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Five Black women and girls were killed every day in the United States in 2020, as a national increase in gun violence during the pandemic took a heavy toll on some of the country’s most vulnerable people. In all 1,821 Black women and girls were killed in 2020. That was an additional 461 women and girls who were murdered in 2020 compared with 2019 – more than one additional killing a day. Black women and girls in the US are four times more likely to die by violence than white or Hispanic women. Black female characters are more likely to be shown as violent than white female characters (29.3% compared to 24.6%) and twice as likely to be violent as other female characters of color (14.8%). Is that supposed to be subconsciously saying something? Let's dissect.  Resources: Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: 31-tips-boost-your-mental-health https://amp.theguardian.com/world/2022/jun/25/homicide-violence-against-black-women-us https://amp.theguardian.com/us-news/2022/jun/30/black-women-murder-rate-data-stats-study https://seejane.org/research-informs-empowers/representations-of-black-women-in-hollywood/ https://bcblotter.com/opinion/2021/06/12/in-response-to-colin-kaepernicks-book-the-dehumanization-of-black-women/ https://youtu.be/uyeZm_CbGxg Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by @Sandra Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Roe v. Wade, (1973), was a landmark decision of the U.S. Supreme Court in which the Court ruled that the Constitution of the United States approved the right to have an abortion. The decision struck down many federal and state abortion laws, and fueled an ongoing abortion debate in the United States about whether, or to what extent, abortion should be legal, who should decide the legality of abortion, and what the role of moral and religious views in the political sphere should be. Curtailing abortion rights is expected to have a disproportionate effect on low-income pregnant people who do not have the means to easily travel to a more permissive state and women of color. Resources: Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.guttmacher.org/abortion-rights-supreme-court https://www.britannica.com/science/abortion-pregnancy https://abort73.com/abortion_facts/us_abortion_statistics/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by @Sandra Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Fatphobia is the fear and hatred of fat bodies. “That encompasses a whole bunch of things, namely weight bias and weight stigma, such as the idea we see people of higher body weight as lazy, and unintelligent, or disgusting.” The harmful effects of fatphobia are a constant for people in larger bodies. “It is more intense against women,” and most of the data on the subject is based on the male/female binary. We are more likely to see positive examples of high-weight men than women in the media. So lets discuss, are you fatphobic or...? Resources: Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: 31-tips-boost-your-mental-health fat-phobia 11-tips-mental-health-well-being Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by @Sandra Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Pornography (the good, the bad, the ugly): is the representation of the human body form or human sexual behavior with the goal of sexual arousal.... the portrayal of sexual subject matter for the exclusive purpose of sexual arousal. A 2011 study found that couples who watch porn together felt more committed and sexually satisfied than couples where one partner watched it alone. Listen to the pros, cons and taboos of the porn industry and let us know where you stand. Are you an addict, a voyeur, or a fly on the wall? Resources: Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pornography https://fightthenewdrug.org/how-porn-can-affect-the-brain-like-a-drug/ https://fightthenewdrug.org/5-ways-porn-changes-your-brain-and-body-for-the-worse/ https://www.factretriever.com/pornography-facts Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by @Sandra Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

H2H: Heart 2 Heart Mini Series Turning 30 is often built up to be a huge landmark. The first big celebration after our ‘coming of age’ (after 18), it can be seen as a marker of how much we’ve achieved in young adulthood. For women especially, it has historically been the point at which we’re pressured to feel it 'all coming together', as that biological clock starts to tick even louder. It’s an age of ambition, promise, achievement and expectation all rolled into one. Do you feel the pressure? Things to know for anyone turning 30: Being in your 30s does NOT mean you're old. Your heartbreaks are your best teachers. You're about to find your soul group of friends. You can loosen up on the timeline of your life and let life sculpt you. You will get a wake-up call when someone close to you gets sick or dies. You don't have to put up with crap. You enjoy your own company. You're an adult that others look up to. You realize that everyone else is winging it too. Resources: Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-21538/9-things-id-tell-anyone-who-is-terrified-of-turning-30.html https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/reports/a34990154/turning-thirty/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by: Sandra Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

WELCOME BACK TO 'I GOT PROBLEMS!!' We were MIA for a while, but not forever. Now we got our sh*t together and are back in ACTION!  Take a listen to our adulting life updates and prepare for the upcoming topics that will certainly be shaking a few tables. 

