Be Love Be Well Be Whole
By Nicole M. Raines, LMFT & Dr. Dena Scott
Be Love Be Well Be WholeMay 02, 2022
Put on the Boots and Splash in the Puddle
Previous guests, Patrice Marshall Mackenzie and Chef Halili, join Nicole on this stop on the journey to talk about self love. They are defining self-love and defying the the ways in which we talk about and practice it. "Sometimes self-love is an act of defiance." Join the journey!
Episode Theme Songs
Patrice - "Workin' Day and Night" - Michael Jackson
Nicole - "Defying Gravity" - Original Broadway Cast
Halili - "Golden" - Jill Scott
Self Love Practices in This Episode
- Acceptance
- Asses your own needs (check lists, love letter to self, sitting in silence)
- Forgiveness
- Honor who you are in this moment (finding out the meaning of your name, creating a love board)
- Make space to create and play
Accepting of The Way That I Am
Join Nicole and Dr. Dena as they chat with the multi-passionate speaker, author and podcast host Lisette Zounon.
Connect with Lisette https://zsquarecorner.com/
Listen to her podcast https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/upyourconfidence
Episode Theme Songs
Lisette: "SoSo" - Omah Lay
Dr. Dena: "Through the Fire" – Chaka Khan
Nicole: "Crazy "- Seal
Welcome to the Season of Love!
We're back!!! Join Dr. Dena, Nicole and Shanelle for this intro to our 2024 journey. We are delving into the love and will be spending this season chatting about relationships. Our stops this season include relationships with ourselves as and with others be it platonic, familial, romantic or work related. Join the journey!
Episode Theme Songs
Dr. Dena : The vibe is Sade (select your own song "By Your Side" is the reminder)
Nicole: "Love's Holiday" Earth, Wind and Fire
Shanelle: "Un-thinkable" Alicia Keys
"I'm fabulous! I'm a star! I need to lay down!"
On this stop on the journey, Nicole and Dr. Dena are joined by Joy Stephens to dip into the world of mental end emotional wellbeing. Join the conversation as they chat about laying down strength and picking up power, creating a safe space in your own mind and how rest is a part of it all. Joy is a connecter of minds and challenger of thoughts. Her professional title is executive coach.
Connect with Joy
LinkedIn (Joy Stephens New Heights)
https://www.newheightsawait.com/
Episode Mood
Joy: "I Will Survive" ~ Gloria Gaynor / "Stayin' Alive" Gloria Gaynor
Dena: "Downhearted" ~ B.B. King
Nicole: "Timeless" Sergio Mendes featuring India Arie
Listen to and follow our new playlist "A Whole Mood"
Belonging Is An Active Process
Nicole and Dr. Dena are back! Season three's journey kicks off in the space of belonging. We all belong and it is a dynamic process. Finding and creating that sense of belonging is an important part of being whole. Join Nicole and Dr. Dena as they chat with their guest Dr. Dave Cornelius, DM about belonging and how it relates to healing.
Connect with Dr. Dave
Social Media Profiles: https://linktr.ee/drdaveduka
Article: "It’s Time For Business Leaders To Address Healing—The Missing Piece Of The DEIB Puzzle"
Agile for Humanity Conference 2023 Register here
Episode Mood Songs:
Dr. Dave: "Higher Ground" by Stevie Wonder
Dr. Dena: "Giant Steps" by John Coltrane
Nicole: "Better" by Black Alley
Listen to and follow our new playlist "A Whole Mood"
From Letters to Swiping, Relationships The POV Episode
Wow, it’s been 2 years already! On this final and the anniversary stop of 2022’s journey, Nicole and Dena eavesdrop on a conversation between guests Edwardo Jackson and Chef Halili Davis. Join the journey as they share their points of view on dating, polyamory and situationships.
Edwardo is a connoisseur of cryptocurrency, lover of movies and fan of dating feedback. He also spends time as CEO & Founder of CinemaDraft, LLC and as a Cryptocurrency Consultant.
Connect with Edwardo
Website: www.cinemadraft.co
Instagram: @playcinemadraft
Chef Halili is a creative entrepreneur, celebrity chef, caterer, and mental health advocate.
Connect with Chef Halili
Website: https://www.palatesandpetals.com
Instagram: @palatesandpetals
Episode Theme Songs
Halili: "Plastic off the Sofa" by Beyonce
Edwardo: "Born Again" by Riahanna
Dena: “Feels Good” by Tony! Toni! Tone!
