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Why Transparency Of Body Count Is Important For Both Men And Women?

It shows that you are being transparent, open, and honest with each other.

It allows both the potential husband or wife to address concerns they may have due to their potential spouse body count and how it could affect their marriage in the long run if potential underlying issues are not dealt with, treated, counseled, or resolved.

Not to mention, due to the potential impact that it could have on a marriage if there is unresolved body count issues.

I mentioned many of these potential issues in another podcast episode and you can
listen to that episode as well, it is called, Can A High Body Count Potentially Affect A Marriage?

Depending on the individuals, body count can potentially affect men and women in an equal, different, or similar manner.

Nonetheless whether equal, different, or similar, it could pose a dire effect on the marriage.

Equal: They both can be struggling with body count in the same manner, for example comparison and performances of past lovers.

Different: Men tend to be more physical and women more emotional which could cause a difference in how they both engage and view past body counts.

Similar: Regardless of males and females differences there can still be some similarities in how body count is handled, embraced, and dealt with if their are identical or very familiar, unresolved, and underlying issues.

Also, Sexual escapades of the past by either the husband or wife could eventually lead to boredom or numbness in a marriage partner when engaging sexually with their current spouse as the marriage lingers on.

Comparison and contrast to past sexual partners either by husband or wife could cause a hindrance or disdain for sexual engagement with the current spouse.

As well, sex before and in the beginning phases of the marriage can be exciting, adventurous, and consistent, but after awhile it can become doormat, stagnant, and even depraved once the honeymoon phase is over.

Therefore knowing the body count of a potential or future spouse is imperative so that you can understand their mindset toward how they will engage or not engage you sexually once the dating or honeymoon phase is over.

Some other things to consider in correlation to marrying someone with a high body count:

Is sex being used to bait the potential spouse into long term relationships for financial security and reliability without genuine love, respect, and appreciation for other spouse

Is sex being used to claim the potential spouse as yours and then sex will no longer be desired or required because of the potential past affect unresolved body count

Is sex be used for offspring purposes only and after the children come, sex will no longer be desired and also neglected because of past body counts.

Is sex being used to masquerade the body count of past lovers that will eventually be a proxy for the other spouse to be or live up to the expectations of what he or she had in the past.

If you ignore body count of a potential or future spouse, it could definitely be a big mistake that you will regret in the long run.

Whether you agree or not about, “Why Transparency Of Body Count Is Important For Both Men And Women?”

This is not about judging or guilt shaming anyone’s past body count, it is about knowing each potential spouse mindset to make sure they are on the same page and also take ownership and get the necessary Godly help, counseling, healing, and so forth with accountability to help them have a healthy sexual relationship with their future or potential spouse like God intended for marriage home and family.

#bodycount #sexandmarriage #sexbeforemarriage #maritaladvice

If there is no immediate intervention, these are some potential signs a marital relationship is over

1. One or both in the relationship has completely checked out.
2. One or both in the relationship has no desire to communicate or talk anymore
3. One or both in the relationship has no desire, affection, or passion toward each other anymore.
4. One or both in the relationship could care less of each other’s presence or not.
5. One or both in the relationship have no interest to be sexually intimate.
6. One or both in the relationship has no concern about each other concerns.
7. One or both in the relationship don’t even care if they are engaging in adulterous or inappropriate activities online or outside the home.
8. One or both in the relationship is already creeping or planning to replace the other.
9. One or both in the relationship is already looking for a divorce lawyer to get half or more of the money, assets, and so forth.
10. One or both in the relationship has a disdainful, spiteful, and agonizing feeling for each other kinda like in the movie, the War of the Roses but pray fully it won’t go that far.

If you are the only one in the marriage witnessing any of these signs by your spouse, you have to decide what your plans are and not be in denial if the other party is feeling this way and have no desire for trying to save the marriage.

Now if the both of you are feeling this way and refuse to try to reconcile and save your marriage, why stay in it if you both aren’t willing to to save your marriage and win it? Years of ongoing misery, hostility, drama, toxicity; so forth will suck the life out of the both of you.

As well another option could be is to separate, re-evaluate, maybe time away from each other could change the outcome if both parties come to their senses.

Now, like I previously stated, if you are the only one wanting to save the marriage, remember you won’t be able to persuade the other person to stay in the marriage if their heart has already harden beyond the point of no return like I previously stated.

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#maritalproblems
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10 Reasons How Being Selfish Can Negatively Affect Your Marriage

First and foremost, I will give the meaning of selfish: (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.

Now, I will give the meaning of selflessness: concern more with the needs and wishes of others than with one's own.


