How To Be Queer

Happy Lesbian Visibility Week, HTBQers!

So you caught feels for your bestie, maybe they did too? Are sparks flying between ya'll but you don't want to ruin your friendship. We've all been there, and we do mean all of us, falling for a friend is, at this point a rite of passage, but unlike a lot of our hetero-counterparts, it doesn't have to end friendships and it doesn't have to end up as a relationship either.

Join Sam and Kellum in the second episode in our How To Be Queer: After Dark series, our semi-monthly spicy🔥series, where Sam and Kellum will be discussing some spicy topics of How To Be Queer!!
Stay tuned next month for a juicy one 🧃

This episode is rated 🌶️ 🌶️ / 🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️

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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 10 of this beautiful season!!
We are back in the swing of things with biweekly episodes, which means that you will hear from us again on February 28, because gd it is a leap year!
So glad you are here on this journey, with us and we have so much to share with you this season. We appreciate you so much

XOXO

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This week we have an extra special guest episode: this time with the one and only ECHO!! Echo (they/them) is a nonbinary, queer student who is navigating the world as a young Gen Z and trying their best to be their self and get through high school. But we wanted to hear all about that journey, and about what makes them tick!

We met Echo through the Arts Jam program that safeword (you remember Brandon from episode 40?) put on in summer of 2022. While we were there, we met Echo and thought it would be so cool to talk to them about their experience and their art and what they have to say and share. And here we finally are! Long time in the making, a queer convo with Echo!!!

We hope you enjoy the episode! Let us know what you think: drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at

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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 9 of this beautiful season!! We are back in the swing of things with biweekly episodes. So, our next episode will air on February 14th (do you smell that love in the air? I think it's how much HTBQ loves u)! We have so much in store for you and cannot WAIT to share it! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much

XOXO

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WE'RE BAAAAAAAAACK!

A panel of three, and it's all your fave hosts!! Today we are talking to each other about our holiday experiences, and also about our new queer resolutions/vibe checks.

WATCH OUT 2023! HTBQ is coming to getcha!

We hope you enjoy the episode! Let us know what you think: drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at

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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 8 of this beautiful season!! This is the first episode of 2023, coming back at you with biweekly episodes. So, our next episode will air on January 31st and we will be discussing our vision for 2023 for HTBQl! We have so much in store for you and cannot WAIT to share it! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much

XOXO

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Hey y'all, welcome back for the mid-season finale of season 4!

A panel of three, and it's all your fave hosts!! We have come together for one last podcast episode of 2022 to send you off into the holigays with some gorgeous tips on how to get through and thrive!! :)

For our last episode, Sam, Chris, and Kellum decided they wanted to discuss what they are doing for the holigays, what the season looks like for them, and how they survive the difficult times. Queerness and holidays don't always mix, and some of us at HTBQ know that better than others. But regardless, it is a time to celebrate you and your family, whatever family looks like to you. So whether you are with birthed or adoptive or foster family, or with chosen or circumstantial family, celebrate and know that we are with you every step of the way! We love you so much!!

We hope you enjoy the episode! Let us know what you think: drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at

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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 7 of this beautiful season!! This is the last episode of 2022, our mid-season finale, if you will. We will be taking a quick hiatus, and will be returning to your feeds bigger and better than ever on January 17th!! We have so much in store for you and cannot WAIT to share it! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much

XOXO

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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode five of season 4!

This week we have a panel of two because of food poisoning. But it's totally alright!! Because now you get to experience the joys of listening to the incredible amazing voices of Kellum and Sam!! You still get an episode because we still have hosts in the event of illness :)

Recently, while Sam was just minding her own business, she heard someone say "if my child is queer, I will need some time as a parent" and she was like I KNOW HTBQ NEEDS TO DISCUSS!!! So she brought it to the table this week! Kellum and Sam dive in and discuss the thoughts behind what it means to come out to given family, and the grace or grieving that some talk about needing. They also look at how they represent their queerness in daily life, and compare it with their past, look at how many times and how they have come out, and also look at how their queer journey has evolved and continues to evolve to this very day!

