Men's Mentors Morning - Dr. Jan Hendrik Taubert
By Dr. Jan Hendrik Taubert
Men's Mentors Morning - Dr. Jan Hendrik TaubertJul 31, 2018
Are you too busy to grow with more ease?
Are you too busy to grow further more easily? Sounds contradictory because you think your business growth requires a lot of effort?
That's what I am hearing quite often from entrepreneurs, especially from men: "You need to fight. You need to sacrifice a comfortable life. You need to be focused and strictly follow your plan."
Although keeping your focus and taking action helps such mantras - often deriving from mainstream views on success and old patterns of thinking and feeling - are just one side of the coin.
Such a singular and narrow (rational) view rarely leads to fulfillment, but more often to a continuous tension and pressure.
In my todays piece I briefly talk about what inside quality you have and need to integrate to discover new ways out of a demanding situation, to grow more easily and to experience your entire life more fully.
I am curious about your thoughts and I'd be glad to discuss your current challenges directly with you. Feel free to like, comment or drop me a personal line so we can dive deeper into your story.
Let's have deeper conversation, man-to-man, about what currently moves you and what really matters to you. Apply for a complimentary First Strategic Coaching online: https://janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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One major key to connect with women and life
"You are so cold. I cannot feel you. Therefor I cannot trust you, man. Others can't trust you neither."
Such sentences are common for many successful men whom I accompany. That's what they have already heard quite often – from women or close friends.
Man: How is your relationship with women - and with life in general? Are you at ease with both or do you find it difficult to connect; to share your deepest gift with them?
What women really want (and what life really needs) is a true man – at their side and in the world. A man who is connected with his feelings, but under no circumstances controlled by his feelings.
One who follows his responsible path – as self-confident as he is, both open and vulnerable.
But not only women (and the world) suffer from men who have separated themselves from their feelings (and hence from their full presence).
They themselves suffer at least as much, but you rarely see it. Many successful men suffer secretly; anything else would mean weakness.
In addition to the fear of one's own depth and power (that lies behind or beneath the emotions), there is often also the fear of social exclusion, if we men allow ourself to feel and to share them with others.
Watch the short video and listen to what can happen when we finally dare to open "Pandora's Box" and allow our deep feelings to be just there, alone or better yet with a good friend and companion at our side.
Let me know what you think in the comments below.
Let's have deeper conversation, man-to-man, about what currently moves you and what really matters to you. Apply for a complimentary First Strategic Coaching online: https://janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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One step men can take to grow further
Man! Honestly admitting the (sometimes brutal) truth to yourself is a good first step to discover your current purpose, to make your next step, to become who you can be (and, yes, to get what money can't buy).
But there is another important step for you to grow further in your life - beyond the nice and very comfortable surface of material success.
I discovered it many years ago when I became a little more conscious in my life.
When I became more and more aware of all the great accomplishments and amazingly valuable (material) things but also much more realizing what was missing: deeper connection, friendship, real meaning and a loving relationship.
I realized that I had almost no male friends with whom I could have discussed my questions of life and the decisions I had to make.
What was much more of importance to me: At those days, 25 years ago, I had no one to share my personal story, my fears and pain with. I was just afraid to open up and trust another man.
I knew that I had to and wanted to find other men who had also made their way to themselves.
The relief to meet these men and to open myself more and more to them was enormous. All the stress, all the fears and all the doubts I no longer had to hide deep inside myself. I could share them with other men - and transform them more and more.
By the way, this experience is an important reason for me why today I accompany other men on their journey to more authenticity; to a life much more fulfilling, intense and deep.
Let's have deeper conversation, man-to-man, about what currently moves you and what really matters to you. Apply for a complimentary First Strategic Coaching online: https://janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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Honesty to yourself is the first step to change
How happy are you with your current life? Imagine me asking you this question: would you be honest with yourself?
Admitting that things are not as polished as they seem to be can be really painful - but it can also be a great relief. And it can open the journey for a new growth.
