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The Inner Work Conversation

The Inner Work Conversation

By Nikki Cross

Sharing the unspoken aspects of the inner work behind business. The Inner Work Conversation is hosted by Nikki Cross, from Thrive Life & Business.
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Snippet 105 - Building self assurance

The Inner Work ConversationAug 14, 2023

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Snippet 105 - Building self assurance
Aug 14, 202306:18
180 - Who's supporting YOU though? 5 questions to ask yourself when you're feeling unsupported...
Aug 10, 202333:13
Results honesty (aka "Am I the problem?"...probably, yes!)

Results honesty (aka "Am I the problem?"...probably, yes!)

This was recorded off schedule, recorded rough-and-ready ...and I just KNOW it's going to serve you if...

Your brain makes you think you are fundamentally flawed when something doesn't go the way you thought it would
You're not getting the business results you wanted and make it mean YOU are sh*t
You're responsible for the outcome / result of something

Enjoy x
Aug 07, 202323:15
179 - Owning what you want isn't the easy option - here's why
Aug 03, 202328:50
Snippet 118: Handling catastrophising & fear thoughts

Snippet 118: Handling catastrophising & fear thoughts

Full episode (118) linked here:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mdZyVmrq6xbzWAXSMunA4?si=a008110b83284b66


Jul 31, 202307:33
Snippet 141: Stop overlooking your natural gifts (just because it comes easy to you does NOT make it less valuable!)
Jul 27, 202312:23
Snippet 174: "You've changed..." How to grow, change & evolve in public
Jul 24, 202306:51
178 - What is it costing you NOT to invest in your development?

178 - What is it costing you NOT to invest in your development?

I've recorded episodes on this before so I've linked them all below ...but this one is different. Following on from episode 175 (linked) where I talk about WHO gets the best 'bang for their buck' in working with me, today I'm asking you to consider a very important question: what is it costing you NOT to invest in your development? With over 18 years experience in learning & development ...I trust it'll serve you!

Similar vibe episodes:

167 - is coaching REALLY worth the investment?

51 - About your personal development

29 - Will investing in yourself REALLY pay off?

77 - How to know if you should invest in yourself

LINK TO BOOK IN AN ENQUIRY CALL:

https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/discovery-call


Jul 20, 202339:41
Snippet 169: How to be bold in business with Lucy Dunn (aka Living Lean with Lucy)
Jul 17, 202307:10
177. Being a 'good student' does NOT equal being good at business

177. Being a 'good student' does NOT equal being good at business

If I had a pound for every person in business who suffered with the 'good pupil' hangover I'd be minted. Can you relate? I hear this from the majority of my clients: I was SUCH a good pupil. And that's great ...in school. I'm sure that served you well:- Not getting into trouble for breaking the rules- Colouring within the lines to get approval- Working harder, doing more & trying your best to demonstrate how deserving you were of those good grades...but think about how those behaviours are actually damaging (or at best, opportunity limiting) in business.Think about the amount of times you have avoided failure at all costs.Think about the shit you give yourself when you fuck up or get some negative feedback.Think about how you compare yourself to 'them' without one ounce of consideration that your timeline, life circumstances and priorities are normally COMPLETELY different.I'm working with my clients to UNlearn some of the shit that holds them back ...and I hope this episode does one of two things:1. Kicks you up the arse to book in your enquiry call. IF nothing comes of it, I can at least guarantee you'll leave the call feeling clearer & more grounded in yourself.2. I hope this post serves you to recognise what conditioning you're carrying that you'd like to start releasing. It's a process. It takes time, patience and a WHOLE lot of self love, compassion and grace.Ready? Book an enquiry call: ⁠https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/discovery-call www.tlb.org.uk/services
Jul 13, 202330:16
Snippet 156: Are you holding back your brilliance?

Snippet 156: Are you holding back your brilliance?

