Jennifer Brantley, Esq. is an attorney, speaker & preacher’s wife who battled imposter syndrome & came out crown-side up.
She understands what it’s like to feel discounted, uninvited & discarded - but you can’t stay there if you want to succeed at this thing called life. You have to be your own star, even when everything around you seems dim.
You may be scarred, you may have been bruised, but your story isn’t over yet. But first, you have to let some things go. So let’s do that, together & one step at a time.
Follow Jennifer at https://instagram.com/fire_esquire?igshid=2xht4u7qssxf.
Crystal Glass of Bold Intentionz shares her insight on how we can create bold visions for our lives. Theme Song: Nah! That Devil Is a Lie - Single by Jasmine Edwards. To download the FREE FindMe Mobile app, visit www.findmemilmobile.com. Download now! Follow the DiscardIt Podcast at https://www.instagram.com/thediscarditpodcast/.
Jayne Allen, author of Black Girls Must Die Exhausted, is originally from Detroit and in her life outside of writing, is a serial entrepreneur, Harvard-trained attorney, and engineer. She dabbles in standup comedy, tries to learn one new thing a week, and relishes laughter and champagne bubbles with her girlfriends and family. She has authored four non-fiction books, in addition to books one and two in the Black Girls Must Die Exhausted trilogy. The series, which has sold more than 10,000 copies worldwide, touches upon contemporary women's issues. Jayne's writing echoes her desire to bring both multiculturalism and multidimensionality to contemporary women's fiction with dynamic female protagonists who also happen to be black. After pitching BGMDE to multiple publishing companies, Ms. Allen decided to self-publish her book, Black Girls Must Die Exhausted: A Book for Grownups. The novel was met with stunning praise and led to a multitude of offers for the plucky writer. We talk about that process, her book and what it generally means to be black, and exhausted, in today's episode. Learn more about Jayne and attend one of her writing workshops at https://www.instagram.com/jayneallenwrites/?hl=en.
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Theme Song: Nah! That Devil Is a Lie - Single by Jasmine Edwards. To download the FREE FindMe Mobile app, visit www.findmemilmobile.com. Download now! Follow the DiscardIt Podcast at https://www.instagram.com/thediscarditpodcast/.
You made it! Welcome to 2021! Let's start the year by confronting some lies head on. WARNING! Wig snatcher: Have you been lying TO yourself ABOUT yourself? Let's discard the false narrative, in favor of one that's...actually true. Today's guest is Bree Carroll and she's known as the Military Marriage Coach, Wedding and Event Specialist and Speaker who transforms spaces and hearts through authentic design and purposeful planning. With a background in civil engineering, Bree brings her brilliance of problem solving and eye for design to couples so they design a marriage even more beautiful than their wedding day. Using her CARE method, she guides couples through designing a marriage that celebrates their core values. As a voice in the milspouse community and the 2020 - 2021 AFI Air Force use of the Year, she celebrates strong military marriages. On her nationally broadcasted podcast, Hearts & Stripes, she speaks on the power of relationships. Learn more about Bree and her initiatives at https://www.instagram.com/bcarrollevents/?hl=en.
86 percent of families with a member on the autism spectrum don’t travel because they assume there are no accommodations for them. When Dina Farmer’s ( of Lily and Magnolia Travel) oldest son was diagnosed with autism, she thought their days of travel were long gone. She didn’t know how he would react in new places or to the sensory overload - and her lack of knowledge was daunting. That all changed one day, though, when her son came home from school and asked her to plan a trip to the National Mall in Washington DC. Dina knew she couldn’t keep putting off vacations. Since then, she’s conquered the imposter syndrome to become a Certified Autism Travel Professional, helping other families plan autism-friendly vacations - so that they can enjoy life better, together. Find out more about Dina, autism, and autism-friendly vacations at https://www.lilyandmagnoliatravel.com.
Courtney White of Courthouse Couture, is a self-described believer, real estate attorney, fashion lover, dreamer and friend based in Houston, Texas. On any given day, you can find her either in her office, serving her church or, of course, on Instagram serving us some of the most gorgeous outfit ensembles you can imagine. Sprinkled amongst all she does, though, are words of indelible (and hard-earned) wisdom that she has has no qualms about sharing. Today, we're talking about boundaries, and how we can all improve our quality of life, by establishing them. Follow Courtney on Instagram at https://instagram.com/courthousecouture?igshid=10rb16ex2kfm. Podcast Theme Song: Nah! That Devil is a Lie - Single by Jasmine Edwards https://music.apple.com/us/album/nah-that-devil-is-a-lie-single/1273931119. To download the FREE FindMe Mobile app, visit www.findmemilspousemobile.com. Download now!