We hope you enjoy the episode! Let us know what you think: drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at

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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 5 of this beautiful season!! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much

XOXO

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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode four of season 4 - Halloweeeeeeeen edition!!

This week we have a panel of four - Sam, Chris, Kellum, and our special guest, Old Hollywood Correspondent, Max Mosher!

We get into some sp00ky territory this week, discussing all things horror! We ask Max some important questions, like 'why is horror queer?' and 'why do we love it so much?' and 'what's ur fave movies?'. We also talk about camp (no, not the outdoors kind, the gay kind) and its place in the horror genre. You are in for a treat with this one y'all. It's simply sp00ktacular!!

We hope you enjoy the episode! Let us know what you think: drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at

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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and thanks for tuning in on an irregular day!! We wanted to treat you this week, no tricks!! An early episode to get you some queer content for ur ears this Halloween day 2022. Hope it gives you a fright!!

XOXO

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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode three of season 4!

This week we have a panel of two because of scheduling conflicts, but this may happen with three of us. But it's totally alright!! Because if it does, you still get an episode because we still have hosts :)

Tomorrow (October 19th) is Pronoun Day, a day to celebrate the fact that people are in charge of their own pronouns. Pronouns are part of gender expression and tell the world how you feel you fit into the giant human social construct that is gender. Pronouns rock because they allow us to feel seen, especially when people use the pronouns that fit our truth. And that's what Kellum and Chris talk about today - how did they come to understand their pronouns, what is their relationship to pronoun usage, and some tips for everyone. Also, some other random gender stuff is discussed.

We hope you enjoy the episode! Let us know what you think: drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at

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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 3 of this beautiful season!! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much

XOXO

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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode two!

This week, we went interview style, but looked for our guest from within the inner HTBQ circle - Chris! Yes, that's right, Chris takes the hot seat and answers questions from Kellum and Sam, with the conversation orbiting around Chris' experience with and intimate knowledge of education! For context, Chris currently works in a secondary school in Ontario and is the department head of social sciences. Chris is also currently working toward a Master in Social Justice Education, so a lot of equity is discussed. Other topics include: How does Chris run their classroom? How did the pandemic change things? What is going on with teens these days?

Let us know how you like us interviewing from within - wanna hear more about us? Drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at 

hello@howtobequeer.ca!

Uh huh! Yep! We have email. I mean we did last season too, but we thought we would bring it up again in case you forgot.

We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 2 of this beautiful season!!

XOXO

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Hey y'all, welcome to our grand opening!

We have returned for a healthy season 4, with lots of tasty morsels for you to enjoy! This week, we went roundtable style for a Styles-centred conversation, because there are few hotter queer icons right now. Harry Styles certainly has been making headlines recently, and caught the attention of the gays a long time ago while he was still in 1D with some of his first mentions he might be into guys too. But now he's notable Hollywood celebrity Harry Styles, of a different calibre and applicable to all. So, due to this, and due to Harry being once again asked "r u gAy?" by the media, this week we get into the nitty-gritty with our focus question of the episode: why won't Harry just come out already?!?!?!!!?

Our format for this episode is different than before, but we enjoyed the roundtable style of our conversation for this episode. If it so pleases the court, we would like to continue with this kind of rich conversation into future episodes. But otherwise, what can you expect from this season of HTBQ? Well, honestly all the same GOQS (good ol queer stuff). We have a few guests lined up already, we have some side episodes/series that we will be launching this season, and we will continue to educate you and keep you abreast (or achest) of the hottest topics in queer culture at any given moment.

We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 1 of this beautiful season!!

XOXO

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As mentioned, your beloved co-hosts have vacated for the summer. We will be returning, but in the meantime, we wanted to replay some of our fave episodes for you, as well as the faves that you chose to have replayed! Here is the fourth in the series: stonewall uprising activist martin boyce!

