Hello, Good Bis!
By Hello Good Bis
Hello, Good Bis!Aug 21, 2019
Bi-te Size: We're baaaaaaaaack
We're back and we're changing up the format to be a little shorter and sweeter to fit our schedules. We'll be diving into the latest bisexual news, events, clubs, and activities. As always, you can drop us a line at hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com... which we will definitely figure out the password to verysoon.
REFERENCES
- Zoë Kravitz Says Catwoman Is 'Definitely' Bi https://www.papermag.com/zoe-kravitz-catwoman-bi-2656845879.html
- Catwoman is officially bisexual https://www.theverge.com/2015/2/27/8123489/catwoman-bisexual-dc-comics-lgbtq
- HBO Max's Peacemaker Just Confirmed This Superhero Is Bisexual https://www.out.com/television/2022/2/11/hbo-max-peacemaker-just-confirmed-superhero-bisexual
- Supreme Court rejects case of Christian group and bisexual lawyer https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/supreme-court-rejects-case-christian-group-bisexual-lawyer-n1292534
- Ted Cruz’s Teenage Daughter Says She’s Bi, Disagrees With Him https://www.advocate.com/people/2022/1/07/ted-cruzs-teenage-daughter-says-shes-bi-disagrees-him
- Watch Miss Universe Australia Come Out as Bisexual on Television https://www.pride.com/comingout/2022/1/13/watch-miss-universe-australia-come-out-bisexual-television
- Olivia Benson's Son Comes Out as Bi in Sweet Law & Order: SVU Scene https://www.pride.com/tv/2022/1/19/olivia-bensons-son-comes-out-bi-sweet-law-order-svu-scene
- Luke Radford, 21, of the UK's biggest family breaks down on 22 Kids and Counting as he reveals how hard it was to come out as bisexual after hiding his true self since the age of 14 https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-10392093/Luke-Radford-21-cries-comes-bisexual-family-22-Kids-Counting.html
- The Voice Winner Sawyer Fredericks Comes Out as Bisexual https://www.advocate.com/arts-entertainment/2022/2/07/voice-winner-sawyer-fredericks-comes-out-bisexual
- Former Gucci Mane Artist Lil Wop Comes Out as Bisexual https://hiphopdx.com/news/id.68062/title.former-gucci-mane-artist-lil-wop-comes-out-as-bisexual#
- Stephanie Beatriz addresses bisexual Encanto theories: ‘Queer kids have that kind of feeling’ https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2022/03/22/mirabel-encanto-stephanie-beatriz-disney-bisexual/
- Bisexual athlete Ireen Wüst makes Olympics history with sixth gold medal https://www.metroweekly.com/2022/02/bisexual-athlete-ireen-wust-makes-olympics-history-with-fifth-gold-medal/
- How a video game about unpacking gets the bisexual experience spot on https://i-d.vice.com/en_uk/article/7kbj54/unpacking-bisexual-video-game
- Meet Jonathan, the 190-year-old bisexual giant tortoise https://www.avclub.com/jonathan-bisexual-tortoise-oldest-living-land-animal-1848432673
NYC HAPPENINGS
- Spicy Laps with Spin Peaks Mon 8 PM in Prospect Park https://www.instagram.com/spinpeaksracing/?hl=en
- NightCAP, Tues at 7PM https://www.instagram.com/nightcap_brooklyn/?hl=en
- New queer bar Oddly Enough https://www.oddlyenoughbar.com/
- Effort to open a new lesbian bar in Queens https://www.instagram.com/daveslesbianbar
- Cheer New York https://www.cheernewyork.org/
- Brooklyn Community Pride Center & BiRequest Discussion Group lgbtbrooklyn.org
- Dyke beer, team hosts monthly events https://www.instagram.com/dykebeer/?hl=en
The Bi-brary is Open
OVERVIEW With daylight hours dwindling, it’s the perfect time to curate your queer winter reading list and get ready to cuddle up with a good book as the temperature drops! Annie and Rose talk to creative nonfiction author, Audrey Jennifer Smith about the importance of queer representation in media and her favorite queer authors, short stories, and books. Anything we missed? Email us at hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com and let us know! REFERENCES Audrey Jennifer Smith online! https://mobile.twitter.com/lipstick_smitty Tough Titties - Audrey Jennifer Smith https://www.hippocampusmagazine.com/2018/01/tough-titties-by-audrey-jennifer-smith/ Kerry Howley http://kerryhowley.com/ To Kill a Mockingbird - Harper Lee https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780060935467 The Golden Compass - Phillip Pullman https://www.indiebound.org/book/9784105389048 A Separate Peace - John Knowles https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780743253970 The Diary of a Young Girl - Anne Frank https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780553296983 Learning Anne Frank is a Bisexual is a Gamechanger https://blogs.timesofisrael.com/learning-anne-frank-was-bisexual-is-a-game-changer/ Ramona Quimby series by Beverly Cleary https://www.indiebound.org/search/book?keys=ramona+quimby Judy B Jones series by Barbara Park https://www.indiebound.org/search/book?keys=junie+b+jones Fun Home - Alison Bechdel https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780618871711 On the Move - Oliver Sacks https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780804170932 I Might Regret This - Abbi Jacobson https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781538713273 Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe - Benjamin Alire Sáenz https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781442408937 A Cup of Water Under My Bed - Daisy Hernandez https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780807014486 Whip Smart - Melissa Febos https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780312561024 Abandon Me: Memoirs - Melissa Febos https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781632866585 Tin House Summer Writing Workshop https://tinhouse.com/workshop/summer-workshop/
Bi Visibility Day - The Meta Episode
Happy Bi+ Visibility Day! It’s been more than a year since we started this project and we can’t believe how it’s grown. We talk about the history and importance of bisexual+ visibility and where we see the show going. We are also looking for a new theme song! Email is with thoughts, questions, and comments at hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com.