Nicole: "Back to Life" by Soul II Soul
Listen to the Theme Songs on Spotify "Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood"
Follow us online:
Instagram: @belovewellwhole
Episode Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
Tap Into Your Sensual Intelligence With Ask Goody
This stop on the journey is tapping into our sensual intelligence. Join Nicole and guest co-host Dr. Shanelle Watson as they chat with Goody Howard (aka Ask Goody) about the difference between being sensual and sexual, the numerous types of orgasms and how to honor your sensual self. Goody is a revolutionary and dynamic boss of sensual and sexual empowerment. These traits are expressed in her work as a sexologist.
Learn more about and connect with Goody
Instagram: @askgoody
Website: https://www.askgoody.com
Listener Love: Use the Code: BELOVE to receive a 20% discount thru December 31, 2022
Episode Theme Songs
Goody: "Free Mind" by Tems
Dr. Shanelle: "Focus" by H.E.R.
Nicole: "Any Time, Any Place'" by Janet Jackson
Listen to the Theme Songs on Spotify "Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood"
Episode Sign Posts
4:00 What's the difference between sensuality and sexuality?
5:30 You are a sensual human being having a sexual experience.
9:00 There are how many different types of orgasms?
12:25 How can I tap into my sensuality?
Follow us online:
Instagram: @belovewellwhole
Episode Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
Gratitude in Grief II
This stop on the journey has us continuing to explore the concept of gratitude within the grief process. Join Nicole and Dr. Dena and special guest producer and co-host Dr. Shanelle Watson as they define and discuss anticipatory grief and some ways to support yourself and others who are experiencing grief.
Learn more about and connect with Dr. Shanelle
https://drshanellelwatson.com
Instagram: @drslwatson
Episode Sign Posts
mark 5:45 defining anticipatory grief
Loving Kindness Meditation
Episode Theme Songs
Dr. Shanelle- "United in Grief" by Kendrick Lamar
Dr. Dena- " Choices" by E40
Nicole - " Cozy" by Beyonce
Listen to the theme songs on Spotify Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood
Episode Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
Financial Gems With Darvell Williams
This stop on the journey is about getting our money together. Join Nicole and guest co-host Dr. Shanelle Watson as they chat with Darvell Williams about the relationship with money now and in the future. Darvell is an an educator and builder. These traits are expressed in his work as a financial professional.
Learn more about and connect with Darvell
Instagram: @darvellwfinancial
email: dwilliams13@ft.newyorklife.com
Episode Theme Songs
Darvell: "Golden Time of Day" Maze with Frankie Beverly
Dr. Shanelle: "Perm" by Bruno Mars
Nicole: "Run-in'" by Pharcyde
Listen to the Theme Songs on Spotify "Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood"
Episode Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
Gratitude in Grief
This stop on the journey has us exploring the concept of gratitude within the grief process. Join Nicole and Dr. Dena and special guest producer and co-host Dr. Shanelle Watson as they share their own experiences with losing their mothers and some of the things that have helped in their journeys. This episode is dedicated to those who have lost a mother but for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one, we encourage you to join the conversation.
Learn more about and connect with Dr. Shanelle
Instagram: @drslwatson
Episode Sign Posts
Focus on the "here and now."
Have boundaries that allow us to make sure we are tapping into our own needs.
Have your affairs in order = talk about death in a meaningful way so the living know what to do.
Episode Theme Songs
Dr. Shanelle- "Heaven" by Beyonce
"Family Business" by Kaye West
"Thankful" by Mary Mary
"I'll Be Missing You" by Puff Daddy & Faith Evans
"One Sweet Day" - Mariah Carey featuring Boyz II Men
Dr. Dena- " Outstanding" by The Gap Band
Nicole - " I'm Gonna Live Till I Die" by Sarah Vaughan
"Unwritten" by Natasha Bedingfield
" The Boss" by Diana Ross
Listen to the Theme Songs
Episode Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
Wandering Through Meaning and Purpose
This stop on the journey has us exploring meaning and purpose. Join Nicole and Dr. Dena as they wander though a discussion about finding meaning and purpose in life.
Episode Sign Posts
Give yourself permission to not exist in just one way.
Does this elevate or depreciate your energy?
Episode Theme Songs
Dr. Dena- " Closer" by Slum Village & Dwele
Nicole - repeat of a previous episode (substitute "Lifted" by Trombone Shorty)
Listen to the Theme Songs
You Are Here
In this bonus episode, Nicole guides us through a few mental health hygiene exercises in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month. Each exercise is a minute or less. Let go of your self judgment and use whatever that comes up as information. Tune in and engage!
