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In this episode of the podcast, Alexander B. Stevens and his panel of guests, Rayus J, Karl, and JT, continue their captivating discussion exploring love, relationships, and dating. First, they tackle the topic of whether men want to be needed in relationships, or if only being wanted but not needed is good enough. The conversation continues with a discussion on dating based on potential versus current reality. The panel introduces dating based on projection, which goes beyond potential and shows tangible evidence of progress toward goals.

Throughout the episode, the group highlights mutual support's importance in a successful relationship, inspiring each other's growth. They address avoiding shallow thinking, missed opportunities, and women's role in motivating men's growth.

In this episode, you'll learn about:

• Men's desire to be desired
• Men's need to be needed
• Dating expectations at different life stages
• The difference between projection and potential in relationships
• The significance of bringing value to a partnership
• Avoiding shallow thinking and missed opportunities
• The role of women in motivating men's growth

Don't miss this compelling discussion unraveling the complexities of dating and empowering you to make informed decisions in matters of the heart.

"Sometimes it's not that two people aren't right for each other, it's more like the timing wasn't right."  (Jasmine V.)
In this ASK ALEX Q & A episode, I team up with 3 other gentlemen and we take a trip down memory lane and discuss our experiences with relationships and dating in our late teens and early 20s. We also share what advice we would give to our younger selves about dating. In the main segment of the episode, we break down the topic of mixed signals in relationships. We explore the scenario of a man stating that he cares for, is attracted to, and sees a future with a woman, but believes the timing is not right. The question is, can a man truly feel this way and still not contact her? We discuss the possible reasons behind this behavior, from pride and lack of wisdom to simply not being ready for a relationship. We also suggest that it is important to be aware of mixed signals and to keep an open mind about the possibility of reconnecting in the future. Overall, this episode provides valuable insights and advice on how to navigate mixed signals and mixed feelings in relationships. Listen as we explore and discuss the nuances of this topic!

#relationshipadvice #dating #timing

"Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness" (Napolean Hill).  "If selfishness is the key to being miserable, then selflessness must be the key to being happy!" (Joyce Meyer). At the beginning of this season, we discussed reasons why you are single. In this episode, we close out the season by tackling another reason why you arent in the LTR you desire (or your current relationship is toxic), which is selfishness. If you want to know why selfishness is a productive quality man (and healthy relationship) repellant or if you want to know the mindset you should adopt instead of selfishness, this is the podcast episode for you!

“‎Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.” ~ G. Randolph ~. In this episode of the podcast, we discuss what a real friend is, if men and women can truly be platonic friends, why women are more welcoming to opposite-sex friendships than men, and the ulterior motives some people secretly have when they get in opposite-sex platonic friendships.  If you ever wanted to know the answer to any of these questions, this is the episode for you!

"Attempting to get at truth means rejecting stereotypes and cliches" (Harold Evans).   There are many stereotypes and generalizations about men and how we think and act that are exaggerated, at best, or just plain untrue, at worst.  In this podcast episode, we discuss the largest misconceptions and incorrect stereotypes that women and society as a whole have about men, with over half a dozen different successful married men.  If you are wondering if you are living your life according to faulty generalizations about men OR if you are looking to discover a more complete truth about men and how we think and act, this is the podcast for you!

Image consultant and dating/life coach, Kevin Samuels, exploded in popularity in 2021. His dating and relationship advice shocked and polarized the dating advice world causing many people to either love him or hate him. In this episode of the podcast, we finish our examination of Mr. Samuels and his talking points, discussing the more controversial advice he gave to men and women, his thoughts on dating and how long a woman should wait for a proposal, his thoughts on money, his opinion on the fidelity of "high value" men, and his question for women who refuse to change anything.  If you want to know what made Kevin so controversial, what he tells young men to do, suggestions he gives women on how to date, his dating theories, and if we think he is a worthwhile source of wisdom for ladies, this is the podcast episode for you!

