Kimology 411

I'm not sure about you but I love when you just at this last minute book a hotel make some plans and get out of town. My mom and I had a great Memorial Day weekend in branson!

I have always believed that making sure to say thank you after someone has done something for you is very important! It's something that's very simple but yet has a big impact.

One of my biggest pet peeves is seeing so many people staring at their phone all day. So that carries over when I go to a restaurant and they walk out with one of those handhelds and stare at it the entire time. I know it's not their fault but the owner needs to train their people on correctly using one of those handheld and still providing customer service.

Heard that the grass is never greener on the other side our entire life. And of course at each age that meaning changes. But it still does hold true that you really only have one life to live so I'm not sure why so many people try to live other people's lives or expect other people to take part of their life to help them. The only person that is responsible for your happiness is you.

It really isn't about picking a man or bear. It is getting men to understand the fear that women deal with daily that isn't talked about or even understood by men.

This weekend I went to a movie alone. Sometimes people think it's weird when I do things alone. But when you have been alone most of your life you can either sit at home depressed or you can get out and see the world. I choose to get out and see the world!

Once again on tick tok they gave me some topics. And one of them was you can't control the wind but you can control the sail. And what that means is you can't control the bad things that happened to you but you can control how you react. That being said a lot of times we get these gut feelings and they're trying to label it with all of these avoidant detachment narcissist words. We have all these labels and instead of that I want to say that we call it gut feelings. And when you're in a relationship and things do not seem right, we need to stop ignoring that and we need to communicate or we need to walk away. Because just remember you deserve to be happy all the time not just 10% of the time.

We are made up of energy! And when we talk about Karma we talk about the energy that is in this world. There is good and bad karma. In order for us to understand this we have to declutter our brain and pay attention.

Just because someone says something to you doesn't mean you have to listen. Just because you graduate from college doesn't mean you have to put your life on hold to pursue a high level job. Just because someone says that you can be a stay-at-home mom doesn't mean they're telling you that you must stay home to take care of the kids and do all the housework. What is going on in our world that we are taking a College commencement speech to this level? How is it so wrongly interpreted?

As a gen xer I am tired of listening to these younger Generations acting as if we had an easy period every generation has had to fight for what they want. It just seems as if the younger Generations believe that it's going to be handed to them and that there is no possibility to get anything so they don't even want to put in the fight. And that will be their downfall. Everything we have we fought for. If you want the life we had in the 70s and '80s then you've got a lot of stuff to give up because we didn't have nearly the amount of crap that people have nowadays.

Tyson and I have talked about this before but now that everything seems to be electronic we need to make sure that we are safeguarding anytime we use our debit card. You never want to hand your debit card to a stranger because when you hand them your debit card you are handing them access to your cash. If possible you need to put your auto charges on a credit card and not your debit card. You need to make online purchases with a credit card not a debit card. Why?

Tyson and I have talked about this before but a I can be your friend or your worst enemy!

Well vacation season has begun! A trip to Atlanta is just what I needed.

I think sometimes when we're not liking what our life is we like to look at other people's life it's social media and believe that their life is perfect. When in reality their struggles are exactly that their struggles. We can't look at other people's lives and believe that their lives are better than ours. Because we don't know what they go through most of their day. Only small parts appear on social media. And if somebody is confessing their ever loving dying hard to someone more than likely there's more to that story than you will ever know.

How do you celebrate these types of holidays?

Living in Kansas we have bad weather. High winds, tornadoes, and flooding are just a few things we encounter every spring. And this is also the time that I hope that the weatherman is wrong!

When parents do not live together and have children who are young, I tell everyone do not talk crap about your ex because eventually your kids will grow up and see people for who they truly are.

So I watched two movies this weekend. One movie was about an 18-year-old who was infatuated with her older teacher. The other one was a middle-aged mom who started dating a 20 something pop star.

I normally don't unfriend people on social media but going forward and now realize that I do not need that kind of negativity in my life. If want to know all the cool things I do they can watch that from the outside. They just don't get the privilege to make the comments anymore.

So we're finally getting to the final determination of what will make you a 1099 versus a W-2 employee. It's been over a year and they have been tweaking it. And now I hear that people believe that our government is taking away your "side hustle" which they're not taking it away they're only changing how you get paid. When you spend a year complaining about not making any money they're going to pretend as if they care and make you think that they're going to make it so that you will be making money. When in reality all they're doing is trying to figure out how the government can make more money.

Is anyone else feeling like their brain isn't able to focus? Are you having struggles with getting things done? I know that this is going to be a good year but so far it has been tough!

One of my favorite places to come is branson! There's so much to do! But once again this trip was for business and an adventure with my brother.

I have always loved to work since I was a young child. In fact I never really looked at it as a bad thing I looked at it as just helping. In today's world everyone is so focused on how horrible work is I don't get paid enough to work blah blah blah! The way I look at life is I don't work I live life. And I do what I want when I want and most of what I'm doing involves work. But I am responsible for making my life the best I can which has to include doing something that makes the money to live the life.