REFERENCES
- Bisexual Podcasts
- Huffpost LGBT History Month: Bisexual History video panel
- ‘Celebrate Bisexuality Day’ Exists Because of These Three LGBT Activists
- Bivisibilityday.com
- Brooklyn Community Pride Center
- Our Opinions are Correct
- Benjamin Alire Sáenz
- Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe
- Black Lives Matter
- Ex-Florida gubernatorial candidate Andrew Gillum says he identifies as bisexual
- Javicia Leslie Says It Feels 'Powerful' to Be the First Black Batwoman
- Marvel Just Revealed This Iconic X-Men Character Is BisexualMarvel Just Revealed This Iconic X-Men Character Is Bisexual
- Almost half of Britons don’t want their children to learn it’s OK to be gay, disturbing study finds
- Love, Simon author Becky Albertalli forced to come out as bisexual after weathering criticism for telling queer stories
- William Shakespeare was undeniably bisexual, researchers claim
- Rugby star Levi Davis comes out as bisexual: ‘I want people to feel they can be who they are’
- Disney Announced Its First Bisexual Lead In A TV Show And I'm Cuffing My Jeans In Excitement
- Confirm your voter registration: https://www.usa.gov/confirm-voter-registration
- Mail-in Ballot
- States with early voting
- Become a poll worker
Bi Appointment with Dr. Mimi
Bisexuals are more at risk for mental health problems than our straight, lesbian, and gay peers. Whatever your baseline was before the pandemic, it’s probable that your struggles are feeling a bit worse. In this episode, Annie and Rose spoke with Dr. Mimi Hoang, a nationally-recognized, bi-affirming psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the LGBTQ+ and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Dr. Mimi tells us about how to deal with isolation during quarantine, finding a therapist, and supporting those experiencing racial trauma.
REFERENCES
- Dr. Mimi Hoang http://drmimihoang.com/index.html https://www.facebook.com/DrMimiHoang/ https://www.instagram.com/drmimihoang/
- Los Angeles Bi Task Force https://labitaskforce.org/
- Fluid at UCLA https://www.facebook.com/fluiducla/
- BiNet USA http://www.binetusa.org/
- Ambi on Meetup https://www.meetup.com/pro/ambi
- Ambi https://www.ambi.org/
- Los Angeles Bi Taskforce https://labitaskforce.org/
- 2013 White House Bisexual Community Roundtable.https://www.glaad.org/blog/white-house-holds-bisexual-leaders-roundtable
- An Empirical Study into the Relationship between Bisexual Identity Congruence, Internalized Biphobia and Infidelity among Bisexual Women https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2011.545285
- Robin Ochs, the definition of bisexuality https://robynochs.com/bisexual/
- Tipping the Velvet by Sarah Waters https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781573227889
- Bi On Life http://www.drmimihoang.com/events-resources.html
The Biphobia Is Coming From Inside the House!
CAVEAT: wow the world is so much more of the world is on fire since we recorded this in April!
Timestamps
BiLights 44:00
Listener Mail 46:23
Bising Star 47:40
AdBice 49:00
References
Dr. Lauren Costine’s article on Internalized Phobias drlaurencostine.com/internalized-phobia/
Queer: a Graphic History by Meg-John Barker, Julia Scheele www.indiebound.org/book/9781785780714
Think Before You Speak PSAs (Rose was incorrect, this is not Ellen!) www.youtube.com/watch?v=qNWh2BgA_Cg
That little girl and her affirmations www.youtube.com/watch?v=-W727P7oJHU
TikTok Bisexuals (to get you warmed up) www.youtube.com/watch?v=oq-t6J5iCkI
Playing with Butler and Foucault: Bisexuality and Queer Theory, April S Callis doi.org/10.1080/15299710903316513
Auli'i Cravalho, Star of Disney's 'Moana,' Comes Out as Bisexual
www.out.com/celebs/2020/4/09/aulii-cravalho-star-disneys-moana-comes-bisexual
Marcelo Hernandez Castillo
www.marcelohernandezcastillo.com/ twitter.com/marcelo_H_
Queer Black Voices
Black Queer Folx, Organizations, and Advocates You Should Follow
Resources Marquise Mentioned
Thank you, Marquise!
