Sail Through and Beyond Infidelity
By Helen Tower
Sailing through infidelity and Sail beyond infidelity tell the story of Valentina and Mark recovering from his affair and gaslighting after twenty years of marriage. Books available on Amazon. Author reads for free here.
Sail Through and Beyond Infidelity Jul 23, 2020
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Appreciate how far you've come in your recovery from #Infidelity
It is possible to feel in love after infidelity. How I'm feeling three and a half years past DDay and what new AHA moments I've had since recording an episode as a guest in The Meaningful Life podcast by Andrew G. Marshall
Dec 10, 202119:43
Honesty when recovering from infidelity
Honesty helps you heal post infidelity discovery, it helps overcome challenging feelings and it is a healthier choice to strengthen mental health.
Nov 29, 202108:04
New concepts past infidelity
Being in love and letting go acquire new meanings after betrayal by a spouse. The difference between distraction and empowerment.
Oct 12, 202125:02
Revisiting boundaries three years past Dday
June 2021 blog articles have been about how communication has improved from our personal growth post infidelity.
Jun 25, 202116:36
Improving after infidelity
How changing the narrative can help your recovery from betrayal. There is hope after infidelity. Do more of what makes you happy.
Jun 07, 202121:42
What infidelity has taught me
Reporting almost three years past Dday
Jun 04, 202128:51
Loving after betrayal
Make sense of how to deal with suffering in your life. Lay your own rules and boundaries to enjoy every day you are given beyond infidelity.
Feb 08, 202115:12
Touching base two and a half years past DDay
Sharing an AHA moment about focusing the attention on what is worth it: you.
Jan 21, 202111:03
Dr Caroline Madden on life beyond #infidelity
Final episode of the series to mark two years past DDay.
Aug 20, 202058:39
Dr Caroline Madden talks infidelity recovery
A marriage and family therapist based in LA, Dr Madden talks about recovering from your spouse’s betrayal: causes and consequences and tips to live a happier life beyond infidelity.
Jul 31, 202001:21:02
Andrew G Marshall answers questions about Infidelity and beyond
Listen to the UK’s best known Marital Therapist talk about life beyond Infidelity.
Jul 23, 202048:33
Lisa Arends and the twitter tribe questions
Special episode on the two year mark of my affair recovery process.
Jul 16, 202048:48
Lessons from the end of a marriage: meet Lisa Arends
Leave a question or comment for Lisa here anchor.fm/helen-tower/message
Jul 14, 202003:50
Ep. 23: Docking the infidelity boat
Triggers at month 17 past discovery, what hope really means and disembarking beyond infidelity. Bonus article May 2020
May 20, 202019:52
Ep. 22: support from friends of the betrayed
What to do if a friend confides in you about their spouse’s betrayal, attention quality is very telling, facing triggers twenty months past Dday.
May 18, 202015:60
Ep. 21: Self-love tips after infidelity
Seventeen months past Dday I was much better because of all the work we had done. Here are some practical ways to cheer up when you fall in the emotional dip.
May 13, 202015:18
Ep. 20: omissions are lies, recovery timeline and progress
What does it mean when the betrayers hide info to “avoid pain” , an example of a recovery timeline and acknowledgement of your progress through facts
May 12, 202015:51
Ep. 19: Inherited trauma and moving forward
We carry our ancestors traumas too, reminders to get out of the emotional dips, appreciating routine and grieving the old self after infidelity
May 11, 202017:22
Ep. 18: Fifteen months after discovering the affair
Why it is never a good idea to have an affair with a coworker. New mantra at fifteen months past Dday.
May 07, 202014:12
Ep. 17: When to give up
When to stop counting the days, talking about the WHY of the betrayal and waiting for an unapologetic unremorseful spouse.
May 06, 202016:15
Ep. 16: Improved communication and forgiveness
A podcast suggestion, transfer of vigilance, forgiving is a verb. Helen Tower on Social media.
May 05, 202014:41
Ep. 15: Giving meaning to infidelity
Gratitude for what was made possible celebrate instead of mourn on Dday1, Secrets and infidelity, find your own recipe for recovery.
May 04, 202022:59
Ep. 14: Trusting again after infidelity
How do you trust again? Review of Andrew G Marshall’s book. Guidelines to keep going.
Apr 29, 202021:17
Ep. 13: The new you after infidelity
Accepting you and your feelings, books to help you recover and ancient wisdom principles to revisit.
Apr 28, 202024:55
Ep. 12: Socializing and probation after infidelity
Being with friends who don’t know about the affair is tricky. Your needs are not your partner’s. Probation periods can help in recovery.
Apr 27, 202026:31
Ep. 11: The power of writing
Write down what you want to communicate before frustration takes over. A letter to the Other Woman, should you send it?
Apr 23, 202015:21
Episode 10: Nine months after discovery
Use neuroscience to recover from betrayal, when the unfaithful becomes defensive, deadlines and triggers during affair recovery.
Apr 22, 202020:35
Episode 9: Defining love after infidelity
Romantic love is not real. Labeling the pain to find hope. Infidelity as an intentional disaster.
Apr 16, 202018:26
Episode 8: End of Book 1
Concluding: Infidelity makes you stronger, about the author and introducing the sequel.
Apr 13, 202016:36
Episode 7: Living again after infidelity
When is it enough? When do you stop seeking compensation for having been betrayed?
Apr 11, 202016:06
Episode 6: Managing triggers and flashbacks
A letter to the other woman, seven steps to navigate the anger loop, labels and memories taking a new meaning post Dday.
Apr 09, 202018:38
Episode 5: Deciding to stay and challenges
Three months since Dday and we found a crossroads, got help, made decisions, were criticized by those we love and dealt with slips.
Apr 08, 202018:44
Episode 4: Resources and Telling their boss
Resources to navigate infidelity included here, breaching security boundaries during recovery. Letters to him and to the Other Woman.
Apr 07, 202028:33
Episode 3: Making sense of the betrayal and facing reality
Midlife crisis, twenty years married, catching up with BFFs, facing reality, children, moving out.
Apr 06, 202027:27
Episode 2: First moves, questions and support network
Once Valentina had proof of the affair, she discovered the identity of the other woman and proceeded to implement what she had planned in case Mark was ever unfaithful.
Mar 27, 202022:39
Episode 1: Introducing Sailing through Infidelity
Meet Valentina, the elephant in the room, discovering and gaslighting.
Mar 23, 202023:29
March 18, 2020
Mar 18, 202000:51