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Urban Spinster

Urban Spinster

By Sadia Sanders
Celebrating the SINGLE life without judgement and redefining the word โ€œSpinsterโ€
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Soul Food & Murder For Hire - It Be Your Own Damn People! Pt 2

Urban Spinster

Soul Food & Murder For Hire - It Be Your Own Damn People! Pt 2

Urban Spinster

Why Do People Put So Much Trust In Social Media Influencers? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐ŸงŸโ€โ™€๏ธ
The latest social media influencer drama with Darius Williams aka Darius Cooks has me wondering why so many people will not only blindly follow, but staunchly support and defend folks they don't know in real life? Go with me down the #dariuscrooks vs The Kitchenista et al. rabbit hole.
July 21, 2021
It's Not A Party All The Time ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ
Social Media will have you believing that being young and single is a non-stop party. Let's dispel this myth.
January 18, 2021
Twerk Tantrum at True Kitchen & Kocktails - Dallas ๐Ÿ—๐Ÿง‡
It went down in Dallas, TX this weekend with an all out twerk battle between patrons and the owner of True Kitchen & Kocktails.ย 
December 1, 2020
Bishop Bazemore Goes Awf! ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™€
Bishop A. Wyoming Bazemore wants you to know that his wife of less than a year Ann'Gel is a true Jezabel! But why did he choose her when other pastors warned him to stay away?
October 18, 2020
"I Don't Believe In Forgiveness"
Our own bad decisions can lead to us having bitterness that lasts a lifetime.ย  In an effort to keep our life lists on course, we often justify a significant other's bad behavior. Listen to my perspective on Teri Knight's story, ex-wife of murderer Manuel Gehring.ย 
September 9, 2020
"Face It"๐ŸŽญ - John Gray
The pastor has been caught cheating again! Would you continue to be a member of Relentless or any church where the principles of the bible continue to be disregarded?
September 3, 2020
Soul Food & Murder For Hire - It Be Your Own Damn People! Pt 2
By now you may have heard about the Prince of Sweetie Pies, Tim Norman being arrested on a federal charge of conspiracy murder-for-hire that killed his nephew Andre Montgomery. On this episode I talk about what lead to this arrest 4 years after Andre's murder. Ya'll pray for Miss Robbie!
August 20, 2020
Pyramid Schemes ๐Ÿ’ธ and COVID 19
The Flower, Blessing Loom, Gifting Circle etc. are nothing but schemes that will crumble, maybe before you cash or โ€œgiftโ€ out. Not to be confused with real Su Su a savings club among close friends and family, these invite only massive groups are illegal scams. And COVID has created the opportunity for people to be taken advantage of as finances have become unstable.
July 26, 2020
Keep Your Legs Closed To Married People! ๐Ÿšซ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ†
When single people entangle with married folks we usually get the short end of the deal. Hear my thoughts on this whole August Alsina and Jada mess...
July 12, 2020
It Be Your Own Damn People! ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ
I've been watching docuseries "Trial by Media" on Netflix. The "King Richard" episode in part is an example of a Civil Rights attorney selling out the Black community in order to serve his own agenda.ย 
May 16, 2020
Are You Dating a Narcissist?
My Aunt Pepper Miller, a multi-cultural market researcher for companies like Bravo, Ulta Beauty and McDonald's, joins me to discuss the signs of a narcissist and how to break free from narcissistic abuse.
March 25, 2020
Donโ€™t Want To Suck ๐Ÿ†? Keep A Job!
Men still feel like home makers, while important, donโ€™t contribute in the same ways that they do. And therefore should sexually satisfy their needs when desired. Comedian David Arnoldโ€™s Netflix special โ€œFat Ballerinaโ€ confirms this way of thinking.
March 9, 2020
Married Woman Asks Ex For Money ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’ฐ
Do you think it's OK for a married woman to ask her ex for money? On this episode I have a 3rd Party Story Time while I apply my avocado face mask.ย 
February 7, 2020
Mama Bird Syndrome
Are you a Mama Bird? ๐Ÿฆ Constantly feeding someone else with your time, money and resources without receiving much in return?
January 30, 2020
Creating A Partnership With Your Aging Parents
" People with aging parents are tired of being stuck between trying to help them and a parentโ€™s denial, resistance, and rejection of ideas."ย  On this episode I speak with Rhonda Caudell, RN, CCM The Aging Parent Expert. She tells us how to co-create a partnership plan with our aging parents in order to help them have the best quality of life.
January 23, 2020
Marrying A Younger Man
One of my best friends and I talk about her experience marrying a man 7 years her junior.
January 16, 2020
Save Money Using Your Flex Spending Employee Benefit ๐Ÿ—ฃ
Most employees of large organizations have a Flex Spending Account benefit that they are not using. I teach you how to take advantage of this pre-tax savings on out-of-pocket medical expenses.ย 
January 9, 2020
Crime Doc Review. - โ€œThe Confession Killerโ€