Exercises:
Sitting in Silence
Deep Breathing
5 Senses Grounding
Global Theme Song: "Under Pressure" by Queen and David Bowie
Listen to the Theme Songs
Taking Up, Holding, Sharing and Leaning into Space
This stop on the journey has us thinking about the ways we take up space. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest Patrice Marshall McKenzie as they delve into ways to bring your whole self into the spaces that you occupy. Patrice is an orator, door opener and celebrator of others. She spends her professional time as an educator and community advocate.
Connect With Patrice
https://www.patricemarshallmckenzie.com
Episode Sign Posts
The relationship has its own life too. As you create your relationship, develop rhythms around engaging and restoring. Operating as if we automatically know how to be a good partner can create a barrier. Learn how to shift from being reactive to being proactive and responsive. Engaging outside supports like therapy can be done at anytime and does not mean it is the end.
Resources
"It's Time to Talk (and Listen): How to Have Constructive Conversations About Race, Class, Sexuality, Ability & Gender in a Polarized World"
"4 Conflict Styles that Hurt Your Relationship"
Episode Theme Songs
Patrice- "Can You Feel It" by The Jacksons / "Workin' Day and Night" by Michael Jackson
Nicole - repeat of a previous episode (substitute "Lifted" by Trombone Shorty)
Dr. Dena- " Closer" by Slum Village & Dwele
Listen to the Theme Songs
Conflict Could Be Where The Cool Stuff Comes From
Nicole and Dr. Dena are back for their second season! This year's journey starts in the relational space with be love. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest, Brandon Raines as they debunk some of the common myths about conflict in relationships.
Brandon is a people mover, seeker of kindness and creator of reflection. His professional time is spent as an Organization Design and Enterprise Coach.
Busting These Myths
1. Healthy relationships don't have conflict.
2. We should just know what a healthy relationship looks like.
3. Relationship toxic should always be zero.
4. It is the end if you go to relationship counseling or coaching.
Episode Sign Posts
- The relationship has its own life too.
- As you create your relationship, develop rhythms around engaging and restoring.
- Operating as if we automatically know how to be a good partner can create a barrier.
- Learn how to shift from being reactive to being proactive and responsive.
- Engaging outside supports like therapy can be done at anytime and does not mean it is the end.
Resources
"4 Conflict Styles that Hurt Your Relationship"
Episode Theme Songs
Brandon- "Zoom" by The Commodores
Nicole - "Virtual Insanity" by Jamiroquai
Dr. Dena- " I Like It" by DeBarge
Listen to the Theme Songs
Just Breathe
This month we are hanging out at a quick rest stop. Join Nicole for a moment to just breathe. Learn the science behind why breathing helps to calm us as well as two simple postures to practice belly breathing.
Being Brave
In this episode, our journey has us "getting off the porch." Feeling stuck or stagnant is not a bad thing, it means you're human. It is how we navigate those moments that makes a difference. Join Dr. Dena and Nicole and their guest Alicia Booker, as they discuss ways to move through a place of feeling stuck. Alicia is a bringer of big energy, steward of worthiness and advocate of empowerment. Her professional time is spent as a certified professional and executive coach and author.
Connect with Alicia
Website: https://gettingofftheporch.com
Instagram: gettingofftheporch_
GOTP Group Coaching with Alicia - January 2022
Listen to the Theme Songs
Being Clutter Free
In this episode, our journey takes us inside of our physical spaces for some Fall cleaning. Show love for your physical environment and incorporate it into your plan for your overall well-being. Join Nicole and guest Candace Davenport-Raines, as they declutter our perceptions of what it means to tidy our physical spaces. Candace is a confronter of clutter, dismantler of space shame and guide to organization. Her professional time is spent as an entrepreneur and professional organizer.
Connect with Candace
Website: https://theclutterboss.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theclutterboss
5 Tips for Decluttering from The Clutter Boss
1) Set a goal.
2) Include time as part of the goal.
3) Start small and use a timer.
4) Divide the room into 4 sections and work in one section at a time.
5) Take breaks.
Listen to the Theme Songs
Resources
"Feeling stuck? Guilty? Overwhelmed? Try clearing these feelings out of your home"
https://ideas.ted.com/feeling-stuck-guilty-overwhelmed-try-clearing-these-feelings-out-of-your-home/
Buried in Treasures (peer facilitated groups)
Being Able to Quiet the Inner Saboteur
In this episode, our journey takes us inside of our minds to check out our self-talk. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest ,Alicia R. McLain, MA, PCC, as they journey into the world of Positive Intelligence and Mental Fitness. Alicia is a holder of empathy, organizational whisper and promoter of empowerment. Her professional time is spent as an entrepreneur and Executive & Leadership Coach.