Now, I will give you 10 rreasons how being selfish can negatively affect a marital relationship

1. Being selfish instead of selfless to trust your spouse based on your own insecurities and doubts could definitely damage or even ruin the marital relationship.
2. Being selfish instead of selfless can damage communication empathy, transparency, patience, and respect toward one another.
3. Be selfish instead selfless will hinder one or both in the marriage to listen attentively reasonably, logically, honestly, with genuine concerns.
4. Also being selfish instead of selfless will cause frustration and possibly hinder or disrupt one or both in the marriage feelings, concerns, vulnerabilities. Therefore don’t selfishly tare down a spouse or each other because it will most likely lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and psychological, plus mental, and emotional distress.
5. As well, being selfish instead selfless can hinder and deter a couple from bonding, growing, and having a deep connection in their marital relationship.
6. Being selfish instead selfless can also create toxicity, depravity, rejection, and regret in the marriage
7. Being selfish instead selfless in a marriage can cause the me, myself, and I syndrome plus narcissism and gaslighting.
8. Being selfish instead of selfless in a marriage can put more pressure on one of the spouses or both if there is a lack of transparency, accountability, unity on how responsibilities are handled in all aspects of the marriage.
9. Being selfish or self centered in a marriage instead selfless will affect how conflict and disputes can be resolved and marital needs met with contentment and without unrealistic expectations.
10. Being selfish in a marriage instead selfless can affect how you appreciate, value, honor, and respect each other.

In closing, so it is your responsibility as a husband or wife to examine past experiences, upbringing, your motives, intentions, mindset, indoctrination, influence, or anything else that could be swaying you into being selfish instead of selfless toward your spouse.

Remember, it is about you honoring your vows toward your spouse and your spouse doing the same toward toward you. Likewise, it will reciprocate you both into fulfilling each other needs because you are making it about each other and not about self.

Therefore, the husband will take care of his wife needs and the wife’s will take care of her husband’s need within the confines of their marital vows unto each other.

Sadly we are living in times of uncertainty when it comes to dating, delusions, a lack of transparency, and accountability?

Many individuals (not all) are looking to some self-proclaimed relationship guru or gurus that are leading them down a pathway of relational destruction, loneliness, contention, and denial.

If you are looking for a responsible, loyal, hardworking, loving, caring, and understanding man within the confines of financial reasoning, you will turn a potential one away and end up with the ones that will only use you for sex, pleasure, convenience, and so forth if you are following the toxic, selfish, and self-entitled advice of crash and burn gurus.

In addition, if you want to just use a man for his financial resources instead of finding out about his inner qualities you will mostly like end up in a dire situation of disappointment in the long run.

Just be honest with yourself, would you want a man to just use you for monetary purposes?

Likewise if you want to sprinkle sprinkle why are you getting upset that some men want to drizzle drizzle.

The only women that should be appalled by the soft guy era of sarcasm, parody, or even the propositional request of some men are the ones who are willing to let their man lead, protect, and provide for them with being right beside him as help meet not head-meet if they both agree to the traditional, biblical, and Godly design for marriage, home, and family.

As well, there is nothing wrong with a husband and wife using their financial resources with collaboration, cooperation, and effectiveness to take care of their marriage, home, and family just as long as there is an understanding of God’s order which consist of God husband, wife, and children.

Also, Remember and don’t forget to Live Listen Learn and Grow

God bless and take care everyone.

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Should Husbands and Wives Deprive One Another Of Sexual Intercourse?

First let’s look up the term deprive, it means to deny (a person or place) the possession or use of something.

Without a doubt, from a Biblical perspective, the Bible commands husbands and wives not to deprive each other from sexual intercourse

Because it is clear in God’s Word when it says both husbands and wives.

Let’s read 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (NLT)

Verse 3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s sexual needs.

Verse 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.

The Scripture is also clear on when a couple should consent together to not have sexual relations Let’s read 1 Corinthians 7:5 (NLT)

Verse 5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer.

Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Other Potential Reasons Why Spouses Shouldn’t Deprive each other of sexual intercourse

1. Due to the desire of the husband or wife wanting to have sex with only their spouse and no one else.
2. Potential infidelity and tempted to do so if either spouse is being rejected sexually by their husband or wife
3. To avoid sexual immorality, pornography, and other sexual deviant behavior.
4. It is commanded by God for both the husband and wife to selflessly fulfill each other’s sexual needs in reference to sexual intercourse.
5. Because both the husband and wife should biblically, lovingly, and willingly want to take care of each other sexually because it solidifies their bodies becoming one that goes hand and hand with them loving each other devotely in heart, soul, mind, and spirit (Genesis 2:24).

See couple won’t always be mutual to have sex at the same time; therefore, a husband or wife can chose to selflessly and consensually allow their husband or wife to have sex with them in order to not deprive them.

Sadly, some spouses whether it be a husband or wife have been either deceived, influenced, or indoctrinated into believing that sex must be earned, negotiated, and even refuted with consensual deprivation.

Sadly ungodly attitude of some “not all” spouses (male or female) will cause him or her to disregard God’s Word and selfishly reject either their husband or wife when they are asking for sex if it doesn’t adhere to their uncooperative mood, expectations, and criteria.

Therefore, a married couple has the choice and decision to choose their way or God’s way when it comes to not depriving their spouse or not.

One last thing, there could be genuine situations where a spouse male or female may not be able to genuinely have sex with a their spouse because of medically, emotionally physical, mental, and psychological issues, problems, etc.