It’s time for school! Lesson No. 1: All hair is good hair - even on a bad hair day. The military just updated its regulations on natural hairstyles. UPS just softened its internal ban against employees sporting their natural hair. Women and men are still being deemed unqualified for jobs in 2020, because of their hair. This is a problem, yes? Let’s discuss. Even if this isn’t an issue that touches your directly, this episode is for you. Check out Hairrible, where “every day is a bad hair day”, on Instagram at https://instagram.com/hairrible_?igshid=1xl7719g8wd6h or at www.Hairrible.com. Follow the phenomenal creator of Hairrible, Erica Johnson, at @imoufoff. Podcast Theme Song: Nah! That Devil is a Lie - Single by Jasmine Edwards https://music.apple.com/us/album/nah-that-devil-is-a-lie-single/1273931119. To download the FREE FindMe Mobile app, visit www.findmemilspousemobile.com. Download now!
Election Day, coronavirus, lock down, and more. If you’re feeling or fighting anxiety, this mini episode is for you. Theme Song: Nah! That Devil is a Lie - Single by Jasmine Edwards https://music.apple.com/us/album/nah-that-devil-is-a-lie-single/1273931119. To download the FREE FindMe Mobile app, visit www.findmemilspousemobile.com. Download now!
The power of social media will not be denied. She's battled devastating loss, subsequent anger at God and lack of accreditation by others to create a space of healing. For her, the phrase "'Love Naturally' sounds so beautiful, but there's some pain behind it." Dr. E., however, uses the pain she's experienced, to teach others how to ‘walk through the pain’ they might encounter in life and to show them that perfection is not the end goal. She accomplishes this in the classroom, on social media and through her podcast, Lessons In Loving Naturally. Follow her at https://www.instagram.com/tolovenaturally/?hl=en or visit https://tolovenaturally.com/. Theme Song: Nah! That Devil is a Lie - Single by Jasmine Edwards https://music.apple.com/us/album/nah-that-devil-is-a-lie-single/1273931119. To download the FREE FindMe Mobile app, visit www.findmemilspousemobile.com. Download now!
At 20 years old, Natilie Williams received her Bachelors from Central Michigan University. At 22, she received her Masters in Communication from Illinois State University. Natilie graduated with both degrees without a dime of student loan debt! She currently travels the nation (virtually now, because COVID) inspiring students and other groups to lead with legacy, push through their circumstances and achieve even their wildest dreams. In this episode, we discuss her doctoral research on the "ghosting" phenomenon and what it means for black women and black sisterhood, in particular. While Ms. Williams's research focuses on the black community, it's worth noting that anyone who has fallen prey to or perpetrated ghosting (pulled a Caspar, as we like to say) will benefit from the discourse. We also discuss learning to extend grace to ourselves, so that we and those in our circle receive only the most healthy and whole version of who we are - topics she covers in her upcoming book Innerview: Lessons in Leadership, which will be available in November of 2020. Connect with Natilie at www.natwillspeak.com or @NatWillSpeak on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Theme Song: Nah! The Devil is a Lie by Jasmine Edwards. Get it on iTunes: https://music.apple.com/gh/album/nah-that-devil-is-a-lie-single/1273931119
It’s the first episode of Season 2 and we can’t wait to explore what it means to be (un)Qualified and how we’ll discard that notion, together. If we’re going to talk about it, we’re going to TALK about it - and that means continued vulnerability from your host. Theme song: Nah! That Devil Is a Lie - Single by Jasmine Edwards https://music.apple.com/us/album/nah-that-devil-is-a-lie-single/1273931119. To download the FREE FindMe Mobile app, visit www.findmemilspousemobile.com. Download now!
We’ve come to the end of Season 1, but no worries - Season 2 is right around the corner. Today, though...whew, the Devil is a LIE! Find out why and hear our big announcement. Song played this episode: Nah! That Devil Is a Lie - Single by Jasmine Edwards https://music.apple.com/us/album/nah-that-devil-is-a-lie-single/1273931119. To download the FREE FindMe Mobile app, visit www.findmemilspousemobile.com. Download now!
Maxine Reyes (@maxinereyestv) is an entrepreneur, coach, combat veteran, wife, mother and accomplished soloist. When it comes to transitions, she has certainly seen her fair share (and gleaned some valuable lessons along the way). Her metamorphosis was a long road that saw required a multitude of life adjustments. She came from Jamaica to the US as a young adult hoping to find her dream, before joining the US Military. She later transitioned from single life to dual military coupledom, to parenthood, and then from military member to veteran to businesswoman - and that’s just to name a few.