Connect with Alicia
Twitter https://twitter.com/AgileLeaderSD
LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/aliciarmclain/
YouTube Channel http://bit.ly/SBHC2020
And get more information on her business:
• Operational Innovations: https://operational-innovations.com/
• Professional Coaching: http://operational-innovations.com/professional-coaching/
Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs (*Nicole's Song from this Episode "Distant Places" can be found on Apple Music on the Lowery Brothers Band's album "Jazz Life" The substitute song for the playlist on Spotify is "Sunsets")
You can also join the journey on Instagram
Being About Feedback and Escapes
In this episode, our journey takes us to the zone of dating feedback and healthy escapes. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest , Edwardo Jackson, as the chat winds through many places. Edwardo is a connoisseur of cryptocurrency, lover of movies and fan of dating feedback. He also spends time as CEO & Founder of CinemaDraft, LLC and as a Cryptocurrency Consultant.
Connect with Edwardo
Twitter: @SwagPoker
Instagram: @edwardojackson
Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs
You can also join the journey on Instagram
Being Free to Be You
This part of the journey takes us to an authentic space. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest , Tashiana Scott-Cochran, as they chat about imposter syndrome and ways to handle when others project being an imposter onto you. Tashiana is a seeker of knowledge and advocate of candor and optimism.
Episode Quote: "...freedom to let whatever is in you out, there's a journey in that."
Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs
You can also join the journey on Instagram
Being Without Limits
This month's journey takes us to a limitless mind space. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest ,Dr. Shanelle L. Watson, as they chat about living abundantly, gratitude in our daily lives and how to be optimistic without becoming a projector of toxic positivity. Dr.Shanelle is a cultivator of empowerment, champion of caring and projector of passion. These are expressed in her work as an Educational Psychologist and Behavior Interventionist.
Learn more about and connect with Dr. Shanelle
Instagram: @drslwatson
Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs
Being Comfortable Talking About Sex
The second part of this month's journey takes us to a sex positive space. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest Crystal Harrison as they chat about becoming comfortable talking about sex. Crystal is a radiator of caring, creator of comfort and builder of confidence. These are expressed in her work as a Project Coordinator and Bedroom Kandi Boutique Consultant.
Learn more about and connect with Crystal
https://www.bedroomkandi.com/9011
Instagram: @bkpartiesbycrystal
Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs
Being Still
This month's journey takes us to a rest stop. Join Dr. Dena and Nicole as they talk about the value of the pause and provide some tips for being still in this ever moving world.
Read "How Being More Productive Starts With Doing Nothing"
Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs
A Taste of Wellness
The Pivot Episode
This month's journey has us making a pivot and shifting course to A Taste of Wellness. Join Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Nicole and Guest Host Chef Halili as they chat about morning mood makeovers and nighttime wind down routines. There is "thyme today" as they explore a "hug in a mug", simple grounding exercises and sleep hygiene.
Chef Halili Davis is a creative entrepreneur, celebrity chef, caterer, and mental health advocate.
Connect with Chef Halili
Website: https://www.palatesandpetals.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/palatesandpetals/?fref=ts
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/palatesandpetals/
Being a Vessel of Love
This month's journey takes us to the "loveverse." Join us and our guest Chevvy Cheung, MSW, PsyD as we explore self-love and relationships.
Chevvy is a champion of relationships, enhancer of dreams and humble collaborator. These are expressed in his work as a relationship and life coach.
Learn more about and connect with Chevvy
https://www.mindmuscleheartlifecoaching.com
Find Your Love Language
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
Find Your Apology Language
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-quiz/
Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs
Being a Student of Hope
This month's journey takes us to a hopeful space. Join us and our guest Connie Ni Chiu as we discuss the various definitions of hope, grief as a gift and tips for how to tap into hope when your whole being feels tired.
Connie is a builder, lover of stories and storytelling. These are expressed in her work as a Diversity Equity Inclusion Practictioner and Co-Founder of and,/now. And,/now is a collective for racial justice and healing.
Find out more about Connie and and,/now at
https://and-now-collective.com
Being During the Holidays
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Nicole and Dr. Dena chat with Chef Halili Davis about the daze of the holidays, loneliness and ways to honor being whole during this season.
Chef Halili is a creative entrepreneur, celebrity chef, caterer, and mental health advocate.
Connect with Chef Halili
Website: https://www.palatesandpetals.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/palatesandpetals/?fref=ts
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/palatesandpetals/
Intro: Be On This Journey
A brief introduction into the space of Be Love Be Well Be Whole where we explore, relationships, mental health and the sense of what makes us whole.