In the recent years of Instagram and the contemporary art of stand up, there is a distinct use of black women as the the subject and sometimes foundation of comedy for male comedians. These jokes are not simply jokes, but are loaded with political repercussions and continue to position women as jokes themselves, as less serious, as less of a full human. The jokes are not about the characteristics of black women, black women are the joke. Resources: How to support BLM: https://builtin.com/diversity-inclusion/companies-that-support-black-lives-matter-social-justice Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.blackfemaletherapists.com/what-is-a-spiritual-bath-and-do-i-need-one/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

In humans, phenotype examples include earwax type, height, blood type, eye color, freckles, and hair color. And phenotypes aren't just physical traits. Behavior is also considered a phenotype. Research shows that: Although physical attraction is important to young men, with 40% of them considering it ‘essential’ that their partner be ‘good-looking,’ only 18% of men ages 18-25 consider it “essential” that their long-term partner is ‘slender’. The bottom line is that some people care about height and some people don’t, but it is best just to be genuine and put it all out there from the beginning. Guest Details: Jesse Oldelli **New Music: Godspeed** About: Music Artist [IG: @jesseoldellimusic] Resources: How to support BLM: https://builtin.com/diversity-inclusion/companies-that-support-black-lives-matter-social-justice Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://blogs.chapman.edu/crean/2015/09/29/new-research-analyzes-height-weight-income-and-more-in-regards-to-sex-and-dating/ https://www.mic.com/life/does-height-matter-on-dating-apps-heres-how-revealing-that-info-actually-affects-your-matches-18016680 Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

An Ode to Scorpios.  It's Scorpio season and Sagittarius season follows immediately after.  Let us break down the comparisons and differences between both signs and what makes them both so lovable and problematic.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://builtin.com/diversity-inclusion/companies-that-support-black-lives-matter-social-justice Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/mind-and-body/astrology/scorpio-season-2021 Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Welcome to our pilot mini series called: Heart 2 Heart! Where we discuss short 15 minute or less personal stories and experiences with problematic issues we have encountered that are very relatable. Please take the poll and answer the questions to get engaged with us. We welcome your opinions and would love to know if these mini series should remain part of our circulation. Take your dog for a quick walk, a quick run to the store or ride to your friend's house listening to this short 'Heart 2 Heart' and enjoy! Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

In an article titled: Brazilian butt lift - behind the world's most dangerous cosmetic surgery, it has been reported that- Since 2015, the number of butt lifts performed globally has grown by 77.6%, according to a recent survey by the International Society of Aesthetic Plastic Surgery. It is the fastest-growing cosmetic surgery in the world. The "slim thick" description is similar to the "Thicc" and "Bootylicious" body descriptions, which refer to a curvaceous body figure with a bigger booty. The "Slim" refers to the flat belly and the "Thick" refers to the toned thighs and large, or plump booty. Let's dissect.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.quora.com/Does-rap-music-contribute-positively-to-womens-body-image https://www.theguardian.com/news/2021/feb/09/brazilian-butt-lift-worlds-most-dangerous-cosmetic-surgery Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Nowadays, people expect their spouses to be their soulmates—the one and only person who will fulfill all their emotional needs. While the soulmate marriage may be a noble ideal to strive for, most of us find it impossible to live up to such high expectations. When we fail to meet our spouse’s needs or don’t get ours met, we despair that our marriage isn’t as good as it’s supposed to be. Infidelity is a leading cause of divorce and one of the most common reasons why couples seek counseling. Surveys suggest that infidelity occurs in upwards of 20% of marriages. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-apes/202004/are-open-marriages-happier https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/rules-for-successful-open-marriage/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay] Guest #1 Details: Taiwo aka 'Tai' About: Re-occurring Guest  IG: king_tai

A disorder in which a person has an inflated sense of self-importance. Narcissistic personality disorder is found more commonly in men. The cause is unknown but likely involves a combination of genetic and environmental factors. About 1% of the population suffers from it (and for some reason I happen to run into all of them). Symptoms include: grandiosity, callous and unemotional traits, disregard for others' feelings, excessive need for admiration, or social isolation. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/9-tips-for-narcissistic-abuse-recovery#support Narcissistic personality disorder https://g.co/kgs/E7T2kP https://www.rosglasrecovery.com/signs-and-symptoms-of-narcissistic-abuse-syndrome/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

The 'token black girl' is a concept with which we’re depressingly all too familiar, and have been for too long now. We are often the representative woman of colour. With that has often come an underlying expectation to be 'the black one' – to live the sassy, loud, eye-rolling, punchline-delivering, surface level stereotypes afforded to the black women we see in the white TV and film world. We understand that the consequence of messing it up is messing it up for everyone who looks like us in the future and that is a heavy burden to carry. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health https://blavity.com/black-women-cannot-be-all-things-to-all-people-at-all-times?category1=opinion&category2=news Audible Book: B00LEUADLQ Confessions of a Token black girl token-black-women-tv can-being-the-token-give-women-and-minorities-a-competitive-edge https://www.thoughtworks.com/insights/blog/tokenism-double-sided-coin Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Guest #1 Details: Nesha Taylor About: Owner of TACT Therapy, LLC IG: nesha_taylor SC: nesha_taylor

Black femicide: @blackfemicideus @blackfemicideamerica CDC states: Black women experience highest rates of homicide of any racial group in the United States. The overall homicide rate for women was 2 per 100,000 women. When researchers reviewed the statistics for Black women, the homicide rate increased to 4.4 per 100,000 women. African-American women are less likely to contact domestic violence service providers or call police when they’re abused, thus increasing their risk of being killed….African-American women are often fearful of reinforcing racial stereotypes the black community is violent.  So why does this keep happening? How did we get here and how do we stop? Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: ]31-tips-boost-your-mental-health https://www.news5cleveland.com/news/local-news/investigations/cdc-black-women-experience-highest-rates-of-homicide-of-any-racial-group-in-the-united-states Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

