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The Rebel's Guide To Getting Married And Planning A Wedding

The Rebel's Guide To Getting Married And Planning A Wedding

By Josh Withers
Everyone has an opinion on how, when, and where you should get married. They probably even had opinions on who you should marry.

I'm not that guy, I'm Josh Withers, an Australian marriage celebrant, presenting a different way to get married, the rebel's way. This is the Rebel's Guide To Getting Married!
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The rebels guide to being a wedding guest
Everything you need to know about how early you should arrive at a wedding, where you should sit, what you should do, and what kind of gift you should bring.
June 12, 2021
The Withers Wedding Method
I've got a very specific and seemingly different way of looking at how to create a wedding, it's my own little wedding planning method, The Withers Wedding Method. If that was a sexier name I'd probably make a book, but until I get a sexier book title, I'll drop it here as an episode of The Rebels Guide To Getting Married podcast and vlog.
July 29, 2020
Photographing a wedding on an iPhone, and what is a virtual wedding fair?
Would you trust your wedding photographer if the only camera they had was an iPhone 11 Pro? This week I talk to my friend, and Indianapolis wedding photographer, Jen Van Elk who did just that, her husband Steve helps me find the best wedding venue on the Gold Coast, Sharne Perrett from the Australia-wide Virtual Wedding Fair explains what a virtual wedding fair is, and Michaela wants to know what to do about her partner wanting a big white wedding while she wants to elope. This podcast is the wedding planning bible for rebels, so if you're doing something rebellious at a wedding and want to tell the world about it, or if you want to do something crazy, but don't know how, ask a question at the website Jen's blog post on shooting a wedding on an iPhone: Steve's podcast, Wedding Photo Hangover: The Virtual Wedding Fair: Thanks for listening, if you enjoyed the podcast, do me a solid and share it around, rate and review online, and send in questions for me to answer.
July 9, 2020
How do we tell my mother-in-law that we eloped?
Welcome to a brand new format of the Rebel's Guide To Getting Married, we've changed to a wedding talkback show where Josh takes your questions live on the air. Today Scotty asks what to do about a wedding reception and dancing in COVID-19 restrictions, Kristy and Matt are trying to figure out where to elope, and Dan doesn't know how to break it to her mother-in-law that she's going to miss out on the wedding she's always dreamed of, because her son and Dan are eloping! This podcast is now 100% you and your questions, so ask a question at the website and I'll call you right back.
July 3, 2020
The Rebels’ Guide To Staying Married While In Self-Isolation
If you’ve found yourself and your partner in each other’s bad books a little bit through the COVID-19 imposed self-islolation, lockdown, shelter-in-place, hell on earth, that we’re all living through at the moment, I found this one simple thought from a therapist to be really helpful for Britt and I this week.
April 20, 2020
The Rebels’ Guide to Changing Your Name When You Get Married
Here’s something for the newlyweds to add to their quarantine todo list: changing their name after your wedding ... if that’s what you’re choosing to do. This is a comprehensive guide on how to do it, what options you have, and who you need to contact.
April 16, 2020
The Rebels’ Guide To Re-Planning Your Wedding Now That COVID-19 Ruined It
The rebels' guide to getting married now that the Coronavirus has ruined your original wedding plans and you're trying to re-plan, postpone, and move your wedding
April 2, 2020
The Rebels’ Guide To Getting Married Around The Coronavirus
These are weird times, especially if you’re getting married, so here’s an idea that should keep you safe and healthy, while also getting you married. We’re just going to delay the reception, because being married is so much better than getting married. Just so we’re clear, this video does not serve as legal or medical advice. I’m just a wedding celebrant facing the same pandemic as you, wondering how we can still celebrate life while in a pandemic.
March 22, 2020
A Rebels' Guide Q&A Episode - My Partner Wants a Wedding, I Want An Elopement
In today's Q&A I addressed making a destination wedding fun, is 5:30am too early for a wedding ceremony, my partner wants to have a wedding but I want to elope, and whether celebrants get "butthurt" if they are asked to not be in photos.
March 5, 2020
The Rebels' Guide to Beach Weddings
The most popular place in the world to get married is probably not far from your hose, it's the beach! Here's some reasons why it's the worst, but also how you can make it great. The audio is pretty bad in this episode, because it was recorded at the beach. This is one of the reasons it's a bad place to hold a wedding ceremony, shoutout to the videographers!
March 3, 2020
The Rebel’s Guide To Attending a Wedding
I met a lady at a wedding reception recently and she clearly didn’t know how to attend a wedding, so to the lady who didn’t like that bride, this vlog is for you. In case you’re not a viewer, there’s a few seconds of audio in this episode from Queer Eye.
February 16, 2020
Rebel's guide to getting married overseas but doing the paperwork in Australia
When I marry people overseas, I generally do their marriage paperwork in Australia, here's why
February 5, 2020
Wet weddings and ice cream for breakfast
Today’s podcast is part of my 29 Day Content Challenge at but also reflecting on Alex and Taneisha’s wedding that got rained out at the end this afternoon just outside of Melbourne
February 1, 2020
The rebel's guide to choosing a wedding date
There's been one simple and inhibiting way people have chosen wedding dates in the past: whatever their wedding venue had available. I've got a new idea and I'd love to share it in this episode, consider it the upgrade to wedding planning 2.0. Choosing a wedding date based on your entire wedding squad.
November 13, 2019
