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By Ni and Sim

Once upon a time in a land not so far away (Birmingham), Ni and Sim realised they were closer than they thought to the big 4-0.

It was at this moment they questioned everything.

Are high-tops still appropriate? Should I have more savings? Can we still hire a quad bike in Napa? Do we really want more kids?

This is UNSURE.

Let’s talk it out.

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Is it time to stop existing and start living?

UnsureApr 22, 2021

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Can black women find love on Love Island?

Can black women find love on Love Island?

In this episode, we discuss all things Love Island! Although this series has been a bit of a slow burner, there have been some things that have stood out. We have a frank conversation about the portrayal of black contestants - particularly women. We also question the role of the production team in the selection process and whether the franchise has turned into a get-rich-quick scheme for participants. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Jul 30, 202142:56
Should we be more open to different cultures?

Should we be more open to different cultures?

In this episode, we have a good 'ole chinwag about the importance of allyship, interracial dating, and whether opposites really attract. We're joined by our wonderful guest Charlotte, who speaks candidly about her support for the BLM movement, her reasons for dating outside of her race, including the childhood memories that may have contributed. We also touch on being underrepresented in the workplace, the right time to enter a new relationship and we settle the score on which guys are most likely to hit your WhatsApp with a d*ck pic! It's a good one guys! Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Jul 16, 202101:03:01
Is colourism dividing our community?

Is colourism dividing our community?

In this episode, we explore the subject of colourism. Why is it still so rife?! We discuss what it's like to be on the receiving end of colourism and how it affects our communities. We also have a frank discussion about the potential effects of colourism on our children and ask ourselves as with ageism, sexism and racism, will colourism always be prevalent in today's society. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Jul 01, 202153:49
Is Blue Therapy highlighting real relationship issues?

Is Blue Therapy highlighting real relationship issues?

In this episode, we're discussing one of the most popular shows of the year Blue Therapy. The jury's still out on whether the couples and their storylines are authentic, but it certainly deserves top marks for entertainment. We also discuss relationship therapy more broadly, Sim's (hilarious) couples counselling experience and Ni's requirements for entering a new relationship! Enjoy! Ni and Sim
May 27, 202143:48
The 90's - What a Vibe!

The 90's - What a Vibe!

In this episode, we're feeling rather nostalgic. After watching this week's SWV vs Xscape Verzuz, we're in our 'old skool' element! This was hands down our favourite Verzuz battle. We also discuss why we're disappointed with the BRIT awards, the lack of quality performers in today's music scene, the hilarious undercover comedians on social media and why we're excited to be able to relive the 90's vibe once we're released from the shackles of lockdown! Enjoy! Ni and Sim
May 13, 202132:39
Cryptocurrencies: What’s all the hype?

Cryptocurrencies: What’s all the hype?

In this episode, we unpack the fascinating world of cryptocurrencies. With so much talk of Bitcoin, XRP and other popular coins, we dive into the reasons for the sudden surge in interest. Joined once again by S, we also discuss forex trading, whether traditional savings accounts are a thing of the past and exactly what is the smartest way to invest your cash right now! Enjoy! Ni and Sim
May 06, 202146:49
Is it time to stop existing and start living?

Is it time to stop existing and start living?

In this episode, we have a frank conversation about life! With all of the recent doom and gloom with the lockdown and the deaths of loved ones and famous figures, we take a step back to reflect on it all. What can we do to lead happier and fulfilled lives? How do we combat stress and how can we ensure we’re prepared for the future – whatever it may hold for us. This is a topic that affects us all and we’re sure you’ll have your own way of dealing with life’s many curveballs. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Apr 22, 202141:32
Why are more black women dying during pregnancy?

Why are more black women dying during pregnancy?

In this episode, we discuss the recent Channel 4 Dispatches documentary, The Black Maternity Scandal. The documentary highlights the startling statistics of black women being four times more likely to die during pregnancy, childbirth and up to 6 weeks post-partum compared to white women. Hosted by Rochelle Humes, the documentary gave real and authentic insights into the experiences that black women sadly face. We explore our opinions on the content and also give our personal accounts of the care we received when having our own children. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Apr 08, 202135:19
Husbands, Wives and Side Chicks

Husbands, Wives and Side Chicks

In this episode, we delve into the world of relationships. This week the socials have been alight with news of self-proclaimed Relationship Expert, Derrick Jaxn's infidelities. This leads us to question whether there is such thing as a 'perfect relationship'. We also discuss joint finances, taking surnames and the taboo subject of prenups. And finally, will Ni ever meet her Prince Tyrone and will Sim eventually become a wealthy housewife?! Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Mar 26, 202143:58
But, surely the customer is always right?