Martin was at the Stonewall Uprising back in 1969, the riot that sprung the gay rights movement into visibility and action! Hear about this historical event again in this week's replay episode! Thanks again to International Day of Pink for sponsoring this episode!

Stayed tuned for biweekly summer replay series! And until season 4, enjoy your summer and stay queer!!

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Hey y'all!

As mentioned, your beloved co-hosts have vacated for the summer. We will be returning, but in the meantime, we wanted to replay some of our fave episodes for you, as well as the faves that you chose to have replayed! Here is the third in the series: asian and pacific islander heritage with michael!

Michael rocks and was such a great guest! We learned a lot from our conversation, and definitely look forward to the next time we are able to sit down for a chat - Michael is absolutely filled with beautiful knowledge!

Stayed tuned for biweekly summer replay series! And until season 4, enjoy your summer and stay queer!!

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Hey y'all!

As mentioned, your beloved co-hosts have vacated for the summer. We will be returning, but in the meantime, we wanted to replay some of our fave episodes for you, as well as the faves that you chose to have replayed! Here is the second in the series: sapphic and queer women!

This was only a few months ago, right before Sam's departed on leave, and it's actually one of our most successful episodes of the season! We love that you love sapphic and queer women just as much as we do. Also, if you haven't yet, check out Episode 4 of the Book of Queer, streaming on Discovery+. It features a bit of the history of Sappho and the word Lesbian!

Stayed tuned for biweekly summer replay series! And until season 4, enjoy your summer and stay queer!!

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Hey y'all!

As mentioned, your beloved co-hosts have vacated for the summer. We will be returning, but in the meantime, we wanted to replay some of our fave episodes for you, as well as the faves that you chose to have replayed! Here is the first in the series: chosen families with kellum!

This was the first time Kellum was on the podcast, long before we even knew that they would be joining us as a permanent fixture. We love how the podcast has evolved and how Kellum themself has evolved in that time! After all, a lot can happen in a year and a half!

Stayed tuned for biweekly summer replay series! And until season 4, enjoy your summer and stay queer!!

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Well, beautiful family, that's a wrap on both our Pride Series and Season 3 of How To Be Queer!

This series has been very well-received from our mighty audience. This is why we are doing this - to produce some cool queer content that you can learn from and feel more connected to the queer community. We love you and we are very glad you are here! Thank you for coming on this journey with us.

We would also like to thank everyone who participated in the Pride series, including:

And we are back with more Pride content for ur ears only!!

For episode two of our Pride series, we asked our friends MJ Lyons (he/him) and Tianna Henry (she/her) at Glad Day to chat with us about this historic queer Canadian landmark bookshop (the oldest one in North America, we might add). We wanted to know everything: history, day in the life, what kinds of things they sell. We also chatted about representation and the power of books. 

Y'all are in for a treat with this one! Our friends are beautiful AND talented. 

Check out some of the things we talked about here, including work by our fantastic guests: 

Y'all, we are absolutely ecstatic to let you in on our next evolution: we have decided to expand HTBQ, and the one-and-only Kellum Jaymes (they/them) will be joining the hosts as a permanent member of the panel! Sam will be on leave for a little while, so while she is away, Kellum and Chris will play! This week, the theme of the episode is Queer Time! 

PS: Happy Lesbian Visibility Day!

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This week on HTBQ:

S1: Life Update! 0:42

S2: Queer-ent Events! 7:06 This week, the panel talks about Jojo Siwa (as always, our queen) and the Nickelodeon controversy, and about RPDR All Stars 7!

S3: In Queer Terms! 21:09 This week, the panel explores queer time theory!

S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be very soon!!!

S5: Panel Discussion! 41:09 The panel discussion this week consists of a deeper dive into the question: how do Kellum and Chris queer their own timelines?!

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Alright y'all thanks so much for staying tuned! We sincerely love every single one of you!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for May 10th! Our theme next episode: Queer Mental Health!