Image consultant and dating/life coach, Kevin Samuels, exploded in popularity on YouTube and Instagram in 2021. His dating and relationship advice shocked and polarized the dating advice world causing many people to either love him or hate him. In this episode of the podcast, we continue our examination of Mr. Samuels and his talking points, discussing the advice he gave to men, the viral moment that caused him to explode in popularity, his dating advice to women, and his opinions on modern women.  If you want to know what made Kevin Samuels so famous, what he tells young men to do, what he tells women to be wary of, his dating opinions, and what we think about each of his takes, this is the podcast episode for you!

Image consultant and dating/life coach, Kevin Samuels, exploded in popularity on YouTube and Instagram in 2021. His dating and relationship advice shocked and polarized the dating advice world causing many people to either love him or hate him. In this episode of the podcast, we give a brief biographical history of Mr. Samuels and begin a discussion about his top talking points. If you want to know about Kevin Samuels, what he was about, what his dating opinions were, and what we think about his takes, this is the podcast episode for you!

Most women, since they were young, dream about the day they are proposed to by the love of their life.  In this podcast episode, we talk with an in-studio guest who tells us about her dating life leading up to her engagement, and what she changed when meeting her special person that lead to the relationship turning into an impending marriage. She also gives dating tips to women on how to date intentionally and what to focus on if you want to find a serious man that fits you who wants to get married.  Of course, she details the creative surprise engagement that her man gave her as well. If you are a young woman that wants to know what she should do to find Mr. Right sooner rather than later, or if you are a middle-aged woman who doesn't have any more time to waste and wants to know what to do, to get the ring, this is the episode for you!

There are few things more heartbreaking for a single person than being put in the friend zone by someone you want more with.  In 2022, not only does this happen to men, but it happens to women as well.  In this Ask Alex Q & A podcast episode, we let women know why a man might put her in the friend zone, against her will, no matter how cool it seems like their connection is.  We also answer the question about how long a woman should date a man without being officially labeled his girlfriend.  Lastly, we discuss green flags that men look for when dating (or in a relationship) with a woman, that makes them want to take their relationship to the next level.  If any of these topics stoke your curiosity or you have always wanted to know the answer to any of these questions, this is the podcast episode for you!

Middle-aged men wanting to pursue and date young women is a desire (and practice) that has been around since the beginning of humanity.  As time has progressed, society as a whole, and women in particular, have grown to hate this fact of the dating world.  In this Ask Alex Q & A podcast episode, we try to answer why older men prefer dating younger women over women their same age.  We also discuss why men are not as emotionally expressive as women, and why men are turned off by women who are not affectionate.  If the answer to any of these questions is something you have always wanted to know, this is the episode for you!

The famous quote, "Women, can't live with them, can't live without them.", from the 14th-century philosopher, Desiderius Erasmus, rings just as true today, as the day he spoke those words. In this episode of the podcast, we discuss things that women wear that they think attracts men, that really repels men. We also discuss things that women do and say that have become normalized in 2022, that men privately dislike. If you want to know what things you do or wear that your friends and society approves of or promotes, that in actuality are pushing men away and keeping you single or in the FWB friends with benefits only category, this podcast is for you!

Doctor Willard F. Harley, Junior's classic relationship book His Needs Her Needs has sold over 4 million copies worldwide and has been used in countless marriage counseling groups and offices.  In this episode of the podcast, a married guest co-host and I detail the 5 most important needs most men have in marriage and serious long-term monogamous relationships, from multiple angles.  If you want to know what are the most important things you as a woman need to do, maintain, or improve to help better your relationship and give it the best chance at success, this is the episode for you!

Smart people learn from their mistakes, but wise people learn from other people's mistakes (and successes).  One of the best places to find knowledge about others' mistakes and details on their successes is self-help books.  In this podcast, we discuss 3 books that all listeners of this podcast should read, in order to improve their love life.  If you are interested in learning what books to read in order to learn how to pick Mr. Right, when to settle down, what standards are realistic and what standards should be eliminated, and/or how to maintain a happy serious long-term relationship, this is the podcast episode for you!