But, surely the customer is always right?

In this episode, we explore what makes good customer service. We've all experienced instances of good and bad service and we discuss ways that businesses can improve. We also discuss nail salons, hairdressers, barbershops, food services and online retailers and ask ourselves whether our customer service experiences shape our loyalty. And, it wouldn’t be an episode about customer service if we didn’t reference the Jamaican food shop now would it?! Enjoy! Ni and Sim.

Mar 19, 202144:50
The Princess & The Royal Tea

The Princess & The Royal Tea

In this episode, we share our opinion on the 'Interview of the Century'. This week, the world watched as Harry and Meghan shared the shocking treatment they received from The Palace and The British Press while being full-time Royals. They put to rest false headlines as well as describing how this treatment affected their mental health. Whether you love them or loathe them, you can't deny the fact that they’ve had a pretty rough time. We also discuss Piers Morgan, why the monarchy needs to modernise and exactly who made the skin colour remark! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

Mar 10, 202144:05
Team Balenciaga vs Team Boohoo

Team Balenciaga vs Team Boohoo

In this episode, we discuss all things brand! We talk about our favourite brands, celebrity brand collaborations and brands that were popular over the years. We explore whether with age we become more comfortable with brands that were less favourable back in the day. We also ask whether we feel it's important to match the styles of our significant others, whether it be high street or designer? This episode is dedicated to all 80s babies. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

Mar 05, 202143:09
#freebritney - How did it come to this?

#freebritney - How did it come to this?

In this episode, we discuss this week's Sky documentary, Framing Britney Spears, which follows the ongoing conservatorship of the popstar. We have a frank discussion about our thoughts on the situation and whether it is strictly about control. We also question if the pressures of fame contribute to issues surrounding mental health and whether large entertainment corporations should do more to protect their artists. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Feb 19, 202136:11
Unsure Movie Night - The Education of a Negro
Feb 05, 202138:24
Reality TV? It's a no from us!

Reality TV? It's a no from us!

In this episode, we share our thoughts about Reality TV. We question whether we'd sign up to a reality TV show and the pros and cons of doing so. We discuss Big Brother, Love Island, First Dates, the Real Housewives of Atlanta and the Love and Hip Hop franchise. We also discuss our individual stories about being manipulated by the XFactor production team. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Jan 22, 202140:05
Lockdown 3.0 - Managing Your Mental Health

Lockdown 3.0 - Managing Your Mental Health

In this episode, we're joined by Counsellor and Psychotherapist Karen Hartley to discuss the effects of lockdown on our mental health. England has been plunged once again into a national lockdown and we're all feeling pretty crap! Using Karen's expert knowledge, we question whether the government should be doing more to promote positive well-being and Karen provides some well-needed tips and tricks to make us feel better at home. Read more about Karen's work at www.karenhartley.co.uk or Instagram @therapy_heals

Jan 15, 202126:17
Musical Memories - Our Favourite Eras

Musical Memories - Our Favourite Eras

In this episode, we take a trip down memory lane and discuss our music tastes throughout the years. From growing up on ragga classics, through to the Bad Boy era, Year 2K (early 2000s) masterpieces, UKG and beyond, we reminisce on the feelings and memories that each musical era provided. We also discuss our favourite songs, artists and bands. Sim tells us about her treasured Fila’s and Ni makes a passionate speech to UKG's forefathers. Come and reminisce with us! Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Jan 08, 202145:31
New Year, New Drop - Our 2020 Round-Up

New Year, New Drop - Our 2020 Round-Up

In this episode, we explore the highs and lows of our 2020. From our personal relationship woes to our feelings about the BLM protests. And of course, it wouldn't be a 2020 recap if we didn't discuss all things Pandemic - entering lockdown, the lockdown heatwave, homeschooling and not being able to meet the squad! HAPPY NEW YEAR!! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

Jan 01, 202149:05
The Festive Show

The Festive Show

In this episode, we bring you the Unsure Festive Show. We discuss our Christmas traditions, including The Queen's Speech, Secret Santa and our not so favourite presents. Join us for the ultimate Christmas chinwag! Don't forget your prosecco! Have a fabulous day. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Dec 24, 202031:43
Daddy’s Girls - Being a Father to Daughters

Daddy’s Girls - Being a Father to Daughters

In this episode, we're discussing Mike's experience of raising his daughters in two very different generations. We ask how big a role social media plays in the upbringing of our young girls and the importance of positive role models in mainstream media. We also chat about setting boundaries, being positive influences and whether we as parents should be wholly accountable for our children's actions. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Dec 18, 202038:02
The COVID-19 Vaccine - Are we in or out?