How many people had to take state and local government in high school? How many people paid attention? How many people even took it in college? Yet we still don't understand how government works. And if we can't understand how our governments work then why would we even understand our foreign countries governments. The moral of the story is learn the laws before you travel inside or out of the United states. It could save you 12 years of your life.

On my podcast I like to talk about things that are actually going on in my life. I don't really hold too much back sometimes I do just because I want to protect other people not necessarily myself. But it is nice when people do come up to you and tell you thank you for putting the stuff that I put out. So many people have come up to me and said that it has helped them get through a hard time and that my vulnerability was such a positive thing to them. So at the end of the day no I am not embarrassed.

As much as everyone wishes that everyone had enough money to live the life that they dream of having the government raise minimum salaries is not as easy and going to be as fun as you think. You can't tell a business to give someone a mandatory $10,000 a year raise without price is going up or jobs being eliminated. But yet people are excited and believe that this is going to happen and that they're going to make more money and they do not understand how something like this is going to affect them, the economy, and their job. Why do we think that the government has any idea how to run a good business? How do we just tell businesses what they need to pay their employees and what each job is valued at? And why do we pretend when we say salary that it's kind of all the same. I guess we'll see if this actually happens or if it's taken back to court like they did when Obama tried this.

Everyday the universe or your spirit Angels give you a little tap telling you that this isn't right this isn't going to work or this is good. The question is are you listening to the Taps because if you aren't then you're going to get a push and if you don't listen to the push you will get a shove. And we never really want to get to the shove.

We have masculine energy and we have feminine energy when we are in a relationship. And we continually talk about the masculine energy and what is expected of a masculine man. However many women have attempted to take on both parts. As a single mom I know I had to do that to raise my kids in a house without a man. But we're able to lay out what we expect from a man but what are we supposed to expect from the woman?

The one thing everyone on this planet has in common is that we will all die. So that's why I'm saying you just need to do it now.

A lot of people say that they wish that they could go back and change something in their past, but I truly believe that our past made us who we are today. Whether you like who you are or not you are who you are because of your past and you are the only one writing your future. Everything else are just lessons that you're learning. You've been given a handbook you just need to pay attention.

I know we've talked about this before but Tick Tock was just reminding me how finding a new relationship is almost impossible today because of social media. Social media gives people access it's too easy to find the next branch.

It's very hard to not realize all the different things that you have to go through when you're grieving the end of a relationship. The biggest part is of course the relationship part and knowing that your present and your future are not going to be what you had imagined. But what I wasn't focusing on are all of the unanswered questions and things that we were dealing with while in a relationship / friendship. And how my empathy is still wanting to make sure that he is okay. And that me holding on to those final answers is probably not a good thing. So with this podcast I will release all of that energy to the universe so that I can move on and even though I do care I cannot wait to close that chapter so it's going to be closed without answers.

I kept asking myself how does your ex just move on to another person so fast. Move them into the house that you guys were living in and just act like everything is just fine. Well today on tick tock I came across a video that kind of resonated with me.

Today I heard on tick tock that once you get to sobriety the good thing about it is that you're going to live the best life you've ever had. Which means that leading up to alcoholism you were going through a lot of different things and you weren't able to deal with them on your own. So using alcohol to self medicate made you fall asleep believe things were better. But when you get to the other side you now have learned how to deal with life without using alcohol. And this is probably going to be the best life you've ever had. It's not easy but you're worth it.

I've walked in my neighborhood for over 30 years and have never had a time where I felt something was not right. But on Sunday I had that feeling and it's not a good feeling that women have to carry around all this caution because there are so many things out there that could be a threat to us. I would rather listen to my gut and be wrong than to ignore it and something bad happened.

So now there's a trend on Tick Tock with a bunch of women saying that you don't have to forgive. That it's okay that you like to carry around all the feelings and I would say the darkness I'm not sure what they say. We all know this is not a good way to live life. Yet here we are having people say, Young people, say it's okay if you're wronged you don't need to work on forgiveness.

This isn't the first time I got blamed for something I didn't do. And it will not be the last. But I'm okay if I have to be the bad guy it's not the first time and of course it's not going to be the last time. So blame away

I had so much fun last night going to movie night/comedy/karaoke! It's fun to be

Simply said you are responsible for you. And just because society says one thing doesn't mean you have to listen. But we're going to talk about stay-at-home moms and a couple other things I saw on tiktok.

Just because you forgive someone or something doesn't mean it's necessarily fixable.

For years I have been carrying around this wall! Something that protects your heart because we know when you give out your heart you have a very high potential of getting that heart hurt. But now I know I no longer need this wall. I know that I can get through anything that is handed to me so I no longer have to take the weight of this wall.

Today on Tick Tock videos a young woman who graduated from college with two degrees and a certificate was talking about how she was only being offered entry-level jobs.

There's a song on Tik Tok that is very popular right now. And of course Dax at the Grand Ole Opry talked about his struggle with addiction. This is very serious but it's even more serious when doctors decide to give you a pill without giving you other things to work on to make your life better. Or for people to think it's just easy enough to take a pill or take a shot to help them cope with life. That is not the healthy way to fight the darkness

I definitely have more work to do. It's not easy when someone you trusted lies and cheats to you the entire time. It really makes you rethink a lot of stuff.