Therefore in those situation, the spouse wanting sex should be selfless, understanding, supportive, and not guilt shame the spouse that is unable to engage sexually because of some of the underlying factors that I previously mentioned.

Nonetheless, if sexual deprivation is an ongoing problems due to legitimate underlying factor, Godly help, counseling; support should be considered to help that spouse to overcome their challenges of depriving their spouse.

Also, the deprived spouse being there without judging, condemning, nor guilt shaming him or her.

God bless and take care, everyone.

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Is A Man Leading And Protecting Narcissism?

A man leading and protecting is not being controlling, dominating, nor narcissism.

Furthermore, a husband leading and wife being a help meet is not a partnership but spiritual companionship and cooperation unto God’s order and design for marriage home and family.

Likewise, they are still equivalent unto each other but adheres to God’s design, order, and structure for marriage, home, and family.

Realistically, factually, and statistically the breakdown of God’s design for marriage, home, and family has had a dire effect on our society, culture, and children.

God’s way works if carried humbly, respectfully, and cooperatively with accountability

Ephesians 5:21-31 KJV


VERSE 21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
VERSE 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
VERSE 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
VERSE 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
VERSE 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
VERSE 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
VERSE 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
VERSE 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
VERSE 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
VERSE 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
VERSE 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.


Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV

VERSE 1.Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
VERSE 2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
VERSE 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
VERSE 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

When a man set Godly boundaries to protect his marriage, home, and family that is not narcissism that is him doing what God has called and commanded him to do.

This podcast message will share advice give to a married couple by a podcaster at Live Listen Learn And Grow #marriedcouples #maritaladvice #godlycouples

Are There Potential Negative Effects Of High Body Count

I received a lot of backlash from a recent article I posted on a social media platform and also my podcast concerning how body count could “potentially” affect a marital relationship.

My examples on how it could affect men and women differently was also not well received.

I was called a Misogynist among many others things.

So maybe there was definitely a misunderstanding on how I was trying to convey my point of view.

So I will take ownership and
share with you today the “potential” effects that I believe a high body count could have on some “not all” men and women; therefore, you can decide whether you agree or disagree without hurling insults, being profane, and so forth.
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First and. Foremost,
what is the definition of body count, it has mainly two meaning, a count of bodies of killed enemy soldiers, or
the number of persons involved in a particular activity.

So here is what I believe are some of the “potential effects” of high body count

1. It could potentially lead to uncontrolled and untamed sexual promiscuity for both males and females.
2. It could potentially lead to sexual addiction for both males and females.
3. It could potentially lead to infidelity of some spouses not wanting to be genuinely monogamous, this can apply to both husbands and wives.
4. It could definitely lead to STDs, Unwanted Pregnancies, Motherhood, Fatherhood, Abortions, etc before and during marriage.
5. It could potentially lead to feelings of insecurities, shame, guilt, and mistrust from both men and women.
6. It could potentially lead to the disrupting or forming bonding connections with a future husband or wife.
7. It could potentially lead to some (not all) husbands or wives comparing past sexual experiences of high body count with their current spouse.
8. It could potentially lead to judgment and criticism from others that can harm the ability to form meaningful and healthy relationships in correlation to both men or women.
9. It could potentially lead to physical, emotional, psychological, and mental disturbances on how a person feel or value him or herself.
10. It could potentially lead to sexual deprivation and other sexual dysfunctions in a current martial relationships because of unresolved past issues from a high body count whether it be male or female.

Lastly, this podcast message isn’t about guilt shaming anyone, it is about encouraging anyone (male or female) with a high body count to seek help, counsel, and support if it is affecting them physically, emotionally, psychological, socially, and mentally in their martial relationship and other social interactions.

Plus, if a person is married and their past body count is having an adverse effect on their marriage, I encourage he or she to get Godly counsel, support, and help because of the dire effect it could be having on their spouse which could eventually lead to separation, divorce, and other underlying problems if not resolved.

This will conclude my podcast for today at Live, Listen, Learn, and Grow.

#manandwoman #highbodycount
#husbandsandwives #lovemarriagenotdivorce #maleandfemale

This is a podcast message to give married couples some practical and Godly advice to protect their marriage.
There is a typo error in the introduction title of the podcast video, it should read: This Is Some Advice To Help Married Couples
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This Is Part Three Of How To Have A Good And Godly Marriage with closed captioning and background music.
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This podcast message will share advice that was given to a married woman that cheated on her husbands but claimed that she still loved him.
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This podcast episode will share advice that a podcaster gave to a struggling married couple.
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I believe no one in a marital relationship is going to be perfect but I also believe there is nothing wrong if a married couple consensually strive and put forth the effort to display these 1-15 qualities toward each other that I will list below:

1. Niceness
2. Patience
3. Kindness
4. Loving-ness
5. Supportiveness
6. Caringfulness
7. Faithfulness
8. Gentleness
9. Cooperativeness
10. Empathic-ness
11. Selflessness
12. Sacrificial-ness
13. Appreciative-ness
14. Affectionate-ness
15. Content-fullness

Furthermore, I believe a married couple can choose to treat one another with agape love, dignity, and respect, plus take ownership when he or she fall shorts.

