The Inner Work Conversation
By Nikki Cross
The Inner Work ConversationAug 14, 2023
Snippet 105 - Building self assurance
Full episode (105) linked here:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1PL6nwGITzcqxFgtxEVxIy?si=e28cb6e25e3a4251
180 - Who's supporting YOU though? 5 questions to ask yourself when you're feeling unsupported...
MY clients are the ones making decisions in isolation that have significant impact on business results that mean a lot to them ...so over to YOU. Who's supporting YOU in business? Today I'm giving you some questions to take away, consider and take action from that I KNOW are going to be impactful. Links...
Book in an enquiry call here: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Link to episode 175 (mentioned): https://open.spotify.com/episode/4g1tJeQxF6SwXYRd5ncSdF?si=24d4a1e37c714d51
Results honesty (aka "Am I the problem?"...probably, yes!)
Your brain makes you think you are fundamentally flawed when something doesn't go the way you thought it would
You're not getting the business results you wanted and make it mean YOU are sh*t
You're responsible for the outcome / result of something
Enjoy x
179 - Owning what you want isn't the easy option - here's why
It's one thing admitting to yourSELF what you really want when it comes to business, but owning it (as in 'taking ownership OF it') is another story completely ...and in today's episode I'm spilling the beans on the fears that can play out when we step into what we want to be, do & have in business AND how to deal with them.
LINK TO BOOK IN AN ENQUIRY CALL: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Liked this episode? Recommended next listens:
Episode 23 - Limiting beliefs, self doubt & negative self talk
Episode 118 - Tools for catastrophising & fear thoughts
45 - How to stop negative thinking
And lastly I mentioned 174 & 175 (both linked) where I personally own up to what *I* want in *my* business. Enjoy x
Snippet 118: Handling catastrophising & fear thoughts
Full episode (118) linked here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mdZyVmrq6xbzWAXSMunA4?si=a008110b83284b66
Snippet 141: Stop overlooking your natural gifts (just because it comes easy to you does NOT make it less valuable!)
In these snippet episodes I'm sharing some of my personal favourite snippets & YOUR favourites too judging by the stats!
Consider these mini episodes the best bits of the best episodes that deserve more air time. Full episode (169) linked here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3eFg4YtclAQ1wZHF6yNmjK?si=9c8d4e7a44934a7c
Snippet 174: "You've changed..." How to grow, change & evolve in public
In these snippet episodes I'm sharing some of my personal favourite snippets & YOUR favourites too judging by the stats!
Consider these mini episodes the best bits of the best episodes that deserve more air time. Full episode (174) linked here:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5YbZb0uLhJaKZgZUS1ttJZ?si=5d970e2e060846b3
178 - What is it costing you NOT to invest in your development?
I've recorded episodes on this before so I've linked them all below ...but this one is different. Following on from episode 175 (linked) where I talk about WHO gets the best 'bang for their buck' in working with me, today I'm asking you to consider a very important question: what is it costing you NOT to invest in your development? With over 18 years experience in learning & development ...I trust it'll serve you!
Similar vibe episodes:
167 - is coaching REALLY worth the investment?
51 - About your personal development
29 - Will investing in yourself REALLY pay off?
77 - How to know if you should invest in yourself
LINK TO BOOK IN AN ENQUIRY CALL:
https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/discovery-call
Snippet 169: How to be bold in business with Lucy Dunn (aka Living Lean with Lucy)
In these snippet episodes I'm sharing some of my personal favourite snippets & YOUR favourites too judging by the stats!
Consider these mini episodes the best bits of the best episodes that deserve more air time. Full episode (169) linked here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mHOFVmO2aXtfMreR4T4Ky?si=92161cd482fc458b
177. Being a 'good student' does NOT equal being good at business
Snippet 156: Are you holding back your brilliance?
176 - The costs of impatience in business
How do YOU behave when it isn't going your way? What's YOUR automatic response when it isn't happening quickly enough. How is impatience hurting your inner world and your business results? Let's dive in...
LINK TO BOOK IN AN ENQUIRY CALL: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
MENTIONED EPISODE LINKS:
128 - What to do when business is slow
175 - Allow me to reintroduce myself (PART TWO)
Which discomfort would you prefer? The discomfort of staying stuck or the discomfort of evolving? ...This episode is long overdue. I've changed (
No. We aren't encouraged to grow, evolve, change. But fact: we all do. And if we don't OWN that, things start getting stagnant and we bump up against ourselves in our own stunted growth.