The current dating scene is little like it was during the latter half of the 20th century.  The dream many girls had of growing up and meeting their Mr. Right seemingly by happenstance while living her normal life, seems like it will never become reality.  In the previous two episodes of the podcast, we discussed the reasons why Pastor & Influencer RC Blakes, Jr thinks men do not approach women any more.  In this episode, I go into the other reasons why a woman might not get approached, that he failed to mention.  If you want to know the reasons you have control over, that men do not approach you  and/or  If you are curious about how modern social and technological changes in the 21st century have drastically reduced the number and frequency of men who romantically cold approach women...
This is the podcast episode for you!

Many women when they were little girls daydreamed about meeting the man of their dreams, naturally, while going through their daily routine.  This dream is not becoming a reality for an increasing number of women today, due to current day societal and social changes between men and women.  In this episode of the podcast, we conclude the pastor and Youtube influencer RC Blakes, Jr.'s list (and my commentary to it) detailing why men no longer approach women today, like they once did in the past. If you want to know what you can do to increase the chances that the guy you are interested in, approaches you and/or if you want to know why guys do not approach women today, as frequently or enthusiastically as they did in the past ...this podcast episode is for you!

Many women have daydreamed about meeting the man of their dreams, naturally, while going through their daily routine or spending time with their friends.  This dream can never become a reality without a man of quality, that she is interested in, romantically approaching her.  Unfortunately for women with this dream, men are approaching women, in person, less now than ever before.  In this episode of the podcast, I review and respond to a list of reasons why men no longer approach women today, as told by pastor and Youtube influencer RC Blakes, Jr.  If you want to know why guys do not approach today, as frequently or enthusiastically as they did in the past OR if you want to know what you can do to increase the chances that the guy you might be interested in, approaches you...this podcast episode is for you!

Many people who desire a healthy long-term relationship look to reasons outside of themselves as the cause of their disappointing romantic status, not reasons within.  In this podcast, we conclude the discussion started in the previous episode where we take a different approach and discuss reasons that you have control over, which can explain why you are single (or in a shallow short-term sub-optimal relationship).  If you want to hear the conclusion of a different perspective on why you might be struggling to get what you want romantically, take personal accountability, or you want to learn what exactly to change or improve about yourself or your mindset to raise your odds at landing the long-term love of your life...this podcast is for you! 

Many people who desire a healthy long-term relationship, but are not in one, point to reasons outside of themselves as the cause for their disappointing romantic status.  In this podcast, we take a different approach and discuss reasons that you have control over, which explain why you are single (or in dead-end or shallow short-term relationships).  If you want to hear a different perspective on why you might be struggling to get what you want romantically, take personal accountability, and know what exactly to change or improve about yourself or your mindset to raise your odds at landing the long-term love of your life...this podcast is for you!

Accountability is easy to assign to others, but much more difficult to take yourself, especially when the outcomes of a situation or relationship are unfavorable or unpleasant.  In this podcast, we discuss how taking accountability for your love life and everything that goes on in it can be a transformational difference-making decision.  If you want to know how not to let your love life happen to you, but instead, how to take control of your romantic life, and proactively shift your mindset in order to improve your romantic outcomes...this is the podcast for you!

Ghosting is a relatively new slang dating term that refers to abruptly cutting off contact with someone without giving that person any warning or explanation for doing so.  This phenomenon is happening at an ever-increasing rate, similarly to the rate of people using online dating vs in-person methods to meet new people.  In today's podcast episode I answer questions regarding a specific online dating situation and ghosting.  If you want to know why men ghost women (instead of providing clear closure) and/or what is one thing that can turn off a man faster than almost anything else, this is the podcast for you!