- Black Trans-Led Organizations
- GLITS https://www.glitsinc.org/about
- Black Trans Femme in the Arts Collective https://www.instagram.com/btfacollective/
- The Okra Project https://www.theokraproject.com/
- The Black Trans Travel Fund https://www.blacktranstravelfund.com/
- Marsha P. Johnson Institute https://marshap.org/
- Transforming (if someone has a link, please share)
- Destination Tomorrow https://destinationtomorrow.org/
- Black Trans Media https://blacktransmedia.wixsite.com/blacktransmedia
- Black Trans TV https://www.blacktranstv.com/
- For the Gworls https://www.instagram.com/forthegworls
- Brooklyn Ghost Project https://brooklynghostproject.com/about-us
- Trans inclusive https://www.transinclusivegroup.org/
- Stealth bros company https://www.stealthbrosco.com/
Black Queer Content
- The Femme Queen Chronicles https://fqchronicles.com/
- Edens garden https://www.instagram.com/edensgardentv
- Pose https://www.fxnetworks.com/shows/pose
- Disclosure: Translives on screen http://www.disclosurethemovie.com/about
Those who you heard on the podcast
- Marquise Vilson Balenciaga @marquisevilson
- Jacq @Soovertherainbow
- Robyn Banks @ayorobynbanks
- @TheBlackBisexual
- Adonis BC @BlameslessQueerIcon
More Black Queer Folx, Orgs, Advocates
- Laverne Cox @lavernecox
- George M Johnson @iamgmjohnson
- Ericka Hart M.Ed. @hartericka
- Gabrielle Noel @GabAlexa
- Shove @FatGirlHasMoxi
- Samar Rodrigues, PhD @Dr_simplicity
- Ashlee Marie Preston @Ashleemariepreston
- Paula Akpan @Paulaskpan
- Amari @Amari_jay
- Vanessa Newman @Fiveboi
- Amber Hikes @dapper_stemme
- Annika Hasteen-Izora @Annika.Izora
- Autumn @Speakingofsex
- Jimanekia Jimanekia
- The National Black Justice Coalition (NBJC) @Nbjconthemove
- @Ukblackpride
- Trae Higgs @issatrae
- Bob/ Caldwell Tidicue @Bobthedragqueen
- Miss Pappermint @Peppermint247
- Janelle Monae @Janellemonae
- Tangina Stone @Stoneblu
- Brian Michael Smith @The_BrianMichael
- Megan Pamela Ruth Madison @Meganprmadison
- J. R. Yussuf @jryussuf
- Cicely Belle Blain @cicelybelle_xo
- George Lee @theconsciouslee
- Oliver Charles Christian @oliver.charles.christian
- Lexx Brown James @lexxsexdoc
- Nala Simone Toussaint @nalasimonet
- Ash Stephens https://transgenderlawcenter.org/about/staff-and-board/ash-stephens
- Erica Chidi @ericachidi
- Jayla Roxx @whoisjaylarox
- Latavia Goldson @fantasiaroyalegaga
- @hotmessbian
- Isis @gahdess_isis
- Zaya Wade @zayawade
- Shea Diamond @iamsheadiamond
- J MASE III @jmaseiii
- Rachel Ricketts @iamrachelricketts
- Black Queer Nation @blackqueernation
- Black Queer Power @blackqueerpower
We love you. Stay healthy. Stay in touch: hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com, @hellogoodbis on Instagram
Black Lives Matter
Hello Good Bi's full statement:
The bisexual community would be nowhere without our Black leaders, who since the inception of the LGBT rights movement have fought for our justice and equality, to live and love in peace. The police, who for their entire existence, have murdered Black people without consequence, protect and serve only themselves and white supremacy as an institution. The system that puts police in a position to murder Black people is not broken. It was intentionally designed to reinforce white supremacist power structures, and it must be dismantled. Additionally, Black transgender people face disproportionate rates of fatal violence, which often go unnoticed by media and unprosecuted by law enforcement. We want to be extremely clear: Black lives matter, Black trans lives matter.
Because identity, trauma, and grief are often discussed on this show, and because we so often advocate for communication as a healthy method for expressing emotions, we wanted to open our airwaves to Black members of the LBGTQ community, to say what you need to say in this moment. If you have something to say to us and/or the bisexual community that listens to this show, send an MP3 or wav audio file to hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com.
Stay strong and safe.
Bi-ence
There’s nothing hotter than talking about research and data! Annie and Rose get steamy and talk about how attraction is measured, how it’s funded, and why it matters. Spoiler alert: the data that exists about bisexual people might impact you more than you think. Did we miss something or you want to compliment us? Write to us at HelloGoodBis42069@gmail.com or on Instagram @HelloGoodBis.
*Note: this episode was recorded before the stay at home orders.
Timestamps
Measuring Sexual Attraction 3:37 - 9:23
Bisexuality in Animals 9:23 - 16:19
What It Matters 16:19 - 30:20
Funding 30:20 - 34:33
Media Coverage 36:40 - 37:30
Resources 37:30 - 43:53
Bilights 44:04 - 54:19
Bising Stars 54:19 -56:20
Call for Adbice 56:20
References
Conceptualizing and measuring perceptions of sexual attractiveness: Are there differences across gender and sexual orientation? https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886914007077#!
Why the Census Needs to Ask People About Their LGBTQ Identity https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/d75gpj/why-the-census-needs-to-ask-people-about-their-lgbtq-identity
Queering the Census https://www.thetaskforce.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Guide-to-the-2020-Census-An-Introduction.pdf
Accessing the US census from abroad using a US VPN https://protonvpn.com/
Eva Bloom (What’s My Body Doing) bi-weekly newsletter for $3 a month https://www.patreon.com/WhatsMyBodyDoing
Journal of Bisexuality https://www.tandfonline.com/toc/wjbi20/current
Genetics and Bisexuality, Nature https://serval.unil.ch/resource/serval:BIB_2EEA1639DF3B.P001/REF.pdf
Homosexual Activity Among Animals Stirs Debate, National Geographic https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/2004/07/homosexual-animals-debate/
Bisexual Species: Unorthodox Sex in the Animal Kingdom, Scientific American https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/bisexual-species/
https://www.apa.org/pi/lgbt/resources/bisexual
The American Institute of Bisexuality http://www.americaninstituteofbisexuality.org/
BiNet USA http://www.binetusa.org/
Bisexual.org https://bisexual.org/
Bisexual Resource Center (BRC) https://biresource.org/
Bi Visibility Day http://www.bivisibilityday.com/
The Unicorn Scale: The Bold Type https://bi.org/en/articles/the-unicorn-scale-the-bold-type
‘Love is Blind’ star Carlton Morton sparks suicide fears after bisexuality backlash https://thegrio.com/2020/03/05/love-is-blind-carlton-morton-instagram/
National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-8255
Zoe Kravitz Is a Hot Bisexual Mess in “High Fidelity” — and That’s Revolutionary https://www.autostraddle.com/zoe-kravtiz-is-a-hot-bisexual-mess-in-high-fidelity-and-thats-revolutionary/
Out bisexual runner at
1-800-LETS-KICK-IT
Proper. Is an afropunk band from Brooklyn, NY. Annie and Rose are joined by frontman, Erik Garlington, to talk about his experiences growing up a bisexual, black, atheist in the bible belt and how it’s shaped his music.
