When Family Hurts
By Rebekah Drumsta
The emotional carnage alone due to heartbreak and trauma from lies or abuse, misunderstandings or lack of acceptance can leave you reeling and unsure what to do next.
If you find yourself searching for answers, aching from the sting of being hurt by a loved one or perplexed because you just want to do something which aids in easing your suffering, this podcast was created with you in mind!
When Family HurtsApr 18, 2022
Episode 6: Bradley's Story of a DNA Secret and How Families Are Impacted by Unexpected Genetic Discoveries
On Episode 6 of the When Family Hurts Podcast, Rebekah chats with friend and colleague, Bradley Hall, about his own unexpected DNA surprise.
They discuss what it feels like to make an NPE (not parent expected) discovery after taking an at-home DNA test, navigating confusing family dynamics, how this discovery impacts families and what to do if you're contacted by someone claiming to be a genetic relation. Other mental health themes also take a deep dive including identity disruption, empathy, forgiveness and trauma, living with a victim mentality and toxic family patterns.
About Bradley:
Bradley Hall is a mentor, holistic transformational life coach, certified trauma recovery coach, certified mindfulness instructor, and spiritual advisor. He founded the Life In Truth Academy in 2018 to provide instruction and facilitate dialogue to ultimately help others facilitate their own self healing and growth.
He specializes in helping people transform their lives by focusing on themselves. His unique approach, and vast understanding of psychology, philosophy and spirituality, make him a highly sought after holistic transformational life coach.
Bradley currently holds four degrees, including his MBA, and is pursuing his PhD in Depth Psychology and Jungian Archetypes from Pacifica Graduate Institute. His book, Being Blessed is a Choice, is currently in production.
To work with Bradley, head over to his website: TheBradleyHall.com
For more information about support after an NPE discovery, visit:
To learn more about Rebekah's book, When Family Hurts: 30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, visit RebekahDrumsta.com.
Episode 5: Daphne's Story of Divorce and a Shift in Her Faith
On Episode 5 of When Family Hurts, Rebekah is joined by guest Daphne McGee.
What happens when what you were taught as a child sets you up for heartache as an adult? What happens when your religious community, who are like family, reject or limit you after you are divorced? Listen in on the conversation with Daphne and Rebekah as they discuss deconstructing faith, divorce, purity culture and more!
About Daphne:
Daphne is a legal aid attorney and owner of Golden Daph Life Coaching where she provides one-on-one coaching for people considering leaving harmful situations. Daphne also blogs about her experiences with marriage, divorce, and faith deconstruction. Daphne's blog and ways to work with her can be found at GoldenDaph.com or on Instagram @goldendaph.
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To learn more about Rebekah's book, When Family Hurts: 30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, visit RebekahDrumsta.com.
Episode 4: Christopher's Story of Grief and the Journey to Share His Truth
On Episode 4 of When Family Hurts, Rebekah is joined by guest, Christopher Dowling.
Christopher was raised in a traditional Christian family and through his story of coming out as a gay man, we tackle topics such as shame, the stages of grief and embracing family even when they don't always affirm your lifestyle choices. Filled with grace and candor, Christopher's message will challenge you to think while allowing space for you to explore your own beliefs on an often controversial topic. Listen all the way through this episode if you are facing a similar story in your own family.
About Christopher:
If you are in need of support and wish to connect with Christopher, please reach out to him via Instagram @christopherjdowling.
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To learn more about Rebekah's book, When Family Hurts: 30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, visit RebekahDrumsta.com.
Episode 3: Kaycee and Chaynie's Story of Sexual Abuse
On Episode 3 of When Family Hurts, Rebekah sits down with sister duo Kaycee and Chaynee, you might even hear a bird chirping in the background! They candidly share about the sexual abuse they experienced as children, how it was handled in their family and the ongoing results of that trauma in their lives, marriages and family today. This is a transparent and vulnerable conversation covering topics of shame, trauma, religious beliefs, sex and recovery.
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To learn more about the book, When Family Hurts: 30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, visit RebekahDrumsta.com.