Marriage is the foundation of a healthy stable family and family is the foundation of a healthy productive society.  Men control access to marriage in relationships, some theorize. Despite the oldest average first marriage age ever and the decreasing marriage rates (due to some of the issues discussed in the "Why Men Are Reluctant to Marry" episode) there is still a large portion of men who desire to settle down and get married if they can find the right woman.  In this podcast, I detail the top 5 reasons why men get married or want to get married.  If you are wondering what role Love, Money, Religion, Family, and the desire to have Children plays in men wanting to get married, this is the podcast for you!

Advice and suggestions related to marriage are best received when given by those who are married and currently in the middle of their happily ever after.  They say two heads are better than one, well if that is true then that means a group of experienced individuals sharing lived experiences and wisdom are better than just a pair. In this podcast episode, I conclude my discussion with a panel of 4 married older millennial gentlemen with decades of monogamous serious relationship experience and discuss what things a woman needs to focus on to give her serious long term relationship the best chance at success and happiness, how kids have affected their marriage (and how they balance parenthood with staying connected to their spouse), and lastly, advice they would give a loved one if she were newly engaged or newly married. If you are interested in any of the listed topics, or you are curious what 4 married men have to say about engagement, parenthood, and marriage, this episode is for you!

Marriage advice and thoughts on serious dating are best received when given by those who are happily married. The only thing better than wisdom from one experienced person is wisdom from a group of experienced individuals. In this podcast episode, I interview a panel of 4 married gentlemen with ample monogamous relationship experience (for a millennial) and discuss what men look for when they are looking for a wife, the ins and outs of staying and growing together with someone long-term, and the moment during a relationship where they decided to propose.  If you are interested in any of the listed topics or curious about what 4 married men have to say about dating and marriage, this episode is for you!

Advice and suggestions related to marriage are easier to accept from and are best explained by an individual who has been married for some years and are currently in the middle of their happily ever after.  They say two heads are better than one, well if that is true then that means a group of experienced individuals sharing lived experiences and wisdom are better than just a pair. In this podcast episode, I interview a roundtable of 4 married older millennial gentlemen with decades of monogamous serious relationship experience and discuss what made them want to propose to their current wife (when they were only dating), what 3 things a woman needs to focus on to give her serious relationship the best chance at long term success and happiness, how kids have affected their marriage (and how to keep the relationship healthy with new responsibilities), and finally, tips they would give a loved one if she were newly engaged or newly married. If you are interested in any of the listed topics, or you are curious what 4 married men have to say about engagement and marriage, this episode is for you!

Marriage advice and thoughts on dating to settle down are sometimes best explained and analyzed by an individual that has  "won" the dating game and retired from the market, aka have gotten married and are living happily ever after.  The only thing better than wisdom from one experienced person is wisdom from a group of experienced individuals. In this podcast episode, I interview a roundtable of 4 married gentlemen with ample monogamous relationship experience (for a millennial) and discuss the age men start dating to settle down, what men look for when they are looking for a wife, if its better to settle down young or wait until your mid to late 30s, and the ins and outs of staying and growing together with someone longterm with them.  If you are interested in any of the listed topics, or you are curious what 4 married men have to say about dating and marriage, this episode is for you!

Relationship advice and Marital practices are sometimes best explained and analyzed by an individual that has  "won" the dating game, retired from the market, and is in a happy marriage themselves.  Likewise, sometimes it takes a woman to best convey relationship tips, warnings, and advice to a woman.  In this podcast episode, I conclude the interview with a married female friend of mine and discuss her dating timeframe before engagement, the point at which she knew he was the one, her preconceived misconceptions about marriage beforehand, what to look for in a man to know he is marriage material, what men look for in a wife, and final general marital and dating advice with her.  If you are interested in any of the previous topics, or you are curious what a married woman has to say about my perspectives, this episode is for you!