Caveat! We recorded this before the pandemic. So please note, we are all social distancing and not encouraging folks to go out to venues etc. We ARE encouraging you to support Proper. and other local, queer, BIPOC artists however you can (like, follows, buying merch, donations).
Follow Proper. on all the things!
- Likerealproper.com
- https://open.spotify.com/artist/07fRiLziB7HEpoJippeKdK
- https://twitter.com/likerealproper
- https://www.youtube.com/c/Properlikerealproper
- https://www.instagram.com/likerealproper/
- https://www.facebook.com/likerealproper
Erik's Shoutouts:
- Mint Green https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/
- Alfred. https://classicalfredosauce.bandcamp.com/
- Cloudwalker https://www.facebook.com/Cloudwalker-Music-Group-314958550437/
- Party Fridge https://partyfridge.bandcamp.com/releases
Real Queer Politics
Are you super confused by Super Tuesday? We've got your back. We review the LGBTQ rights voting history of US Presidential hopefuls, how you can research candidates, and getting involved Email us ahellogoodbis42069@gmail.com or follow us on Instagram at @HelloGoodBis.
- Here's Every 2020 Democrat's History on LGBTQ Rights https://splinternews.com/heres-every-2020-democrats-history-on-lgbtq-rights-1833721959
- Rep. Gabbard apologizes, again, for past anti-gay views https://www.aol.com/article/news/2019/01/17/rep-gabbard-apologizes-again-for-past-anti-gay-views/23645741/?guccounter=1
- Tracking administration / candidates https://www.glaad.org/tap/donald-trump https://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/congressional-scorecard https://www.hrc.org/resources/congressional-scorecard https://www.aclu.org/scorecard/
- Candidates’ voting record here: https://justfacts.votesmart.org/ or https://ballotpedia.org/
- Current Congress person https://www.govtrack.us/
- Opinions / actions https://www.ontheissues.org/
- Campaigns’ financial records: https://www.fec.gov/data/
- Local issues: https://www.vote411.org/ballot or https://www.ballotready.org/
- LGBT political news: https://www.lgbtqnation.com/
- Register to vote https://vote.gov/
- 1 in 5 LGBTQ adults isn’t registered to vote https://www.marketwatch.com/story/1-in-5-lgbtq-adults-isnt-registered-to-vote-despite-high-2020-stakes-2019-10-11
- Tennessee allows adoption agencies to ban gay & lesbian parents https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2020/01/tennessee-passes-bill-allow-adoption-agencies-ban-gay-lesbian-parents/
- Changes to LGBTQ-related web content under the Trump Administration https://sunlightfoundation.com/2019/11/21/new-web-integrity-project-report-documents-changes-to-lgbtq-related-web-content-under-the-trump-administration/
- House Democrats call for ICE to release transgender detainees https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2020/01/house-democrats-call-ice-release-transgender-detainees-inhumane-facilities/
- A Trump advisor on conversion therapy https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2020/01/trump-advisor-told-lesbian-teen-considering-suicide-get-conversion-therapy/
- Evelyn Mantilla https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evelyn_Mantilla
- Vaneet Mehta https://www.instagram.com/nintendomad888/
Bi Our Valentine: With Two Bi Guys
It's Valentine's Day and love is in the air-- and on the air waves! We got together with Rob and Alex, co-hosts and creators of a podcast we love. If you haven't listened to Two Bi Guys, what are you waiting for? Actually, finish this episode first and then go binge their first season. We talk about bisexuality, podcasting, and asked the guys listener questions. Want to submit questions for future guests? Follow us on @HelloGoodBis on Instagram to hear the latest or email us at hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com to tell us what you think of the episode!
SPOILER ALERT
50:06 - 52:00 Rose spoils Atypical
REFERENCES
Two Bi Guys
- Website https://www.twobiguys.com/
- Instagram https://www.instagram.com/twobiguys/
- Twitterhttps://twitter.com/twobiguys
Bi Request NYC http://www.birequest.org/
Slutever episode about bisexual men https://video.vice.com/en_us/video/bisexual-men-1-774/5c0a974ebe407728f37431ce
They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780062457806
Drop the Bi-eat
Looking for the perfect song to subtly hint to your crush that you’ve caught feelings takes on an added challenge when you don’t know any queer tunes! Rose and Annie toiled all night working on the perfect mix just for you. In this episode, we talk about why bisexual representation in music matters and some of our favorite bisexual musicians and songs. Did we miss anything vital? Send us a tune to hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com or on Instagram to @HelloGoodBis.
References and show notes were too long to fit in this description! Here you go: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1nR-cJTQKK-DHHap4Abn5nD8gs2TnEEks6BzZdm22obw/
TIMESTAMPS
BiSexual Artists 21:00
Bilights 1:02:46
Bi History 1:15:45
Bising Stars 1:18:46
Call for AdBice1:22:16
New Queer, New You
We’ll miss saying "20-bi-teen," but we're excited to embrace the New Year! Lots of folks like to set resolutions, but do they work? How can you make them more effective? What about making a queer resolution? Rose and Annie dive into the internet and each other’s minds to help you select and set your goals (Uhm, keeping them is on you…).