It is a one-sided experience that can leave us feeling pain, grief, and shame. You may think it would be easy to tell if love is unrequited but it isn't always clear and can cause a lot of confusion and emotional turmoil. It can feel like you’re always trying to prove yourself to them. And it feels like you’re never winning. Deep down in your heart, you know you’re trying too hard to love or be friends with someone who doesn’t care to reciprocate. Listen to find out if you have been a victim of unrequited love; you may find yourself nodding in agreement to this whole episode.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://amp.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/there-are-ways-to-deal-with-the-sting-of-unrequited-friendship-20190129-p50ucj.html https://thoughtcatalog.com/kovie-biakolo/2014/01/18-heartbreaking-signs-you-are-in-an-unrequited-friendship/ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/how-to/seven-tips-on-how-to-improve-mental-health/?utm_source=AdWords Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Lust is looking at a person and feeling both a strong sexual attraction and a pull toward imaginative details that the relationship could one day possess. Love is a feeling of commitment and adoration for a person that you've put effort into and began to build a life with. It is a feeling backed by action and a desire to grow with and do your best for the person you're with. Lust tends to get a bad rep in most situations but it is part of a healthy relationship in most cases, but lust alone can cause some issues that will be discussed today so let's break it down, which side are you on? Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/intimacy/what-is-the-difference-between-lust-and-love-lust-vs-love/ 31-tips-boost-your-mental-health https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-freedom/201108/lust-vs-love-do-you-know-the-difference Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

'Waiting for your Best Yes' with our Guest: Rob Kowalski.  Emotionally and mentally, things change, sex is a spiritual ritual. Energy and fluids are exchanged during sexual intercourse and when you get married, the marriage is confirmed with consummation. Only weak people are controlled by sex. Your self esteem should not be based on how many people you can bed. The book 'Why Waiting Works' Is available for free on Rob's website (pay for shipping only) so pick up your copy and read the story of the Stripper turned Christian and hear his reasoning for why waiting for the right person works from BOTH sides.   Resources for City Fam and Rob's Book:  https://www.whywaitingworks.com/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/waitingworks https://www.facebook.com/groups/cityfam https://linktr.ee/robbkowalski General Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

There are many people you can choose in your life and get rid of if needed. You can pick your friends, and if there's a problem, you can always choose to part ways. However, you can't pick your family, and you can't leave them if you're a minor, or if they're your only source of living. Sometimes, your family can have qualities that you don't like, and it can be hard to deal with them. Other times, you're unsure whether you live in a toxic family situation or not. Being in a toxic family can be draining and detrimental to a Childs growth and can most times affect and shape a young adults view on future relationships they build. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.regain.us/advice/family/toxic-family-dynamics-the-signs-and-how-to-cope-with-them/ 31-tips-boost-your-mental-health Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

A lot of women who cape for men are usually the ones who are deemed unattractive by the majority of them according to various online articles, thus the need to cater to their messed up viewpoints to get their attention. They are usually negatively competitive, jealous and man-obsessed. 'Staying on code': Support and encourage one another. Be affectionate and create a sisterhood, FOLLOW GIRL CODE (unlike like Portia). Stop being jealous and assuming everyone is a hater. Be open and friendly. Stop giving boyfriends husband benefits and dropping your friends for them (a few examples that may make a woman seem like her life revolves around male attention). Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028]

Some people propose after 3 months and others propose after 10 years. Is there a reason for the drastic differences for the proposal times outside of preferences or should there be some outspoken timeline everyone should follow socially? When it comes to timings for milestone moments in a relationship, the reality is a couple should go through each step in their relationship progression only when it’s right for them. It all depends on timing in life, emotional availability and readiness. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER SOURCES https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health when-to-propose https://www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/dating/average-relationship-timelines-when-to-get-engaged-a3861276.html only-1-in-3-us-marriage-proposals-are-a-surprise-engagement-ring-spend-rises-according-to-the-knot-2017-jewelry--engagement-study-300552669.html amazon-way-customer-service-john-rossman.html Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

The word "psychic" jumped to a one-year high the week of March 8, 2020. That’s the same week the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) began issuing guidance on COVID-19. In respect to Crystals, the Bible mentions rubies (Proverbs 8:11), sapphires (Lamentations 4:7), and topaz (Job 28:19), for example. Crystal Therapy: The proposed healing benefits of crystals predominantly surround areas of mental wellbeing. Let us explain and bring you to a new level of spiritual conciousness that will most likely change your current situation. ALL OTHER SOURCES: https://apnews.com/press-release/wired-release/99af1340b18bebfbfc004198b7e6d144 https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Past_life_regression https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/beauty/fitness-wellbeing/a43244/crystal-healing-beginners-guide/ https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-crystals.html https://www.shape.com/celebrities/celebrity-photos/11-celebrities-who-use-crystals-for-good-luck-positive-energy-and-more?slide=a2db2aa0-2854-441f-b41f-fd051266a6d1#a2db2aa0-2854-441f-b41f-fd051266a6d1 https://spectrumlocalnews.com/tx/south-texas-el-paso/news/2021/03/07/psychics--tarot-card-readers-become-more-popular-during-pandemic https://childadolescentpsych.cumc.columbia.edu/articles/11-tips-mental-health-well-being Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Guest Details: Jasmine Margarita About: https://www.thehealinghouseofamalia.com/ Social media: [IG] @reverendamalia