Dating advice and dating practices are sometimes best explained and analyzed by an individual that has  "won" the dating game and retired from the market.  Likewise, sometimes it takes a woman to best convey dating tips, warnings, and advice to a woman.  In this podcast episode, I interview a married female friend of mine and discuss femininity, gender roles, dating, dating issues, and dating advice (to find Mr. Right) with her.  If you are interested in any of the previous topics, or you are curious what a married woman has to say about my dating advice or perspectives, this episode is for you! 

U.S. Marriage rates are currently at a historic low.  The average age that both men and women get married is also older than it ever has been before.  There are many theories and reasons that try to explain this phenomenon, but the fact remains that people are not getting married like they used to.  In this podcast, I explain why men of today in civilized western cultures either avoid marriage altogether or are reluctant to marry.  If you are a woman who has always dreamed of their wedding day, but you've been with the same guys for a while and it seems like you are no closer to becoming a Mrs than you were when you were single... If you are a single woman who has always wondered why men do not dream of getting married like you used to, this is the podcast for you!

Generally speaking, Men and Women approach dating differently.  Women tend to have a list of requirements/preferences that they want their prospective mate to have before they give them a real chance (as I discussed in the previous episode), while men tend to operate inversely to this, more so docking a potential mate for having or doing things he dislikes.  In this podcast, I meticulously describe the chronological chain of decisions and checks a single man consciously (or subconsciously) goes through from the first time he sets eyes on a woman, through the moment he decides to be monogamous.  I also discuss general philosophies, rules of thumb, and strategies men use during the dating process.  If you are curious about the male dating mindset and really want to know What He Iz Thinking, during the first conversation, during the first date, or after a handful of dates, this is the podcast for you!

Both men and women have a mental list of traits and characteristics that they most desire in their ideal romantic match.  There is a large group of women, however, that seem to think that just because a guy does not meet all of the items on their list, that they aren't a viable candidate for romance (according to many men).  In essence, "it would be nice" preferences and "he must have" requirements are being confused for one another.  In this podcast, I talk about the difference between preferences and requirements, how it is a mistake to have too many requirements when determining who you will give a romantic chance to, and I discuss the type of wishes or requirements that you SHOULD have.  If this sounds interesting to you or you have a laundry list of items a man must check off before you will date him (and because of this you spend most of your weekend nights home alone) this is the podcast for you!

Most women of today want the Hallmark Channel effortless love story that they have been exposed to since they were little girls watching Disney movies.  Most women want a traditional love story in a 21st-century world, but they do not actually know the behind the scenes elements of how people of yesteryear met and got together.  Many women of today have no problem being a modern go getter woman with everything in their life, except the most important thing.  If you want to know how women really found love 100, 200, 500 years ago (during these romanticized times), if you want to increase your chances at finding love, if you want to know strategies on how to present yourself (to potential suitors) without appearing desperate, this podcast is for you!

For most people, first dates are both nerve-racking and exciting at the same time.  One way to be less nervous about going out with someone for the first time is knowing exactly what they are looking for,  and what you should do (or not do) to leave a good first impression.  This podcast shares information on men's general dating approach, it details the top things that Men look for from a Woman during a first date, and also it offers tips of other things to do increase the chances he will ask you out again for a second date.  If you want to have better first dates and decrease the number of men (that you are interested in) who "ghost" on you, this podcast is for you!

Infidelity is on the rise in modern day relationships, but the main culprits for this surge are not who you might think.  The current dating culture in 2020 has made monogamy more difficult than it was in the past.   If you want to know what some of the literature says about current day cheating, if you want to know the top reasons why men cheat and/or if you want to know what to do to decrease the odds that you will be cheated on in YOUR relationship, this is the podcast for you!  (This episode is a continuation of the previous episode, so please listen to that episode before enjoying this one, if you want the full complete picture.)