Did we miss something? Wanna share your resolution? Email us at hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com or follow us on Instagram @HelloGoodBis.
REFERENCES
- History of New Years Resolutions https://www.history.com/news/the-history-of-new-years-resolutions
- Some Stats on Effectiveness of Resolutions https://www.inc.com/peter-economy/10-top-new-years-resolutions-for-success-happiness-in-2019.html
- Yup, people vote the most during the presidential election https://www.fairvote.org/voter_turnout#voter_turnout_101
- Our coming out episode is #3 called The Good The Bi and the Ugly https://anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/episodes/The-Good--The-Bi--The-Ugly-Coming-Out-e4so7t
- Sober Pride Resources https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/7xgevd/how-to-party-at-pride-if-youre-sober https://myslutbox.com/out-proud-sober-how-to-have-fun-at-pride-without-liquor/
- Straight Edge https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Straight_edge
- Our episode about finding someone to love is #10 called Dating Bi-os https://anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/episodes/Dating-Bi-os-e9ad2k
- When Brooklyn Was Queer (the book Annie forgot the name of) https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781250169914
- Clementine Morrigan, physical consent https://www.instagram.com/clementinemorrigan
- Figure skater Amber Glenn comes out as bisexual/pansexual: ‘I don’t want to hide who I am’ ’https://www.outsports.com/2019/12/17/21024753/amber-glenn-figure-skating-bisexual-pansexual-olympics-texas-team-usa
- Former MMA Fighter Jason Ellis: Let Bi Men Like Me Into the Community https://www.advocate.com/commentary/2019/12/10/former-mma-fighter-jason-ellis-let-bi-men-me-community
- Saying Bi, Bi, Bi to a Decade of Increased Bi+ Visibility https://www.hrc.org/blog/saying-bi-bi-bi-to-a-decade-of-increased-bi-visibility
- Vaping ads often target bisexual women of color, study finds https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/vaping-ads-often-target-bisexual-women-of-color-study-finds-130533558.html
- Quit Like a Woman, Holly Whitaker https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781984825056
- The UK has elected the ‘gayest parliament in the world’: 8% say they’re gay or bisexual https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/the-uk-ha-elected-the-gayest-parliament-in-the-world-8-say-theyre-gay-or-bisexual
- What you need to know about the Olivia Nicole Duffin TikTok biphobia drama https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a30292626/olivia-nicole-duffin-tik-tok-biphobia-ex-boyfriend-liam-casey/
- Julie d’Aubigny https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Julie_d%27Aubigny
- Two Bi Guys https://www.twobiguys.com/
- Jen Winston http://instagram.com/jenerous
TIME STAMPS
Our Resolutions 00:49
How to Set Resolutions 9:13
History of Resolutions 12:08
Uh, Do Resolutions Work? 14:55
How to Keep On Track 15:49
Queer Resolutions 19:11
Listener Mail 39:56
Bilights (Bisexual News) 41:18
Bi History 46:04
Adbice 50:18
The Bi-rds and the Bees
Getting Bi-sy
Have you ever Googled “how to do sex?” If the answer is yes, have we got a podcast for you! In this episode, Rose and Annie explore getting consent, having pleasurable sex, and the public school system that failed to teach them how to do either. Together, they discuss what constitutes sex and share some explicit sex acts you can do with your partner (and how to make sure everyone's consenting). Want to tell us about the sex acts we missed (but in a totally non-pervy way)? Email us at HelloGoodBis42069@gmail.com or slide into our DMs over on Instagram @HelloGoodBis.
TIMESTAMPS
Consent 17:30
Sex Education 25:00
EXPLICIT SEX ACTIONS 38:10
Protection and STI Testing 1:12:15
Bilights (Bisexual News) 1:20:23
Bising Stars 1:24:47
Adbice 1:28:27
Dating Bi-os
There comes a time in every bisexual’s life when you’ll ask yourself: what do I normally do with my hands and are they always this sweaty? This my friends is called a crush. Join Annie and Rose as they talk about all things attraction, flirtation, and dating! From matching online to meeting IRL, saying “I love you” to ending things--we answer some of the questions you had about how to pursue the one you want. Did we get anything wrong? Let us know by emailing us at HelloGoodBis42069@gmail.com and follow us on Instagram @HelloGoodBis.
RESOURCES
- A Smart Girl’s Guide to Boys https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Girls-Guide-Boys/dp/1584853689
- Stevie Boebi, “How to Compliment Girls” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ByGp5e6RVoc
- Old Guard apps: Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Hinge, Match
- Queer Apps: Grindr, Her, Scruff, Chappy
- About angel shots: https://www.businessinsider.com/angel-shots-help-women-on-bad-dates-2017-1
- Dear Therapist: I’m Afraid My Boyfriend’s Sexuality Will End Our Relationship https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/11/im-worried-my-boyfriend-is-gay/601231/
- Regan Gascoigne, son of football legend Paul Gascoigne, just came out as bisexual https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2019/11/04/regan-gascoigne-paul-gascoine-bisexual-coming-out-football/
- Ad appearing to attack Democratic City-County Council candidate draws ire on social media https://www.indystar.com/story/news/politics/elections/2019/10/28/election-2019-ad-appears-to-attack-lgbtq-council-candidate/2485034001/
- Director Desiree Akhavan Is Flipping the Script on Coming-Out Stories https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/j538gy/desiree-akhavan-the-bisexual-interview
- Kori Michele, Let’s Talk About Bisexuality https://korimichele.myportfolio.com/lets-talk-about-bisexuality
TIMESTAMPS
How do I approach someone IRL? 28:06
Knowing when they aren’t interested 32:04
How to spot a queer in the wild / How to show off that i’m queer 35:00
Connecting online 37:35
Taking it offline 45:11
Ending a date 51:31
Rejecting someone and getting rejected 1:00:31
What if everything works out? 1:09:31
Weekly Bilights (bisexual news) 1:12:38
Bising Stars (queer people we like) 1:17:09
Call for AdBice 1:19:55
On the Bi-g Screen
TV and movies surround us from a young age, shaping our understanding of the world and our expectations of others. Annie and Rose explore their first exposure to bisexual characters, the history of bisexuality on the bi screen, why representation matters, and what TV and movies get right (er… more often wrong). Tell us who we missed by writing to hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com and follow us on Instagram @HelloGoodBis.