Many of us (especially men) don't admit that essential things in our life are going wrong. We pretend everything is good ("I am earning really good money...") but we are working in a way that feel much more exhausting; even draining than rewarding or balanced.
Or are you part of an "OK-relationship", but the only reason for still being together are the kids? Or your level of comfort. What about a burning desire for each other? Must have been ages ago...
When I first started working as a Lawyer in Hamburg, I was kind of successful. Enough clients, good money, reputable office in front of the Majors Hall.
But I soon felt something essential was missing. It was not fun for me. I often felt tied to my desk, just moving files from left to right. Beside of the fact that I wanted to work more closely with people and less with files, I was missing that I could not travel. I knew: traveling contributes significantly to my happiness; to me feeling alive.
Once I admitted to myself (and to others at those days) that something essential was missing, I felt such a great relief. Although I did not know (at those days) how to integrate the missing part, but just the fact of no longer pretending and keeping a nice facade up has released a lot of energy.
Being honest to myself about my real needs (better: the yearning of my heart for a deeper connection with people from all over the world) was one of the first important steps for my transformation.
The things I am doing today - accompanying clients all over the world and supporting their growth from inside out - enfolded over time.
But I guess I would not have begun the adventure of walking my own path without first being honest to myself at those days.
Let us know how your life is going these days? Do you feel that you move into the right direction; that you are on your own journey (or are you still denying or even suppressing your needs and living the life of someone else)?
Let's have deeper conversation, man-to-man, about what currently moves you and what really matters to you. Apply for a complimentary First Strategic Coaching online: https://janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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How to connect with someone you meet on a deeper level?
Let me share with you the simple yet challenging step.
Many of us (including me) long for more honesty and depth in human interactions - both in business and private relationships.
However, many personal encounters remain shallow and on the surface. An empty phrase here, a little small talk there and at the end you are asking yourself: What do we really know about each other?
Sure, not every person you meet has to open wide his heart - but there are much more people (especially men) who would like to if we would invite them to.
How? The answer is as simple as it is challenging: Just shut up and let your partner talk. No planned questions, no "guiding" the conversation in a certain direction, no tricks or manipulations.
The key is: to hold ourselves back a little while, to put our own story and leave our own agenda, our goals aside for a moment. In this way, we can create a safe and protected space for someone to open up.
If we succeed in this, we are rewarded with a new quality almost immediately: we feel real connectedness - and we lay the foundation for a deeper trust in our relationship, both business and private.
What's your experience with this?
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To follow your calling you have to grow beyond your comfort zone
Men: To follow your calling you often have to grow beyond your comfort zone - and sometimes to jump into cold water. You will feel the warmth as you start moving forward.
If we want to respond to the call of our heart, we are often challenged.
It is almost as if the call was inviting us to integrate new qualities into our lives. Qualities that we have within us, but that we have not lived out of ignorance, fear or comfort.
For example, the quality of the archetypal warrior, who above all stands for willpower, courage and determination. In its adult form, it has the potential to make our desires and hopes come true in a conscious, heartful way.
Perhaps we already know our desires, but we do not dare to take the first steps in this direction. Perhaps we are also afraid of losing control if we do not know every step in advance.
But that is exactly what life is all about: To find, develop and act on the strengths and qualities within ourselves that have long been dormant.
They are just waiting for us to become aware of them and courageously integrate them into our lives. Individuation is all about integration.
Man: when will you embark on The King's Journey?
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What's your intention for 2019?
After dancing for more then 4 hours on NYE I sat together with a small group of people asking them: What's your intention for the new year ahead? What qualities do you want to invite more into your life?
Although answering such a question at 5:00 AM could be challenging I was a little suprised that almost all of them had no idea what to say.
They told me they've never ever thought about any intention or "invitation of energies".
After a few minutes some came up with goals like "I want a nice relationship" or "I want more money". The usual stuff when you ask strangers such strange questions (especially after a night so rich of champagne...).
So let's continue here: What's your intention for 2019? What kind of quality do you want to live more; to invite more into your life?