For those who seek to have children, and those that don’t, a monogamous relationship is usually deemed the most ideal unit from within which to procreate or simply to coexist with a partner. It represents stability, support and, bizarrely, social success of being in a relationship. The practice of monogamy has largely remained unquestioned in contemporary society. For even those of us that are more liberal-leaning, monogamy is still broadly considered sacrosanct. Polyamory is becoming more visible and accepted. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER SOURCES is-monogamy-simply-a-social-and-emotional-construct-4f7613294ac1 https://ifstudies.org/blog/is-monogamy-unnatural/ https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-are-we-so-obsessed-with-monogamy-cmtt/ https://verytemporary.org/archive/2018/8/26/why-marriage-and-monogamy-are-outdated https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Criticizing bonnets being worn in public is NOT policing Black women. Although bonnets are a part of the culture, they are NOT a part of what makes us Black. But at what point do we have to call out conversations that keep being had about Black women in general? Can Black women just exist??  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER SOURCES https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

The crack epidemic destroyed the black family structure. It took the value away from the man and placed it in the woman’s hands. Black men fell into the traps of fast money and drug addiction, which left their counterparts no choice but to take advantage of government programs that rewarded black women for being single parents. In my eyes, determining the value of black men isn’t tangible. Statistics don’t tell much of the story and listening to rants on social media such as Twitter and Facebook can place misconceptions on black men. As a Black man, your value is determined by you and your family and no one else. What your wife and child need from you is your value. Most importantly, knowing that you are needed, is where your value lies. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER SOURCES https://filmdaily.co/health/develop-mental-health/ what-is-the-value-of-black-man-154d210a1b8f Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

While 74.3 percent of all White children below the age of 18 live with both parents, only 38.7 percent of African-American minors can say the same. Instead, more than one-third of all Black children in the United States under the age of 18 live with unmarried mothers—compared to 6.5 percent of White children. 57% of millennial parents had at least one child out of wedlock. 64% of millennial moms reported at least one birth out of wedlock and 40% of babies born in the United States were born to an unmarried mom. Let's indulge the various reasons why.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: https://www.wealthysinglemommy.com/single-mom-statistics/#single-mom-statistics https://afro.com/census-bureau-higher-percentage-black-children-live-single-mothers/ https://www.actrochester.org/children-youth/single-parent-families-by-race-ethnicity Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

One of the most controversial questions about a relationship between a man and a woman is: can they ever really just be friends? If a man and a woman are friendly enough and like enough things about each other, then why can't they just date? What prevents them from getting romantic with each other? People often assume platonic friendships never succeed, especially if one of you “catches feelings” or misreads certain signals as signs of attraction. Sometimes platonic friendships do shift into romance.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: Questionnaire: https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu https://filmdaily.co/health/develop-mental-health/ https://www.regain.us/advice/friendship/what-is-a-platonic-friendship-why-theyre-good-to-have/ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/friendship/what-is-a-platonic-friendship-do-they-exist/ https://www.healthline.com/health/platonic-friendship#what-they-arent https://www.healthline.com/health/platonic-friendship#if-they-have-a-partner Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Sometimes these movies and tv shows only highlight the negative Black experiences, and ignore the positive, which then places negative stereotypes on Black people that represent us as subordinates and consistently in pain and suffering. Many TikTok-ers have complained about these movies causing PTSD in the Black community. It also adds to the “White Savior” complex (e.g. Hidden Figures) which elevates the representation of White people who “assist” the black protagonists in these movies be relieved of their troubles and reach their freedom.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER SOURCES https://filmdaily.co/health/develop-mental-health/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Relationships grow better when we understand each other and everyone gives and receives love differently, but with a little insight into these differences, we can be confidently equipped to communicate love well. This is true for all forms of relationship – for married or dating couples, for children and teenagers, for friends and coworkers, for long-distance relationships, for those brand-new loves and for the romances that are older than the hills. But do you practice them? Because relationships work best when partners’ primary love languages align—when individuals predominantly demonstrate their love in ways that their partners appreciate the most or when individuals go out of their way to speak their partner’s primary love language. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: https://www.mic.com/p/do-love-languages-actually-matter-psychologists-weigh-in-18799908 speaking-your-partners-love-language-may-not-matter Love Language: Take The quiz https://www.5lovelanguages.com/5-love-languages/ https://cratedwithlove.com/blogs/general/5-love-languages-and-what-they-mean https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