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One theme for the whole episode. This week's theme? The planet! Queer people exist and are human too, and we are therefore part of this beautiful planet. If we don't have a planet, we can't have pride. Queer people have unique perspectives and a lot to add to the conversation, and so we thought we would help bring part of that conversation to you! Check it out!

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This week on HTBQ:

S1: Life Update! 0:20

S2: Queer-ent Events! 5:53 This week, the panel talks about Jojo Siwa (as always, our queen), Canada's National LGBTQ+ monument, and the Don't Say Gay bill in Florida (boo)!

S3: In Queer Terms! 18:23 This week, the panel explores the expansive definition of queer ecology!

S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be on the very next episode!!! And we think you are gonna love our first RETURNING GUEST!

S5: Panel Discussion! 32:58 The panel discussion this week dives into the ways and reasons that queer and other marginalized people will feel the worst of the effects of climate change (also boo)!

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Enjoy this beautiful episode friends! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :) Hope you enjoy the episode! OMIGOSH and Happy April!! And for those celebrating, Ramadan Mubarak, Happy Easter, Happy Sikh New Year and also Happy Anishinaabe New Year, Happy Passover, Happy Earth Day, and Happy Lesbian Visibility Day!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for April 26th! Our theme next episode: First Panel Guest Episode Realness!

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This week is the first episode we have tried to theme our segments to group them all together! On this episode, all of our segments have to do with women!

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This week on HTBQ:

S1: Life Update! 0:11

S2: Queer-ent Events! 3:27 This week, the panel highlights Disney and the Oscar noms we're watching (and a small update since, yes, they have happened since filming lol!

S3: In Queer Terms! 21:13 This week, the panel explores the expansive definition of sapphic!

S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be in the future!

S5: Panel Discussion! 35:20 The panel discussion this week goes through some quotes by queer women describing their expansive definitions of queerness, as well as a discussion of our own conceptions of the word queer for ourselves!

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Enjoy this beautiful episode friends! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :) Hope you enjoy the episode! We are at the end of March can you believe?!! Two more days left of Women's History Month, so just a reminder again (because it is worth saying many times): trans women are women, and nonbinary people aren't!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for April 12th! Our theme next episode: No Planet No Pride!

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OMG HI AGAIN!!! Love to have you here! Pull up a chair let's chat a while, Jo Dee Messina style!!!!

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This week on HTBQ:

S1: Life Update! 0:53

S2: Queer-ent Events! 7:12 This week, the panel highlights Batman, Jojo Siwa, the Sims, Drag Race, and Amy Schneider!

S3: In Queer Terms! 12:01 This week, the panel explores the definitions of bimbo, himbo, and thembo!

S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be in the future!

S5: Panel Discussion! 20:23 The panel discussion this week revolves around the dangerous anti-trans and anti-queer legislation happening in the States, specifically Florida and Texas.

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Enjoy this beautiful episode friends! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :) Hope you enjoy the episode! We are at the halfway point of March, y'all!! This is your Women's History Month reminder: trans women are women, and nonbinary people aren't!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for March 29th! 

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Hey y'all! Another fun episode with your fave hosts!! We are coming in hawt with some fresh juice!!

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This week on HTBQ: 

S1: Life Update! Each panelist provides the panel with a life update! It can be big or small, it can be in the form of a story, it can be trivial or super important, who knows who cares just give us the juice please! 

S2: Queer-ent Events! Each panelist brings with them a piece of queer news that has happened since the last episode. The panelist will be in charge of teaching the panel about that news and fielding any questions other panelists may have, which might include some on the fly googling. This week, the panel highlights queeringthemap.com, Hunter Schafer, Ireen Wüst, and Drag Race!

S3: In Queer Terms! The panelists discuss the 2SLGBTQPNIA+ vocabulary word of the episode. This segment is meant to help build your understanding of and increase your exposure to words that are common in queer circles (so you start to feel more comfortable in your allyship of queer ppl - we love you we need you allies!). This week, the panel explores the definitions of gender dysphoria and gender euphoria

S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be in the future! When we have guests, they will become panelists for the other segments and will also answer 3-4 questions that Sam & Chris want answered! 