SPOILERS
Sex and the City | 5:39 - 12:03, 19:40 - 20:18
Dr. Who | 14:10 - 17:40
Grey’s Anatomy | 36:14 - 36:56
Madame Secretary | 37:56 - 38:20
Buffy the Vampire Slayer | 38:28 - 40:25
Broad City | 40:31 - 43:58
I Might Regret This - Abbi Jacobson | 42:25 - 43:05
Insecure | 44:00 - 46:00
A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila | 46:00 - 47:15
The OC | 47:15 - 48:40
Brooklyn 99 | 48:53 - 49:09
The Good Wife | 49:09 - 49:37
House of Cards | 49:37 - 49:49
Insatiable | 49:49 - 50:27
The Politician | 50:27 - 50:53
Crazy Ex Girlfriend | 50:53 - 52:05
Game of Thrones | 52:05 - 52:15
Killing Eve | 52:15 - 52:43
The Bisexual | 52:43 - 53:16
Big Mouth | 53:16 - 53:25
True Blood | 53:25 - 53: 45
House | 53:25 - 54:00
Bones | 54:00 54:28
Orange is the New Black | 54:28 54:46
Friends | 54:46 - 55:12
How I Met Your Mother | 55:12 - 55:30
The Good Place | 55:30 - 55:28
Chilling Adventures of Sabrina the Teenage Witch | 55:28 - 55:43
Sakura Cardcaptors | 55:43 - 55:59}
Family Guy | 55:59 - 56:09
Bob’s Burgers | 56:09 - 56:48
Thor: Ragnorok & The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo | 57:57- 58:00
Atomic Blonde | 58:00 - 58:45
Rocky Horror | 58:45 - 58:53
500 Days of Summer | 58:53 - 58:57
Scott Pilgrim vs. the World | 58:57 - 59:04
Chasing Amy | 59:04 - 1:00:25
Cabaret 1:00:25 - 1:00:55
The Comedian | 1:01:04
Jennifer’s Body 1:01:04 - 1:03:35
RESOURCES
Jenny Bick’s twitter for you to get at her https://twitter.com/JennyBicks
Podcast About Matthew Shepard
GLBTQ Archive History of Bisexuality of Cinema http://www.glbtqarchive.com/arts/bisex_film_A.pdf
This podacast helped form Rose’s opinion of Jennifer’s Body https://anchor.fm/girls-guts--giallo/episodes/Jennifers-Body-2009-e5148r/a-ankm3m
TIMESTAMPS
Our First Times & Why Representation Matters 5:00
Brief History of Bisexuality in Cinema 26:56
Traps & Troupes 30:13
Examples of Bisexual 36:14
Rampant Speculation of Bi Characters 1:03:40
Bi-lights (Bi news) 1:06:17
Bi-sing Stars (Queer people we like) 1:10:34
AdBice (Advice) 1:15:32
Days Gone Bi
Join Rose and Annie as we hop in the TARDIS, take the DeLorean up to 88, and spin our time turners to take a look back at bisexual throughout history and the evolution of bisexuality in general. Want to tell us what we got right, wrong, should talk about next? Email us at hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com or leave us a voice message anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/message.
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REFERENCES
- International Pronouns Day https://pronounsday.org/
- https://www.bustle.com/articles/40282-a-brief-history-of-bisexuality-from-ancient-greece-and-the-kinsey-scale-to-lindsay-lohan
- https://www.theguardian.com/music/2010/oct/11/two-spirit-people-north-america
- https://radicalbi.files.wordpress.com/2012/12/bisexuality-in-psychoanalytic-theory.pdf
- https://kinseyinstitute.org/research/publications/historical-report-diversity-of-sexual-orientation.php
- https://www.cnn.com/2015/06/19/us/lgbt-rights-milestones-fast-facts/index.html
- https://thestonewallinnnyc.com/
- https://www.them.us/story/brenda-howard
- http://www.glbtqarchive.com/ssh/bisex_movements_S.pdf
- Donny The Punk’s obituary http://www.columbia.edu/cu/gables/hiv/mem/donaldson.html
- More examples of bisexuals in the LGBTQ equality movement https://bi.org/en/articles/the-bisexual-warriors-of-the-gay-movement
- Bisexual Chic https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/psychology-yesterday/201308/bisexual-chic-0
- Bisexual Men & HIV in 1980s http://www.binetusa.org/bihealth.html
- Bisexual Women & Radical Feminism https://books.google.com/books?id=XS_SnVPixE8C&pg=PA82&lpg=PA82&dq=%22bisexual+feminism%22&source=bl&ots=n32nIC-3XC&sig=h7jkH9Tq2dtkR0gs9Q7hmvNMzZ4&hl=en&sa=X&ei=zrdsUIKQLeWC0QHKqYHwAQ&ved=0CDAQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q&f=false
- SCOTUS Hears Two Cases on Workplace Discrimination Based on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity https://constitutioncenter.org/blog/supreme-court-hears-two-major-cases-today-on-title-vii-and-discrimination
- LGBTQ Townhall https://www.cnn.com/2019/10/01/politics/bernie-sanders-cnn-lgbtq-town-hall/index.html
- Securing LGBTQ+ Rights and Equality, Elizabeth Warren’s plan https://elizabethwarren.com/plans/lgbtq-equality
- RuPaul’s Drag Race: Scaredy Kat was ‘terrified’ because he’s not gay https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/e076a58f-862a-4c2b-b803-4a25b5dcb1e5
- Big Mouth Pansexuality vs Bisexuality Episode Stumbles Over Itself https://www.advocate.com/television/2019/10/07/big-mouth-pansexuality-vs-bisexuality-episode-stumbles-over-itself
- Fans Think the Lyrics to Harry Styles' New Song "Lights Up" Mean He's Part of the LGBTQ+ Community https://www.seventeen.com/celebrity/music/a29441076/harry-styles-lights-out-lyrics-meaning/
- Amid 'Kill the Gays' bill uproar, Ugandan LGBTQ activist is killed https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/amid-kill-gays-bill-uproar-ugandan-lgbtq-activist-killed-n1067336
- Lily Singh https://people.com/tv/youtuber-lilly-singh-comes-out-bisexual/
- BiRCH https://biresource.org/research-spotlight-bisexual-research-collaborative-on-health-birch/
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TIMESTAMPS
Pronoun Day 4:06