In a recent study, data showed that BLACK MEN have admitted to cheating more than any other race. ALSO, that most cheating happens after 35 years old. With more people over 65+ admitting to it! The data also shows, most participants grew up in a home without both of their parents and do not attend religious services that often. How is this correlated? Why are Black Men being chastised in the media and in private?  Do they deserve it? Is is just societal influences? Are Black Men really the weakest link? Let's discuss.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER SOURCES https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america https://www.heretohelp.bc.ca/infosheet/tips-for-good-mental-health Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

You’re in a relationship, situationship or entanglement. Suddenly, and maybe without any warning at all, your partner seems to have disappeared. No calls, no text messages, no connection made on social media, no responses to any of your messages. Odds are, your partner hasn’t unexpectedly left town because of a family emergency, and isn’t lying dead in a ditch somewhere but, rather, has simply ended the relationship without bothering to explain or even let you know. You’ve been ghosted.  Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

When you’re not legally bound to another person, you have the freedom to learn, grow, and explore, without any of the guilt associated with taking time for self-care. And the payoff there is that if you do decide you'd like to pair off with someone, you know exactly who you are and what you want. The reality is, 110.6 million Americans ages 18 or older (or 45.2 percent) are single, according to data from the U.S. Census Bureau—a number that’s been rising since 2015. And people are staying single longer than ever before; in 2018, the highest median ages ever for a first marriage were reported: 30 years for men and 28 years for women. So why does everything somehow revolve around finding "the one?" and why does it seem like people are obsessive over finding love. Why isn't being single enough?  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS:  https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a27790346/benefits-of-being-single/ https://inspiringtips.com/reasons-to-enjoy-being-single-in-your-20s/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially at fault for the harm that befell them. The study of victimology seeks to mitigate the prejudice against victims, and the perception that victims are in any way responsible for the actions of offenders. What we attempt to do, when victim blaming, is find a cause or a blame for the event happening which then makes the event somewhat controllable or avoidable and therefore enables us to protect ourselves from it. It suggests that if we think of a reason as to why a rape has been experienced by someone else, we could simply not do that one thing that caused it and we will be safe. The show 'Bridgerton' will also be discussed because a rape scene no one noticed was actually aired.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_blaming https://www.starsdorset.org/blog/why-do-we-victim-blame https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/recognizing-the-distinction-between-blame-and-responsibility.html Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

According to PubMed: It is estimated that autism spectrum disorders (ASD) affect 1 in 500 live births per year. However, due to varying techniques for diagnosis and treatment, the disability remains the subject of debate. African Americans tend to suffer disproportionate rates of disability and disease when compared to other racial and ethnic groups due to access to preventative and curative care. As a result, African American children may require longer and more intensive intervention. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: http://www.autisminblack.com https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/disabilityandhealth/materials/infographic-disabilities-ethnicity-race.html https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4919210/ https://www.aaihs.org/disability-whats-black-people-got-to-do-with-it-angel-love-miles/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21707353/ https://www.openaccessgovernment.org/black-autism/91621/ http://dhss.alaska.gov/dph/wcfh/Pages/autism/spectrum.aspx Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay] Guest #1 Details: Antonio Meyers  About: Autistic child prodigy, brilliant adult, and a talented Black man.  Social media: https://anchor.fm/antonio-myers4 (TonioTimeDaily podcast) https://www.instagram.com/highlypraiseworthygracemayor/ (Instagram page)

Diaspora conflicts usually derive from perceived insults or disrespect from someone from a different ethnic group or nationality towards another group of African descendants from a differing ethnic or national background. Most conflicts are inflamed due to mass generalizations and stereotypes of a negative context applied to varying groups. These conflicts can range from feelings of cultural superiority, feelings of disunity or abandonment, and or feelings of disrespect. Many African Diaspora Conflicts derive from misunderstandings due to cultural perceptions and usage of language. So why are Africans and African Americans still fighting this invisible war? Our enemy is not each other; our enemy is always white supremacy, capitalism, colonialism, and imperialism. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER SOURCES https://wearyourvoicemag.com/colonialism-diaspora-wars/ https://www.okayafrica.com/amp/the-diaspora-wars-of-shes-gotta-have-it-2638530478 Black Ethnics: Race, Immigration, and the Pursuit of the American Dream. https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/good-mental-health Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay] Guest #1 Details: Arneka Berkeley About: Owner of various hair and hair product businesses.  Social media: @afrocentricity_92

When you think about the science behind why it matters if a guy was taller than you or not, there are likely evolutionary reasons women want to be shorter. For the survival of the species, men should be the hunters and women the gatherers. But, it isn’t just about bringing home dinner, it is about protecting their family. For the same evolutionary reason, men tend to like women shorter than them. Wanting to be the stronger sex because that is the way that the genders were designed, men usually seek out shorter women because they have a height advantage over them. It makes them feel more powerful. So does height matter? Only you can answer that question for yourself. If you love someone for who they are on the inside, it makes no difference how tall or short they are. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Black Owned Self Defense Products: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/amp/entry/mind-the-gap-does-height-really-matter-when-youre-dating_uk_5c6ab7c1e4b01757c36de6ea/ https://www.verywellfit.com/average-height-for-a-man-statistics-2632137 https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/relationships/does-height-really-matter-in-a-relationship https://www.bbrfoundation.org/blog/everyday-mental-health-tips Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

When you meet someone, they usually dont show their true colors for another 2-3 months because all the facade fades after 6-8 dates and you get to see who you might be spending the rest of your time with and if it is worth it. Whether you’re dating someone, adopting a dog or taking a new job, it takes three months to figure out what you’ve gotten yourself into. But do you have to wait that long to know for sure very single time?  According to a CNN article: The first three months of knowing someone is a time of illusions. Instead of seeing the person objectively, you see them for who you want them to be. Your object of desire is laden with fantasies and projections. We think it takes about three months to strip away the layers and start to see this person for who they really are but you might not feel the same. Let's break it down.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: https://www.sarahgrat.com/3-month-rule/ https://socialunderground.com/2016/11/3-month-rule-relationships/ http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/03/tf.three.month.dating.rule/index.html 138920-this-is-how-many-one-night-stands-turn-into-relationships https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19545154/how-to-turn-a-one-night-stand-into-a-relationship/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

From Jay-Z's album 4:44, the title of the episode was borrowed to shed light on IGP for discussions on why and how the Black community continues to create division amongst ourselves in various ways. From the FBI's Universal Crime Report in 2014; 90% of Black people killed were killed by other Black people. Black women are killed every 19 hours by a man. Black girls are being deprived of their innocence due to the over-sexualization of their existence. During the slave-era in the U.S., Black women were referred to as Jezebels. The term was used to suggest that Black women were innately promiscuous and sexually predatory. It was conceived that Black women had an insatiable appetite for sex, which slave owners used as a justification for rape. We will touch on a few current events as examples of the division created that further separate Black people from succeeding together.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Self defense: https://beyonddefense.net OTHER LINKS: https://abcnews.go.com/amp/US/black-black-crime-loaded-controversial-phrase-heard-amid/story?id=72051613 https://marquettewire.org/4041391/featured/moses-oversexualization-of-black-girls-women-must-stop/ https://archive.thinkprogress.org/what-happened-when-scientists-put-african-americans-on-an-african-diet-and-africans-on-an-american-5b5c5aec6e1e/ https://www.bbrfoundation.org/blog/everyday-mental-health-tips Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Even if you don’t have children, the newness of the relationship wears off after 3 or 4 years together. Typically, this is when sex becomes more routine. “Intimacy breaks down at this stage because couples don’t talk about their sex life,” According to a John Hopkins Article: “Couples aren’t as intentional about connecting with each other as they were earlier in the relationship." Besides the age of a relationship, other factors can lead to less intimacy, too. Career and family pressures can take up your time and kill your energy. Relational resentments can develop over time as well. If you find yourself avoiding sex, you’re not alone: Approximately 1 in 10 women experiences a decrease in her sex drive at some point in her life. Let's break down some ways to please your partner whether you are having an adventurous sex life or a mildly boring one. Guest details: Charity Barksdale CEO of Lavish Seductions L.L.C IG:  lavish_seductions http://www.LavishSeductions.com Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/keep-the-spark-alive-in-your-marriage https://www.becausehealth.com/blog/7-ways-to-please-your-partner-lockdown https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-pleasure-and-sexual-dysfunction/sex-and-pleasure/sex-toys Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Nearly 1 in 5 women have experienced completed or attempted rape during her lifetime. 1 in 3 female rape victims experienced it for the first time between 11-17 years old. 1 in 8 female rape victims reported that it occurred before age 10. Nearly 1 in 38 men have experienced completed or attempted rape during his lifetime. About 1 in 4 male rape victims experienced it for the first time between 11-17 years old. About 1 in 4 male rape victims reported that it occurred before age 10. EX. Stealthing, Urban Dictionary describes it as "When a man removes condom during sex without his partners knowledge or consent. Legally considered a form of rape or sexual assault in some places. Considered a shitty thing to do everywhere else." **Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/rape/types-of-rape-the-different-forms-of-rape https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Types_of_rape https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gray_rape https://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline https://www.cdc.gov/injury/features/sexual-violence/index.html https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Stealthing Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay] Guest #1 Details: Taiwo Ajayi  About: Re-occurring Guest  Social media: @king_taiwo

What is Church Hurt? The term, refers to the pain sometimes inflicted by religious institution — a pain that distances sufferers from their communities and from God. Every year, about 2.7 million church members drop from church membership. One of the main reasons is attributed I’m leaving as hurt and wounded victims after experiencing some form of abuse, disillusionment, or from feelings of abandonment and neglect. 23% Of Pastors Deal With Mental Illness...and 35% Of Americans Believe Bible Study Cures Mental Illness and that is not entirely true, especially if you are not religious so let's break it down with some facts and personal stories.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com OTHER LINKS: www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2017/03/08/amid-a-wave-of-church-hurt-one-boston-pastor-tries-to-repair-christians-relationship-with-god/?outputType=amp https://reachrightstudios.com/church-statistics https://uhs.umich.edu/tenthings Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Children don't ask to come into the world. No one who has consensual sex is oblivious to how babies are made yet the statistic for single motherhood continue to climb up, especially in the Black community. MGTOW, Red Pill & SYSBM are acronyms for a group of men with mentalities that are anti-feminist, misogynistic, and mostly an online community advocating for men to separate themselves from women and from a society which they believe has been destroyed by feminism. To top it off, Senetor Tom Cotton of Arkansas stated that he wants to increase child support payments to the custodial parent. This led to a lot of men on Twitter (mostly Black) complaining about it being unfair. Let's discuss why this is such a problematic issue.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com Other Links:  https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=SYSBM&amp=true https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men_Going_Their_Own_Way https://www.amiethedatingcoach.com/five-reasons-most-relationships-end-in-less-than-5-months/ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/vasectomy/how-do-i-get-vasectomy https://uhs.umich.edu/tenthings Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

In a survey on love and finances conducted by Money and SurveyMonkey, a whopping 78% of respondents said they think men should pay for the first date. And, perhaps surprisingly, 85% of men were even more likely than women (at 72%) to think that men should foot the bill as well. Even after the first date, men tend to pick up the majority of expenses and report feeling guilty taking money from women. Should this be the normal dating etiquette?? Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Black mental health resources: https://twitter.com/testtubeplush/status/1337231680679993344 Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/ Who should pay for dates: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2020/02/12/who-should-pay-for-dates-how-chivalry-contributes-to-the-gender-pay-gap/?sh=4728c9bb3fa3 Etiquettes on paying for dates: https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/money-diaries-date-paid-for-dinner Charming your date: https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-dating/guy-always-pay/ Financial dating etiquette: https://www.moneycrashers.com/dating-etiquette-rules-women/ https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health Guest #1 Details: Jesse (aka Marquis Music Artist) About: Singer/Rap Artist with music on various platforms Social media: @jesseoldellimusic Link: www.linktr.ee/jesseoldellimusic Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

According to WHO: Female genital mutilation (FGM) involves the partial or total removal of external female genitalia or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. The practice has no health benefits for girls and women; FGM can cause severe bleeding and problems urinating, and later cysts, infections, as well as complications in childbirth and increased risk of newborn deaths. Even though male circumcision is considered by many as a form of genital mutilation, it cannot be evenly compared to FGM due to the heavier negative adverse events associated with FGM. The worst forms of female genital cutting are unquestionably worse than the usual form of Western male circumcision, but the worst forms of male circumcision are also far worse than the lesser forms of female cutting so its a long standing argument we won’t touch on today. Let's break down the history and facts on FGM and why its obviously problematic.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/ The realities of FGM- Personal Story: https://www.mcgilldaily.com/2011/10/the-reality-of-fgm/ WHO fact sheet for FGM: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilation UNICEF statistics data: https://data.unicef.org/topic/child-protection/female-genital-mutilation/ Circumcision: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/05/male-circumcision-vs-female-circumcision/392732/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Feeling masculine or manly is part of a majority of men’s identities in 2018: When asked how masculine or “manly” they generally feel, 83 percent of men said they felt “very” or “somewhat” masculine. But many fewer, 53 percent, said it was very or somewhat important that others see them that way. A majority of men, 64 percent, said their father or a father figure was a source of their ideas about what it means to be a good man. Toxic masculinity vs Masculinity: Masculinity- Positively characterized as qualities that are; strong, community building, utilitarian, practical. It also suggests that men who act too emotional or maybe aren’t violent enough or don’t do all of the things that “real men” do, can get their “man card” taken away. Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/ What it is to be a man: https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/what-do-men-think-it-means-to-be-a-man/amp/ Mental health: https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health What women find attractive: https://www.toolsofmen.com/what-do-women-find-attractive/ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Has the word female replaces a bitch? Is it now derogatory like bitch? Why are so many women against it? Why are so many men not getting it? "Female" as a noun erases the subject—making "female" the subject of the sentence. In the most technical sense, it's correct, but by employing this word that is usually an adjective as a noun, you're reducing her whole personhood to the confines of that adjective. It's calling someone "a white" instead of a white person, or "a black" instead of a black person, and so on. "When you refer to a woman as a female, you're ignoring the fact that she is a female human, not an animal." But are we thinking too deep about this word? Let's ask our guest.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just A week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/ Why you should stop using Females: https://www.buzzfeed.com/tracyclayton/stop-calling-women-females?utm_term=.qyLbLk1kD#.ya1Raq1qx\ Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay] Guest #1 Details: Taiwo About: Reoccurring guest feature Social media: @King_taiwo Guest #2 Details: Amiri About: New guest Social media: @theprinceishere Business: THC infusions - @higherspiritz

