Human Up

Human Up

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By Victor Ung
An emotionally-stunted dude's exploration of what it means to be emotionally intelligent. Raised between Asian and American culture, and in the tech world, where mental and emotional health was not prioritized enough, this nerd aims to demystify what it means to not only be a man, but a human. As society progresses faster than humans were meant to keep up with, how do we manage the brittle emotions and develop resiliency? Human Up plans to collect the tools, action steps, and stories to help us navigate through life's toughest transitions.
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Over-doing vs Over-thinking
When we find ourselves stuck in life it's usually because we either have been doing too much without thought, finding ourselves all of a sudden somewhere we don't like to be, or because we keep going in circles over-thinking our next steps, mostly out of fear of something happening or not happening from it. How do we take consistent action without moving blindly and without over-complicating each step? A piece of it could be to start with knowing where you're at on the spectrum and then be comfortable bouncing back and forth. VIA Character Strengths Assessment: https://www.viacharacter.org. Stay connected with this podcast at http://victorung.com/subscribe. Non-sponsored blog post that I found after publishing this episode. The writer here did a way better job articulating this balance:  https://medium.com/s/more-to-that/the-right-side-of-thought-ac5841311472 
20:04
April 17, 2019
Find Direction by Slowing Down
Slow down for a minute. There's a rush that so many of us feel like we have to chase. It's face-paced and we praise it. We have to get somewhere as fast as possible, get promoted in the shortest number of years, find the perfect partner after just a couple dates, drive everywhere to save time from walking. But in trying to save time, we lose what time could give us. Beauty, opportunity, adventure. And when we're pressured to run too fast, it's difficult to see where you're going or what you're aiming at, and that's why we feel lost.  Slow down, breathe, aim, fire. Stay connected at http://victorung.com/subscribe.
22:59
April 8, 2019
What Do You Love?
I found this song, "What Do You Love" by Seeb ft Jacob Banks, and it was one of those moments where the lyrics feel like they're speaking right to you. It made me think about, what it is I do love, which helped me feel better about the direction I'm taking in this transitional point of my life right now. If you're ever stuck, ask yourself, What do you love? What do you stand for? What do you fall for? Stay connected at http://victorung.com/subscribe.
15:50
April 1, 2019
Using the Negative Emotion Typology (with friends!)
One of my good friends decided he was tired of being angry at his coworker for no reason and took it upon himself to figure out why. He literally Googled, "What is annoyance" and found an awesome tool, the Negative Emotion Typology. It lists out the major human emotions and its description on when people would typically feel them. A lot of our issues are exaggerated solely because we let the ambiguity of our emotions spread into other facets of our lives. By putting a name to it, you're already one step closer to not letting the negative emotions consume you. Stay connected at http://victorung.com/subscribe.
33:27
March 25, 2019
The First Step to Increasing Emotional Intelligence
Being the emotional beings we are, it's impossible to absolutely control what we feel, but we do have some control over how we emote them. The first step to gaining that control back is to define what we're feeling. If you are aware of the factors that trigger a specific feeling, you can then find the words to better communicate it both to yourself and to others, which will lessen the overwhelming, ambiguous feelings. From here, you can disarm the negative emotions and start thinking of calm, rational steps to address it.  Stay connected at http://victorung.com/subscribe. 
13:48
March 19, 2019
So This is a Quarter Life Crisis Huh?
I never thought I would get to this point. Everything seemed fine, was going great, I genuinely enjoyed what I was doing with my life.  But something shifted where I realized that what I was enjoying really was complacency, disguised as comfort. I was working towards my ideal sense of familiarity which limited my growth in my career, love, and awareness. So I guess this is what a quarter-life crisis feels like, when everything you thought you had been doing would prepare you for this moment, but you only realize how unprepared you really are. Stay connected at http://victorung.com/subscribe. 
11:17
March 11, 2019
I'm Tired of Holding Myself Back
Whether we know it or not, our environments have a huge impact on ourselves, but the less believed perspective is that we have a huge impact on our environments as well. It sounds like common sense, but it's not common knowledge, that we do have more control over our lives than we think. It's not to ignore all the external circumstances and systemic issues that we are confined to. It's about shifting the perspectives to how we want to use that. I've been using these external sources as an excuse to limit myself. I worry too much about what other people are going to think, or how I might be perceived. What that did was create more unawareness of both myself and others because I kept holding myself back. I'm working on getting over that. Stay connected at http://victorung.com/subscribe. 
16:57
March 4, 2019
Why Human Up?
As a kid, I was told to "man up" many times. I heard people say this to the boys around me, sometimes even some girls. As innocent as their intentions were, what this did was confuse me. What did that mean exactly?  So rather than telling others to "man up," why don't we "human up" instead? Can we find ways to be better men, women, and children for ourselves rather than how anyone else thinks we're supposed to behave? Stay connected at http://victorung.com/subscribe.  
09:49
February 25, 2019
What Emotional Intelligence Means to Me
I talk about my journey in learning to become more emotionally intelligent after growing up in environments that didn't give me the safe space to express my thoughts and emotions. I didn't develop enough confidence in myself to create that space on my own and it's led me to a place of complacency. I wish I learned about these concepts before! Why weren't these taught in schools? Stay connected at http://victorung.com/subscribe.  
19:54
February 25, 2019
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