God bless and take care everyone.

I believe there is no such thing as the gift of loneliness, but I do believe there can be peace in loneliness until we find our true destined love unto the realm of Godly matrimony instead of allowing ourselves to end up in one broken relationship unto another one, this can also apply to broken marriages as well.

I believe there is a longing hunger in all of us to be loved and to give love but we have to get know the reality of ourselves first and foremost before pursuing it.

Our childhood, how we engage others, our mindsets, views on life, our belief system, morals, values, our limits, expectations, and so forth will be underlying factors that will either cause us to find ourselves back on the hamster wheel of disappointment.

Or we can become embellished like the loving couple portrayed in the Song of Solomon with matrimony, endurance, dependability, communication, loyalty, empathy, and so forth like God originally intended for every man and woman before the fall of Adam and Eve.

Moreover, some people hide behind the shadows of loneliness or being alone not because they are truly comfortable or accepting of it, many do it because of brokenness and disappointment of being hurt in a past relationships or relationships.

My advice to them, make peace with your hurt, forgive the other person, or persons so that you can truly be set free to love again.

Nonetheless, set your expectations realistically and appropriately unto the Godly elements of love and make sure you are both on the same page.

I love what 1 Corinthians 13:4–8 says about Love but it has to be with a person that is mutual to wanting that same kind of love. I believe this kind of love is possible in godly marital relationship if applied.

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV)
1. **Love is patient and kind**;
2. Love does not envy or boast;
3. it is not arrogant or rude.
4. It does not insist on its own way;
5. it is not irritable or resentful;
6. it does not rejoice at wrongdoing,
7. but rejoices with the truth.

I am sharing this podcast with you today to advocate that no one deserves to be betrayed, lied to, and cheated on by a spouse or potential spouse.

So I will proceed with 15 POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT A SPOUSE OR POTENTIAL SPOUSE COULD BE CHEATING

1. You begin catching them in lies.
2. They avoid you as much as possible.
3. They accuse you of cheating.
4. They become very different in their behavior and attitude .
5. They will gaslight and accuse you of cheating to deter you from what they are actually doing.
6. A lack of interest in courting, intimacy, sex, and so forth.
7. They refuse and no longer engage you as a friend, lover, spouse, and so forth
8. They are in their own illusive world with the anticipation of being with their other lover or lovers.
9. Possible change in their inner circle or the sway of their inner circle to venture outside their marriage.
10. They no longer embellish you or their relationship with you.
11. Increased interest in appearance, more time spent away from home.
12. Changes in how they communicate to you.
13. They are very secretive with their phone.
14. No quality nor quantity time is desired.
15. They only treat you as an estranged business partner or room-mate.

If your spouse or potential spouse is exhibiting any of these possible warning signs, sit down with them, be transparent about what you are noticing and concerned about.

Plus, give eye to eye contact, pay close attention to their body language, and how they respond back to you.

As well, I say possible because there could be other underlying factors why your spouse or potential is behaving the way he or she is; therefore, you should try to find out why the possible changes are occurring because those changes are still having a dire affect on your relationship.

This will conclude my podcast for today and remember to Live Listen Learn And Grow. #cheaters #liars #manipulators #gaslighter #affair #adultery

1. Take ownership of your mindset, behavior, and attitude when it doesn’t line up with appropriate engagement and interaction with other.
2. Think about how you want to be treated and respected by others to motivate you to not behave in a non toxic manner.
3. Get honest, constructive, and impartial feedback from others that know you personally.
4. Don’t take offense or get upset with others that hold you respectfully accountable if they see you drifting into a bout of toxicity.
5. Stay away alcohol, drugs, and other harmful substances that could influence or sway you or your mind into becoming toxic or display toxicity.
6. Learn your triggers, plus learn and utilize coping skills that can keep you from becoming toxic or hostile to yourself, loved ones, family members, and others.
7. Make sure to find conventional activities, hobbies, and so forth to help you avoid toxicity
8. Try to maintain a healthy diet, exercise, and find time to pray, reflect, and meditate on your choices, decisions, and behaviors that could enhance toxicity.
9. Make sure to take ownership and avoid deflecting, ignoring, or denying that there is always room for improvement in your relationships and interactions with other and how you take care of yourself.
10. Lastly but most importantly, if you are a believer in God, prayer unto the Father, imitate the Son, and be led by The Holy Spirit to help you avoid be toxic or embracing toxicity.

This will conclude my post today on How To Avoid Becoming Toxic?

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God bless and take care everyone

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How To Change Toxic Behavior?

First and foremost what is definition of toxicity,

The extent to which something is poisonous or harmful, as well it can be defined as the quality of an individual or individuals of being harmful or unpleasant plus pervasive or insidious


If you are struggling or displaying toxic behavior, here are some steps you can take to change your toxicity.