No matter if you are a man or a woman physically:
Is it more masculine goal orientation, commitment, direction, presence, awareness?
Or do you want to integrate more feminine qualities like receptiveness, openness, ability to feel deep inside your body and to express these feelings through life energy?
I am (we are all) curious to learn more about what you want to experience and express more. Feel free to share it in the comments below and let's talk soon!
Happy New Year 2019 to all of you.
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Visit places where you can recharge yourself
What places do you enjoy most? Where do you feel truly alive and connected with yourself and other people? Are you aware of such places - and have you ever visited them again?
If not I strongly recommend to do this once in while, especially at this time of the year.
Being at such places (in nature or in specific cities you've spent some joyful and exciting time for example) helps to recharge your energies.
This is of utmost importantce especially if you have had emotionally daining experiences or mentally challenging times within the past months
These places can also remind you naturally about qualities (feelings, sensations, thoughts, ideas or dreams) inside of yourself that you have forgotten or just lost connection with
Reconnecting to this truth inside of you can help to determine what is of great importance to you beyond all the external demands and obligations.
This can be the first step if you want to live a deeper life directed more from your inner self and less from the outer world that you have created (consciously or unconsciously).
For me among many others the port of Hamburg is one of such places. With its large container vessels and the small sightseeing boats called "Barkassen" it reminds me a lot about my deep inner yearning to discover the world.
Let us know what's your place where you can connect with yourself and the flow of life easily.
And let's have deeper conversation, man-to-man, about what currently moves you and what really matters to you. Apply for a compimentary First Strategic Coaching online: janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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To grow further in life men need other men
My father left us when I was one year old. The abscence of a male role model in my early years has left its mark.
I never knew what it meant for me being a "man" - and how to make my way through life.
There was no real man teaching me how to grow my strenghts and my kindness, how to take responsibilities and how to build my "kingdom", how to deal with anger and fears in a constructive way.
The worst: I could not build trust with other men. One of the consequences: I developed a kind of toxic masculinity - hurt and insecure deep inside, overly ambitious and compensating in the world.
My facade was shiny, but my inside was a tragedy.
Things changed when I changed - and found other men along my path from whom I could learn many different ways of being a man.
A few but true friends, coaches and therapists provided a safe space and taught me how to grow beyond my childhood patterns.
I learned how to trust myself and others, how to develop my qualities and finally how to be a good father to myself.
Women also played a significant role in my story but I needed other men to re-connect with my masculine qualities in a positive way.
That's one of the major reasons why I am following my calling and doing what I am doing: accompanying and supporting other successful men (and sometimes women) worldwide on site to grow deeper and further in life from within - to find all that money can't buy.
Let's have deeper conversation, man-to-man, about what currently moves you and what really matters to you. Apply for a First Strategic Coaching online: janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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Now is the time to reflect your life
These questions came to mind when I spent quality time with myself this afternoon on Lake Zurich.
The foggy autumn, the month November, is for many of us on the northern hemisphere the time of reflection, of looking back.
At least this season invites us to follow the rhythm of nature, to withdraw from the hustle of the "year-end rally".
Questions that I ask myself - and that you can ask yourself too:
What did I experience at the end of the year - with my business partners and customers, in my love relationship, in my family and with my friends?
What was essential?
How did it make me feel?
Was the year 2018 so far easy and interesting or was it full of tension and pressure?
What did I learn - about myself, about other people and about life in general?
I invite you to let these questions sink into yourself, to let them work inside of you - and to be curious about your answers.
Maybe you will do this with a good friend who asks the questions and listens to you without immediately commenting on your answers or offering solutions to "fix" your "problems".
Let me know if I can help you discover more about yourself. I am at your side; at short notice and wherever you are - worldwide.
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How to access your energy and clarity through others
In an earlier video I said it's good to provide to yourself what you are seeking from others. But what if this self-care strategy doesn't work any longer?
There are times in our lives when we can't access certain qualities - clear thoughts or appreciation for us and others for example.
