ResonanceNov 05, 2023
APAD-41-Sridhar-tweet-on-80%-normal-days
APAD-40-Avoiding-knee-jerk-reactions
venmurasu.in/prayagai/chapter-13/
தருமன் மேற்கொண்டு என்ன பேசுவதென்று தெரியாதவனாக அமர்ந்திருந்தான். பீமன் “நீங்கள் இப்போது அவசரப்படவேண்டியதில்லை மூத்தவரே. இதெல்லாம் எங்கு சென்று முடிகிறது என்று பார்ப்போம்” என்றான். “பெரும்பாலான உலகநிகழ்வுகள் அவையே முட்டிமோதி ஒரு சமநிலையை கண்டடைந்துவிடும். நாம் பொறுமையாகக் காத்திருந்தாலே போதும்.” தருமன் பெருமூச்சுடன் “அறமென்றால் உடனே உங்கள் இருவரிடமும் உருவாகும் கசப்பு ஏன் என்றே எனக்குப்புரியவில்லை” என்றான்.
APAD-39-Persisting-new-ventures
APAD-38-how-to-overcome-the-words-of-naysayers-and-pessimists
APAD-37-The-compounding-effect
$81.5 Billion of $84.5 billion of Warren Buffett's wealth came after his 65th birthday
10000 hours of practice by Malcolm cladwell Outliers
APAD-36-How-far-is-space-for-children-games-significant
APAD-35-Truth-alone-triumphs
APAD-34-Dec-6-2023-Thought-speech-writing-action-a-story
APAD-33-Importance-of-an-eco-system
APAD-32-Dec-3-2023-impact-of-health-on-mind
APAD-31-Dec-2-2023-Emotional-part-of-the-work
The part which needs your undivided attention and focus and disturbance to the minimum (or zero)
Better to do this at nights/early mornings
Your mind should not be thinking about any interruptions
Once we finalise the intellectual part of the work, physical part can be done among interruptions
That work done in this time, will have a laser sharp focus which will need zero/minimal interruptions
APAD-30-Dec-1-2023-Checklist-based-life
APAD-29-Nov-30-2023-Invest-in-yourself
கணக்கு பண்ணி வேலை செய்யும் லௌகீக மனம் overcome it. Dance for happiness. Dance out of happiness
Have these in our daily or atleast weekly schedule.
APAD-28-Nov-29-2023-Non-Violent-Communication
Non violent communication - reply to nchokkan tweet.
twitter.com/VR2022prt/status/1724007776492597493
Name says it all
Not to blame anyone
Avoiding ‘Always’ And ‘Never’
Empathise - Thinking in opponent’s shoes
Positive attitude
Avoiding negativity as much as possible.
APAD-27-How-far-our-day-is-filled-with-Random-things
Later we relate events, many things appear to be very predictable
அதிர்ஷ்டம் என்பது கடலை பொட்டலத்தில் கடைசி கடலையும் நல்லதாய் இருப்பது
youtu.be/lUKJ3hCZ-jo?si=KdZZaYOyuWKu31RG
ஸ்ரீ வைஷ்ணவத்தின் லீலை
APAD-26-மீண்டெழல்-How-resilient-we-are-27-Nov-2023
APAD-25-Nov-26-2023-How-precious-is-(y)our-time
ஜெயமோகனின் நேர மேலாண்மை பற்றிய ஆலோசனைகள்.
Seeing the sunrise daily!
Do we really have atleast 2 consistent habits other than going to school/office/daily chores. (atleast 15 min. each) failing a day which questions our existence?
Mornings are great. Visualise them, Write them to your own WhatsApp group. Opening devices only if it is a ‘hell yeah’.
3 pages morning, Exercises (individual/group), Walk, Chanting, Better to avoid casual chit chat.
Better to avoid Smart phone inside bedroom (Have an alarm!)
How we set an example to our children?
What do we do in our primetime?
What if we skip a habit daily?
W.r.t work, how fast is our responsive time. And how far we DO NOT panic in emergencies? That affects our daily schedule.
APAD-24-Nov-25-2023-Faith-in-God
Faith in God is God - Sridhar Vembu
Even rationalists who are atheists believe a supreme power - Nature, Destiny (ஊழ்), any other power which is larger than all of us.
How being a theist helps us in all parameters of Life.
I thought of being an Atheist. But there are no holidays!
How complete surrender is the only way we to total freedom
APAD-23-Nov-24-2023-Postponing-marriage-and-child-birth
APAD-22-Nov-23-2023-lougeegam-Anmeegam
Worldliness Vs Spirituality
Defining them first. Anything which we do with a calculative mind, to satisfy for our personal gains, to satisfy our ego, which is done for our personal pleasure as the primary aim is லௌகீகம்.