I cover:
- Why I've held back from OWNING my own evolution and the COSTS of holding back
- Who really does get the best 'bang for their buck' when they invest in my services
- Who *I* love to work with the most
- My vision for the business moving forward
Did this episode resonate? Let me know. My hope is that in me sharing that it always instigates sparks of change within you. And of course, the link to book in your enquiry call is here:
https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
174 - Allow me to reintroduce myself (PART ONE)
Which discomfort would you prefer? The discomfort of staying stuck or the discomfort of evolving? ...This episode is long overdue. I've changed (
No. We aren't encouraged to grow, evolve, change. But fact: we all do. And if we don't OWN that, things start getting stagnant and we bump up against ourselves in our own stunted growth.
I cover:
- Why I've held back from OWNING my own evolution and the COSTS of holding back
- Who really does get the best 'bang for their buck' when they invest in my services
- Who *I* love to work with the most
- My vision for the business moving forward
Did this episode resonate? Let me know. My hope is that in me sharing that it always instigates sparks of change within you. And of course, the link to book in your enquiry call is here:
173 - How YOU can be less busy (with journal prompts)
Book an enquiry call link: calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Blog to et the journal prompts from this episode: www.tlb.org.uk/blog
Links to episodes mentioned:
91 - Obligation Free Time
105 - Building self assurance (with journal prompts)
125 - How to build self belief
156 - Are you holding back your brilliance? Fear of success...
141 - The costs of overlooking your natural gifts (and what to do about it)
157 - The false benefits of holding yourself back
155 - Are you protecting yourself to keep yourself "safe"?
Enjoy xxx
172 - Lessons from working 50% less (clue: your busyness is lying to you)
Link to book an enquiry call: calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Link to my website: www.tlb.org.uk/services
Link to my social media account: www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_/
171 - A business lesson about choosing your f*cks
BOOK YOUR ENQUIRY CALL HERE: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Those three questions for you:
1) What have you been conditioned to think is 'wrong' about you? What 'should' you be more / less like to be 'successful' in business?
2) If you made a list of what it's cost you to not accept yourself fully - what has it cost you? In terms of time, energy, relationships, attention, opportunities?
3) Can you PRACTICE valuing something else MORE THAN you value yourself for that thing?
Cheering you on - Nik x
170 - Being bold in business is an inside job & an invitation to work with me
169 - What it really takes to be bold in business with Lucy Dunn aka 'Living Lean with Lucy'
Your inner self doubt voice roars loud
Dyslexia tells you "you just can't"
Fear of being judged makes you want to hide
...Let's find out, shall we?
LINKS:
My coaching services www.tlb.org.uk/services
Lucy's services www.livingleanwithlucy.com/
Lucy's Instagram www.instagram.com/livingleanwithlucy/
Lucy's last podcast episode open.spotify.com/episode/2r8ljfsG2BbhcYw90hyHvu?si=fb52df5929b94382
168 - Combatting indecision, simple NOT easy
Guys - I practice what I preach. I use my OWN work, my OWN methods to help me develop as a business owner. In this episode I'm sharing how a very personal experience made me have a big realisation about the way I'm conducting myself in business and how I am using my own methods to 'grow out of' the behaviours I've been exhibiting which have perpetuated results that I'm NOT happy with.
LINKS: LINK to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
My services: https://www.tlb.org.uk/services
167 - Is coaching REALLY worth the investment? A client case study with Lucy White of Wiskow and White
LINK to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
We packed SO MUCH into this chat :
- What my clients actually think and feel before & at the beginning of their 1:1 journey
- What the ACTUAL process is - how it works and the surprising by-products of coaching with things like your relationship with rest, people pleasing & enjoying your joy
- Why (my client believes) this investment should be the top of your budget priorities
- How this experience changes how you behave in business
- How we can waste time, money & energy on our personal development when we try to address our problems at the wrong level
- The differences my client has experienced between counselling & coaching
- How you'll develop the confidence to OWN your weird & your unique ways of doing things
- Why we call it 'the inner work'... and how it really is work...but really is worth it
A HUGE thank you to Lucy for sharing so openly - I know you'll want to follow her beautiful work so click here for her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wiskowandwhite/
Click here to head straight to the Wiskow & White website https://www.wiskowandwhite.com/
And click here to visit LaLista - Lucy's membership platform for couples planning their Italian wedding https://www.lalista.com/
166 - The price you pay for their approval
This won't be an easy listen, but it WILL be a powerful one. Linked episodes as promised:
144 - Stop seeking permission
138 - How NOT to approach the inner work
134 - How to say "no" in business if you're always saying "yes"
127 - Do you have your own back?