S5: Panel Discussion! The panel discussion this week is actually a short retelling of the Black origins of the Pride movement in New York City, at a little bar called Stonewall in Greenwich Village.

*panelist refers to the hosts and any guests 

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Anyway okay so hopefully you enjoy this beautiful episode but let us know either way! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :) Hope you enjoy the episode! OMG it's March y'all. Congrats, you made it!! Spring is nigh! Also of note: just because Black History Month is over doesn't mean your educating yourself on Black History should stop. Keep unlearning and learning and unlearning and learning and 

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for March 15! C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!! 

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Hey y'all! Welcome back to HTBQ!! We missed u!

This week on HTBQ:

S1: Life Update! Each panelist provides the panel with a life update! It can be big or small, it can be in the form of a story, it can be trivial or super important, who knows who cares just give us the juice please!

S2: Queer-ent Events! Each panelist brings with them a piece of queer news that has happened since the last episode. The panelist will be in charge of teaching the panel about that news and fielding any questions other panelists may have, which might include some on the fly googling. This week, the panel highlights Pose, Mj Rodriguez, and Amy Schneider.

S3: In Queer Terms! The panelists discuss the 2SLGBTQPNIA+ vocabulary word of the episode. This segment is meant to help build your understanding of and increase your exposure to words that are common in queer circles (so you start to feel more comfortable in your allyship of queer ppl - we love you we need you allies!). This week, the panel explore the question: what is the difference between sexual and romantic attraction/orientation?

S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be in the future! When we have guests, they will become panelists for the other segments and will also answer 3-4 questions that Sam & Chris want answered!

S5: Panel Discussion! The panel discussion a contentious topic of the day. Or maybe it isn't contentious. Maybe it's just a topic. The panel discusses a topic! And this week, the panel discusses some ways to build allyship, as well as pronouns.

*panelist refers to the hosts and any guests

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Anyway okay so hopefully you enjoy this beautiful episode but let us know either way! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :)

Hope you enjoy the episode! Happy February, happy Lunar New Year to those celebrating, happy Black History month, and happy Imbolc. So many things on Feb 1 to wish SUCH HAPPY TIDINGS! Get out there and spread love beautiful bubulas!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for February 15!

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Behold! We have entered a new era of HTBQ!

This week we are bringing you new content, and all wrapped up in a shiny brand new format!! Okay so let us tell you about the new format now.

Picture it! Sicily, 1912...

This week on HTBQ (each episode in the new format will be chunked into segments):

S1: Life Update! Each panelist provides the panel with a life update! It can be big or small, it can be in the form of a story, it can be trivial or super important, who knows who cares just give us the juice please!

S2: Queer-ent Events! Each panelist brings with them a piece of queer news that has happened since the last episode. The panelist will be in charge of teaching the panel about that news and fielding any questions other panelists may have, which might include some on the fly googling. This week, the panel highlights jojo siwa, hiv meds, and drag race.

S3: In Queer Terms! The panelists discuss the 2SLGBTQPNIA+ vocabulary word of the episode. This segment is meant to help build your understanding of and increase your exposure to words that are common in queer circles (so you start to feel more comfortable in your allyship of queer ppl - we love you we need you allies!). This week, the panel provides the meaning of the term U=U.

S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be in the future! When we have guests, they will become panelists for the other segments and will also answer 3-4 questions that Sam & Chris want answered!

S5: Panel Discussion! The panel discussion a contentious topic of the day. Or maybe it isn't contentious. Maybe it's just a topic. The panel discusses a topic! And this week, the panel discusses 2021 in review.

*panelist refers to the hosts and any guests

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Anyway okay so hopefully you enjoy this beautiful episode but let us know either way! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :)

Also!!! WE MISSED YOU!!! But also welcome to 2022 queers!!!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for February 1!

