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Coach Naja has a realizarion. After 10 years of being adjacent to a HCBM and an overall unfulfilling stepmotherhood experience, one's spirit can get infected and you all of a sudden realize that you don't like who you've had to become. That STOPS TODAY!" In the PICK UP YOUR CROWN Series, we will be discovering ways to redefine and rediscover our innate selves and get back to WHO we used to be before (all of this messy mess). Let the recovery begin!

Coach Naja explores the benefits and drawbacks of learning how to center yourself when the blended family conflict gets to be too much. Mom and stepmom guilt can run rampant and it can really be tough on your psyche, your relationship, and your whole life. In this episode, we explore ways to give ourselves permission to step back from drama AND how to let your loved ones know that you need a break.

We have many Stepmoms that are biological mothers. And while you deal with an HCBM, many may also deal with undesirable coparenting situations. High conflict biodads are a very real thing and today Coach Naja is breaking down the similarities, the differences, and how to handle an HCBD.

Coach Bee Chatman chats about the differences between being a custodial stepmom to kids with living and deceased mothers. She also teaches us about our DiSc personality styles and we even do a little role-playing exercise. Coach Bee is the February 2020 covergirl of Stepmom Magazine too! Please check her out.

Sadly, for some of us, the only way to get justice for our stepfamilies is to have our day in court. In this episode, Coach Naja lays out a clear plan of action for before, during, and after your BIG DAY. When we all "can't just get along" there are some best practices to keep your cool when you're fighting for peace.

Naja chats with tiktok sensation and psychotherapist Stepanie Ward about childhood trauma and how to become the parent you wish you had. Stephanie is a coparenting mother, and psychotherapist specializing in childhood trauma, parent wounds and narcissistic abuse. She helps to people to understand their earliest attachments and foundations of love.

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We tend to take on our partner's "stuff" because we love them and we want to see them happy. As stepmoms, the utter helpless feeling of servitude can cause resentment and make you feel outright tired! As Coach Naja (respectfully) compares a Caregiver's role to your role as a Stepmom, you will begin to reframe your perspective.

Naja frequently mentions being an unbothered stepmom. In this episode, she breakdown how to go from frazzled to unbothered. The process does not have to be long or arduous but it does take a serious commitment. Grab a pen and paper and prepare to have that heavy weight lifted off your shoulders.

VIPJessica is experiencing hardship because her Husband's ex has broken up with another boyfriend and she is projecting her wrath with a vengeance. In this episode, Naja teaches how to deal when someone drops their load on your lawn. Be prepared to laugh out loud and make some grand declarations of your own!

In a land far away, HCSMs are trodding around wreaking havoc on their ready-made families. In this VIPod episode, Naja breaks down the why's behind HCSMs and how to handle the one in your life.

Coach Naja delves into the cosmos and uncovers why certain stepmoms cannot overcome distractions from blended family drama.  Distractions can derail progress and throw us irreparably off course and they can set up a never-ending cycle of confusion. Dive into this episode to learn how to escape the matrix and free yourself.

Coach Naja chats on challenges core beliefs, avoiding toxic people and what happens when you engage. To read the transcript of this podcast, login to your VIP account and visit https://wp.me/paTCdK-3fH.

Naja tapped the entire VIPStepmom community in order to complete this undertaking. She posed the question, "How could your man help YOUR role as a Stepmom easier?" Everyone came through with their BEST pieces of advice and this compilation was born. Go grab your fella and listen to it with him.

I recently chatted with one of my mentors and he said, "Ya know young lady, the problem is a lot of people are married to one another that shouldn't be."  That was the realest sh*t ever because it's so painfully true. A lot of stepmoms have found themselves in love with a man, so she'll make concessions for all of his "baggage". Ultimately they're hindering their ability to feel truly free and happy. The fact of the matter is, being in a blended family is NOT for everyone. This episode explores ways to determine if you're in it for the long hall or if you pack your bags and tread toward greener pastures. It may hurt to walk away now, but joy cometh in the morning. 

 This episode is available as a video (with some pretty cool visuals) so if you prefer to watch, visit https://youtu.be/xP_f_gNPtig

Naja chats about the lies that we tell ourselves and ways to conquer those gross little thoughts in our minds. To watch the video version of this podcast, visit https://youtu.be/XQmp2qajvco

The death of 41-year old basketball star, Kobe Bryant, leads Naja into an up-close and personal story of her own. She shares the experience of a close friend whose husband became incapacitated BUT his children's mothers showed no compassion. This woman's life became a nightmare. Naja gives 3 very important points to bring up to your man. While there is never a good time to discuss illness or death, some conversations are best had before it's too late.

The holiday season is usually an exciting time for many Americans. While most are preparing to spend quality time with their loved ones, there is one particular group that is already starting to feel the pangs of frustration, isolation, and depression. There are roughly 4 million stepmothers in this country and 62% express emotional distress because of their roles. Even women in ideal blended family situations can feel uneasy because of shared custody schedules, uncooperative coparents, and financial hardships brought on by holiday spending. 

While SAD (Stepmom Anxiety Disorder) is not an official diagnosis, as a Master Stepfamily Coach and a stepmom, I can personally attest that there are feelings that are particularly unique to the stepmothering experience. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health concern in the United States, in fact, an estimated 40 million adults in the U.S. (18%) have an anxiety disorder. General Anxiety Disorder or GAD produces chronic, exaggerated worrying about everyday life. This worrying can consume hours each day, making it hard to concentrate or finish daily tasks. A person with GAD may become exhausted by worry and experience headaches, tension or nausea. The sheer emotional strain attached to being a stepmother is something that many women are ill-equipped to handle in a healthy manner. A lucky few manage to find ways to thrive, but others develop unhealthy thought patterns, recurring feelings of dread and repressed frustrations that ultimately lead to breakdowns in relationships and mental well-being. 

Stepmom Coach, Naja Hall offers tips to help women cope with their feelings. For more information, visit www.VIPStepmom.com

Naja chats about the lack of acknowledgment many stepmoms feel from biomom and how to move past the frustration. 

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