Early Bisexuality and Psychology 6:49
Bisexuals in LGBTQ History 26:04
Bilights (Bisexual News) 46:49
Bising Stars (Queer People We Like) 56:30
Call for Adbice (Advice Please) 1:00:45
Getting Bi
It’s Mental Health Awareness Week! Join Annie and Rose while they share statistics about the mental health struggles bisexuals face, the methods they use to triage and maintain mental health, tips for finding and talking to a mental health professional, and their personal experiences with mental illness and binge drinking. Want to tell us what we got right, wrong, should talk about next? Email us at hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com or leave us a voice message anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/message.
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SHOW NOTES
- Human Rights Campaign, Health Disparities Among Bisexual People https://assets2.hrc.org/files/assets/resources/HRC-BiHealthBrief.pdf?_ga=2.53224940.598958789.1570762481-844289680.1566911533
- Lack of support among LGBTQ people who lose a partner https://www.lgbthealtheducation.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Suicide-Risk-and-Prevention-for-LGBTQ-Patients-Brief.pdf
- Homeslessness among LGBTQ population https://biresource.org/caring-for-bisexual-homeless-youth/
- NYC’s Mental Health First Aid Training https://www1.nyc.gov/site/doh/health/health-topics/mental-health-first-aid.page
- UC Davis list of LGBTQ hotlines https://lgbtqia.ucdavis.edu/support/hotlines
- Gay and Lesbian National Hotline 1-888-843-4564 Mon–Fri, 4 pm–12 am EST
- Trevor Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-850-8078
- National Runaway Hotline 1-800-231-6946
- Bisexuality-Aware Professional Directory https://www.bizone.org/bap/baplist.php?category=Therapists
- https://www.pridecounseling.com
- Psychology.com use their sexuality filter
- National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) https://www.nami.org/find-support/lgbtq
- A Teenager Killed Himself After Being Outed as Bisexual. His Family Wants Justice. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/30/us/channing-smith-suicide-bisexual-tennessee.html
- Jeffrey Gibson https://www.jeffreygibson.net/
- Nobody Promised You Tomorrow: Art 50 Years After Stonewall https://www.brooklynmuseum.org/exhibitions/stonewall
- Monstrous Regiment Publishing https://www.monstrous-regiment.com/
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TIMESTAMPS
Hot stats 1:31
Annie’s personal mental health triage 13:44
Reddit user’s tips for mental health maintenance 19:52
Talking to someone who is struggling 23:23
Where to seek help (hotlines and resources) 29:50
Finding and vetting a therapist 31:30
How to approach therapy 39:30
Rose stops drinking (on sobriety) 47:25
Listener shoutouts 57:50
Weekly Bilights (Bisexual News) 58:29 B
ising Stars: Queer People We Like 1:01:45
Call for Adbice 1:04:54
To All the Bis I've Loved Before
Have you ever wondered what it's like to date a bisexual person? We sure did, so we invited our significant others to talk about what it's like, how they learned we're bi, what their communities think, and to share advice for folks learning their partner is bisexual. Send us your questions and comments to hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com or leave us a voice memo https://anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/message
Shownotes
- Test Buddies podcast (with Annie and Dylan) https://testbuddies.myportfolio.com/
- This Checklist will Determine your “Straight Number” https://www.buzzfeed.com/mjs538/how-straight-are-you-you-get-one-point-for-each-o
- How gay are you? https://www.buzzfeed.com/tomphillips/how-gay-are-you
- What is “hang loose?” https://media.giphy.com/media/ceK5e0DXc7Zh6/giphy.gif
- Terminology Episode, where we mention other scales/tests https://anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/episodes/BiLingual-e51od7
- Bisexuality Week (I can’t find documentation that it’s month) https://www.glaad.org/biweek2019
- Bivisibility Day http://www.bivisibilityday.com/
- Ryan Russel’s coming out letter https://www.espn.com/nfl/story/_/id/27484719/no-distractions-nfl-veteran-opens-sexuality
- Bella Thorn’s biphobic boyfriend https://www.latintimes.com/bella-thornes-italian-boyfriend-would-welcome-third-party-bedroom-439977
- Mae Martin https://www.maemartin.net/
- The Bisexual Chair, Ma Matiazi & Israel Walker https://www.facebook.com/israel.walker.90475/posts/191655611831394
- Blake Moran on Madam Secretary http://greginhollywood.com/blake-moran-comes-out-as-bisexual-to-his-boss-in-touching-scene-on-madam-secretary-144815
- Lil’ Nas X https://pitchfork.com/news/lil-nas-x-comes-out-as-gay/
- Allyship episode https://anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/episodes/BiStanders-e58gp2
Timestamps
Sexuality Quizzes 4:15
Q&A: Dating a bisexual person 10:30
Bisexual Visibility Month & Day 37:30
Weekly Blights (bisexual news) 39:35
Bising Stars 43:55
Call for Adbice 50:15
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT! Bi Visibility Day Potluck
Hello Good Bis! We're hosting a Bisexual Visibility Day Potluck at the Brooklyn Pride Center on Monday, September 23rd from 6:30 to 8:00pm. Join us at 1360 Fulton St, Brooklyn, NY 11216 and bring some food to share. Everyone is welcome.