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This week, we are coming to you with our second replay! Sam and Chris are taking a quick snooze for the holigays, but what are the holigays without queer content!! This week we bring you the FULL LENGTH episode, both parts 1 and 2, of our intimate conversation with the amazing, dynamic duo, Maddie (she/her) and Rachel (she/her)!!!

*hold for applause*

On this episode, Sam and Chris talk to this gorgeous couple about their adventures in being together, including moving in together, moving across the country together, moving back in with family together. Always on the go these two! This deep dive into the relationship of these two women will have you saying "I want some lady lovin too!", and here at How To Be Queer we absolutely do encourage it!

#vanlife #hatchlife #queerlife

Your voices have been heard: this will be our last two-part episode unless our conversation is longer than an hour and a half. Thank you for those who helped give us feedback! As well, check our feeds over the holidays for full episode replays of this conversation and our conversation with Taryn.

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with our next episode scheduled for January 18th! It will be full of brand new content and a brand new format!

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This week, we are coming to you with our first replay! Sam and Chris are taking a quick snooze for the holigays, but what are the holigays without queer content!! This week we bring you the FULL LENGTH episode, both parts 1 and 2, of our intimate conversation with the one and only TARYN (she/her)!!!

On this episode, Sam and Chris get to the bottom of Taryn. What makes her tick? Is it that charm, smile, humour? What is it!!!

(spoiler alert: she is pansexual and wants everyone to know.)

Taryn is a regulation hawtie and we are ready to pull up a seat and listen to what she has to say. Get some dating advice, get some queer understandings, get some vine references. You literally name it, it's probably in this episode.

PS: We have been pretty good at keeping on schedule!! This means you can likely expect our next replay on January 4, our conversation with maddie & rachel!!

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Another fun experiment!

This week, we are giving you a solo experience, the first ever solo venture by one of Sam and Chris!

We want to bring you lots of variety in our content. This week, we thought we would try a new format where one of the hosts tells you about something they learned, some research they did, or something they want to talk about or teach to you. This episode, we are looking at the history and contemporary usage of the word queer - meta, eh?

On this episode, Chris sits down and explains the origin, first use, pejorative uses, reclamation, and current uses of the word queer. A flirty trial episode - let us know what you think!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for December 21!

PSS: We are hiatusing (that's a word) for the holigays, so our next two episodes will be rereleases of full versions of our two-part episodes! Stay tuned for those - our next episode with brand new content will be airing January 18, 2022!

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This week we are serving u a two fer one special - that is right! Not only are you getting another two part conversation, you are getting, for the first time ever... drum roll please...

TWO GUESTS AT ONCE!!!

Yes, please, put ur beautiful hands together for the dynamic duo, Maddie (she/her) and Rachel (she/her)!!!

*hold for applause*

On this episode, Sam and Chris talk to this gorgeous couple about their adventures in being together, including moving in together, moving across the country together, moving back in with family together. Always on the go these two! This deep dive into the relationship of these two women will have you saying "I want some lady lovin too!", and here at How To Be Queer we absolutely do encourage it!

#vanlife #hatchlife #queerlife

Your voices have been heard: this will be our last two-part episode unless our conversation is longer than an hour and a half. Thank you for those who helped give us feedback! As well, check our feeds over the holidays for full episode replays of this conversation and our conversation with Taryn.

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with our next episode scheduled for December 7! It will be our last episode before we break for the holidays :)

C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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This week we are serving u a two fer one special - that is right! Not only are you getting another two part conversation, you are getting, for the first time ever... drum roll please...

TWO GUESTS AT ONCE!!!

Yes, please, put ur beautiful hands together for the dynamic duo, Maddie (she/her) and Rachel (she/her)!!!

*hold for applause*

On this episode, Sam and Chris talk to this gorgeous couple about their adventures in being together, including moving in together, moving across the country together, moving back in with family together. Always on the go these two! This deep dive into the relationship of these two women will have you saying "I want some lady lovin too!", and here at How To Be Queer we absolutely do encourage it!