Infidelity seems to be at an all-time high in our culture and is the number one fear most people have in their relationships.  The current dating culture in 2020 and the relaxed standards when it comes to sex has made monogamy more difficult than it was in the past.  Conventional wisdom says that most men are dogs and usually men are the perpetrators when it comes to cheating, but is that really true?  If you want to know what the current day cheating trends are, if you want to know the top reasons why men cheat and/or if you want to know what to do to decrease the odds that you will be cheated on, this is the podcast for you!

Online dating has exploded in popularity and acceptability in the last 10 years.  With the improvement in technology and the changes in our society, people meeting people to date "the old fashioned way" is more difficult than ever.  In this podcast, pointers are given to make your dating profile as attractive and intriguing as possible, in order to maximize your options and opportunities for romance.  Also, online dating strategies are presented in order to make online dating as safe as possible and to decrease the odds of being catfished.  If you want your dating  profile connections to be plentiful and your inbox to be jumping, if you want to stay safe when meeting people from the internet,  and/or if you want to use online dating to  find Mr. Right sooner, rather than later, this is the podcast for you!

Many women think that in order to attract the type of man they want they should make themselves exactly into the type of person THEY want to be with. This is not the best strategy to have.  21st Century western society has convinced both genders to act more similar to each other and this has done a number on dating and relationships.  In this podcast episode, we discuss the fact that men desire a compatible match that is different from them, not a twin.  We discuss the biological differences between men and women, the big 5 personality traits,  femininity and masculinity (and their relationship to each other), and other elements of your personality you should develop/enhance to be more desirable to men.  If you want to know more about the type of personalities men love the most OR if you want to know the essence, mindset, and traits that will increase your chances of getting the successful man you desire, this podcast is for you!

Back in the 90s, some individuals used to say "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" as a tongue in cheek reason explaining why men and women think and perceive the world drastically differently. In this episode of the podcast, specific questions from women regarding men are answered. Topics discussed include communication, clingy controlling insecure guys, and how a woman's love life is affected by her being extremely career-focused in a demanding industry. If any of the above sounds like something you would like to learn more about, this podcast is for you!

Both men and women would agree that the dating climate of today seems to be much worse than we believed it to be before we were old enough to join it.  In this episode of the podcast, I will dive into the biggest overall issue in the dating world (for everyone) and I will also detail what I feel is the biggest issue men have with 21st-century dating and relationships.  I discuss the paradox of choice and the confusion over changing gender roles.  Want to know how an overabundance of choices can be a problem instead of a blessing?  Want to know why most of the men who approach you act goofy or like they do not know what they are doing?  Want to know why some men are seemingly toxically masculine while others are soft and passive?  If so, this podcast is for you!

General consensus from single women of today would suggest that the men who are available in the dating market are of low quality.
In this episode, I dissect Tomi Lahren's early August 2020 IG live rant about men's shortcomings and her advice on how they should date.  I explain why some men have the shortcomings that she calls out in her video, like not planning or being consistent.  I also call out some issues and inconsistencies (in her message) that Tomi herself has, that are contributing to her own dating woes.  Want to know how a blonde, in-shape, rich, famous 20something woman can have dating issues?  This show is for you.  This episode is for any woman who wants to know why men date the way they date in 2020 and how a woman can drop down a level or two in a man's eyes, despite her initially looking like a strong LTR / marriage candidate on paper.

All first dates and even new relationships start off with a certain level of attraction.

In this episode, I clarify some details from the previous podcast (Top 10 Things a Man looks for in a Woman), I define attraction, describe objective and subjective physical beauty / looks / appearance, I give suggestions on how you can be the best version of yourself in this area, I define the different levels of attraction a man can have for a woman, and I elaborate on the different mentalities men have and the different ways men treat women, based on the level of attraction they have for them.  This show is for anyone who wants to know the different ways a man can be attracted to a woman and the corresponding behaviors and thought processes he has for each different level.  This show is also for any woman who wants more information on physical beauty, attraction, and the male perspective on it.