BiStanders
Don’t just be a BiStander, but an ally to the LGBTQIA+ community! But what makes someone a good ally? Annie and Rose discuss how to build you good ally tool kit, actions that flex the good ally muscle, and ways your actions can have an impact! Specific questions are discussed at the timestamps below. Email us your comments, thoughts, stories at hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com or leave us a message at https://anchor.fm/hellogoodbis/message.
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John Wick plot. Also, maybe the Matrix…
::::: SOURCES:::::
- All your subs are belong to us: https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/, https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/, https://www.reddit.com/r/ainbow/, https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/, https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexualadults/, https://www.reddit.com/r/AskLGBT/, https://www.reddit.com/r/queer/, https://www.reddit.com/r/LGBTQ/
- Autostraddle https://www.autostraddle.com/
- Pink News https://www.pinknews.co.uk/
- Pride Media https://www.pridemedia.com/
- Other LGBTQ news Outlets https://lmgtfy.com/?q=lgbtq+news+outlets
- @JessicaOutOfTheCloset https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDdi0yUyGW1PKzYXaIACnuA
- Stevie Boebi https://www.youtube.com/user/SassiBoB
- Bihistory instagram https://www.instagram.com/bihistory/
- PFLAG General https://pflag.org/ Advocacy 101 https://pflag.org/advocacy-101 Tips for parents https://pflag.org/blog/parents-quick-tips-supporting-your-lgbtq-kids-and-yourself-during-coming-out-process
- Voting Check that you’re registered https://www.vote.org/am-i-registered-to-vote/ Register to vote https://www.vote.org/register-to-vote/ Election reminders https://www.vote.org/election-reminders/ Find your polling place https://www.vote.org/polling-place-locator/ Registered somewhere that you aren’t physically? Know the absentee rules and deadlines https://www.vote.org/absentee-voting-rules/
- Professor Ken Yoshino's Epistemic Contract of Bisexual Erasure http://www.kenjiyoshino.com/articles/epistemiccontract.pdf
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How do I respond when someone comes out to me? 5:45
How can I show support when I think someone is queer, but they haven’t come out to me? 13:50
How can I learn about the queer experience in general? 18:50
Letter from an ally 24:34
Can I ask about someone's personal experiences? 28:50
How can I support my people every day? 30:30
How to take down the haters 36:00
Get involved / support community / resources for allies 42:30
I think I messed up. What do I do? 50:05
Shout out to listeners 54:50
BiLights (bi news) 56:10
History and Bising Stars 60:14
Call for AdBice 65:12
BiLingual
The Good, The Bi, The Ugly: Coming Out
In this very special episode, Rose and Annie share their coming out stories. What did they do well and what did they totally mess up? What would they do differently if they could do it all again? They share facts and tips about coming out as bisexual, highlight bisexual history, discuss queer people they like, and ponder if Hilary Duff could be next week’s Bising Star. Email us your coming out story, questions, suggestions, comments, and shit we got wrong at HelloGoodBis42069@gmail.com.
- Pew Research on Bisexuality and Coming Out
- Bisexual Resource Center
- Murder Mystery Parties you can adapt for your own coming out party
- PLFAG
- @BiHistory Instagram
- Bi News - Valkyrie is Bi
- Tessa Thompson on sexuality and Janelle Monáe
- For your viewing pleasure, Janelle Monáe’s Make Me Feel music video, featuring Tessa Thompson (a bisexual anthem and hot video)
- It’s Radish Time, Taylor Behnke
- Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution, Shiri Eisner
- Hilary Duff is straight, but opened-minded
- Megan Fox is Bisexual, thank the lord
Timestamps
Facts about Coming Out 2:10
Rose’s Coming Out 11:57
Annie’s Coming Out 22:12
Tips for Coming Out 34:29
Bisexual History & News 39:06
Bising Stars! 41:06
Hello, Goodvice! 43:35
BI-LD'S PLAY
Join Annie and Rose as they revisit how queerness is expressed in childhood (even when you don't recognize it), explore how feeling outcast compounds internalized misogyny, share the latest in bisexual news, highlight some of their favorite queer artists, and ask for your help!
Show Notes
- Car Seat Headrest’s Bandcamp
- Kate Leth’s instagram
- Rose’s formative ice skating video
- Revolutionary Girl Utena intro
Please email us with questions, thoughts, feelings, topics we should cover, and shit we got wrong: hellogoodbis42069@gmail.com.
In the Bi-ginning
Join Annie and Rose as they provide context about the bisexual experience. In this episode we'll get to know the hosts (try not to fall in love), discuss the lack of bisexual representation in media (and why it matters), highlight some of our favorite queer artists, and touch on many of the issues surrounding bisexuality that we want to explore.