My experience is:
In such moments it's good to surround ourselves with people who easily live these qualities, either because it's their usual way of being (their nature) or because they have integrated all the different qualities themselves and are consciously accessing and showing them to the world.
For some people, clarity and peace of mind is their natural state of being. It's just normal for them to stay calm and centered in The Eye Of The Storm.
Others have access to their energy almost all the time and are constantly moving. For them showing emotions, smiling and radiating life force energy feels so natural, no matter how boring or tense a person or situation is.
Surrounding us with people who live qualities inside of us but difficult to access can help us reconnect to our own variety of being.
But stay conscious and don't make the other person responsible for lifting you up. Always remember: They just show you what's already inside of yourself.
Let me know what you think in the comments - and feel free to share it with your friend if you think he should know about it. Apply for a First Strategic Coaching online: janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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Choose the path of least resistance
Yesterday I had a longer discussion about how to best reach a goal that we've put in our mind and that we are now chasing after.
The person I spoke with said that he's often longing to finally reach his goal because then he will feel a great relief. "Yes! I've made it. Now I can relax."
I asked him if he could imagine a different aproach: no longer putting all his energy, discipline and strengths - so all of his focus - to the goal itself but instead paying more attention to the path itself.
The key is to no longer suppress the physical and emotional realities, but perceive them as a guide. In the sense of: The more difficult the path is and the more we have to fight, the less it is the right path for us.
The more easy the path is and the more all things are falling into place, better the journey suits us.
There is a path of least resistance.
The main prerequisite, however, is that we shift our attention more inwards, i.e. pay attention to our inner voice and emotions and follow them courageously.
It's pretty much likely that we will not only enjoy our journey more but also reach goals with a lot more ease.
Let me know what you think in the comments - and feel free to share it with your friend if you think he should know about it. Apply for a First Strategic Coaching online: janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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How to get what you want from others
After I have shared my personal story and a few learnings at the #asmallworld event yesterday evening in Geneva, this topic came up during the lively discussion afterwards.
"I have been trying to explain what's important to me in my life over and over again. How can I make my parents understand me," someone asked.
The honest truth is: although we would like other people - especially the ones we love - to understand us or to behave towards us in a specific way, there is no way aside from manipulation to make them say or think or act in a way we want them to.
The question is: what are you looking for outside yourself? What's this external longing or yearning all about? Why are you looking for someone to fulfill your desires? Whom are you looking for to "complete" you?
Listen to this episode to find out how you will most likely to receive from someone else what you were always looking for.
I am curious to learn your opinion on this. How have others started providing exactly what you "needed from them" once you have changed your bahaviour?
Let me know what you think in the comments - and feel free to share it with your friend if you think he should know about it. Apply for a First Strategic Coaching online: janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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How and where I "plan" my day
But this morning I got up at 6:00 AM, did my yoga, took a shower and had my hot millet with apples and cinamon - my morning routine. Right after this I felt a strong impulse to spend time outside in nature - so I went down to the lake.
I sat down, closed my eyes, took deep breaths and listened - outside but much more inside. Let me tell you just briefly why it's so important to start a busy day in such a natural way (if we have the chance that nature is close by).
Simple truth: If we want to grow further from inside out, we have to listen. Not so much to the noisy and demanding world but to whatever shows up inside of us. All of this could be perceived best when we are connected to the source.
So start your day in nature if possible and spend some precious quality time with the most important person in your life: yourself.
Let me know what you think in the comments - and feel free to share it with your friend if you think he should know about it. Apply for a First Strategic Coaching online: janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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What to do with "negative" feelings?
This morning I had a conversation with a man who‘s very active in his life - but felt kind of „knocked off“ by the energy that was moving in his body (his feelings of sadness and grief) after he has done a great job on television the day before.
He asked me what he should do in such situation?
Sure: we men always want to fix something (and ourselves), especially when we think it‘s broken (like our ability to continously perform); even if if this ability is only „broken“ for a short period.