111 - Uncover your REAL beliefs
105 - Building self assurance with journal prompts
WORK WITH ME:
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Connect with me on Instagram HERE: https://www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_/
Join my mail list HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/614331b57accb4c021020ee9
BONUS: What's it like to work with me?
I'm going to start talking about the behind the scenes of my work more...MUCH more. I think it's beneficial to know what support is available - especially if the concept of 'coaching & guided development' is new to you. So here's the first of many ...
LINKS
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Connect with me on Instagram HERE: https://www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_/
Join my mail list HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/614331b57accb4c021020ee9
165 - It's time to come back to the WHOLE you, with Lea Hughes
The focus of May '23 is evolution - it's about your growth, your development ...your TRUE development not INTO who you're becoming, but BACK TO who you actually are. Owning that. UNlearning all of the stuff that's getting in the way of YOU being YOU. So allow me to introduce my friend and trusted colleague Lea Hughes.
During this chat Lea and I discuss...
- Why DO we abandon ourselves?
- How we can use tools like Human Design & Gene Keys to help our evolution
- What the ‘shoulds’ can do to us (particularly in business) as we go along our path
- The costs of appearing successful on the outside ...but craving fulfilment and more alignment to who you really are on the inside
...And weaved into all of that, we talk about how to evolve without being an arse hole to yourself, which is important if you don't want to feel like shit.
Stay tuned till the end where Lea shares her insights into what she believes is the best and most supportive approach to your own personal development, evolution and thriving. I loved this chat, and I hope you get lots from it.
LINKS:
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Connect with me on Instagram HERE: https://www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_/
Join my mail list HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/614331b57accb4c021020ee9
Connect with Lea: https://www.instagram.com/iamleahughes/?hl=en
Lea's website: https://www.livingfurthur.co.uk/
164 - 3 reasons growing & making progress feels hard
When we are navigating life & business it's easy to wonder why TF we are finding it SO CHALLENGINGGGGG, isn't it? It's EASY to look around and wonder why it's so easy for THEM ...but not us. It's easy to FEEL LIKE you SHOULD BE getting different results, but you're not. If this episode resonated I'd love to hear from you - here are my links:
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Connect with me on Instagram HERE: https://www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_/
Join my mail list HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/614331b57accb4c021020ee9
163 - Switching gears ...& an update
We ALL know growth isn't linear - so why do we act like it is? In this episode I'm sharing some of my own experiences AND an update on what will be changing while I "shift gears" myself. This episode is going to normalise the 'ickyness' feeling of growing and hopefully give you some ways to support yourself too...LINKS:
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Connect with me on Instagram HERE: https://www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_/
Join my mail list HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/614331b57accb4c021020ee9
162 - The expensive costs of your avoidance habit
Final call to join! www.tlb.org.uk/evolve ...Today's episode covers:
- What you're avoiding & why you might be avoiding it
- What it's costing you in terms of time, money and your inner happiness
- What to ACTUALLY do to make progress on the things you're avoiding
...enjoy and DEFFO do DO the bit at the end. It's important!
LINKS:
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
161 - How to make your growth less vulnerable and more impactful
Blog post with prompts to follow...
160 - Evolve or repeat. What do you choose?
JOIN EVOLVE before 28th April '23 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/evolve
This episode is designed for those of you who...
1. Want some self reflection prompts to help you see where you're looping / staying stuck in ways of being that might be 'uncomfortably comfortable' in that you recognise they don't serve you but can't see to bust free from them
2. Are joining me in EVOLVE, have already signed up & just want to get exposure to what's coming up
3. Are considering joining before 28th April '23 and want to hear the 'in between the lines' context of what it's all about
Join or book in your consultation call here BEFORE the 28th April HERE: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/evolve-enquiry-call
LINKED EPISODES:
159 - 7 lessons from creating a podcast (aka sticking with something!)
Sticking with something that requires courage, discipline and dedication can be T-R-I-C-K-Y. ESPECIALLY when that same thing involves you EVOLVING in public, learning as you go and presenting your authenticity to the world in the face of being judged, criticised or "failing".
I recorded today's episode live to celebrate the Inner Work Conversation reaching 25,000 downloads and although this episode contains the 7 things I've learnt from podcasting ...rest assured these same 7 lessons can be applied to ANYthing you are pursuing in life personally or in business professionally, they are:
- Lower the stakes
- Figure it out as you go
- Exposure therapy is a good approach
- Evolving might be as cringey as your facebook timehop
- Create from a place that feels good (not from the "shoulds")
- Don't let your insecurities fill the void
- Celebrate your wins
I hope you enjoy this and I really look forward to hearing which of the points resonated the most with YOU. Here are the links you might want...
