I’m Not That Old, Lady

People will project their grief, fear, insecurities and pain upon anyone. This week Oz and I discuss why this happens and what is really going on. There is a way to protect yourself.

This week Oz and I explore change. The changes that happen whether we want them to or not. We learn how to recognize what’s happening and what to do about it; if anything.

This past year has been bad in many ways for many of us. The emotional fatigue has me completely spent and I wondered why I can’t catch up. Oz and I explore one of the reasons why.

The lies we tell ourselves are protective. I got this idea from an episode of the podcast Hidden Brain. I highly recommend this podcast as well as mine. Give me a review and tell you friends you g and old.

Oz and I discuss the grief we carry around without knowing what it is. Predictive grief is the past, present and future thoughts of grief that influence our daily lives. We discuss what it is and how to manage it.

In this episode I give credit to the men in our lives. Let’s face it, sometimes we all need credit for what we do for each other.

Oz and I discuss listener mail about a hurtful time in a woman’s life.

Final episode of 2020. Forgiveness is not for the person who wronged you; it is for your own mental health. Oz and I explore why it’s healthy to forgive.

What influences our personal genre? How do movies and television contribute to our personal narrative? My special guest Roger Nygard and I discuss the subject. Roger is a renown and Emmy nominated director, producer, documentarian and writer of movies and television.

How do we learn to love ourselves and accept love from others?

Connections with others gives us support in healing.

From the election to the pandemic we have to heal ourselves from the grief of what was and is no more.

We all have judgements. My question is why? What is happening in your head that makes you act on that judgement? Let’s find out why.

Oz and I discuss a traumatic event and how the body, and brain, protect you.

Oz and I discuss empathy and PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Oz and I discuss revenge and how it’s a secondary emotional response to anger stemming from grief. This podcast is for informational purposes only. Please consult your own mental health professional for specific circumstances effecting your life.

Listener mail gives us an interesting insight into setting boundaries. This podcast is for informational purposes only. Please seek professional advice for your own personal circumstances.

Oz gives me my results of the Love Language test and I am surprised with the results. Gary Chapman authored the book The 5 Love Languages that Oz uses to explain my results. I get no benefit from book sales and endorse the book only as reference material. Please seek professional counseling for your specific needs. This podcast is for informational purposes only.

We have mail. A listener writes in with a specific question to explore. Oz explains his thoughts and introduces the concept of Love Language.

There are four styles of attachment that are formed during childhood. Each will impact adulthood in different ways. Three of them can be changed if you admit to the problem. Oswald Vargas explains.

Oz and I discuss why our emotional age influences behavior as an adult. This subject continues to hit me to the core.

Oz and I discuss emotional age, among other topics. I was really hit by this information. My childhood is still impacting my adult life actions.

Nine things women couldn’t do prior to 1971 and Marva talks about how the podcast has effected her so far.

To break the cycle of victim, rescuer and codependency what do you have to do?

Oz continues his explanation of the sources of anger by including emotion. Oswald Vargas is a licensed marriage and family counselor with ten years of experience. I value his insights; I believe you will too.

Grief is a telling symptom of fear and frustration. Oswald Vargas gives us an expert evaluation of one of the sources of anger. Grief.

Two generations give their insight on the subject. Annette is my daughter and Tina a life long friend. Both have lived with me at my best and worst.

Suzie is my best friend, we’ve known each other for the longest amount of time, and she has a better perspective about elderly people. I need that insight because I didn’t have that experience.

Oswald Vargas is a licensed marriage and family therapist practicing in California with ten years experience in individual and family counseling. Oz, as he’s know to his friends, has generously agreed to give us insight into why we feel as we do. I think you will easily understand why I’m so thrilled to add his expertise to the podcast.

We start to plan out what this podcast will explore. Why are old people so mad? What is happening to them and to is? Are we next?

Anita lived her younger life with very different goals and aspirations than the rest of us. Her determination and drive seems to have given her few regrets.

Georgia will eloquently explain her view on life, current events and why her story has merit. She is one of the young women who give me hope for the future.

Mary is Suzie’s daughter. We call her Little Mary. Her story is difficult but uplifting. I think you will agree she is strong. Hollie is Marva’s daughter and I’m her Godmother. She calls me Auntie. Both of these women have firm backgrounds built by their mothers.

We get an introspective into the life of a baby boomer’s child. Raised in the ‘80s and ‘90s, she has a unique perspective of boomer parents.

Meet Tina and get to know our third cohost.

Meeting my second cohost Marva who I have know since the fifth grade and I can’t imagine living in this world without her.

We get a different perspective from someone who has known me all my life. It’s different, difficult and funny.

A brief history of modern motherhood with the trials we are all still handing everyday.

Let me introduce myself. My name is Theresa. I believe women have to and do give so much of their lives to others and at some point realize that they’re running out of time. We’re going to talk about that. Come with me on an adventure of why we are and how we came to be what we are now.