In these snippet episodes I'm sharing some of my personal favourite snippets & YOUR favourites too judging by the stats! Consider these mini episodes the best bits of the best episodes that deserve more air time. Full episode (156) linked here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/03vmDkUebX03tExDDFxzoC?si=7eef498cc462428a
Jul 09, 202311:49
176 - The costs of impatience in business
Jul 06, 202321:24
175 - Allow me to reintroduce myself (PART TWO)
Jun 29, 202329:05
174 - Allow me to reintroduce myself (PART ONE)
Jun 28, 202322:43
173 - How YOU can be less busy (with journal prompts)

173 - How YOU can be less busy (with journal prompts)

There were MANY episodes mentioned in this one so I'm going to link them here for you, alongside the blog (with the journal prompts) and the link to book in an enquiry call with me...
Book an enquiry call link:
calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
Blog to et the journal prompts from this episode: www.tlb.org.uk/blog
Links to episodes mentioned:
91 - Obligation Free Time
105 - Building self assurance (with journal prompts)
125 - How to build self belief
156 - Are you holding back your brilliance? Fear of success...
141 - The costs of overlooking your natural gifts (and what to do about it)
157 - The false benefits of holding yourself back
155 - Are you protecting yourself to keep yourself "safe"?

Enjoy xxx
Jun 20, 202342:12
172 - Lessons from working 50% less (clue: your busyness is lying to you)
Jun 16, 202335:53
171 - A business lesson about choosing your f*cks

171 - A business lesson about choosing your f*cks

BOOK YOUR ENQUIRY CALL HERE: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call

Those three questions for you:

1) What have you been conditioned to think is 'wrong' about you? What 'should' you be more / less like to be 'successful' in business?

2) If you made a list of what it's cost you to not accept yourself fully - what has it cost you? In terms of time, energy, relationships, attention, opportunities?

3) Can you PRACTICE valuing something else MORE THAN you value yourself for that thing?


Cheering you on - Nik x

Jun 11, 202335:05
170 - Being bold in business is an inside job & an invitation to work with me
Jun 07, 202352:32
169 - What it really takes to be bold in business with Lucy Dunn aka 'Living Lean with Lucy'
May 31, 202339:08
168 - Combatting indecision, simple NOT easy
May 25, 202327:52
167 - Is coaching REALLY worth the investment? A client case study with Lucy White of Wiskow and White

167 - Is coaching REALLY worth the investment? A client case study with Lucy White of Wiskow and White

LINK to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching

We packed SO MUCH into this chat :

  • What my clients actually think and feel before & at the beginning of their 1:1 journey
  • What the ACTUAL process is - how it works and the surprising by-products of coaching with things like your relationship with rest, people pleasing & enjoying your joy
  • Why (my client believes) this investment should be the top of your budget priorities
  • How this experience changes how you behave in business
  • How we can waste time, money & energy on our personal development when we try to address our problems at the wrong level
  • The differences my client has experienced between counselling & coaching
  • How you'll develop the confidence to OWN your weird & your unique ways of doing things
  • Why we call it 'the inner work'... and how it really is work...but really is worth it

A HUGE thank you to Lucy for sharing so openly - I know you'll want to follow her beautiful work so click here for her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wiskowandwhite/

Click here to head straight to the Wiskow & White website https://www.wiskowandwhite.com/

And click here to visit LaLista - Lucy's membership platform for couples planning their Italian wedding https://www.lalista.com/




May 17, 202329:15
166 - The price you pay for their approval
May 15, 202326:37
BONUS: What's it like to work with me?
May 12, 202326:25
165 - It's time to come back to the WHOLE you, with Lea Hughes

165 - It's time to come back to the WHOLE you, with Lea Hughes

The focus of May '23 is evolution - it's about your growth, your development ...your TRUE development not INTO who you're becoming, but BACK TO who you actually are. Owning that. UNlearning all of the stuff that's getting in the way of YOU being YOU. So allow me to introduce my friend and trusted colleague Lea Hughes.

During this chat Lea and I discuss...

  • Why DO we abandon ourselves?
  • How we can use tools like Human Design & Gene Keys to help our evolution
  • What the ‘shoulds’ can do to us (particularly in business) as we go along our path
  • The costs of appearing successful on the outside ...but craving fulfilment and more alignment to who you really are on the inside 

...And weaved into all of that, we talk about how to evolve without being an arse hole to yourself, which is important if you don't want to feel like shit.

Stay tuned till the end where Lea shares her insights into what she believes is the best and most supportive approach to your own personal development, evolution and thriving. I loved this chat, and I hope you get lots from it.