The opposite of all this, which we do without any material short-term gains, without any calculations can be loosely categorised as Worldliness
In young age worldliness is very minimal. But even there we do anything so satisfy our ego. After our studies, once we taste money, our calculative mind takes route.
The early habits - slokas, exercises, helping others without much calculation,.. we develop might be spirituality
Once we marry, worldliness encroaches us in all possible directions and in all possible forms.
But then once we have children, we slowly turn into spiritual.
Not the usual ‘praying God for material pleasure’ spirituality. But the realisation that we attain about the supreme power (God, Nature, whatever)
Better have a system which blends both is the easiest way to balance.
APAD-21-Nov-22-2023-what-are-all-the-things-we-avoid-in-the-name-of-family
APAD-20-Nov-21-2023-skipping-one-thing-instead-of-the-other-thing
A bad day is definitely not a reason to miss a good deed.
Children often skip their schedule when they have a new work (exercises for exams, extra bcurricular classes for their tests)
Time is the only finite factor.
Had attended my Veda classes even amidst my right schedule.
We are (in)limited only by our will power (or the lack of it)
Shun the idea of perfection. As kamalhaasan puts it _There is only excellence. There is no perfection_
Let's not limit us in the name of family duties, work, commute, etc.
Do as many things as you can. Sky is the limit...
Tomorrow: what are all the things we do not do by telling our family as the excuse.
APAD-19-20-11-2023-The-power-of-repetition
I am not able to remember when he started eating himself but Most probably after first standard when he got lunch for school and repeatedly had lunch by himself at school.
The power of repetition. Atomic habits. James clear
We always discard the regular habits, regular happenings (newspaper), regular people (parents and aged people) thinking that they are obsolete. But although their heydays are over the lessons are still very much applicable to all new generations.
We are what do repeatedly do.
If something is worth Doing then it's worth doing it at the first attempt. And worth doing it repeatedly well
A cousing called today after years. Because I repeated my work ;-)
I repeated today my podcast. So I am true to my words 😂
APAD-18-20-11-2023-Practising-in-beach-sand-for-running-a-marathon
It’s advantages.
Breathing exercises during corona and after my breathing practice how it was easy
Fathers - Bharathi Bhaskar story in Kalki - bit.ly/myfather99
APAD-17-How-many-new-and-uncertain-things-we-try-daily
*சவரக்கத்தி நுனியின் மேல் நடப்பது போன்ற கவனத்துடன் ஒரு நாளைக்கு எத்தனை காரியங்களைச் செய்கிறோம்?*
1. Minimise our worldly duties which we do to satisfy our ego or prove something to someone.
2. Believe in a power more than us (aka) God
3. Remove our disbelief.
4. Learn to enjoy the silence (Not தனிமை but ஏகாந்தம் - Bliss)
__*_Mind_*__ your words, very much.
I believe somehow Asians have that lack of grit due to their tightly knit family system.
Most of are crooked in some way to find a fault from adventurous (wo)men.
We use that as a walking stick for us as not try extra-ordinary things.
Rather than failure it’s the Fear of failure which stagnates us.
Embrace uncertainty
Right from Bhaghavat Gita to Nike, they all says only one thing - Just do it!
You miss 100% of the shots you do not shoot!
Tomorrow: *Practising in beach sand for running a marathon*
APAD-16-Nov-18-2023-who affects our-daily:- Decisions-Conversations-and-Food
APAD-15-Nov-17-2023-As-A-Family-How-our-days-can-start
Our houses are the places where we are afraid to do any daily practices
We always want to relax in our homes.
Intimacy with our spouses and children will only develop when we do some consistent efforts with them
But just the thought of imagining this threatens us
May be routing from the school exams.
Just try a schedule for 3 weeks. And WRITE the experience without any prejudice. And then analyse the experience
APAD-14-16-11-2023-How-to-teach-life-skills-to-kids
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The morning tussle in every home.
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State of kids in middle class homes today
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How even the daily chores are seen as big uphill tasks.
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```Waking up early/ Punctuality / Cleanliness / Orderliness / How a kid correct their mistakes by themselves / , How to take decisions / Prioritising``` - A sample set of daily instructions given by a parent to her kid
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Having a System-based life for *_us_* and for them
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Leading by example - We should not set a bad example to our kids. *They see the weakest link and imitate*
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My first 1-hour at the shuttle court with my son
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What will be the alternative to this? *_Let’s see tomorrow_*
APAD-13-15-Nov-2023-Husband-and-wife-intimacy- இறுகப்பற்று-சிந்தனைகள்
Pavithra goes to gym to reduce her weight and make fit so that her husband develops a respect towards her.