1. You must be willing take ownership of your toxic behavior, attitude, and interactions with others.
2. Don’t play the blame game or try to manipulate others into enabling or condoning your toxicity.
3. Take out time to self-evaluate and find out the root causes of why you are choosing to be toxic.
4. Also, make sure to think about how you want to be treated and respected by others as a reinforcer to not treat others in a toxic manner.
5. Understand the potential dire effect your toxicity is having on your loved ones, spouse, children, etc.
6. Be willing to get honest, constructive, and impartial feedback from others that know you personally but will not sugarcoat or downplay your toxic behavior.
7. Stay away from drugs and other harmful substances that could influence or sway your mind to become or display toxic behavior.
8. Don’t get frustrated, angry, or upset with individuals that hold you respectfully accountable if they see you are drifting into toxicity.
9. Learn your triggers, plus learn and utilize coping skills that keep you from becoming toxic or hostile to yourself or others.
10. Also take out the time to find appropriate and community activities, hobbies, and so forth to help you avoid toxicity
11. Try to eat healthy, exercise, and find time to reflect on your choices, decisions, and behavior that you need to change.
12. Make sure to avoid deflecting, gaslighting, ignoring, or denying that there is always room for improvement in your relationships and interactions with other and how you take care of yourself.
13. Be willing to continue to live, listen, learn, and grow in a more positive and non toxic manner by refusing to remain stagnant to your toxicity.
14. Most importantly, if you are a believer in God, prayer unto the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit to help you not to become toxic.
15. Lastly, remember it is a choice to be toxic or not, so embrace the potential to avoid being toxic by being kind, patient, respectful, setting appropriate limits with others and not harbor bitterness nor resentment.

This will conclude my podcast today How To Change Toxic Behavior?

And Remember To Live Listen Learn And Grow

God bless and take care everyone

#toxicity #howtoavoidbecomingtoxic
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Tips On How To Stop Being A Procrastinator?

Tip Number One Prepare a daily planner and schedule for yourself
Tip Number Two: Organize and prioritize your time.
Tip Number Three: Come to the realization you can wait for time but time won’t wait for you as a reinforcer to plan your day wisely and accordingly.
Tip Number Four: Value Your Time and don’t take it for granted.
Tip Number Five: Be open to get tips and advice from others who are better at not procrastinating their time.
Tip Number Six: Discipline your time on social media platforms, plus tv and movie binging
Tip Number Seven: Also Make A Task To Do List
Tip Number Eight: Also plan and prioritize your days off and upcoming vacations, holidays, etc.
Tip Number Nine: Don’t be over spontaneous or organized instead be balanced.
Tip Number Ten Structure your time with realistic expectations, goals, progress, and so forth.

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#timewaitsfornoone
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10 Tips On How To Not Have A Self-Entitled Mindset

1. Never forget to treat others as you want to be treated because this will help avoid a me myself and I mindset.
2. Hold yourself accountable and challenge yourself to have a selfless mindset instead of a selfish one.
3. Remember you are responsible for your interactions and intentions toward others that will be a reflection of you.
4. Also, remember and recognize not everything will go your way even if you could be right about a situation or circumstance when dealing with others.
5. Learn from mistakes and be willing to accept correction when confronted with truth about your error on how you engage or relate to others.
6. Never forget there is always room for everyone to improve, listen, learn, and grow that includes me and you as well.
7. Avoid deflecting and not taking ownership when you do something wrong toward someone one else.
8. Always be willing to self-examine and evaluate yourself to make sure your are not ignoring the areas in your life and engagements with others and self that need improvement.
9. Be open to constructive criticism without trying guilt shame or find fault in the person or persons that is presenting facts to you that could be selfish, self-absorbed, and reflective of the me myself and I mind-set
10. Never assume you are above others or others are above you, just treat everyone with humility, dignity, and equality, plus set the same self-less limit toward others as you would want others to do toward you.

5 Ways On How To Deal With A Gaslighting
Narcissist

1. Don’t allow he or she to deflect their narsasism by accusing you of being a Narcissist.
2. Evidently, present factual incidents, examples, and situations to the narcissist that will challenge their narcissism. Don’t doubt yourself by allowing the narcissist to manipulate or deter you on how you are being treated, gaslighted, etc.
3. Keep a journal of your thoughts, feelings, and actions that will refute the Narcissist false accusations, manipulation, and so forth.
4. Don’t allow he or she to gaslight you by accusing you of being a Narcissist by refusing to accept your factual incidents and examples, plus situations that confirms him or her narcissism,
5. Lastly, don’t engage the Narcissist toxicity, mood swings, intimidation, or any other manipulative tactics to disrupt your sanity, peace, joy, and mindset.

In closing, remember you cannot fix a Narcissist if a Narcissist is not willing to fix him or herself but you can deter them from gaslighting, manipulating, or trying to make you into what he or she already is.

This will conclude my podcast.

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God bless and take care everyone.