Spent a Friday night doing one of my favorite things, watching a good crime documentary. This one is not only suspenseful, but had me confused, sad and angry all at the same time.
December 18, 2019
Todayโ€™s Rando Thoughts ๐Ÿค”
The Peloton Bike Ad and Billy Dee Williams being โ€œfluidโ€.
December 4, 2019
How To Hook Up A Single Friend - 3 Tips ๐Ÿ™Ž๐Ÿพโ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿ™Ž๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ
Married or partnered people always try to hook up their Single friends. But get it wrong every time! On this episode, I give matchmakers 3 tips that will save a lot of time and keep the friendships in tact.ย 
November 28, 2019
Get Rid Of Things That No Longer Serve You ๐Ÿ“ฆ
Sometimes we hold onto things we no longer need in our lives and don't do us any good.ย  Let's unpack while my clay face mask dries! To watch my Facemask Monday videos, subscribe to my YouTube channel. ๐Ÿ“บ
November 5, 2019
Tyler Perry's "Sistas" - Pilot Review ๐Ÿ“บ
I break down this 1st episode given my experiences with these types of relationships the ladies find themselves in.ย  Subscribe to the YouTube channel - Urban Spinsterย 
October 26, 2019
Home Sweet Home
Buying property is stressful enough. Now letโ€™s add selling another to the mix and having to be on alert for fuckery at the same time!
October 3, 2019
Happily Divorced ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™‚๏ธ
My guest, comedian Anderi Bailey aka Mr. Amen, joins me to talk about why he is happily divorced. But would marry again for a 3rd time.
August 22, 2019
A Young Black Man in Love โ™ฅ๏ธ ๐Ÿคต๐Ÿพ
My guest on this episode is a young Black man who loves love! We talk about why he values relationships, the mistakes made and his path to being better.
August 15, 2019
Single at Seventy
My guest and former 8th grade teacher joins me to talk about why she remained single after having her children.
August 7, 2019
โ€œWe Gotta Do Better!โ€
When people acknowledge that they are falling short there is rarely an attempt to actually โ€œdo betterโ€. So why say it out loud? ๐Ÿ˜ฉ
July 31, 2019
Insecurity Is Not Cute! ๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ
Attention isnโ€™t always positive and sometimes not even about you. On this episode of the podcast I talk about how insecurity signs may be missed during the initial stage of a relationship.
July 5, 2019
Why Do People Choose To Pay Rent? ๐Ÿ˜
My guest, Credit Repair Expert Larry Baxter and I discuss why people may choose to rent vs own their home. He dispels first time buyer myths also giving tips on how to boost your credit score.
April 16, 2019
Petty Is As Petty Does ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ
A woman messed around for 25 years waiting on her estranged husband to go half on the divorce! Now that is petty.
April 11, 2019
Being Authentic
Single women are often advised to change things about themselves in order to attract and marry a man. But being fake is not sustainable over time. Take a listen to this latest episode and tell me what you think.
March 8, 2019
Financial Manipulation ๐Ÿ’ตโ›“
On this episode I address financial manipulation by a spouse and the need to have emergency savings in case things go bad.
February 21, 2019
Girls on Fyre ๐Ÿ”ฅ and other docs we like.
My guest, blogger Laura Reid and I discuss our thoughts on why scammers like Billy McFarland are so successful and also delve into other documentaries we enjoyed.
January 25, 2019
Bosses...Get Some Health Benefits! ๐Ÿฅ
Many entrepreneurs donโ€™t have health insurance. Itโ€™s expensive, especially when youโ€™re just starting out. But there are ways to cover yourself in the event of an unforeseen illness or injury.
December 4, 2018
Closure is a trap! ๐Ÿ•ณ
When relationships end, sometimes without warning, we want to know where it went wrong. But is that really the best thing for our emotional health?
November 9, 2018
Push Back
It seems that women are always having to push back against people that seek to take advantage of us, or who are just being uncooperative. Do men have the same issue?
October 13, 2018
Force or Choice?
Caribbean Top Model contestant says she was โ€œforcedโ€ to chemically straighten her hair. But wasnโ€™t this a choice? When faced with an ultimatum we either stand by our convictions or concede.
September 30, 2018
Our Current Racial Climate & Cults
I am fascinated with cult documentaries. Why people join them and how the leaders get members to stay. I think todayโ€™s racial climate may lend itself to the rise of another group that lures those seeking answers with promises of solving our communities issues.
September 14, 2018
4th Timeโ€™s The Charm? ๐Ÿ’๐ŸŽฉ
My guest Dr. Alvin Abston talks to me about being married 3 times and still having a desire for the right wife.
August 16, 2018
Faith Without Works ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพโš’
We often hear that when praying for something, our โ€œworksโ€ are required in order to make it happen. But sometimes we don't wait to find out exactly what that is.
August 2, 2018
What Would You Do For Love? ๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’•
To what extremes would you go in order to find love? ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ’˜
June 19, 2018
Are You Dating A Sex Offender?
My guest on this episode of the podcast is Dr. Alvin Abston, a California State Certified Sex Offender Treatment Provider. We are discussing what makes a person become a sexual predator, possible signs and tips to help in your relationships.
June 13, 2018
Prom is Primetime for Pregnancy! ๐Ÿ•บ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿฝ
The rite of passage for graduating high school seniors is attending the prom. It could also mean having their first sexual experience.
June 9, 2018
Follow Your Instincts!
When going against what you know works for you, it results in regret. ๐Ÿ˜ฉListen to my story about a recent visit to the dentist. ๐Ÿ˜ท
May 25, 2018
Dating With Debt ๐Ÿ’ต๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ
How do you feel about dating someone who has a lot of debt? Whether consumer, personal or investment debt?
May 17, 2018
Tips For The Single Men ๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿฝ
Fellas these dating tips will save you money, time, heartbreak and maybe even your life!
May 9, 2018
Is It Really Gold Digging? ๐Ÿ’ฐ
If a woman prefers to date men who are financially stable, is she a gold digger or simply protecting herself and her assets? ๐Ÿค”
May 2, 2018
Family Secrets ๐Ÿคซ
When children are raised in a secretive environment, it often results in adults who lie. Sometimes the adult continues to keep their family secrets out of shame.
April 24, 2018
Why Successful Women Date Down๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ
Why do you think successful, educated women , date men who are not on their level? Here are my thoughts...
April 11, 2018
Can Men & Women Just Be Friends?
Do you think that two people of the opposite sex can be in a strictly platonic relationship? Hear my thoughts on this subject
March 29, 2018
Why Do People Stay In Violent Relationships?
Violence is never ok. What makes some people stay in abusive relationships?
March 21, 2018
Beware of Shady Contractors ๐Ÿ› ๐Ÿ˜ˆ
Shady repairmen always seek to price gauge customers. Especially the ladies. Here is my latest experience and how I avoided paying too much.
March 6, 2018
Cultural Dynamics
Our culture plays a huge role in how we manage relationships. Are you being true to yourself or trying to please others?
February 22, 2018
Researching Your New Home
Whether buying or renting a new home, there are some things to consider that you may not have as a single person without children. Here are 3 tips.
February 14, 2018
โ€œThe Money Talkโ€ ๐Ÿ’ต๐Ÿ’
When is it appropriate to talk about finances with your significant other and how should we go about it? Larry Baxter of Elite Financial, LLC helps us figure it out.
February 9, 2018
Give Yourself Permission ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿพ
Singles are often told that we are too picky. Knowing what you like and what you don\u2019t is healthy! No one can live your life.
February 1, 2018
Married Men ๐Ÿ‘€๐Ÿ’๐ŸŽฉ
Why is it that many married men look outside of their relationships?
January 26, 2018
Single Ownership ๐Ÿก
Ladies, would you allow your new spouse to move into your home and add them to the deed? \ud83e\udd14
January 5, 2018
December 23, 2017
December 23, 2017
Single Life Balance
Many people in our lives want to make demands of our time and resources. They think that because weโ€™re single, we have it to give. Learn how to say no!
December 7, 2017
Holiday Single ๐Ÿฅ‚๐Ÿ—๐ŸŽ„๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ‰
Here are some tips to help you enjoy the holidays while single.
November 22, 2017
Do traditional men still exist? ๐ŸŽฉ
One of my listeners wrote in and asked if traditional men still exist? I would say yes!
November 21, 2017
Living The Brave You ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿฝ
Are you being you or the Brave version of yourself?
November 16, 2017
More Sexual Misconduct ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿšซ
Everyday there is another story regarding sexual misconduct in the workplace. Letโ€™s talk about it.
November 9, 2017
What Is Yoni Steaming? ๐Ÿ‘
On this episode of the #podcast I interviewed Certified Holistic Doula and Yoni Steam Blend Curator, Yvonne Amis @rootd_n_love. Being a fibroid sufferer, Iโ€™m always interested to learn about methods to deal with the symptoms. Yvonne also curates steaming blends for #fertility and overall womb health.
November 1, 2017
Lender Not A Borrower ๐Ÿ’ธ
Be careful loaning money. Think about how of if youโ€™ll get it back.
October 19, 2017
Submarine Dating โš“๏ธ
Did that guy who ghosted you suddenly pop back up? Listen to the signs of being submarined.
October 12, 2017
Would You Consider IVF? ๐Ÿคฐ๐Ÿฝ
As a single woman who desires children with no prospects in sight, would you consider in vitro fertilization?
October 4, 2017
Dying To Self โšฐ๏ธ
We are often taught to become self-sufficient as adults versus leaving our parents and cleaving to a spouse. On this episode I talk about what Pastor Donald Bell teaches when it comes to preparing for marriage.
September 18, 2017
Getting Comfortable with Being Single
As singles we sometimes become impatient with our love life being seemingly at a stand still. Here are some tips Iโ€™ll share.
September 4, 2017
September 3, 2017
September 3, 2017