#vanlife #hatchlife #queerlife

Be sure to let us know how you feel about two part convos and the length of the episodes - we love your feedback and we want to grow with our audience!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with part 2 of this conversation scheduled for November 23!

C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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This week we bring you partie deux of our intimate conversation with the one and only TARYN (she/her)!!!

On this episode, Sam and Chris get to the bottom of Taryn. What makes her tick? Is it that charm, smile, humour? What is it!!!

(spoiler alert: she is pansexual and wants everyone to know.)

Taryn is a pan poly hawtie and we are ready to pull up a seat and listen to what she has to say. Get some dating advice, get some queer understandings, get some vine references. You literally name it, it's probably in this episode.

Be sure to let us know how you feel about two part convos and the length of the episodes - we love your feedback and we want to grow with our audience!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with our next episode scheduled for November 9!

C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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This week, we are coming to you in an all new format! This week we bring you part 1 of our intimate conversation with the one and only TARYN (she/her)!!!

On this episode, Sam and Chris get to the bottom of Taryn. What makes her tick? Is it that charm, smile, humour? What is it!!!

(spoiler alert: she is pansexual and wants everyone to know.)

Taryn is a pan poly hawtie and we are ready to pull up a seat and listen to what she has to say. Get some dating advice, get some queer understandings, get some vine references. You literally name it, it's probably in this episode.

Make sure to catch part 2 of this conversation, coming October 26!!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday.

C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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This week we wanted to get back to our roots and do an episode with ~*~jUsT tHe tWo Of uS~*~, bring you some more chaos but this time on a new level (queer chaos hunni). 

WE'RE BAAAAACKKK!

Did u miss us???

WE MISSED YOU!!

Okay so today we dive right back into the podcast game with a beautiful special guest, the one-and-only, htbq infamous, Melanie (she/her)!!

We worked with Melanie at the Queerest Place on Earth ™, David's Tea, and we asked her to join us today and give us an insight into her dating life in Toronto. The pandemic has rocked all of our socks, but Melanie teaches us that it's a matter of rolling with the punches, getting your distanced date on even though you can't come within 6 feet of your potential suitor. Plus, Melanie tells us about herself claiming her queer identity and what dating a woman is like from her perspective!

Wow what a jam-packed episode! Coming in HAWT!

PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with our next episode hitting your earphones on September 28!

Ugh, so good to be BACK!!

C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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Hey our beautiful cultivated family!!!!!

We know it has been like, a month, and what a month it has been. Sincerely, it has been whild. We thought it would be a weekly podcast but 2021 was like HAHAHAHAHA no.

But we are back in ur feed to give you YET ANOTHER BEAUTIFUL GUEST STAR EPISODE!

THAT'S RIGHT

On this episode we are talking about what chosen family means with none other than the magnificent Kellum Jaymes (they/them)! We thought this episode would rock your socks since this past Monday was Chosen Family Day, and the one and only Ilona Verley even mentioned it in their Insta feed. A chosen family is so so so so so important to queer people, and in this episode we discuss the beautiful nuances of that concept.

So, your task today is to think about what makes a family. Who is your family? Why?

Once you have done this, talk to your beautiful chosen family and make sure that you let them know that you love them - they need it right now more than ever. Winter is almost over hunnis, we have almost made it thru!! 23 more days!!!

Have a very chaotic (but make it gender-neutral) day, aaaaaand

C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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You thought we would come into season 2 with exciting stuff, we can tell. But I bet u NEVER thot we would come in with another guest speaker for episode 2 of season 2 on february 2 and something else 2, etc. 2!!!!

THAT'S RIGHT

Today we go from the tippity top to the tippity bottom and everything in between of bisexuality, and we grill none other than the magnificent and magical bisexual Carling Fee (she/her) with questions about her experiences being a bisexual!!

Get ready for frogs and cuffed pants, because here we come talking about bisexuality and the latest from bisexual tiktok.