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10 Tips On How To Deal With A Toxic Coworkers

1. Don’t fight fire with fire and maintain your professionalism.
2. Set appropriate, clear, and concise boundaries with the toxic coworker.
3. Don’t engage nor feed into the negativity of the toxic coworker.
4. Do not gossip or try to slander the toxic co worker you are having problems with, stick with the facts if you have to go to Supervisor.
5. Avoid trying to get other coworkers to support you or take your side when dealing with a toxic co worker, just maintain your work ethic and professionalism like I previously stated..
6. Keep your focus on your job and complete your tasks effectively, efficiently, and productively.
7. Think before you react not react before you think when dealing with a toxic coworker.
8. Also, confide in a trustworthy loved one, spouse, or friend that will be a support system and advocate for your situation without creating additional problems, turmoil, nor drama to the already toxic situation.
9. Also, remember you are responsible for your choices, decisions, and how you conduct yourself when dealing with toxic coworker.
10. f there is harassment, defamation, and threats to your safety and well being by the toxic coworker, go to your supervisor and appropriate chain of command.

This will conclude my podcast for today on 10 Tips How To Deal With A Toxic Coworkers

God bless and remember to LIVE, LISTEN, LEARN, AND GROW #toxicity #toxic-coworkers #hostileworkenvironment #avoidingtoxicity

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I will be sharing 10 Tips to help you endure and overcome depression that you could be experiencing now or in the near future.

Tips 1-10

Tips Number 1
Exercise, take a walk, or a bike ride. Also consider a gym membership

Tips Number 2
Conquer your worries and fears with comfort, joy, and the peace of God.

Tips Number 3
Live for today and let tomorrow worry about itself.

Tip Number 4
Overcome you bad thoughts with good ones and pray!

Tip Number 5
Be constructive but not over critical of yourself.

Tip Number 6
Make peace with your guilt and forgive yourself, plus forgive others.

Tip Number 7
Don’t became a prisoners of past failures, mistakes, and unwise choices

Tip Number 8
Don’t manipulate and gaslight yourself

Tip 9
Don’t embrace nor feed into negativity.

My final and last tip for today, Tip Number 10

Stay away from and don’t feed into people that influence or entice you to your depression. Lastly but most importantly lean God, the Father Son and Holy Spirit to help you become an overcomer to your depression so that your depression won’t be able to overcome you.

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Take care and God bless

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Can A Woman Cheat On Her Husband And Still Love Him?

A woman on a social media platform asked me this question “Why Did I Cheat On My Husband When I Still Love Him Genuinely And Sincerely?

I responded by telling her that the question you should be asking yourself, if you love your husband so genuinely and sincerely, why would you cheat on him in the first place?

If you genuinely love your husband, it should be demonstrated by your actions of loyalty, commitment, faithfulness, and devotion.

You really need to self-examine and be honest with yourself on why you chose to betray your husband that you claim to love so deeply.

Also, is your love for him defined by your self-entitled standards or by your wedding vows unto God, just something to think about?

Lastly, what you are feeding into your heart, soul, mind, and spirit could also be contributing factors why you cheated on your husband.

Not to mention, the sway of the modern culture. I will be praying for you and your husband.

I will be sharing with you today a message called, “Are You Concerned About The Needs Of Your Husband Or Wife?”

Let’s define necessity in most obvious meaning and term - the fact of being required or indispensable

The problem with so many marriages that are miserable and intolerable instead of enduring and delightful is the missing component of selflessness.

When both spouses are willing to make it about each other instead of about themselves then the marriage can be what God meant for it to be.

Wives should learn to embrace the the godly and foundational needs of their husbands and husbands should learn to embrace the godly and foundational needs of their wives.

See necessities of selflessness transcends and put to shame the selfish wanting of me, myself, and I in the relationship.

Furthermore when you neglect the necessities of each other the want is considered selfish, self-centered, and repulsive.

Necessities should consist of kindness, gentleness, respect, marital faithfulness, accountability unto each other, plus the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual without sexual deprivation and guilt shaming.

This will conclude my podcast and remember to Live Listen Learn And Grow.

God bless and take care everyone

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HOW TO ACHIEVE TRUE HAPPINESS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP (List 1-10)?

1. Stay true, committed, and devoted eachother.
2. Keep close to eachother.
3. Achieve, love, support, and grow together.
4. Build up eachother instead of tearing eachother down.
5. Don’t take each other for granted.
6. Avoid Drama, Toxicity, and so forth.
7. Avoid outside negative influences.
8. Seek positive, healthy, and Godly counsel.
9. Spend quality times together.
10. Be willing to an open and not closed book to each other.

Before concluding my podcast I just want to make it perfectly clear that I believe in God design for marriage home and family but both individuals must have a biblical and traditional mindset in order to have a Godly, good, blessed marriage.

#healthyrelationships #marriageadvice #relationshipadvice
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#contentment
#takenaccountability

God has definitely commanded the husband to be the head of his household because it is proclaimed throughout Scripture, but that doesn’t mean that he is to misuse, violate, or utilize his headship in a manner that contradicts what God has commanded him to do as a husband.