LINKS:

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: ⁠⁠⁠www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching⁠⁠⁠

Book in an enquiry call: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call⁠⁠

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: ⁠⁠www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout ⁠⁠

Connect with me on Instagram HERE: https://www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_/

Join my mail list HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/614331b57accb4c021020ee9

Connect with Lea: https://www.instagram.com/iamleahughes/?hl=en

Lea's website: https://www.livingfurthur.co.uk/

May 11, 202335:21
164 - 3 reasons growing & making progress feels hard
May 04, 202333:09
163 - Switching gears ...& an update
May 01, 202322:28
162 - The expensive costs of your avoidance habit

162 - The expensive costs of your avoidance habit

Final call to join! www.tlb.org.uk/evolve ...Today's episode covers:

  • What you're avoiding & why you might be avoiding it
  • What it's costing you in terms of time, money and your inner happiness
  • What to ACTUALLY do to make progress on the things you're avoiding

...enjoy and DEFFO do DO the bit at the end. It's important!

LINKS:

Book in an enquiry call: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call⁠⁠

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: ⁠⁠www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout ⁠⁠

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: ⁠⁠www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching⁠⁠


Apr 26, 202341:39
161 - How to make your growth less vulnerable and more impactful
Apr 23, 202339:50
160 - Evolve or repeat. What do you choose?

160 - Evolve or repeat. What do you choose?

JOIN EVOLVE before 28th April '23 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/evolve

This episode is designed for those of you who...

1. Want some self reflection prompts to help you see where you're looping / staying stuck in ways of being that might be 'uncomfortably comfortable' in that you recognise they don't serve you but can't see to bust free from them

2. Are joining me in EVOLVE, have already signed up & just want to get exposure to what's coming up

3. Are considering joining before 28th April '23 and want to hear the 'in between the lines' context of what it's all about

Join or book in your consultation call here BEFORE the 28th April HERE: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/evolve-enquiry-call

LINKED EPISODES:

157

159

153



Apr 20, 202348:13
159 - 7 lessons from creating a podcast (aka sticking with something!)
Apr 17, 202331:08
158 - How to support yourSELF (session replay of the Thrive First Method)
Apr 13, 202329:60
157 - The false benefits of holding yourself back

157 - The false benefits of holding yourself back

Last time I talked about this was in episode 70 (linked HERE) ...and it's as powerful to consider today as it was then: what ARE the false benefits to your holding yourself back & getting in your own way? Let's explore! THIS is the work I support my own clients through and the work you're being invited to join me in EVOLVE - head to www.tlb.org.uk/evolve 

LINKS:

Book in an enquiry call: https://calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call

www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout 

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching





Apr 10, 202333:16
156 - Are you holding back your brilliance? Fear of success...
Apr 06, 202339:25
155 - Are you "protecting" yourself to keep yourself "safe"? It's time to EVOLVE.
Apr 03, 202343:26
154 - Are you really connected to yourself?

154 - Are you really connected to yourself?

Consider this a mini intro to the next episode. THIS is the work I support my own clients through and the work you're being invited to join me in EVOLVE - head to www.tlb.org.uk/evolve ...oh and by the way, CLICK HERE for a link to the post I mentioned in case you want a visual. LINKS:
Book in an enquiry call: calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/enquiry-call
www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching
Apr 02, 202316:27
153 - The costs of avoiding the inner work
Mar 30, 202340:59
152 - When results aren't happening (quickly enough)
Mar 26, 202341:27
151 - You're not normal, and that's PERFECT.  Stop making yourself wrong for the way you are!
Mar 23, 202335:08
150 - Hear me work (replay of a LIVE session)
Mar 20, 202324:43
149 - The truth about being needy & demanding
Mar 19, 202345:02
148 - Having your sh*t together in business when life is hard
Mar 15, 202326:54
147 - Want to thrive? Focus on the simple things...

147 - Want to thrive? Focus on the simple things...

Today's IG live / episode came from Meg Hewitt tagging me with a reminder of her episode (96 - linked HERE) where we talked all about thriving in life and in business.  Because in truth...

...it's not always easy. 

Never mind the ongoing to-do list and mounds of obligations ... you've then got every influencer under the sun promoting the 'right way' to thrive and in truth - only YOU know what thriving looks and fees like to you.  In life AND in business.  So give this a watch / listen and start carving out your own 'simple things' to thrive. 

