The Daily Disturbance

It’s not enough we set our sites towards the right direction; we need to prepare and equip ourselves for proper execution.

Let it be a successful R.E.T.U.R.N (The last 3 ways to return home!)

It’s not enough we set our sites towards the right direction; we need to prepare and equip ourselves for proper execution.

Let it be a successful R.E.T.U.R.N.

After having acknowledged the reality of having got away, what to do next? I suggest you R.E.- A.I.M.

Yesterday we spoke broadly about the need to acknowledge reality as an initial step in finding one’s way back, regardless of the issue at hand.

Today let’s look at 7 ways to establish R.E.A.L.I.T.Y.

"The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off." - Gloria Steinem

Cmon, we’ve all have diverted to the wrong path - consciously or unconsciously, or just a mistaken route at one point in our lives.

"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." - Nido Qubein

Here are 9 reasons or signs that perhaps you shouldn’t reset and instead to keep going on the direction and path you’ve already previously set!

When you see all these signs in front of you, most likely, just K.E.E.P. G.O.I.N.G!

How to stay O.N.C.O.U.R.S.E., no matter how many times you reset!

Dad: “Son, I’ve worked for you all my life!”

Son: “Dad, You’ve worked for yourself all your life, and that company that never sleeps!”

The first thing to do is to recognize it.

"There is a time in for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." - Ecclesiastes 3:1

In what way do you need more balance and a reset today?

Why are we so scared about changing?

Doesn’t it excite you to try a new restaurant? Or to engage in another hobby? Or to receive an offer for possible promotion?

Yes, resetting is about changing, and be thankful that it is!

Yes, you should! Resetting is for all! Besides, you do it already. Didn’t you reset you alarm clock? Or the microwave timer as the soup wasn’t hot enough? Or are the terms of your partnership - or relationship - evolving or “resetting” as time goes by?

W.H.E.N. I.T. I.S. R.E.A.L.L.Y. A.M.A.Z.I.N!

W.H.E.N. I.T. R.E.A.L.L.Y. S.U.C.K.S. B.AD.

How can I make sure comparing is value adding, not just to me, but to my family and colleagues?

By consider these 4 means or P.L.U.S.s.es!

I compared my run this morning with that I did two weeks ago and I saw marked improvement in stamina and speed: that was good

I compared my preparation time for an upcoming marathon with the one I did when I set my best time, and I started doubting I could still run with a good finishing time: that was bad…and as I started fearing if I could even come close to my regular race times, it got ugly!

Here are ways to know comparison is B.A.D. And G.O.O.D.

Because it often leads to overly critical – if not downright negative – self-evaluation.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt

And so we have learned that Life is filled with individuals who require Extra Grace (EGR) due to various reasons. Accepting and embracing people with EGRs at home and in the workplace is essential for fostering a harmonious, compassionate and I dare say, God-blessed environment.

Here are 4 ways to make Accepting EGRs as a way of life, to T.AK.E. as a reality, for your own good, if you choose to make them so.

Congratulations, its an opportunity for you, to get the extra grace you will be thankful for!

Here are 4 things you can do - for you - if you are today’s Extra Grace Requirer!

G.I.V.E. yourselves all you’ve got!

1. I - Initiate or strike while the iron is cold…

2. N - Nurture Patience.

3. C - Cultivate Empathy

4. H - Harness Forgiveness

5. R - Respond with Gentleness

6. I - Invest in Prayer

Are you getting the Acrostic?

Let’s go to the last 2 and see what, or who, ultimately is the key to unconditional love.

"Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend." - Martin Luther King Jr.

Yesterday we looked at 3 of 8 ways how to love EGRs in our lives. Let’s look at the next 3!

"The true measure of any society can be found in how it treats its most vulnerable members." - Mahatma Gandhi

Love thyself!

So, that’s all of us!

The answer is Yes…

And here the first 3 ways how.

How can I prevent settling for less.

By aiming H.I.G.H.

We looked at 4, lets complete the list of consequences from a life of settling.

Truly, by settling for less as a way of life, the conclusion is, sadly, a life in D.E.C.L.I.N.E.

"Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth." - Rumi

As global citizens striving for excellence, we are called to embrace God's plan for our lives and pursue the best in all aspects. Settling for less, whether in our personal or professional lives, can lead to various adverse consequences.

Lets look at 7 consequences of a “settling” approach, 4 today and 3 tomorrow (Though I do hope, after today, you would have dropped “settling” as a way of life completely!)

"Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do." - Mark Twain

What are the other 2 reasons why I “settle for less”

Societal Pressure

Yielding to fear!

"So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is...fear itself — nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” - Franklin D. Roosevelt

Today, I almost did.

It was raining hard this morning, and I was supposed to be training…for an upcoming run.

But I couldn’t miss today’s run. Not 2 months before the race and given the fact that I am in a state of catching up!

Let’s look at 2 of 4 reasons why we all “settle for less.”

Here are 5 bridges I suggest you build now, connections you strengthen today and forever…

Let them lead you to the C.R.O.S.S!

Yesterday we looked at two things that make it tough to build bridges and make connections in life? Wounds of the past. Obstacles that won’t make us go past.