Episode 2: Sarah's Story of Divorce After Substance Abuse
Through Sarah's transparent story of being married for nearly a decade to a man with substance addiction, they cover topics including emotional abuse, anxiety, shame, love and setting a boundary for yourself if you too, are in a relationship touched by substance abuse.
About Sarah:
From painting to photography, designing a room, or crafting the perfect latte, Sarah is the happiest when she's making things and flexing her creative muscles. She believe everyone has their own creative spark inside of them, and hopes to encourage, equip, and inspire you to live your own best creative life.
www.SarahHopeCreative.com
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To learn more about the book, When Family Hurts: 30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, visit www.RebekahDrumsta.com.
Episode 1: Darren's Story of Betrayal Trauma, Psychological and Physical Abuse
*Trigger Warning*
Through his compelling story of intense violence, trauma and abuse, Darren shares a raw, intimate look into his childhood and the ramifications which carried into adulthood. At the hands of family, Darren was beaten, kidnapped and psychologically manipulated, but yet his mind and quest for knowledge spurred him to seek a different life. Included is Darren's intimate telling of his divorce and experience with single-parenting.
About Darren:
Dr. Slade is a theological historian, systematician, and critical rationalist philosopher from Denver, Colorado. Specializing in the socio-political development of religious belief systems, historic-speculative theology, and theoretical metaphysics, Darren's academic publications include topics ranging from the philosophy of religion, ancient Near Eastern and Second-Temple hermeneutical practices, church and Islamic history, the psychology of religion, and misotheism.
As a critical rationalist, Dr. Slade emphasizes the elimination of a confirmation bias through the use of logical argumentation, verificationism, and falsificationism. He maintains that a belief is ontologically true only if it is internally coherent, consistent with known facts, and possesses explanatory power or problem-solving capacity.
Bio:
darrenmslade.academia.edu/?fbclid=IwAR1sx-bXKlfsTtImXptzwrOQf5raHSQdj8ILMJsMihWWugtfItpBjp58xsI
For more information about Dr. Slade's work on Religious Trauma visit:
www.gcrr.org/religioustrauma?fbclid=IwAR39WenHX--wpgwW31EKB6bT45Mz87iMLP117DXj8woGrlDkhiFpaPKPa70
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To learn more about Rebekah's book, When Family Hurts: 30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, visit RebekahDrumsta.com.
Trailer: When Family Hurts
Welcome to the When Family Hurts Podcast Series hosted by Rebekah Drumsta.
The people you call family are the most impactful relationships in your life but far too often, the most painful ones. What happens when those cherished relationships become broken?
The emotional carnage alone due to heartbreak and trauma from lies or abuse, misunderstandings or lack of acceptance can leave you reeling and unsure what to do next.
If you find yourself searching for answers, aching from the sting of being hurt by a loved one or perplexed because you just want to do something which aids in easing your suffering, this podcast was created with you in mind!
As you listen to When Family Hurts you will hear be welcomed into people’s personal stories. Walk with me as we unravel some complicated relationship topics and learn together by exploring new thoughts, ideas and perspectives.
My hope is that this podcast series will propel you towards emotional healing, clarifying your own needs and establishing boundaries and relationship goals going forward simultaneously confirming the fact that if you have been hurt by family, you are not alone.
For more information about the book, When Family Hurts:30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, visit RebekahDrumsta.com
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About Rebekah:
Rebekah is a consultant, writer, and advocate at RebekahDrumsta.com with the mission of supporting survivors of spiritual abuse by providing resources to educate the equip not only the survivors, but the public as well. Sharing her story to help others who have had similar life experiences is at the heart of Rebekah’s purpose. Her book, When Family Hurts: 30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, will be release in the Fall of 2021.
Rebekah holds undergraduate and advanced degrees in: Urban Ministry and Family Crisis, Counseling, and Religious Education and is also a Certified Professional Life Coach. She has made appearances on and consulted with sources including BBC, NBC and ABC, and a variety of other platforms such as podcasts and film projects.