The COVID-19 Vaccine - Are we in or out?

In this episode, we discuss one of the UK’s hottest topics - the COVID-19 Vaccine. How do we feel about it? Do we want to take it? While it seems that taking the vaccine is optional for now, how likely is it that it will become mandatory and if it does, what could this mean for all of us? We also discuss the decision-making process and what happens in instances when parents disagree on whether to vaccinate their child. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

Dec 11, 202038:44
Our bodies - Are we our own worst critics?

Our bodies - Are we our own worst critics?

In this episode, Karen joins us to discuss all things to do with our shape and size, including diets and exercise, finding clothes to flatter our figures and whether men really care about the way we look. We also share some exciting revelations, from Ni’s passionate speech about the need for four dumplings in her soup, Karen’s take on her ‘kebab legs’ and why you might find Sim rummaging for biscuits in the loft in the middle of the night. You’ll want to hear this one! Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Dec 04, 202056:49
A Man's Wandering Eye - is Evolution the Reason?

A Man's Wandering Eye - is Evolution the Reason?

In this episode, we dig deep into the masculine brain. Joined by TJ, what started off as a discussion about online dating, turned into a very detailed analysis as to why he thinks men react the way they do in certain settings. While we didn't always agree with his views, perhaps there is some truth to his outlook. Are some men just afraid to be honest and do we as women just not like to hear the truth? We'll let you decide. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Nov 27, 202001:05:06
Three Friends, Three Cultures, Three Points of View

Three Friends, Three Cultures, Three Points of View

In this episode, we're discussing the importance of our cultural identity. Joined by our friend Nana, the three of us have a lighthearted conversation about the impact of our individual cultures on our childhood, our teens and our adult lives. We also discuss the importance of embracing cultural traditions and ensuring these are positive experiences for our children. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Nov 20, 202056:32
The US Presidential Election - One Voter’s View

The US Presidential Election - One Voter’s View

In this episode, we’re discussing what has dominated the news globally for the past few weeks - the US Presidential Election. Daniela joins us to discuss how it feels living in the US, and what we think will happen in the coming weeks and months. Daniela also enlightens us about other factors including how the election works, particular voting groups who have made a difference and her opinion on both Trump and Biden as candidates. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Nov 12, 202051:42
#ENDSARS Understanding The Movement

#ENDSARS Understanding The Movement

In this episode, we get clued up about #ENDSARS. With Sim having Nigerian heritage we felt it was important to discuss the issues surrounding the movement. We’re joined by our guest Dami (@DamiTravels), who breaks down the reasons why the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) was formed in 1992, and highlights the significance of the protests which ultimately caused its disbandment in October 2020. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Nov 05, 202042:23
Keepin’ It Real - Let’s Talk Romance

Keepin’ It Real - Let’s Talk Romance

In this episode, we’re discussing relationships and romance. We’re joined once again by S (@dottaofficial), who provides his comedic point of view about his experiences and where he thinks we as women - go wrong. We also discuss the dating game, going dutch, the meaning of love and how to keep things spicy in your relationship. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Oct 30, 202031:60
Diary of an Unapologetic Black Man
Oct 22, 202039:53
Two Women, Two Journeys - in partnership with UCB

Two Women, Two Journeys - in partnership with UCB

In this special episode, we discuss our career journeys. 2020 has definitely highlighted the continued struggles of black people in modern society. How has this affected us in the workplace and does the fact that we are women make it even more difficult? This episode is in partnership with University College Birmingham (UCB) as part of Black History Month. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