Maxine has learned to approach each new echelon of life "with courage and grace" (Be sure to check out her podcast of the same name: https://www.facebook.com/courageandgracepodcast/), and has necessarily discarded timidity along the way. She’s, instead, learned to embrace her vulnerability, ability to compromise, as well as her indelible strength - especially as it relates to relationships of both the business and marital kind.
And, speaking of marriage, Maxine is also one half of Happily Joint (https://happilyjoint.com/), a venture started with husband, Ken, where their primary goal is to help couple "make happiness last". Maxine sat down with me for this DiscardIt Friday and we enjoyed an open and honest discussion about the the ways couples can find and re-establish happiness and commitment through relationship resiliency and how everyone can apply similar concepts to their work partnerships and entrepreneurial pursuits.
Want to connect with Maxine after the episode? Find her on Instagram at @happilyjoint, @maxinereyestv or @courageandgracepodcast.
Your health extends to your mental mindset and requires that you discard limiting beliefs. Why is it that once we reach adulthood, we cease allowing ourselves to dream? If you believed anything was possible for you, what would you truly want? Live your life according to your dreams and your purpose. We talk about this and more with active duty Navy officer, dual-military spouse, and health coach, Ashleigh Magee. From leadership in the military, to showing up authentically for her clients, she’s had to discard the fear of doing the wrong thing and letting others down, and uses what she’s learned to help others make the connection between their physical and mental health. Connect with Ashleigh on Instagram at www.instagram.com/ashmagaeecoach on Facebook at https://m.facebook.com/AshleighMageeHealth or via her website at https://ashleighmagee.com/.
Ticora Davis, Esq. is an intellectual property advocate, attorney, author, speaker, wife and mother of two. One moment in 2016 set her life on a course she never would have imagined for herself. After God pushed her to overcome a setback that many fear, Ticora shed the idea that she had been buried and, instead, firmly grounded herself and her future in the idea that God had planted her in the soil of success. It worked. Ticora is now known as The Creator’s Lawyer, has worked with brands like Black Enterprise, Rising Tide, VH1, Honeybook, and is hailed as a “thought leader” in the legal community. Her new book, Planted to Produce: 7 Shifts to Activate Your Creative Soul is a revolutionary take on procrastination, productivity, and purpose. Through it, Ticora uncovers the spiritual roots of procrastination, how fear is keeping you from pursuing your God-breathed destiny, and what you can do to push yourself to produce God’s greatness inside of you.
Ticora is also the creator of Business Bakerie. Founded in 2019, Business Bakerie puts the best legal tools and business training into the hands of up-and-coming business owners. Want to learn more about Ms. Davis and get connected to her and her endeavors? Start here:
Business Bakerie: www.businessbakerie.com
Creator's Law Firm: www.creatorslawfirm.com
IG: instagram.com/ticoradavis ::::::::::::::We also announce the winner of our Instagram giveaway during this episode, so if you entered listen through to find out if you won!
Christian Jackson, LPC, CACI, NCC is a licensed therapist based in SC and has worked in the human services field for more than 15 years. “community is a word dear to her heart and, as a therapist, she believes it’s important to focus on how to improve skills to manage triggers related to depression, anxiety, and harmful world views.
Christian recently authored a book called “Daddy Issues: How to Detangle from the Sins of Our Fathers” She graciously granted me a sneak peek, and, after reading it, had to have her on DiscardIt. She starts by talking about the symptoms and procedure for diagnosing "daddy issues" - a condition we all know exists, but won't find in any version of the DSM. She breaks down the different archetypes (the clingy one, the gold/goal digger, etc.) and you can bet that you will either see yourself in some of the descriptions, or someone you know.
So today we’re discarding - you guessed it - daddy issues and the shame and guilt created by them. One lucky listener will also win a free copy of Christian's book, Daddy Issues, which hits shelves in July, as well as some DiscardIt swag. Check out our social media pages for the details.
Christian can be found on @couchwithchristian on Instagram, her group "Overcoming Daddy Issues" can be found at https://www.facebook.com/groups/1378205069055206. Follow us at @thediscarditpodcast on Instagram or search for The DiscardIt Podcast on Facebook.
So you want to be successful? You want to touch lives? You want to attract more people to your cause? Are you even ready for that - an influx of business, customers, fans, or even just friends? Because before you can accept God’s blessing over your life, you have to first put yourself in a position to receive it.