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
158 - How to support yourSELF (session replay of the Thrive First Method)
Book in an enquiry call: calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins early May '23.
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
157 - The false benefits of holding yourself back
Last time I talked about this was in episode 70 (linked HERE) ...and it's as powerful to consider today as it was then: what ARE the false benefits to your holding yourself back & getting in your own way? Let's explore! THIS is the work I support my own clients through and the work you're being invited to join me in EVOLVE - head to www.tlb.org.uk/evolve
LINKS:
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
156 - Are you holding back your brilliance? Fear of success...
LINKS:
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
155 - Are you "protecting" yourself to keep yourself "safe"? It's time to EVOLVE.
Because is it REALLY protection anyway? Are you REALLY keeping yourself safe? This episode pulls all of that into question and shines a light on what COULD be going on instead. Some questions for you to consider:
- How do I avoid failure or judgement from others by keeping myself small?
- Where in life and business am I treading on egg shells in order to avoid judgement or criticism?
- What does the truest part of me really want? And how can I honour that in a way that feels safe?
LINKS:
Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
154 - Are you really connected to yourself?
Book in an enquiry call: calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
153 - The costs of avoiding the inner work
If you've ever wondered the impacts of the inner work on your time, decision making and energy - then THIS episode is for you. LINKS:
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
152 - When results aren't happening (quickly enough)
It's likely you'll spiral, you'll abandon what you wanted in the first place and possibly yourSELF. When results aren't happening quickly enough I believe this is the episode you should play (again and again and again - basically whack it on repeat!)... LINKS: www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23 Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
151 - You're not normal, and that's PERFECT. Stop making yourself wrong for the way you are!
"Normal" is a myth. You are how you are FOR A REASON. You like to do things the way you do because it's NATURAL to you. In this episode I'm diving into:
- How we make ourselves 'wrong' or 'weird' for not being "normal" (SPOILER - there is no such thing)
- The (really f*cking bad) negative implications in business of not owning our natural ways of being
- Tips on how to start owning YOUR normal
I hope it helps, and if it resonates - consider it as an invitation into my work. LINKS:
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
150 - Hear me work (replay of a LIVE session)
I know how it can feel when you're making investments into your own personal development. I know the questions that come up:
- Will it be worth it?
- Will I be able to get a return on my own investment?
- Is this even the right person to help facilitate my development?
...so, since my coaching programme EVOLVE is right round the corner (doors close 17th April '23) I thought it might be handy to HEAR me in action. This snippet is from The Thrive First Method and I hope you both get a lot from it AND it helps you to make a decision about working together, if that's where you're at.
LINKS:
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
Obligation free time episode (91): https://open.spotify.com/episode/3A8DHqOwITVrxtuN3DxUGZ?si=8e785a716d9f4caf
149 - The truth about being needy & demanding
Developing a relationship with yourself where you make it safe for you to want what you want, need what you need takes UNlearning. In this episode I'm going into:
Why do we struggle to express our needs?
What does that look like?
What are the impacts?
How can we start to own and express our needs?
LINKS:
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
148 - Having your sh*t together in business when life is hard
Business is already hard ...so when life is a bit of a sh*t show, it can feel like it's taking every ounce of energy to "have your sh*t together"...
...in this episode I recorded LIVE, I'm unpacking that.
LINKS:
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
147 - Want to thrive? Focus on the simple things...
Today's IG live / episode came from Meg Hewitt tagging me with a reminder of her episode (96 - linked HERE) where we talked all about thriving in life and in business. Because in truth...
...it's not always easy.
Never mind the ongoing to-do list and mounds of obligations ... you've then got every influencer under the sun promoting the 'right way' to thrive and in truth - only YOU know what thriving looks and fees like to you. In life AND in business. So give this a watch / listen and start carving out your own 'simple things' to thrive.
LINKS:
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
Meg's episode (96) : https://open.spotify.com/episode/6goKmkDnkyZazIbL7Q3UzW?si=8d5fa220cfc64715
Obligation free time episode (91): https://open.spotify.com/episode/3A8DHqOwITVrxtuN3DxUGZ?si=8e785a716d9f4caf
146 - Why you're so scared of failure (& what to do about it)
Spoiler: it's not a 'you' thing. Join me in this episode where I'm digging into:
- Why you're so scared of failure (& judgement from others)
- The costs of trying to avoid failure (& judgement from others)
- How to develop your tolerance to the feelings all of this gives us
THIS is the work I support my own clients through and the work you're being invited to join me in EVOLVE - head to www.tlb.org.uk/evolve
LINKS:
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
145 - Who is on your (inner) team?