In addition, a wife shouldn’t use a man’s headship as an excuse to demoralize, disrespect, nor behave in manner that violates her role as help-meet, even if she feels he isn’t living up to his Godly role as the head of his home because that wouldn’t be Biblical.

Likewise, a husband should be patient with his wife as well in correlation to her help meet role

Taking ownership and accountability for both the husband and wife is vital for a healthy marital relationship.

Furthermore, if they both exhibit the fruit of the Spirit toward each other, 1 Corinthians 13:3-7, and their Godly designated role, plus putting the whole armor of God on.

They will have a Godly marriage that will stand the test of time through tests trials, tribulations, challenges and so forth with genuine agape love for each other. #headship #helpmeet #adamandeve #husbandandwife #maritaladvice

What Qualities Should A Woman Be Looking For In A Future Husband?

1. He will be caring, emphatic, compassionate, sacrificial, patient, kind, and affectionate.

2. He will be a protector, hard worker, considerate, appreciative, content, and humble.

3. He will want to spend quality and quantity time with his future wife.

4. He will encourage, build up, edify, and be a support system for his future wife.

5. He will respect her opinions, insightfulness, wisdom, and input just as long as it doesn’t breach God’s Word.

6. He will put his future wife and children first.

7. He will be her protector, masculine best friend, and lover.

8. He will never compromise or negotiate God’s design for marriage, home, and family.

9. He should encourage, build up, and esteem his future wife.

10. He won’t be perfect (because no one is) but he will humbly and repentantly allow God’s Word and Counsel to correct him when he is wrong plus take ownership.

11. He won’t devalue, degrade, nor belittle her.

12. He will be faithful, loyal, committed, and devoted.

13. He will genuinely love her and he won’t use his headship as dictatorship.

14. He will value, love, and treat his wife with dignity, comfort, and respect.

15. He will be willing to selflessly sacrifice for her and lay down his life for her if necessary.

16. He will have the mindset of not allowing the culture, Hollywood, Social Media, Beta men, Untraditional women, or anything else destroy her marriage, home, and family.

17. He will have the mindset to not allow toxic family members, relatives, nor so called friend break up her marriage.

18. Also, pay very close attention to a man you might consider marriage material and make sure he has all or a majority or these attributes and the willingness to work on obtaining them all through Godly counsel, personal accountability, letting go and healing from past baggage, and most importantly allowing the word of God and Christ to direct his steps in the process.
19. He should also avoid being full of pride, ego, and narcissism.
20. He should be willing to love you with God’s Love with selflessness.

This will conclude my podcast for today.

Remember to Live Listen Learn And Grow

God bless and take care everyone

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Thank you for tuning in, today I am going to share a podcast message with you called Tips And Advice For Men Seeking A Potential And Future Wife

TIP NUMBER ONE: FIRST AND FOREMOST EXAMINE YOURSELF

First of all you must examine yourself and any unresolved issues in your past. Examples: sexual abuse, toxic parent or parents, dysfunctional upbringing, toxic breakups, soul ties, un-forgiveness, etc.

If you have any of the examples I mentioned and they are unresolved. You need to get Godly help, support, counseling, therapy. Plus you can join or get help from a well Bible believing balanced community Church, and so forth.

TIP NUMBER TWO: DO NOT SET UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS

Do not set unrealistic expectations on what your imagination of what a good woman should be or consist of.

As well, it shouldn’t be based on pride, ego, past relationships, body counts, Hollywood, modern culture, etc that is anti- God, nuclear family, and so forth.

TIP NUMBER THREE: DO NOT VIEW A FUTURE AS PROPERTY

Also, don’t view your future or potential wife as being property but see her as being your oneness, help meet, bone of your bone, and flesh of your flesh that you will love, lead, cherish, honor, respect, etc.

TIP NUMBER FOUR: NO WOMAN IS PERFECT BUT SHE SHOULD TAKE OWNERSHIP

A good woman won’t be perfect and neither are you but she should be willing to take ownership when she wrong and so should you.

TIP NUMBER FIVE FIND A GOOD WIFE WITH GODLY STANDARDS

A good woman should be based on Godly standards not yours and you must also have a mindset of being a Good and Godly man that will compliment the good woman that you are looking for.

TIP NUMBER SIX ATTITUDE AND MINDSET

Her attitude and mindset should consist of gentleness, meekness, patience, understanding, respect, and not toxicity, negativity, spitefulness, and carnal drama.

TIP NUMBER SEVEN SHE SHOULD BE WILLING TO WORK WITH YOU AND LET YOU LEAD HER

She should be willing to work with you and not defy God’s design for marriage, home, and family. In addition she will not try to sabotage your headship with manipulative and ungodly tactics.

TIP NUMBER EIGHT MAKE SURE SHE HAS A SELFLESS MINDSET INSTEAD OF A SELFISH ONE

The biggest mistakes that some men and women make are, they make it all about themselves with the inability or refusal to process or understand, it is about being selfless toward each other not selfish.