LINKS:

www.tlb.org.uk/evolve - 8 spaces, begins mid-April '23

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout 

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/1-1-coaching

Meg's episode (96) : https://open.spotify.com/episode/6goKmkDnkyZazIbL7Q3UzW?si=8d5fa220cfc64715

Obligation free time episode (91):  https://open.spotify.com/episode/3A8DHqOwITVrxtuN3DxUGZ?si=8e785a716d9f4caf

Mar 14, 202329:54
146 - Why you're so scared of failure (& what to do about it)
Mar 13, 202344:54
145 - Who is on your (inner) team?
Mar 09, 202324:60
144 - Stop seeking permission! It's ok to be ok (you read that right)
Mar 06, 202315:00
143 - Keep 'falling off the wagon'? This one's for you
Mar 02, 202323:50
142 - What if it took less time, but more...
Feb 27, 202324:23
141 - The costs of overlooking your natural gifts (and what to do about it)

141 - The costs of overlooking your natural gifts (and what to do about it)

*** LINKS & QUOTES FROM THE EPISODE BELOW ***

Links:

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

IG post mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/p/ComVzwGjN1u/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

IG post mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/p/CYeBZZsD3YG/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

This episode is for you if you...

  • Find yourself struggling and wondering why it's so hard for you 
  • Find yourself overcomplicating & overcompensating
  • Avoid things like price increases or upholding your boundaries 
  • Sometimes wrestle with comparison 

Quotes:

"Don't diminish or overlook your natural talents & gifts just because they come easy to you - just because it comes easy to YOU doesn't make it less valuable for THEM ...OWN what you bring to the table"

"If you're someone who's been raised with the belief that work must be hard to be valuable, then don't be surprised if you overlook or diminish how much value you add simply by contributing what comes naturally, effortlessly and joyfully to you."

"There is usually a correlation between how willing you are to do the busy work and to what level of high regard you hold yourself - notice that shit."

"When you don't value what comes easy to you, don't be surprised if you feel the need to prove your worth through doing more, being more or gaining more qualifications" 

Feb 23, 202331:26
140 - Making friends with procrastination

140 - Making friends with procrastination

*** LINKS & QUOTES FROM THE EPISODE BELOW ***

Links:

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

In this episode, my plan is to:

  • Explore how procrastination comes up when you’re doing things that require courage and / or discipline
  • Help you understand WHY procrastination is happening
  • Help you have a different relationship with procrastination and actually USE IT to your advantage

Quotes:

“You aren’t a procrastinator, you procrastinate - big difference”

“Usually procrastination isn’t about avoiding DOING something, but more often it’s about avoiding FEELING something.”

“When you start to identify as a procrastinator as though it’s part of your identity, that’s when you start to give your power away as though you no longer have any control.”

“Normally when you’re avoiding doing something, you’re getting to avoid the hypothetical fear that might follow on from you doing the thing.  And there is where the work lies.”

“What if we CHANGED our relationship with procrastination, so instead of seeing it as a negative thing - we actually saw it as a signal (a little bit like your smoke alarm will signal when there’s a fire) and investigate what type of support that signal might be telling us we NEED”

“When you go to do something that requires courage, don’t be surprised if suddenly the washing needs folding, or an E-Mail needs urgently responding to, or you need a snack.  Treat this as a sign that you need more support from yourself to do the thing.”

“I think it’s powerful to recognise that doing something ‘boring’ can feel energetically just as draining as doing something that requires courage, and we would support ourselves much more by recognising that”

Feb 20, 202330:59
139 - Are you f*cking yourself over when going after what you want?

139 - Are you f*cking yourself over when going after what you want?

*** LINKS & TIMESTAMPS BELOW ***

Links:

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link  

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504 

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout 

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

Timestamps:

When you’re going after goals that are meaningful - thing you want to be do or have, you’re likely going to bump up against challenges & adversity.

Let’s talk about how that applies to your inner work.

In this episode I’m sharing the three most common ways I see my own clients f*cking themselves during the journey towards goals that are meaningful to them.

  1. 8:30 not acknowledging your disempowering limiting beliefs
  2. 15:30 Not being aware of the way you’re spending your time & acknowledging your current set of life circumstances
  3. 21:10 Not developing a tolerance for uncertainty & complexity

Quotes:

“When you don’t acknowledge your underlying disempowering beliefs and try to pretend they don’t exist, best believe they’ll reveal themselves through your behaviour - particularly in the things you avoid”

“You have to acknowledge your reality.  Really look your current truth in the eyes - acknowledging the way your life is now, your obligations, responsibilities …all of it - and THEN set goals from that place.  Otherwise you’re just setting yourself up to fail”

“When you develop your tolerance for uncertainty, it enables you to let go of control.  Not because you are less ambitious or have less desire for things to work out - but because you have MORE SELF TRUST to navigate your way towards your goals THROUGH uncertainty”

Feb 16, 202332:52