Today we look at 2 more for a total of 4!

Because it takes effort to build anything, and it takes risk to reach out and make connections…

So most will resort to default mode and avoid extra work and unneeded risk.

Let me give you 2 specific reasons today and 2 more tomorrow. What can you relate with?

From yesterday’s drawing I.N., we now look at 3 reasons why bridges are needed to pour O.U.T.

"The bridge you build today may be the path you walk on tomorrow." - Matshona Dhliwayo

Building bridges of connection in life is essential to life. Without them we have to means of refill ourselves and all the tanks in our life: physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, financial, etc. In their absence, we are also unable to pour anything out.

Tuesday - Why do I have to build bridges to connect with others in my life? (Part 1)

From yesterday’s drawing I.N., we now look at 3 reasons why bridges are needed to pour O.U.T.

"The bridge you build today may be the path you walk on tomorrow." - Matshona Dhliwayo

Blessed be the ties that free! Thank God I’ve had boundaries since birth!

Without them, I’d be dead, or severely compromised.

Physical boundaries.

Relationship boundaries.

Financial boundaries.

Y.E.S. you can!

Well, I hope you still aren’t your crib my friend? Ofcourse they do! Age, stage as adviced by a sage… By choice or circumstance. 6 reasons we C.H.A.N.G.E. our boundaries.

Well, I hope you still aren’t your crib my friend? Ofcourse they do! Age, stage as adviced by a sage… By choice or circumstance. 6 reasons we C.H.A.N.G.E. our boundaries

Here are 4 areas you might have to rethink and “H.O.L.D.”

Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won't accept." - Anna Taylor

Ofcourse they are, that’s exactly why they are called just that, “bound-tries”: they bind you - and others too - so people know there are limits.

Does your home have a front door?

Does your shower have partitions to keep the water in?

Is your personal handbag under your control?

Do you have secret passwords for access to your accounts?

Do I still need to convince you boundaries need to exist and to be maintained at all cost!

f you start “people displeasing” with the motive of doing what’s best for all, then you are doing the most LOVING thing someone can do for someone else.

So, do all the LOVING you can do today as you stop “people pleasing”

Nope, its not people displeasing!

(Although when doing what is right, that is a possible consequence, too!)

Here are 4 things to do instead as the approach of people-pleasing is phased out…

Just end it.

Til its a habit.

And you’ve replaced it with doing what best for people, whether they like it or not.

Here are 5 ways to just E.N.D. I.T.

Yesterday we look at Validation, Avoidance of conflict, Low self esteem, Underlying fear and External pressure…
And I sense you could relate with some, perhaps even all. Today, let's do a deep dive and check ourselves against these 5 Whys (VALUE), for a better understanding of self and how we can move forward with new learning…

Because it works.

I pleased my mom I got a candy.

I pleased my teachers and I was given another chance to make the grade.

I pleased my wife and…she gave me 5 kids, haha!

There are actually good reasons and actual benefits in people pleasing. The key is to make sure it is intentional, not habitual. THen it is deadly! Here are 5 reasons we V.A.L.U.E. people pleasing.

You’ve probably come to understand that the pressure and the pressures just won’t disappear. OR if they do, they make another comeback when you least expect them to.

Well, what to do?

W.E.L.C.O.M.E it.

Let’s some faces to principles and practices we’ve been discussing when it comes to pressure. Past, present and some working their to the future. From all corners of the world. People for whom Pressure is but part of a Process of change and transformation.

We’ve been talking about pressure and how to spot it, face it, overcome it, win with it!

But you should know: there are pressure NOT to be enabled and welcomed in your life. Here are 5 pressures you should say N.O. W.A.Y. to!

How to stay positive while responding to pressure? Weathering it is one thing, staying positive is another. Surviving pressure is a feat, thriving inspite of it is epic. Here are 4 ways to stay positive while responding to pressure…

Without it you’d be dead! So stop complaining when you’re “under pressure!” Instead, adopt a new mindset to allow you not just to survive but to thrive amidst the pressures around you.

Navigating intense and debilitating pressure requires resilience, strength, and a strategic approach. By clinging to key principles, we can find guidance and inspiration to endure and overcome. Here are 5 ways to survive and thrive under intense pressure. Its pretty simple actually. All you do is CLING!

"A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials." - Chinese Proverb

So, beyond just facing the pressure helps, so does meeting it head on, toe to toe. 5 ideas to face pressure by F.O.R.C.E.

For one, welcome it as a way of life!

Didn’t you just pressure a client to pay what he or she purchased?

Did your partner just pressure you to be more considerate?

Didn’t air just pressure your heart to pump more blood to help you stay alive?

Pressure is a part of our daily lives and here are 4 ways to F.A.C.E. it!

Good question…Will let you reflect on that… What are your pressures today? Check them against the 8 sources of pressure at home and in the workplace.

Legendary tennis star Billie Jean King says "Pressure is a privilege." Well, to many of us, it’s something we wouldn’t mind doing without. I don’t need that privilege, some of you might say! Hindi ko na kaya ang pressure sa buhay ko! But the reality is, like it or not, you have and will continue to go through. Let’s take a deeper dive at pressure - what it is and what it is not - so we can better address it!