Kimology 411

When you are looking for ideas and you see someone doing something that you want to replicate be respectful to that creative person. Give them credit for the idea or take the premise that they're using and make it your own.

I'm not sure when it started but normally when someone says they're from Topeka we get a negative attitude from people even people that have never been here. But the most negative attitude is when I'm talking to people in Topeka and they act as if the world is so much better out there. When in reality no matter where you live if you have a negative attitude it's going to be negative. Your community is what you make of it. And the Topeka Community is freaking awesome.

I think I finally found out that it wasn't about the breakup and losing a person that made me the saddest. I think it was the beautiful future that I had envisioned us spending together and how awesome life would have been with him. It took me a little bit to get over that idea to realize that I still get to have that awesome future I just had to make a few tweaks and twerks.

Well I do not like to start something and not finish it. And last year I started taking a couple golf lessons and today I restarted my golf lessons in Topeka.

Well my pretend boyfriend Marshall Mathers AKA Eminem released a new song and I cannot wait for his new album. He is just someone that I have always admired and I have loved watching his career from start to now and one day I will meet him. I mean I think he already has my name tattooed on his arm somewhere. But there are only a few people that are in the spotlight like he is but I need to meet and he is one of them. Also Fauci is in the hot seat.

We all know that getting through a hard time takes a lot of work. It's why a lot of people are so sad or mean because I just don't have the energy. But today on Tik Tok I saw that someone said broken people try to break other people and that resonated.

Everybody seems to have so much stuff. So if you really want to give somebody something awesome give them your time. Give them an adventure. Give them a happy memory. Because when we sit around with our friends we don't talk about our things we talk about that one time.

I tell people all the time to look up from your phones and just say hi to random strangers walking down the street. I tell people that it doesn't take a lot to change someone's day completely. And sometimes it might just be an apple and an Oreo cookie. Or in my case a Milky way.

Some men prefer broken women. Because that means they have to give the least amount of energy

Text also can cause a lot of problems. Instant gratification is something that annoys me most of the time. But when someone sends you a text and you're trying to date when is the appropriate time to respond. I mean because we all have lives, kids, work, and entertainment. We can't always pick up our phone without maybe looking rude to respond to a text. So how do we figure out texting protocol with the people that you are hanging out with or maybe work with.

I've heard too many women say I don't need a man I want a man. And we look at that word as such a bad word. When in reality if you are single and you want to find someone to spend the rest of your life with than indeed you do need that person to make your future Dreams Come true.

I'm not sure about you but I love when you just at this last minute book a hotel make some plans and get out of town. My mom and I had a great Memorial Day weekend in branson!

I have always believed that making sure to say thank you after someone has done something for you is very important! It's something that's very simple but yet has a big impact.

One of my biggest pet peeves is seeing so many people staring at their phone all day. So that carries over when I go to a restaurant and they walk out with one of those handhelds and stare at it the entire time. I know it's not their fault but the owner needs to train their people on correctly using one of those handheld and still providing customer service.

Heard that the grass is never greener on the other side our entire life. And of course at each age that meaning changes. But it still does hold true that you really only have one life to live so I'm not sure why so many people try to live other people's lives or expect other people to take part of their life to help them. The only person that is responsible for your happiness is you.

It really isn't about picking a man or bear. It is getting men to understand the fear that women deal with daily that isn't talked about or even understood by men.

This weekend I went to a movie alone. Sometimes people think it's weird when I do things alone. But when you have been alone most of your life you can either sit at home depressed or you can get out and see the world. I choose to get out and see the world!

Once again on tick tok they gave me some topics. And one of them was you can't control the wind but you can control the sail. And what that means is you can't control the bad things that happened to you but you can control how you react. That being said a lot of times we get these gut feelings and they're trying to label it with all of these avoidant detachment narcissist words. We have all these labels and instead of that I want to say that we call it gut feelings. And when you're in a relationship and things do not seem right, we need to stop ignoring that and we need to communicate or we need to walk away. Because just remember you deserve to be happy all the time not just 10% of the time.

We are made up of energy! And when we talk about Karma we talk about the energy that is in this world. There is good and bad karma. In order for us to understand this we have to declutter our brain and pay attention.

Just because someone says something to you doesn't mean you have to listen. Just because you graduate from college doesn't mean you have to put your life on hold to pursue a high level job. Just because someone says that you can be a stay-at-home mom doesn't mean they're telling you that you must stay home to take care of the kids and do all the housework. What is going on in our world that we are taking a College commencement speech to this level? How is it so wrongly interpreted?

As a gen xer I am tired of listening to these younger Generations acting as if we had an easy period every generation has had to fight for what they want. It just seems as if the younger Generations believe that it's going to be handed to them and that there is no possibility to get anything so they don't even want to put in the fight. And that will be their downfall. Everything we have we fought for. If you want the life we had in the 70s and '80s then you've got a lot of stuff to give up because we didn't have nearly the amount of crap that people have nowadays.

Tyson and I have talked about this before but now that everything seems to be electronic we need to make sure that we are safeguarding anytime we use our debit card. You never want to hand your debit card to a stranger because when you hand them your debit card you are handing them access to your cash. If possible you need to put your auto charges on a credit card and not your debit card. You need to make online purchases with a credit card not a debit card. Why?