TIP NINE AND MY FINAL TIP: Moreover, the woman you are pursuing for a future or potential wife should not be swayed or contaminated with self-entitlement, the modern culture, lack of Godly contentment, and rejection for God’s way and design for marriage, home, and family.

This will conclude my podcast for today and remember to Live Listen Learn And Grow

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This podcast is based on a conversation that I had with a young lady on a social media platform. This young lady asked me to give her my opinion on her current situation with a man she was dealing with after finding out that he was Player, Cheater, Manipulator, and Liar.

I responded by saying Players, Cheaters, Manipulators, and Liars will utilize the very standards you set for the relationship in order to take advantage of you.

What if you set the standard of just dating him for 3 to 6 months and get to know more about him?

What if you set the standard to remain celibate and tell him, no sex until you put a ring on my finger and marry me?

See players or men that want the best of two worlds will run game on you.

Because you don’t set the necessary standards for the relationship that will prevent him from doing it.

I am not excusing what he did, but you young ladies need to stop following the culture and go old 🏫.

If you do, you will avoid a lot ❤️ break, being taken advantage of, and wounded emotionally.

No sex, 💍, and making marriage your standard will expose the guys that are not serious about you and give you the potential to find the ones who are.

As well, your relationship with him was built on lies. Why trust and still want to be with someone who is willing to lie, cheat, and deceive you while already being married to a wife with kids.

Furthermore, he ghosted you because he knows he can no longer have his cake and eat it too after his wife found out about the affair.

It is going to hurt, but you need to value your self-worth and not hold your heart, soul, body, mind, and spirit in bondage to someone who was only taking you for a ride.

Not to mention, he was fulfilling his narcissistic ego to be cheating on his wife and playing with your fragile heart, feelings, and emotions.

So set godly standards for yourself and stop choosing men based on outward appearance, swag, material, and monetary appeal.

The type of man that you should be looking for is one who is traditional, godly, respectful, responsible, faithful, employed, hardworking, dependable, reliable, transparent, empathetic, caring, trustworthy, and so forth.

So in closing I am praying the young lady took heed to my advice to stop choosing Players Cheaters Manipulators
And Liars.

Because there are some good men out there even though they might not have that bad boy, suspenseful, and stud muffin appeal that so many women fall prey to instead of 👀ing for the inner qualities of a man that will represent their character and true, genuine, and heartfelt intentions.

This will conclude my podcast for today and remember to Live Listen Learn And Grow.

God bless and take care everyone.

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Today, I will be sharing a podcast message called, “A Young Lady Gets Body Shamed By Her Boyfriend And Ask Me What Should She Do?”

On a social media platform, a young lady asked me, What should she do about her boyfriend body shaming her?

She also stated to me that her boyfriend is telling her that her face is okay, but her body is fat and ugly; therefore, he doesn’t like it?

She said that she had gained 10lbs during our 4 years, so now every time he wants to be intimate, I she never feel good enough, nor when he compliments me she doesn’t take it too heart.

I responded, he is a jerk and you need to value your self-worth.
Also, wait on God to bless you
with a man that is going to love
you selflessly without degrading, disrespecting, nor demoralizing you.

Plus, a decent, honest, and sincere man will put a ring on your finger and marry you.

One last thing, the expectation you set for yourself will contribute to the underlying factors how someone else treats you, especially a liar, cheater, manipulator, or guy that will only use you and not genuinely love you.

This can also be vice versa because some decent men allow themselves to be mistreated as well.

I will also share before concluding my podcast the biblical passage of

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV) because it sets the Godly and Biblical standards on how a woman or man deserves to be treated or treat each other in a marital relationship or potential marital relationship.

Verse 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

Verse 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Verse 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

Verse 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

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I will be sharing with you today on how Facebook And Other Social Media Platforms Could Have A Negative Affect On Your Marriage

I will be sharing some possible reasons, “How Facebook And Others Social Media Platforms Could Have A Negative Affect On Your Marriage?”

Reason Number 1: It could possibly rekindle old flings of your past that could interfere with your present marriage.

Reason Number 2: You begin coveting the facade of other people relationships and marriages instead focusing on your own.

Reason Number 3: Your social media can begin to take over personal responsibilities for marriage, home, and family

Reason Number 4: You may end up getting involved with online emotional affairs with lack of self control to avoid temptations

Reason Number 5: You may become less interested in your husband or wife

Reason Number 6: You begin doing thing to compromise your integrity, respect, modesty, and so forth.

Reason Number 7: You could become an addict for attention and ego.

Reason Number 8: You could become an addict to get “likes” in competition with others

Reason Number 9: You could become more of an obsessed busybody, gossipers, and slanderer.

Reason Number 10: You can end up causing a lot of toxicity among yourself and other loved ones, relatives, family member, and in-laws.

Reason Number 11: You could became a facade of yourself and pretending to be something you are not.

Reason Number 12: And my final reason: Your identity could become Facebook and Facebook could become your identity.