Have a very bisexual day, aaaaaand

C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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Welcome to our very first episode of a new series we are doing called ~*~qUeErEnT eVeNtS ~*~*~!!!!

This series will be similar to our minisodes 'in queer terms', but will be more directed at queer current events, as the title doesn't imply it at all and it would be very hard to figure out on your own.

This week we are talking about our queer sibs Birdie Silverstein (child of Busy Phillips) and Kade Gottlieb aka Gottmik!

Quick CW: we mention abortion, so please be aware that it could bring up some feelings. Reach out if you need anything, we got u!

C U Next Tuesday (actually probably Friday tbh, just thought it would be fun to say that)!

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HAPPY SAM'S CHAMPAGNE BDAY!!!

You guessed right - it's the 24th and it is Sam's 24th Bday!

Also welcome to Season 2 of How to be Queer! We are starting off with bangs! I mean with a bang!

Sam and Chris are explicit in their queerness, but we all know that some characters are not quite as explicit in their queerness. Those subtle glances between your fave wamyn, those lusty looks between the boi hero and his boi villain counterpart, the thing where you are like 'what gender is this character trying to be here?' but it goes unsaid. Yeah. That's queer coding. And Sam and Chris use expletives to describe their issues with making characters queer but not saying it.

Welcome back our beautiful fam, we have missed you! Look for our next short episode in ur feeds TOMORROW!!

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This one is for the girls the gays and the theys. Out here doin hot girl sh*t. We see u.

2020 was a ride and we definitely were on that ride, felt every damn bump. But you know what, we are here in 2021, bruised and battered as a species but we are certainly not knocked down permanently. 

In a personal sense, Sam and Chris also went through it. You may have noticed an extended absence - you can thank 2020 for that. But just like the rest of humanity, we are resilient and we have bounced back up and aren't going anywhere.

THE QUEERS ARE HERE TO STAY. We show it time and again, you can't keep us down.

Anyway, enjoy this last episode of season 1, a 2020-is-finished-so-let's-get-down-with-our-bad-selves special. 

See you on Sam's champagne birthday!

Until then, Sam and Chris wish you a blessed Time of Renewal (Happy New Year, Happy Kwanzaa, Blessed Yule, Happy Solstice; ie, enjoy yourself however you are celebrating the festival of lights!)

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They're coming out ... again!!

Chris has something to share with the world that helps define the way he experiences life. In just 10 minutes, come along with Sam and Chris as they break down Chris' journey of discovering their stargender identity.

Hope you stayed ready!!!

XOXO

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GUEST WHAT?? We have a brand new episode for u, a real treat because it's our very first guest episode! Keeping this in mind, please bear with sound quality because we are gay and can't help it. Zoom mixed with the unregulated vocal decibel levels of the queers is not always a great combination, but it makes for a fun time, and a couple of jolts to the nervous system if you are wearing airpods (be warned). Who needs coffee? The gays, that's who. Iced pls.

Wally tells us stuff about his family life, some things about their drag, some lived experiences of racism and homophobia, her understandings on the definition of drag, and she tells it like it is. He exudes pure energy, even through the tinny Z00m call. Follow Wally's journey of self discovery in and out of drag through the channels below.

PS: This is Wally's first of probably like three or seven episodes, with the next one being a full definition of drag and another getting deeper into their understanding of themselves.

PPS: Enya Dreams, a local queen mentioned in the episode, is also linked below.

Enjoy! See you soon! (Maybe next Tuesday? Whom knows. At this point, the episodes will be coming out on a semi-regular basis because it's 2020 and there is a lot of sh*t going on rn. Anyway love u all!!)

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CW: This episode is about terfs, which are transphobic people who claim to be feminists. This means some anti-trans rhetoric is discussed.

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You may have heard recently about JK R*wling and her outing herself as a terf. But what the heck is a terf??? Today, we are discussing the idiocy that is excluding trans women from the construction of womanhood. We here at HTBQ do not condone the actions of terfs and wish they would just stop it already because they don't make sense and look stupid tbh.