The rebel's guide to being totally stressed out planning a wedding
I feel like there's a cultural legal requirement for people planning a wedding and getting married to be totally stressed out. Like it's expected of you, and if you aren't stressed out then you're getting married wrong. In this episode of the Rebel's Guide I'm presenting a different way, a better way, the rebel's way to get married - without stress!
November 12, 2019
The rebel’s guide to finishing your wedding
Britt’s grandma always said you should start how you want to finish. In saying that she was encouraging you to think about the entirety of the project, including how you would like it to end. Here’s an episode on how your wedding might end, but keep in mind I haven’t covered disaster weddings like the one where the groom’s father gets into a fist fight with his son. When that happens you’ll just have to figure it out on your own.
November 6, 2019
The rebel's guide to wedding rehearsals
My least favourite thing about weddings is the idea that they have top be perfect and rehearsed. You can’t rehearse real life, and you can’t rehearse an authentically meaningfully good wedding. Apparently descriptions are supposed to encourage you to listen to an episode but I’ve literally given away the whole episode in the description. Sorry.
November 3, 2019
A rebels’ guide to choosing a wedding photographer
There are so many blog posts, podcasts, videos, about how to choose a wedding photographer, and they're all great. This guide however is what separates the sheep and the goats, this is how to actually and easily choose an awesome wedding photographer.
November 3, 2019
What to do if you don't have the cash for a good wedding photographer
I’m definitely going to get in trouble for this episode, but the truth is that not everyone can afford a great photographer. So here’s the rebel’s guide for saving money on wedding photography. Thanks to Lucy for the topic!
October 19, 2019
The rebel's guide to wedding day timing and scheduling
Creating a rough schedule for your wedding day could end in a all-in death match between your wedding planner, venue, photographer and celebrant or officiant. So here's my guide to create a schedule, or timeline for your wedding day. (Recorded in #Yosemite!)
October 19, 2019
The rebel’s guide to tradition
Rebel’s Guide in New York City! I’ve got some bad news for you: when you say you want a non-traditional wedding, it doesn’t really mean anything. There’s no simple fix to de-traditionalising your wedding. This is an episode trying to help you frame that conversation about wedding traditions and having a traditional, or non-traditional wedding.
October 6, 2019
The rebels’ guide to wedding vows
The number one thing I get emails about is about how to write wedding vows. Couples getting married talk about being scared of public speaking, of not knowing what to write, and how to write them, so here's my rebel's guide to writing wedding vows!
September 12, 2019
When seven years felt like seven days
Today is Britt and my seventh wedding anniversary, and my whole Rebel’s Guide ethos has it’s roots in our own wedding and how we decided to marry. So today I celebrate our seven years in the podcast, and look forward to seven more!
September 6, 2019
How to elope, a rebel's guide to elopements
Most people have a weird worldview of eloping, like it's a sin, or dishonouring of your family, so let me tell you why people elope, but also offer you a tip on how to elope, along with the difference between an elopement and a wedding. Recorded on Wanaka's Coromandel Peak in New Zealand in the motherflipping snow with real true blue snowfall!
August 1, 2019
Please don’t spend 6.7% of your life planning your wedding
Sitting in the back of a ute, in a river bed, outside of Queenstown NZ, here's me trying to convince you to not spend the next five years of your life planning a wedding - because your marriage is way more important than your wedding. Thanks a million to Harley from Bulb Creative for filming today's episode!
May 22, 2019
After the first dance
What should a rebel do after the first dance and what's the secret ingredient to a full dance floor?
April 24, 2019
How to be photographed at a wedding, feat. Morgan Roberts Photography
I don't think many people understand that you don't have to pose, make weird faces, smile awkwardly, or be generally weird when you're getting your wedding photos taken. This episode features my mate, Morgan Roberts.
April 7, 2019
People at your wedding, who should be there?
When no-one has to be at your wedding, when no-one deserves an invitation, who do you invite?
April 4, 2019
It's the vibe. I rest my case.
This is a podcast about a part of your wedding that no-one talks about, the vibe. It's the very undercurrent of everything happening in your wedding.
March 16, 2019
Wet weather wedding backups
A super exciting Rebel’s Guide to wet weather backups, or, How I Learned To Stop Worrying and Love The Rain, or, Thunder Only Happens When It’s Wedding. Anyhow, this is the Rebel’s Guide to a wet weather wedding backup and what to do if it’s raining.
March 15, 2019
Why create The Rebel’s Guide? Featuring Luna Withers
Why create The Rebel’s Guide? Why would I invest time and effort into creating this podcast and vlog? Because I think it matters, and I think you getting married matters. Bonus guest appearance from Luna Withers, my little girl.
March 1, 2019
Rebels don't force children and animals to perform at their wedding
The title kind of gives it away, but I do reference a video in the podcast, and that video is available on my Youtube and Facebook channels
February 16, 2019
The rebel's guide to wedding photographers
Did you know that you don't have to have a wedding photographer to get married? So if you are going to have one, why, and who? And how much?
February 14, 2019
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February 11, 2019
A rebel's bridal party
Don't listen to this episode if you are keen on a massive bridal party!
February 6, 2019
The wedding checklist
Most wedding planning checklists are designed to scare the heck out of you. Here's one that will set you free.
February 5, 2019