There is this mentality that when a man buys you a drink at the club, takes you on a date, or flies you out of state/country on a trip - sex is owed as a form of gratification or an unspoken payment from the woman in heterosexual relationships. Is this a mentality that a lot of men actually share or is this societal standards that's falsified and overhyped? Why do so many women complain about the pressure to have sex when a man pays for anything and why do so many men pressure women for sex or some type of sexual activity once they spend a little of money on a woman? ***Video used in discussion is located on the IG page for relevance: https://www.instagram.com/p/CHQdUBepXP3/ Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/ Elite Daily: https://www.elitedaily.com/p/do-people-care-about-who-pays-on-a-date-heres-what-experts-have-to-say-17015596 Twitter Mentions: www.twitter.com #ENDSARS and other Protest in Africa: https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/25/africa/nigeria-end-sars-protests-analysis-intl/index.html Mental health tip: https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay] Guest #1 Details: Taiwo About: Reoccurring guest feature Social media: @King_taiwo Guest #2 Details: Amiri About: New guest Social media: @theprinceishere Business: THC infusions - @higherspiritz

If all you date are women/men the shade of paperbags and women/men under 160 pounds, with no variety or history or attempt at even trying something outside of that box, can you still call that a simple preference of is it plain discriminatory? Being plus-sized creates an unwelcoming environment that reinforces the idea that bodies that don’t meet certain standards are undesirable. This issue can even extend to people with disabilities and how they may be treated when dating and in other institutions. So when does one cross the line from having a preference over into discrimination against everything and everyone else that does not fit within your box? Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/ Dating preferences: http://www.jackcentral.org/opinion/pillowtalk-are-your-dating-preferences-discriminatory/article_e86c5be9-5f23-5dfd-af78-21a9ec5c0d7b.html Time: https://time.com/4512430/colorism-in-america/ Weight discrimination: https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/weight-discrimination-is-rampant-yet-in-most-places-its-still-legal/2019/06/21/f958613e-9394-11e9-b72d-d56510fa753e_story.html Is weight discrimination illegal? - https://hrdailyadvisor.blr.com/2019/07/08/is-weight-discrimination-illegal/ #ENDSARS and other Protest in Africa: https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/25/africa/nigeria-end-sars-protests-analysis-intl/index.html Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Urban Dictionary definition of Thot: It can stand for 'That Hoe Over There'; "A thot is usually active on social media especially instagram and Snapchat (and now only fans). On instagram she can be found in pictures of her in the dog filter and is usually half naked. On Snapchat she is most likely posting videos of her obnoxiously lip syncing to rap songs, while playing with her hair, thinking she looks like Kylie Jenner." These type of definitions have been associated with women who have chosen to publicly embrace their sexuality which makes them vulnerable to judgements and maltreatments, meanwhile these same actions exhibited have been welcomed in the hip-hop community amongst male rappers without much pushback. Let's touch on the double standards real quick and dissect some raunchy lyrics.  Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/ Derogatory Rap lyrics: https://www.complex.com/music/2013/03/the-50-grossest-rap-lyrics/king-gordy-mr-187 Psychology today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/catching-homelessness/201806/prostitution-exploitation-not-work?amp Mental health: https://www.mhanational.org/31-tips-boost-your-mental-health #ENDSARS and other Protest in Africa: https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/25/africa/nigeria-end-sars-protests-analysis-intl/index.html Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Annabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]

Acting White is one of the most negative accusations one Black adolescent can hurl at another. Embedded in ethnic/racial identity (ERI), acting White has nothing to do with wanting to be White and everything to do with what does it mean to be Black. This unknowingly is labeling Black vernacular as ghetto, unrefined and improper while labeling proper and clear English as cleaner, good and more acceptable. In popular culture, it is largely misunderstood, and thought of as "bad English," "ebonics" (originally coined in 1973 by someone with good intentions, from "ebony" and "phonics," but now starting to become a slur), "ghetto talk" (definitely a slur), and the "blaccent”. It's time to break the stereotype that sounding proper or speaking clearly is sounding "White." Resources: How to support BLM: https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/how-to-support-black-lives-matter Therapy Sources: Primary Care Physician, IG: @Betterhelp, Employee assistance programs and therapyforblackgirls.com BetterHelp is free for 1 month not just 1 week specifically with our link: https://www.betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman/ What is AAVE: https://www.languagejones.com/blog-1/2014/6/8/what-is-aave Sounding White: https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-030-12228-7_26 Code-switching: https://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2013/04/13/177126294/five-reasons-why-people-code-switch Mental health tip: https://uhs.umich.edu/tenthings Socials: Interact with us! Listen & Subscribe: https://wavve.link/igotproblems/episodes Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4vxFpB8ofKwqqjUjtncPVg IG: igotproblemspod Podcast website: https://anchor.fm/igotproblems Production Notes: Produced by Dolapo of the "Terminal 234" podcast Edited by Host: Sandra [IG: coitraveler] Co-Host #1: Anabelle [IG: msjudy_1028] Tentative Co-Host #2: Doyin [IG: msdoyinjay]