LifeMathMoney post on bitter truths that wokes will not accept
lifemathmoney.com/men-are-success-objects-and-women-are-sex-objects/ _*Men are success objects and Women are sex objects*_
Gandhi's thought on husband-wife relationship
```ஆணும்பெண்ணும் கடவுளை மனதில் நினைத்துக்கொண்டே அகிம்சை வழியில் கலவியில் ஈடுபட வேண்டும் என்று இவர் சொன்னார். அப்போது பெண்கள் ரகுபதி ராகவ ராஜாராம், வைஷ்ணவ ஜனதோ போன்ற பாடல்களை பாடுவதும் நல்லது. வருடத்திற்கு ஒருமுறை உறவு கொண்டால் போதும். அதை அரை அரையாக ஆறுமாதத்துக்கு ஒருமுறை செய்யலாம்.``` www.jeyamohan.in/4431/
What we actually do is that which really matters. Intimacy will develop only when we do செயற்கரிய செயல்கள் with someone.
We need to get our hands dirty.
APAD-12-14-11-2023-Note-the-silence-inaction-and-absence
*where we were silent?*
*What we did not do?*
*where we were not there?*
Are we raising our voices in supporting any cause or against anything?
If we believe our silence is our power what will happen if our secret intentions are revealed?
What do we pass it on for our children - By both appreciating and also being harsh?
The controversy around APJ Abdul Kalam when he visited Chennai for the death of M.S.Subbulakshmi in 2004 September but did not turn up for Tsunami
The silence of celebrities is also observed.
```மறுபக்கம் இஸ்ரேல். எண்ணிப்பாருங்கள் பாகிஸ்தான் வாகா எல்லைக்குள் நுழைந்து ஒரு முழுநாளும் தாக்குதல் நடத்த, இந்திய ராணுவம் அங்கே செல்லவே இல்லை என்றால் அதை ‘இயல்பானது’ என்றா எடுத்துக்கொள்வோம்? உலகின் மிகப்ப்பெரிய ராணுவங்களிலொன்று இஸ்ரேலிய ராணுவம். அங்கே எல்லா குடிமக்களும் போர்ப்பயிற்சி பெற்றவர்கள். அணுஆயுத நாடு அது. அதன் காசா எல்லை நம் வாகா எல்லை போலவே ’கொதிக்கும் எல்லைக்கோடு’ கொண்டது. அதை அப்படியே சும்மா விட்டார்களா என்ன?```
www.jeyamohan.in/193275/
APAD-11-13-Nov-2023-What-is-your -narrative-or-story-to-pursue-your-habits?
When someone told I am not taking coffee anymore, Jeyamohan asked 'Is that for the entire lifetime?'
Infinitely long challenges Vs 21/48 days challenges
Shops in front of temples which are a reason for the children to visit temples.
Old age people asking youngsters to accompany them for technical jobs
When we learn or read something to teach our children we learn it sincerely.
I read the war episodes of Venmurasu as a podcast with extra efforts.
APAD-10-12-Nov-2023-how-compatible-we-are-with-incompatibility
It's more about how compatible you are with incompatiblity
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In all our relationships we reciprocate well (compared to olden times).
Politically correct conversations.. But what if the opposite side is an other.
Say, when you receive a beggar when you are among your friends and colleagues/ relatives what is your reaction.
When an old (wo)man asks uncomfortable questions, what is our reaction? Do we have knee jerk reactions?
When who is not in our tribe seeks our support, how often we extend/stretch to them?
பின்நவீனத்துவ சமூகம் என்பது பிறன் என்பதை மிகவும் குறைவாக வரையறுத்து வைத்திருக்கும் சமூகம்
How easily we are approachable to a person not in our tribe? And how whole-heartedly we respond?
We need not have readymade answers to these questions. (I do not have).
Next time, when we feel we are very flexible and helping to others, We have to be reminded of these questions.
APAD-9-11-11-2023-politically-incorrect-gestures
APAD-8-10-11-2023- Don't ask if. Ask which
Idly with 2/1 vadai
Instead of an open ended question give a choice to your manager as well
www.linkedin.com/pulse/dont-ask-which-mike-stoner/
சப்த மனசும் குளிர்ந்து ஒரு விஷயம் பண்றது. ஒரு வேலை பண்ணும் போது போக்குல பல விஷயங்களை கவனிச்சுக்கிறது
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சப்த மனசும் குளிர்ந்து ஒரு விஷயம் பண்றது which is not possible
Just start it.
Stick to a schedule at first.
Understanding kills action - Friedrich Nietzsche
The fear of perfect progress should not hinder our start.
You miss 100% of the shots you don't hit!
No tension about Success/Failure
Just do it.