James Luter is father and Navy veteran who definitely knows a lot about sacrifice, but it was learning to let go of his old identity and the influence of others to embrace Gods plan for his life that ensured his success. Hear how he learned to embrace the storm and discover God’s purpose for his life. Learn more about James, his wife, LaTonya, and their dedication to Devoted Life Coaching at www.devotedlifecoaching.com and follow him on Instagram at @james.luter. #BetterIsPossible
They say people can tell a lot about you, by those you call friends. If that’s the case, I’m so grateful that Jewel Thompson is part of my circle. She is currently Assistant Lecturer of Business at Ashesi University in Ghana, Africa - but how she got there is where today’s story lies. You’ve been pining for a vacation since coronavirus reared it’s ugly head. Buckle up, because we’re definitely taking you on a trip...of faith and learning not to work just to work, but to work with purpose and to LIVE. In this episode when I speak of going back to Africa, I mean that literally...and figuratively. It’s time to go back to where you came from...to release the negative energy, the self-doubt, the rat race and get back to the root of who you are.
A couple of people have asked me if I’m okay. I’ve said yes. I lied. If you’re anything like me, your feelings may mirror mine. Here’s what’s really going on - and how you can keep your strength from failing in the midst of the storm. Our regularly scheduled episode will still air on Friday. John 4:20, ESV: "If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen."
What excuses have you been making? This week, I sat down with Patience Riley of WHOA MAMA. Patience Riley is the mom, coach, and blogger behind WHOA MAMA. Patience is passionate about maternal mental health and provides 1 on 1 coaching to new mamas needing help decreasing their negative self talk, guilt, and shame. Patience helps these mamas to not only survive but thrive by finding balance in their roles as mothers & their own personal identities.
She’s a Certified Professional Coach, & Licensed Professional Counselor, but she’s also a military spouse who knows how easy it can be to put off doing something because we don’t feel the right time has come. She also thinks waiting for perfection is an excuse that keeps us from moving forward. Listen and learn how to be comfortable...with being uncomfortable. Let go of the excuses so that you can enter the next phase of your life. Find Patience on Facebook and Instagram at @WHOAMAMA_BLOG or visit www.whoamamas.com to learn more and to find out how to get in contact with Patience. Music for this episode: Loopster by Kevin MacLeod
One word to describe today’s guest is “overcomer”. This week, we sat down with Marla Bautista of The Bautista Project, Inc. This Army military spouse battled the loss of both biological parents before the age of ten and abuse by a trusted caregiver, followed by homelessness - and won. She’s now a published author, small business owner and philanthropist serving the homeless community in Tampa, FL. Before she could become the woman she is today, though, she had to let go of the past and discard some generational cycles. You don’t want to miss the life lessons she has to share - or the story of how a chance meeting led to the love of a lifetime. If you’d like to learn more about Marla and The Bautista Project and ways you can give, follow her at: Instagram: @marla.bautista.author and @thebautistaproject; or visit www.marlabautista.com
Music used in this episode:
Covert Affair by Kevin MacLeod
Wholesome by Kevin MacLeod
Before you listen to this episode, listen to Nelly’s song “Number One.” Oh, I don’t agree with it - I’m about to rip it to shreds. I just want the song to be stuck in your head, like it is in mine. Today, we’re throwing (unhealthy) competition and the desire to be numero uno in the trash. Want to help DiscardIt grow? Subscribe and review us, then share with a friend. Leave a voice message for us, and you may become an unwitting guest on next week’s episode.
One thing in this life is sure, you’ll encounter pain. When that pain stems from heartbreak, through, sometimes that pain...is of our own making. How do you heal when you’re what’s wrong? Plus, a message to Ahmaud Arbery on his birthday and to those who are suffering from mental and emotional fatigue. Check out the NAACP’s #WeAreDoneDying campaign, empowering black and brown communities to take action against the senseless killing of African Americans at https://www.naacp.org/latest/naacp-launches-wearedonedying-campaign-empowering-black-brown-communities-demand-equitable-action-amid-covid-19/. Subscribe to DiscardIt on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts, and share with a friend.
Welcome back to DiscardIt. No matter what you’re contemplating doing the time will never be “right” to do it. Here’s what to do when you want everything to be perfect, before you test the waters. #letitgo
Welcome to the first episode of DiscardIt. Every feel like your support system is waxing a little thin? Lack of support can have you feeling a little discarded - if you let it. Don’t. Here’s how. Please subscribe to this show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen