Know Your Worth!
Sometimes it takes a while for women to reverse the conditioning received from birth. And when we do, often that awakening is met with backlash. Especially from males.
January 19, 2023
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother in Poverty (Episode 5, Part 2)
Part 2 of the interview with my guest Gilbert Bao. On this episode we discuss his transition after spending 21 years in a California State Prison. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE! anchor.fm/urbanspinster/subscribe
December 26, 2022
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 5, Part 1)
Continuing the episodic series on MacLaren Hall, my guest Gilbert Bao has spent more of his life in state custody than he has outside of it. From being removed by children's services at the age of 8, to a revolving door of juvenile detention and then sentenced to 24 years to life in California State Prison, Gilbert has come out on the other side. He admits that there are daily adjustments to be made. But his freedom is worth it. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE! anchor.fm/urbanspinster/subscribe
December 08, 2022
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 4)
On this episode I speak with Los Angeles County MacLaren Hall Children's Center Survivor Tiffany Bowens. Her abusive mother freed her from the facility while on a field trip, then changed her name. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE! anchor.fm/urbanspinster/subscribe
June 20, 2022
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 3)
Civil Justice and personal injury Attorney Ben Crump has joined forces with Adam Slater of Slater, Slater, Schulman LLP to file a lawsuit against Los Angeles County on behalf of Survivors of sexual abuse at "House of Horrors" MacLaren Hall. I attended a press conference held in downtown LA at Stanley Mosk courthouse. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE! anchor.fm/urbanspinster/subscribe
June 12, 2022
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 2, Pt 2)
Continuing my episodic series on MacLaren Hall, I speak to Claudia Flowers, who began her career in Social Work in 1993 and remained at the facility until its closing. This is Part 2 of 2. MacLaren Hall Children's Center has been called "Los Angeles' Dirty Little Secret". Owned by the county, It once housed thousands of kids removed from their homes for various reasons and placed at what was to be a temporary facility until a suitable foster home became available. Disproportionately, poor single mothers without the proper resources would lose their children to foster care. Many were victimized at the hands of those with a duty to protect them, resulting in lawsuits and the facility shut down. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE! anchor.fm/urbanspinster/subscribe
May 26, 2022
MacLaren Hall – The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 2, Pt 1)
Continuing my episodic series on MacLaren Hall, I speak to Claudia Flowers, who began her career in Social Work in 1993 and remained at the facility until its closing. This is Part 1 of 2. MacLaren Hall Children's Center has been called "Los Angeles' Dirty Little Secret". Owned by the county, It once housed thousands of kids removed from their homes for various reasons and placed at what was to be a temporary facility until a suitable foster home became available. Disproportionately, poor single mothers without the proper resources would lose their children to foster care. Many were victimized at the hands of those with a duty to protect them, resulting in lawsuits and the facility shut down.
May 18, 2022
MacLaren Hall ~ The Sin of Being A Single Mother in Poverty
MacLaren Hall Children's Center has been called "Los Angeles' Dirty Little Secret". Owned by the county, It once housed thousands of kids removed from their homes for various reasons and placed at what was to be a temporary facility until a suitable foster home became available. Disproportionately, poor single mothers without the proper resources would lose their children to foster care. Many were victimized at the hands of those with a duty to protect them, resulting in lawsuits and the facility shut down. On this episode I speak to Andrew Bridge. He is a Survivor of MacLaren Hall and the LA County foster care system, an Attorney, Author and Children's Advocate.
April 30, 2022
Why Do People Put So Much Trust In Social Media Influencers? 🤷🏽♀️🧟♀️
The latest social media influencer drama with Darius Williams aka Darius Cooks has me wondering why so many people will not only blindly follow, but staunchly support and defend folks they don't know in real life? Go with me down the #dariuscrooks vs The Kitchenista et al. rabbit hole.
July 21, 2021
It's Not A Party All The Time 🎉🎈
Social Media will have you believing that being young and single is a non-stop party. Let's dispel this myth.
January 18, 2021
Twerk Tantrum at True Kitchen & Kocktails - Dallas 🍗🧇
It went down in Dallas, TX this weekend with an all out twerk battle between patrons and the owner of True Kitchen & Kocktails.
December 01, 2020
Bishop Bazemore Goes Awf! 🤦🏾♀️🙌🏾🙀
Bishop A. Wyoming Bazemore wants you to know that his wife of less than a year Ann'Gel is a true Jezabel! But why did he choose her when other pastors warned him to stay away?
October 18, 2020
"I Don't Believe In Forgiveness"
Our own bad decisions can lead to us having bitterness that lasts a lifetime. In an effort to keep our life lists on course, we often justify a significant other's bad behavior. Listen to my perspective on Teri Knight's story, ex-wife of murderer Manuel Gehring.
September 09, 2020
"Face It"🎭 - John Gray
The pastor has been caught cheating again! Would you continue to be a member of Relentless or any church where the principles of the bible continue to be disregarded?
September 03, 2020
Soul Food & Murder For Hire - It Be Your Own Damn People! Pt 2
By now you may have heard about the Prince of Sweetie Pies, Tim Norman being arrested on a federal charge of conspiracy murder-for-hire that killed his nephew Andre Montgomery. On this episode I talk about what lead to this arrest 4 years after Andre's murder. Ya'll pray for Miss Robbie!
August 20, 2020
Pyramid Schemes 💸 and COVID 19
The Flower, Blessing Loom, Gifting Circle etc. are nothing but schemes that will crumble, maybe before you cash or “gift” out. Not to be confused with real Su Su a savings club among close friends and family, these invite only massive groups are illegal scams. And COVID has created the opportunity for people to be taken advantage of as finances have become unstable.
July 26, 2020
Keep Your Legs Closed To Married People! 🚫🍑🍆
When single people entangle with married folks we usually get the short end of the deal. Hear my thoughts on this whole August Alsina and Jada mess...
July 12, 2020
It Be Your Own Damn People! 🤷🏾♀️
I've been watching docuseries "Trial by Media" on Netflix. The "King Richard" episode in part is an example of a Civil Rights attorney selling out the Black community in order to serve his own agenda.
May 16, 2020
Are You Dating a Narcissist?
My Aunt Pepper Miller, a multi-cultural market researcher for companies like Bravo, Ulta Beauty and McDonald's, joins me to discuss the signs of a narcissist and how to break free from narcissistic abuse.
March 25, 2020
Don’t Want To Suck 🍆? Keep A Job!
Men still feel like home makers, while important, don’t contribute in the same ways that they do. And therefore should sexually satisfy their needs when desired. Comedian David Arnold’s Netflix special “Fat Ballerina” confirms this way of thinking.
March 09, 2020
Married Woman Asks Ex For Money 💍💰
Do you think it's OK for a married woman to ask her ex for money? On this episode I have a 3rd Party Story Time while I apply my avocado face mask.
February 07, 2020
Mama Bird Syndrome
Are you a Mama Bird? 🐦 Constantly feeding someone else with your time, money and resources without receiving much in return?
January 30, 2020
Creating A Partnership With Your Aging Parents
" People with aging parents are tired of being stuck between trying to help them and a parent’s denial, resistance, and rejection of ideas." On this episode I speak with Rhonda Caudell, RN, CCM The Aging Parent Expert. She tells us how to co-create a partnership plan with our aging parents in order to help them have the best quality of life.
January 23, 2020
Marrying A Younger Man
One of my best friends and I talk about her experience marrying a man 7 years her junior.
January 16, 2020
Save Money Using Your Flex Spending Employee Benefit 🗣
Most employees of large organizations have a Flex Spending Account benefit that they are not using. I teach you how to take advantage of this pre-tax savings on out-of-pocket medical expenses.
January 09, 2020
Crime Doc Review. - “The Confession Killer”
Spent a Friday night doing one of my favorite things, watching a good crime documentary. This one is not only suspenseful, but had me confused, sad and angry all at the same time.
December 18, 2019
Today’s Rando Thoughts 🤔
The Peloton Bike Ad and Billy Dee Williams being “fluid”.
December 04, 2019
How To Hook Up A Single Friend - 3 Tips 🙎🏾♂️🙎🏾♀️
Married or partnered people always try to hook up their Single friends. But get it wrong every time! On this episode, I give matchmakers 3 tips that will save a lot of time and keep the friendships in tact.
November 28, 2019
Get Rid Of Things That No Longer Serve You 📦
Sometimes we hold onto things we no longer need in our lives and don't do us any good. Let's unpack while my clay face mask dries! To watch my Facemask Monday videos, subscribe to my YouTube channel. 📺
November 05, 2019
Tyler Perry's "Sistas" - Pilot Review 📺
I break down this 1st episode given my experiences with these types of relationships the ladies find themselves in. Subscribe to the YouTube channel - Urban Spinster
October 26, 2019
Home Sweet Home
Buying property is stressful enough. Now let’s add selling another to the mix and having to be on alert for fuckery at the same time!
October 03, 2019
Happily Divorced 🧘🏾♂️
My guest, comedian Anderi Bailey aka Mr. Amen, joins me to talk about why he is happily divorced. But would marry again for a 3rd time.
August 22, 2019
A Young Black Man in Love ♥️ 🤵🏾
My guest on this episode is a young Black man who loves love! We talk about why he values relationships, the mistakes made and his path to being better.
August 15, 2019
Single at Seventy
My guest and former 8th grade teacher joins me to talk about why she remained single after having her children.
August 07, 2019
“We Gotta Do Better!”
When people acknowledge that they are falling short there is rarely an attempt to actually “do better”. So why say it out loud? 😩
July 31, 2019
Insecurity Is Not Cute! 🙅🏽♀️
Attention isn’t always positive and sometimes not even about you. On this episode of the podcast I talk about how insecurity signs may be missed during the initial stage of a relationship.
July 05, 2019
Why Do People Choose To Pay Rent? 🏘
My guest, Credit Repair Expert Larry Baxter and I discuss why people may choose to rent vs own their home. He dispels first time buyer myths also giving tips on how to boost your credit score.
April 16, 2019
Petty Is As Petty Does 🤷🏽♀️
A woman messed around for 25 years waiting on her estranged husband to go half on the divorce! Now that is petty.
April 11, 2019
Single women are often advised to change things about themselves in order to attract and marry a man. But being fake is not sustainable over time. Take a listen to this latest episode and tell me what you think.
March 08, 2019
Financial Manipulation 💵⛓
On this episode I address financial manipulation by a spouse and the need to have emergency savings in case things go bad.
February 21, 2019
Girls on Fyre 🔥 and other docs we like.
My guest, blogger Laura Reid and I discuss our thoughts on why scammers like Billy McFarland are so successful and also delve into other documentaries we enjoyed.
January 25, 2019
Bosses...Get Some Health Benefits! 🏥
Many entrepreneurs don’t have health insurance. It’s expensive, especially when you’re just starting out. But there are ways to cover yourself in the event of an unforeseen illness or injury.
December 04, 2018
Closure is a trap! 🕳
When relationships end, sometimes without warning, we want to know where it went wrong. But is that really the best thing for our emotional health?
November 09, 2018
It seems that women are always having to push back against people that seek to take advantage of us, or who are just being uncooperative. Do men have the same issue?
October 13, 2018
Force or Choice?
Caribbean Top Model contestant says she was “forced” to chemically straighten her hair. But wasn’t this a choice? When faced with an ultimatum we either stand by our convictions or concede.
September 30, 2018
Our Current Racial Climate & Cults
I am fascinated with cult documentaries. Why people join them and how the leaders get members to stay. I think today’s racial climate may lend itself to the rise of another group that lures those seeking answers with promises of solving our communities issues.
September 14, 2018
4th Time’s The Charm? 💍🎩
My guest Dr. Alvin Abston talks to me about being married 3 times and still having a desire for the right wife.
August 16, 2018
Faith Without Works 🙏🏾⚒
We often hear that when praying for something, our “works” are required in order to make it happen. But sometimes we don't wait to find out exactly what that is.
August 02, 2018
Are you being thrown under the bus? 🚍
June 29, 2018
What Would You Do For Love? 💘💕
To what extremes would you go in order to find love? 🤔💘
June 19, 2018
Are You Dating A Sex Offender?
My guest on this episode of the podcast is Dr. Alvin Abston, a California State Certified Sex Offender Treatment Provider. We are discussing what makes a person become a sexual predator, possible signs and tips to help in your relationships.
June 13, 2018
Prom is Primetime for Pregnancy! 🕺🏾💃🏽
The rite of passage for graduating high school seniors is attending the prom. It could also mean having their first sexual experience.
June 09, 2018
Follow Your Instincts!