Oct 20, 202034:20
Normalising Miscarriage

Normalising Miscarriage

In this episode, we question why miscarriage is still such a taboo subject. With 1 in 4 women experiencing miscarriage, surely conversations should be normalised. So why aren’t they? In honour of Baby Loss Awareness Week 2020, we’re joined by Daniela @danielapbraide who suffered a miscarriage 18 months ago. She provides some very useful insights into the physical and emotional side of miscarriage and also the importance of good support networks, taking the time to process grief and finding your own way to heal. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Oct 15, 202043:07
Big Boys Don’t Cry

Big Boys Don’t Cry

In this episode, we discuss whether men should show their true emotions. And if they choose to, how are they perceived? We’re joined by Julian who adds his perspective to the discussion. We debate whether crying is a weakness, if Kanye West's public breakdowns have affected his brand image and the importance of channeling your emotions effectively. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Oct 08, 202035:53
A Shooting, a Facelift and a Pandemic

A Shooting, a Facelift and a Pandemic

In this episode, we discuss whether artists can bounce back after periods of crisis following the shooting saga and ongoing tensions between Tory Lanez and Megan Thee Stallion. We also talk ‘lockdown birthdays’, the real housewives and whether the US is becoming increasingly less influential due to existing and emerging UK talent. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Oct 01, 202029:34
What is Influencing the Younger Generation?

What is Influencing the Younger Generation?

In this episode, we're dissecting the many influences that are affecting today's youth. Joined by Sammy, we touch on discussion points including the education system, the role of religion, the portrayal of young people in the media and the impact of popular culture. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Sep 24, 202033:46
Instagram Versus Reality - Are We Comfortable Being Mediocre?

Instagram Versus Reality - Are We Comfortable Being Mediocre?

In this episode, we're joined by S (@dottaofficial) where we explore the reality of online perceptions and whether these have a bearing on how we deem our own success. We also discuss BBLs, the 'Gym Look' and whether these are sustainable. We also discuss the impact of these ideals on our mental health and well-being and whether these negatively influence the younger generation. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Sep 17, 202024:29
Online Dating - The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Online Dating - The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

In this episode, we explore the world of dating. What are the current methods to bagging a date? Is online dating the way forward? We’re joined by special guest Karen B, who shares her experiences of all things dating. Topics discussed include Karen’s tried and tested methods, ‘d*ck pics’ and negative experiences, her shift in attitude towards dating throughout the years and how she finally found her Mr Right. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Sep 10, 202026:43
Have We Become a Generation of Takeout Foodies?

Have We Become a Generation of Takeout Foodies?

In this episode, we discuss finding the time to prepare and cook meals in a time where we as women are increasingly busier and more career-focused than ever. But are we really too busy to cook or is cooking pushed down the priority list in favour of other things? We touch on the shift in gender roles and the role of women in the household. Our guest Michael joins us once again, to offer his honest perspective on the subject. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Sep 03, 202027:04
Our School Experience – The Highs and Lows

Our School Experience – The Highs and Lows

In this episode, we give you the rundown of school-life. During our pilot, we touched on the debate of whether we would send our children to a single-sex, faith school. It sparked numerous conversations within our peer group so we decided to revisit the subject and discuss some of our experiences in more depth. From school trips, to cookery baskets and hockey sticks! We think you’ll like this one! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

Sep 02, 202027:52
Having Children, Establishing Routines and Finding our ‘New Normal’

Having Children, Establishing Routines and Finding our ‘New Normal’

In this episode, we explore our individual experiences as new parents. How did we cope? What did we do? What would we change? We discuss the pressures of finding what we consider our ‘new normal’ as well as establishing our roles as parents and our attitudes towards accepting change – both in our personal and professional lives. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

Aug 28, 202024:59
Mutton Dressed as Lamb - A Man's Perspective

Mutton Dressed as Lamb - A Man's Perspective

In this episode, we're told some home truths about what's considered reasonable attire for women of our age. We explore turn-offs for men when it comes to dress sense and we also touch on some key relationship topics. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

Aug 25, 202028:04
Pilot: Are Single Sex Faith Schools the Winning Formula?

Pilot: Are Single Sex Faith Schools the Winning Formula?

In this episode, we explore the concept of single-sex and faith-based schools. As former pupils of both, we question the thought processes surrounding making these choices as parents. We also discuss the day to day life and the pros and cons of attending such schools. And finally we ask ourselves whether we would be comfortable sending our children to single sex or faith-based schools. Enjoy! Ni and Sim
Aug 21, 202008:13