It's easy to follow the sh*tty thoughts down the garden path and into the woods (ask me how I know). But in THIS episode I'm asking you to consult your team. The team that have got your back, that have got your best interests at heart - them.
This episode is here to help you BUILD that team.
Links:
An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme
144 - Stop seeking permission! It's ok to be ok (you read that right)
...And that's exactly what this episode is about.
Links:
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme
143 - Keep 'falling off the wagon'? This one's for you
This one's for you if you fall victim to 'falling off the wagon' and feeling the pressure of mustering up the courage, discipline and motivation to "get back on the wagon". I call BS. And I want to give you a healthier & more supportive perspective & approach to taking steps towards goals that are meaningful to you.
Links:
An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme
DM me on Instagram www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_
142 - What if it took less time, but more...
Look, my BS radar is finely tuned. As is my support function. So I KNOW when you say "I WOULD do that, but I just need more time..THEN I'll do it" that actually you probably DON'T need more time, but you probably DO need:
- More inner support
- More focus
- More celebration & self acknowledgement
In this episode, I'm sharing HOW.
Links:
An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme
Charlotte's "Content Repurposing Freeebie" link: https://www.charlottegoss.com/links
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141 - The costs of overlooking your natural gifts (and what to do about it)
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This episode is for you if you...
- Find yourself struggling and wondering why it's so hard for you
- Find yourself overcomplicating & overcompensating
- Avoid things like price increases or upholding your boundaries
- Sometimes wrestle with comparison
Quotes:
"Don't diminish or overlook your natural talents & gifts just because they come easy to you - just because it comes easy to YOU doesn't make it less valuable for THEM ...OWN what you bring to the table"
"If you're someone who's been raised with the belief that work must be hard to be valuable, then don't be surprised if you overlook or diminish how much value you add simply by contributing what comes naturally, effortlessly and joyfully to you."
"There is usually a correlation between how willing you are to do the busy work and to what level of high regard you hold yourself - notice that shit."
"When you don't value what comes easy to you, don't be surprised if you feel the need to prove your worth through doing more, being more or gaining more qualifications"
140 - Making friends with procrastination
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In this episode, my plan is to:
- Explore how procrastination comes up when you’re doing things that require courage and / or discipline
- Help you understand WHY procrastination is happening
- Help you have a different relationship with procrastination and actually USE IT to your advantage
Quotes:
“You aren’t a procrastinator, you procrastinate - big difference”
“Usually procrastination isn’t about avoiding DOING something, but more often it’s about avoiding FEELING something.”
“When you start to identify as a procrastinator as though it’s part of your identity, that’s when you start to give your power away as though you no longer have any control.”
“Normally when you’re avoiding doing something, you’re getting to avoid the hypothetical fear that might follow on from you doing the thing. And there is where the work lies.”
“What if we CHANGED our relationship with procrastination, so instead of seeing it as a negative thing - we actually saw it as a signal (a little bit like your smoke alarm will signal when there’s a fire) and investigate what type of support that signal might be telling us we NEED”
“When you go to do something that requires courage, don’t be surprised if suddenly the washing needs folding, or an E-Mail needs urgently responding to, or you need a snack. Treat this as a sign that you need more support from yourself to do the thing.”
“I think it’s powerful to recognise that doing something ‘boring’ can feel energetically just as draining as doing something that requires courage, and we would support ourselves much more by recognising that”
139 - Are you f*cking yourself over when going after what you want?
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Timestamps:
When you’re going after goals that are meaningful - thing you want to be do or have, you’re likely going to bump up against challenges & adversity.
Let’s talk about how that applies to your inner work.
In this episode I’m sharing the three most common ways I see my own clients f*cking themselves during the journey towards goals that are meaningful to them.
- 8:30 not acknowledging your disempowering limiting beliefs
- 15:30 Not being aware of the way you’re spending your time & acknowledging your current set of life circumstances
- 21:10 Not developing a tolerance for uncertainty & complexity
Quotes:
“When you don’t acknowledge your underlying disempowering beliefs and try to pretend they don’t exist, best believe they’ll reveal themselves through your behaviour - particularly in the things you avoid”
“You have to acknowledge your reality. Really look your current truth in the eyes - acknowledging the way your life is now, your obligations, responsibilities …all of it - and THEN set goals from that place. Otherwise you’re just setting yourself up to fail”
“When you develop your tolerance for uncertainty, it enables you to let go of control. Not because you are less ambitious or have less desire for things to work out - but because you have MORE SELF TRUST to navigate your way towards your goals THROUGH uncertainty”