When going against what you know works for you, it results in regret. 😩Listen to my story about a recent visit to the dentist. 😷
May 25, 2018
Dating With Debt 💵🙄🤦🏾♀️
How do you feel about dating someone who has a lot of debt? Whether consumer, personal or investment debt?
May 17, 2018
Tips For The Single Men 👊🏽
Fellas these dating tips will save you money, time, heartbreak and maybe even your life!
May 09, 2018
Is It Really Gold Digging? 💰
If a woman prefers to date men who are financially stable, is she a gold digger or simply protecting herself and her assets? 🤔
May 02, 2018
Family Secrets 🤫
When children are raised in a secretive environment, it often results in adults who lie. Sometimes the adult continues to keep their family secrets out of shame.
April 24, 2018
Why Successful Women Date Down👇🏾
Why do you think successful, educated women , date men who are not on their level? Here are my thoughts...
April 11, 2018
Bail Out Policy 👩🏽🚒👩🏽🏭👮🏽♀️💸
Does your significant other seem to always need rescuing?
April 05, 2018
Can Men & Women Just Be Friends?
Do you think that two people of the opposite sex can be in a strictly platonic relationship? Hear my thoughts on this subject
March 29, 2018
Why Do People Stay In Violent Relationships?
Violence is never ok. What makes some people stay in abusive relationships?
March 21, 2018
Beware of Shady Contractors 🛠😈
Shady repairmen always seek to price gauge customers. Especially the ladies. Here is my latest experience and how I avoided paying too much.
March 06, 2018
Our culture plays a huge role in how we manage relationships. Are you being true to yourself or trying to please others?
February 22, 2018
Researching Your New Home
Whether buying or renting a new home, there are some things to consider that you may not have as a single person without children. Here are 3 tips.
February 14, 2018
“The Money Talk” 💵💏
When is it appropriate to talk about finances with your significant other and how should we go about it? Larry Baxter of Elite Financial, LLC helps us figure it out.
February 09, 2018
Give Yourself Permission 👌🏾
Singles are often told that we are too picky. Knowing what you like and what you don\u2019t is healthy! No one can live your life.
February 01, 2018
Married Men 👀💍🎩
Why is it that many married men look outside of their relationships?
January 26, 2018
Single Ownership 🏡
Ladies, would you allow your new spouse to move into your home and add them to the deed? \ud83e\udd14
January 05, 2018
December 23, 2017
December 23, 2017
Single Life Balance
Many people in our lives want to make demands of our time and resources. They think that because we’re single, we have it to give. Learn how to say no!
December 07, 2017
Holiday Single 🥂🍗🎄🎁🎉
Here are some tips to help you enjoy the holidays while single.
November 22, 2017
Do traditional men still exist? 🎩
One of my listeners wrote in and asked if traditional men still exist? I would say yes!
November 21, 2017
Living The Brave You 💪🏽🙌🏾💃🏽
Are you being you or the Brave version of yourself?
November 16, 2017
More Sexual Misconduct 🤦🏾♀️🚫
Everyday there is another story regarding sexual misconduct in the workplace. Let’s talk about it.
November 09, 2017
What Is Yoni Steaming? 🍑
On this episode of the #podcast I interviewed Certified Holistic Doula and Yoni Steam Blend Curator, Yvonne Amis @rootd_n_love. Being a fibroid sufferer, I’m always interested to learn about methods to deal with the symptoms. Yvonne also curates steaming blends for #fertility and overall womb health.
November 01, 2017
Lender Not A Borrower 💸
Be careful loaning money. Think about how of if you’ll get it back.
October 19, 2017
Submarine Dating ⚓️
Did that guy who ghosted you suddenly pop back up? Listen to the signs of being submarined.
October 12, 2017
Would You Consider IVF? 🤰🏽
As a single woman who desires children with no prospects in sight, would you consider in vitro fertilization?
October 04, 2017
Dying To Self ⚰️
We are often taught to become self-sufficient as adults versus leaving our parents and cleaving to a spouse. On this episode I talk about what Pastor Donald Bell teaches when it comes to preparing for marriage.
September 18, 2017
Getting Comfortable with Being Single
As singles we sometimes become impatient with our love life being seemingly at a stand still. Here are some tips I’ll share.
September 04, 2017