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ஒரு வேலை பண்ணும் போது போக்குல பல விஷயங்களை கவனிச்சுக்கிறது:
கொக்குக்கு ஒன்னே மதின்னு இல்லாம இருக்கறது
Have a relaxed mind to be aware of (not even observe) all the things around us.
தில்லுமுல்லு வாட்ச் உதாரணம்
Apad-6: Why we essentially need a daily project
Best way to ensure that you finish a presentation in the stipulated time
To give all the participants a paper and pen and ask them not to interrupt in between and note down their doubts or concerns for each slide (if they have) and consolidate them at the end and answer them
Because audience (without their knowledge) are intrinsically against the presentation. And they love to prove them and talking lighter things instead of discussing the actual points (best way to involve everyone for a meeting discussion is to talk about lunch)
Jeyamohan never allows any questions in his philosophy classes.
Children attending many extra curricular classes - Some Thoughts
APAD-4-05-11-2023-Externalise-Vs-Internalise
தூய பெருநீர் யமுனைத் துறைவனை
ஆயர் குலத்தினில் தோன்றும் அணிவிளக்கைத்
தாயைக் குடல் விளக்கம் செய்த தாமோதரனைத்
தூயோமாய் வந்து நாம் தூமலர் தூவித் தொழுது
வாயினால் பாடி மனத்தினால் சிந்தித்து
போய பிழையும் புகுதருவான் நின்றனவும்
தீயினில் தூசாகும் செப்பேலோர் எம்பாவாய்
Internalise something and then do it Vs
Do it externally and then Internalise it?
What will be the best way to start/perceive a new habit or consistent effort.
APAD-3-4-11-2023
APAD-2-3-11-2023
A-Podcast-A-Daily-1
A-podcast-A-day-introduction
கச்சிதம் மேலிருக்கும் மிதமிஞ்சிய ஆர்வம். நம்பிக்கை.
அது எத்துணையோ உதாரணங்களில் பொய்த்துப் போனது - மீடியம் வலைப்பதிவை மீட்டது, சமீபத்திய உதாரணம் - பைக் ரிப்பேர் செய்தது.
Personal happiness, professional progress
Career will take a great trajectory.
No need for perfection
Ignore local politics. Be a Youtuber artist
தமிழகத்தின் திராவிட அரசியல், இந்தியாவின் இந்துத்துவ அரசியல் இரண்டிலிருந்தும் முழுமையாக விலகிக்கொள்ளுங்கள் என்றே அமெரிக்கத் தமிழர்களிடம் சொல்கிறேன். நீங்கள் அங்குள்ள கருத்தியலில், அரசியலில் செய்ய ஒன்றுமில்லை. உங்கள் தலைமுறைகளை கவனியுங்கள். அதற்கு நம் மெய்யான வெற்றிகளை நீங்கள் கற்றுக்கொள்ளுங்கள். அவற்றை முன்வையுங்கள். அவற்றுக்காக நிலைகொள்ளுங்கள். உங்கள் அடுத்த தலைமுறைக்கு அளியுங்கள்
On what discussions we spend our time and effort
Lovely trails feedback on Srinagar tour
21st century challenges, data management, impact of internet etc
We get physical wedding invites, in person for 6th degree of relationship—Kambaramayanam vaasippu today — People from London, Tokyo, Australia & US.From Hyderabad, the origaniser had travelled to Vadapalani—WhatsApp, Telegram, Facebook.—Today’s environment forces everyone to be an achiever.Personally, I do not like this. But that doesn’t matter..We have tools — Software & Internet had changed all the dynamics..—An image which shows — an alarm, landline, tap recorder, and gaming console.Rs.1000 Small phone (Snake game) replaces all this.— —Public & Private life are so blendedAfter Corona… these changes are accelerated—So what should be our strategyLove, resourcefulness, generosity…If you undergo a pain, ensure that you inform your friends, family colleagues as how to do it better.That’s why I post statuses like public announcementsWrite. Write. Write… In all forms — Messages, Long one-to-one messages, Letters, blog posts…Do not have enmity at all. It agonises you and eats your timeTime is the biggest assetBe physically very fit… You need to maintain your physique all days till you’re 65(Physically fit to walk at least 3–5 kilometres and mentally sharp to book a Tatkal ticket on a Thursday & Saturday!)—Yuval Nova Harari Philosophy & Languages
Thirumala padha Yatra podcast 1
Drishyam
A writeup on Drishyam: இது ஒரு வழக்கமான த்ரில்லர் போல நல்லவன் X கெட்டவன் என்ற வகைமைக்குள் அடக்க முடியாத படம். | மொத்தபடத்திலும் விரவிக் கிடக்கும் தனிமனிதன் X அமைப்பு என்கிற tug-of-war.