The physical and psycholgical pressure he additionally has put on himself was so strong that his body reacted with clear signs: exhaution.
So what‘s an alternative reaction if „negative“ thoughts or feelings show up? My own experiences with such situations (not only once) inspired me to record this short piece.
Let me know what you think in the comments - and feel free to share it with your friend if you think he should know about it. Apply for a First Strategic Coaching session online: janhendriktaubert.as.me .
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Battlefield or adventure - How do you see your life?
Questions that came to my mind when I just realized how many warrior-trainings for men are being offered these days; how many videos, podcasts and coaches are out there focusing on the warrior energy.
Don’t misunderstand me: it’s a great gift for us men to learn in a responsible way what we’re capable of (which is usually so much more of what we think). Sometimes it’s good to even physically experience the power that lies dormant within ourselves while we’re just functioning in society or pleasing others.
But is it really the inner warrior you are missing? Or is there another quality inside that wants to be explored?
I am curious to hear your ideas. Leave a comment below - and visit www.janhendriktaubert.com for more.
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Express your appreciation to empower yourself and others
I realized: When we don't like something, we are often so quickly on the spot with criticism. Someone made a mistake; something went wrong; our expectations were not met – and right away we’re there to share our negative opinions.
It’s often the same with ourselves: We quickly criticize ourselves if a project has not worked out or if we have not met our own high standards. Not very healthy and not very constructive neither.
Listen to the episode and learn more about an alternative that empowers both us and our partners.
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Train your body to provide stability for your feelings
I can feel my body much more stabilized, much more up right when I'm standing. For me who is experiencing so many things through his body: feelings, sensations, even subtle tendencies - it was so important to stabilize this "instrument".
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Feeling Stuck In Life? Start Now Giving Your Deepest Gifts
I know exactly where you’re at. I had such unsatisfying situation not only once in my life – like some of my clients.
Sometimes we man face a point where our old way of living, of what we do or how we do it, feels shallow or empty. There is no longer excitement or flow or satisfaction. Everything feels even meaningless.
In this episode I share what I did when this happened – and what you can do too.
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Time Not Ripe For Great Deeds? Just Keep Yearnings Alive
You must wait for a business partner or financing commitment, or you simply need some detachment and rest?
When the time is not yet ripe for new, great deeds it is enough to maintain and further nourish your yearnings. You just need time and again connect with what touches and moves your own heart.
Important: Yearnings should not come from the ego (your rational mind), but from your deep inner being, from your essence.
How to notice the difference? Listen to this episode.
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Flee Your Desk And Find Your True Nature
My question for you is: Where is your place to be creative? Where is your place to recharge your energy? What does this place look like? Is it within the forest? Is it on the mountains? Or is it by the sea? What's best for you to turn your focus from the outside - serving other people and completing tasks - to the inside and reconnecting to your energy?
If you don't have such a place - go and find one for yourself and let your feeling and your sensing guide you.
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Always fighting with clenched fists? How to grow with ease.
In addition at those days, my body reacted with severe illness because of the constant tension and pressure I put on myself.
I wanted to change so I began to trustfully open my fists, so that things could fall into my hands without any pressure or me pushing the grass growing faster.
I started to let go more and more of the illusion of control.
Listen to what happend then.
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Beating Dead Horses? Get Feedback, Step Into The Unknown
This Men's Mentors Morning episode raises the question what experiences especially we men need make until we let go of resistance and neglection and allow ourselves to feel, to see more of what is – and to let change of a toxic behavior happen.
From my own experience and from accompanying my clients I know two main preconditions for this inner growth. Listen to the episode to find the two things.
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Are You Busy? Take Some Time To Pause
Taking some time to pause in the mornings or in between tasks and appointments during your day will help you to become aware of what is going on - and to make better decisions. The question to ask is: Does this thought I am currently thinking or the action I am taking serve myself at the deepest possible level? Does it serve the people around me?
Once we become aware of that, we will have the chance to make better decisions - for the sake of ourselves and of others.
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