal, familial and societal transformation. He is pursuing his Registered Therapeutic Counsellor designation to become one of the few dually accredited CFP's and RTC's in Canada.
Dan is also the co-founder of SoGo, a platform for entrepreneurs looking to integrate social good into their businesses through strategy, mentorship, access to thought-leaders, and live events.
This conversation is full of powerful insight on how you can live are richer life, in every sense of the word.
Key Points:
- Dan shares his story of how he got into $500K debt in his twenties and managed to pay it off in 8 years and the lessons he learnt alog the way.
- When you’re in the shit, it’s time to learn something new.
- An abundance mindset doesn’t do a thing if you don’t understand the system you’re playing
in.
- The rules of the money game.
- The importance of systems and structures to create consistency in income.
- Financial Planning (what) vs Financial therapy (why)
- Re-creating our financial narrative so we can see things differently
- How changing relationship to money can change relationship with partner.
- Process of financial therapy: reframing your relationship with your inner critic and deepening your relationship with your higher self.
- Communication and deep listening in relationship is key surrounding money
- Having money in the household creates way better intimacy and stability.
- Men and self-worth when it comes to money.
- New age money roles. (halfway)
- The call for men to evolve from only providing financial safety to living purpose and providing emotional safety within relationship
- Shifting our perception of sales and how that can set you free in business
- When Dan shifted from trying to GET to trying to GIVE everything changed.
- The consumer wants connection and how can we scale our business with while maintaining this connection.
Relevant Links and Website:
Dan Harrison
Website: https://www.danharrisonconsulting.com/
Instgram: @danharrisonconsulting
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#4 - A High Performance Lifestyle with Cam Macdougall
Cam is a financial executive turned high performance coach. While running a book of over 300 clients in the corporate finance game, Cam became a Regional CrossFit athlete, achieved 4 Presidents Club awards, and launched his first online business. Fast forward 5 years Cam now lives in Bali, Indonesia after selling his business and fully committing to optimizing the lives of other professionals. His new mission is to add over 1 million cumulative “Bad-ass” years back to human life through his one on one coaching and online programs. He knows first hand the time constraints placed on entrepreneurs and executives, and has now made it his duty to help them embrace a “bad-ass” life. “Every day we bring our mission to life through our bodies, as leaders, it is our duty to make sure that it comes from a place of strength and power”. Through his “6 C Method” he rewires habit patterns, brings consistency to our fitness programs and ties our results in the gym to the impact we want to make in the world. We are excited to have him on the show, and can’t wait to dive right in.
Show Summary:
The importance of embracing uncertainty
How Cam went from highschool drop out/involved in crime to what hes doing now
How Cam became a high performance coach
The adventure with Shorten the divide
The importance and necessity for Doing things out of service
Turning your body into a vehicle for change and service
The thundermentals of coaching that Cam delivers
Band-Aids vs embodiment
Addiction to fitness for the wrong reasons
Cam’s shifts in his ideas of relationship
Keeping the polarity and dynamic right in relationship
The most powerful tool Cam has come across
Vitality provides energy
Key Points:
Relevant Links and Website:
Instagram: @cammacdougall
Website: www.cammacdougall.com(All course information can be reached here)
Course starts 16th September
Tully O’Connor:
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#3 Sex and Pleasure - Busting Myths and Breaking Down Stigma with Sexologist Cam Fraser
This was an eye opening and informative chat with Cam Fraser. Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. His work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into a full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experience free of anxiety or shame
Key Points:
- Cams journey overcoming sexual difficulties
- How shifting into conscious sex changes other areas of life
- Why and how we cover up our sexual insecurities
- Benefits of Ejaculation retention
- The difference between ejaculation and orgasm.
- What contributes to an unhealthy sexual story
- Ethical Porn
- Eastern traditions and sex
- Expanding your experience of what pleasure is.
- Common Anxiety and shame around sexual performance
- How we link sexual performance with being a man
- Experimenting in the bedroom
Relevant Links and Website:
Website: http://www.kamawellnessperth.com
Instagram: @camfraser400
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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ME#1 - Vision
Welcome to the first episode of the Monday Mini Episodes where Tully shares some insights on different topics. This week Tully goes into all things vision.
Relevant Links and Website:
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#2 - The Importance Of Asking For Help with Will Hearn
Overcoming depression and anxiety.
Dropping the stigma around therapy, counselling and mental/emotional health.
The importance of asking for help.
Simple tools to maintain/improve mental wellbeing.
Accessing your creativity and stepping into your purpose.
Stepping into more confidence and leadership within relationship.
Relevant Links and Website:
Will Hearn
Music: open.spotify.com/artist/4jR4yABF1QXCxXDXYNKcVQ?si=sIsCuyXbR5SEowAU-6mg8A
Instagram: @willhearn
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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#1 - Redefining Freedom with Nick Perry
I loved this conversation with Holistic Lifestyle Coach and Corrective Exercise Practitioner Nick Perry. We discussed how to connect with and maintain a sense of freedom as a man moving through the different phases of life. We also discussed the importance of optimising our physical wellbeing to get the most out of life and in particular any personal growth endeavours we find ourselves on. Nick balances the profound with the practical and provides some life changing insight without taking himself too seriously. Enjoy!
Key Points:
- Redefining what Freedom means,
- The importance of Integrity, accountability, congruency.
- Overcoming resistance and stepping into the uncomfortable.
- The links between physical wellbeing and mental/emotional wellbeing.
- Taking radical responsibility
- The excitement and power of being at rock bottom.
- Getting clear on your values and designing a lifestyle that aligns with them.
Relevant Links and Website:
Nick Perry
Website: https://www.rhythmhealth.com.au/
Instagram: @rhythmhealth
Tully O’Connor
Website: www.tullyoconnor.co
Instagram: @tullyoconnor
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