Tyson and I have talked about this before but a I can be your friend or your worst enemy!

Well vacation season has begun! A trip to Atlanta is just what I needed.

I think sometimes when we're not liking what our life is we like to look at other people's life it's social media and believe that their life is perfect. When in reality their struggles are exactly that their struggles. We can't look at other people's lives and believe that their lives are better than ours. Because we don't know what they go through most of their day. Only small parts appear on social media. And if somebody is confessing their ever loving dying hard to someone more than likely there's more to that story than you will ever know.

How do you celebrate these types of holidays?

Living in Kansas we have bad weather. High winds, tornadoes, and flooding are just a few things we encounter every spring. And this is also the time that I hope that the weatherman is wrong!

When parents do not live together and have children who are young, I tell everyone do not talk crap about your ex because eventually your kids will grow up and see people for who they truly are.

So I watched two movies this weekend. One movie was about an 18-year-old who was infatuated with her older teacher. The other one was a middle-aged mom who started dating a 20 something pop star.

I normally don't unfriend people on social media but going forward and now realize that I do not need that kind of negativity in my life. If want to know all the cool things I do they can watch that from the outside. They just don't get the privilege to make the comments anymore.

So we're finally getting to the final determination of what will make you a 1099 versus a W-2 employee. It's been over a year and they have been tweaking it. And now I hear that people believe that our government is taking away your "side hustle" which they're not taking it away they're only changing how you get paid. When you spend a year complaining about not making any money they're going to pretend as if they care and make you think that they're going to make it so that you will be making money. When in reality all they're doing is trying to figure out how the government can make more money.

Is anyone else feeling like their brain isn't able to focus? Are you having struggles with getting things done? I know that this is going to be a good year but so far it has been tough!

One of my favorite places to come is branson! There's so much to do! But once again this trip was for business and an adventure with my brother.

I have always loved to work since I was a young child. In fact I never really looked at it as a bad thing I looked at it as just helping. In today's world everyone is so focused on how horrible work is I don't get paid enough to work blah blah blah! The way I look at life is I don't work I live life. And I do what I want when I want and most of what I'm doing involves work. But I am responsible for making my life the best I can which has to include doing something that makes the money to live the life.

How many people had to take state and local government in high school? How many people paid attention? How many people even took it in college? Yet we still don't understand how government works. And if we can't understand how our governments work then why would we even understand our foreign countries governments. The moral of the story is learn the laws before you travel inside or out of the United states. It could save you 12 years of your life.

On my podcast I like to talk about things that are actually going on in my life. I don't really hold too much back sometimes I do just because I want to protect other people not necessarily myself. But it is nice when people do come up to you and tell you thank you for putting the stuff that I put out. So many people have come up to me and said that it has helped them get through a hard time and that my vulnerability was such a positive thing to them. So at the end of the day no I am not embarrassed.

As much as everyone wishes that everyone had enough money to live the life that they dream of having the government raise minimum salaries is not as easy and going to be as fun as you think. You can't tell a business to give someone a mandatory $10,000 a year raise without price is going up or jobs being eliminated. But yet people are excited and believe that this is going to happen and that they're going to make more money and they do not understand how something like this is going to affect them, the economy, and their job. Why do we think that the government has any idea how to run a good business? How do we just tell businesses what they need to pay their employees and what each job is valued at? And why do we pretend when we say salary that it's kind of all the same. I guess we'll see if this actually happens or if it's taken back to court like they did when Obama tried this.

Everyday the universe or your spirit Angels give you a little tap telling you that this isn't right this isn't going to work or this is good. The question is are you listening to the Taps because if you aren't then you're going to get a push and if you don't listen to the push you will get a shove. And we never really want to get to the shove.

We have masculine energy and we have feminine energy when we are in a relationship. And we continually talk about the masculine energy and what is expected of a masculine man. However many women have attempted to take on both parts. As a single mom I know I had to do that to raise my kids in a house without a man. But we're able to lay out what we expect from a man but what are we supposed to expect from the woman?

The one thing everyone on this planet has in common is that we will all die. So that's why I'm saying you just need to do it now.

A lot of people say that they wish that they could go back and change something in their past, but I truly believe that our past made us who we are today. Whether you like who you are or not you are who you are because of your past and you are the only one writing your future. Everything else are just lessons that you're learning. You've been given a handbook you just need to pay attention.

I know we've talked about this before but Tick Tock was just reminding me how finding a new relationship is almost impossible today because of social media. Social media gives people access it's too easy to find the next branch.

It's very hard to not realize all the different things that you have to go through when you're grieving the end of a relationship. The biggest part is of course the relationship part and knowing that your present and your future are not going to be what you had imagined. But what I wasn't focusing on are all of the unanswered questions and things that we were dealing with while in a relationship / friendship. And how my empathy is still wanting to make sure that he is okay. And that me holding on to those final answers is probably not a good thing. So with this podcast I will release all of that energy to the universe so that I can move on and even though I do care I cannot wait to close that chapter so it's going to be closed without answers.

I kept asking myself how does your ex just move on to another person so fast. Move them into the house that you guys were living in and just act like everything is just fine. Well today on tick tock I came across a video that kind of resonated with me.