Not Alone Today Podcast is a podcast for young adults and teenagers — a platform where their everyday questions are responded to biblically and practically. The hosts, Joseph and Anu Ola are the hosts of Alive Mentorship Group — an online mentoring platform where young adults learn practical life lessons across geographical barriers as Joseph and Anu share unreservedly from their life experiences.
In this episode, we respond to TK's question. On one hand, he wanted to know how to process not liking the person God is leading him to marry, and on the other hand, he wanted us to speak into the subject of age difference between a guy and a lady in a marital relationship.
"Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4 NKJV)
"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose." (Romans 8:28 NKJV)
In this episode, we (Joseph and Anu) discuss the sensitive subject of BREAKUPS. We touched on how to manage it and how to do it right (when it becomes necessary to do it). Some of the points discussed include the following:
In the aftermath of a breakup, don't minimise your pain, hurt, or grief. Give expression to it.
Maximise the learning opportunity that your break up affords you.
Take time to heal (and learn) before 'jumping' into another relationship too soon.
Even in your pain, God's providence is at work.
Your breakup can be a feather to your cap. If you learn from your experience, you will be better off to have gone through the breakup experience—time will reveal this.
If your ex is a Christain, don't forget that he/she is still God's child (and so, will always be your sibling eternally!)
If anyone understands brokenness and its cousins, it's JESUS. Let Him heal you.
There is a Christian way to break up. God can still be glorified even in your breakup.
“I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (Psalm 27:13-14).
In this episode, as we begin a new year (2021), we pause to reflect on the lessons 2020 and the global COVID-19 pandemic taught us. A snapshot of these lessons include the following among others:
Growth is ALWAYS happening, whether or not we notice it.
God likes to dwell in the GRADUAL.
Serving God can be fun.
Time Management - "Saying Yes" versus "Saying No"
The profound powers of technology demand that we STEWARD it well.
Personal discipline in sharing stuff on social media.
PRIORITISING correctly is the breeding ground for fulfilment.
MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE
The Gospel Coalition
Joseph and Anu's Books published in 2020
Not Alone Today Podcast
Mark 3:14 NIV "He appointed twelve that they might be with him and that he might send them out to preach"
Matthew 11:28-30 NIV “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Matthew 13:44 NIV "The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field."
In this episode, we respond to Theresa's question. She asks: "I've been trying to get my partner to have a mentor since our relationship began two years ago but he's yet to do so. I believe that having a mentor will lessen our fights and help him identify and work on some areas of his life. He says that he looks up to some great men of God but I'd rather he has mentors whom he has direct access to. What would you say about this?"
"It's good to have mentors you are able to have direct access to, but sometimes, it's just good to enjoy the resources they are able to give to you, whether or not you have direct access to them." — Anu Ola
"I think the wisdom in mentorship, really, is tied to the wisdom in asking questions. . . The quality of your life will be based on the quality of the questions you are asking." — Joseph Ola
MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE
1. Prof Adesegun Fatusi (Joseph's Mentor)
2. Max Lucado
3. Risen Motherhood Podcast
4. The Gospel Coalition Podcast
5. Help Me Teach the Bible
6. ChurchPulse Weekly Podcast
7. SermonAudio (Marriage)
8. Alive Mentorship Group
"There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death." (Proverbs 14:12 King James Version)
In this episode, we respond to the complementary questions of Lydia and Peter. Their questions (asked independently for different relationships) seem to be about the same issue: How to correct one's partner in a relationship.
Lydia asks: "Most times when I try to tell my fiance that what he did is wrong or painful, he always ends up getting angry and ignoring my calls (and much more) just because I expressed my mind. What would you say about this?"
Peter asks: "I'm having doubts in my relationship even though I felt led into it in the beginning. And this is mostly because of some attitude problems from my partner. Although she is teachable and she has corrected a couple of those attitude issues, but then, the recurrences make it seem as if either the progress is slow or her level of maturity is low. These attitude problems are mostly about the way she puts out some statements (use of words which sometimes portray rudeness)."
James 1:19 NIV "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,"
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray
In this episode, we respond to Bibi's question on the differences between DATING and COURTSHIP. She asks: "I have a question to ask about Christian relationships. I read a statement that says 'Christians don't date; they court.' I'll like to know the difference between both. It will be helpful if could shed more light on the pattern a godly relationship should follow. Thanks."
In the episode, we:
explored the differences between dating and courtship,
highlighted the pitfalls of dating as it is practised in popular culture, and
suggested a pattern for building a godly relationship
For helpful resources from both of us, you can check out our Link Tree at https://linktr.ee/josephola and our Amazon Author Page at http://author.to/JosephOla.
In today's episode, we respond to Felix's question. He asks: "I was addicted to masturbation but I'm on a journey of recovery. Prior to this, I had other girls that I use to satisfy my sexual urges with and I also masturbate to satisfy my urge. Whereas, I'm also in a relationship and practising no-sex-before-marriage with my partner. Now that I'm getting better and on a journey to recovery, my question is "Should I tell her about it?""
Relevant Resource: Joseph and Anu's books titled "Marriage in View" and #Unaddicted both available on Amazon.
In this episode, we respond to two similar questions. The first from Tracy and the second for John.
Tracy says "I've just seen a result today. The lecturer for the course was very strict. In all the three sets of continuous assessments he gave us (which amounted to 30% of the marks obtainable), I tried all I could and I ended up with 14 out of 30. I prayed earnestly, believing in God for a better grade in the remaining 70% for the exams. I studied hard. He repeated past questions; they were easy and God was faithful to bring all I read to my remembrance . . . but I checked my grade today and I failed the course. I just can't believe it. I just can't fail! I trust God so much, like, without a doubt! Help!"
John asks, "What would you say to someone who continues to fail repeatedly in his academic journey?"
This episode is our response to the questions.
For free resources from us, check out our link tree: https://linktr.ee/josephola
A listener, Susan, asks Anu: "When you were courting Joseph and your marriage was drawing closer, did you have any fears? If you did, how did you overcome them?" This episode is our response to her question.
Relevant Resource: Joseph and Anu's book titled "Marriage in View" available on Amazon.
You can check out other free resources from Joseph and Anu here: https://linktr.ee/josephola
A listener, Lynda, asks: "Many people come out boldly and say 'God told me this' or 'God told me that' but I can't boldly say the same. I know that the Bible says 'as many as are led by the Spirit are the sons and daughters of God.' I have tried to get messages on this subject but most of the messages I've found have no practical steps. Perhaps you may have some recommendations on messages and books on this subject. I pray and I don't want to live any trial-and-error life. I really want Him to lead me. Please help."
This episode is our response to her question.
Resources Mentioned in the Episode
E-sword bible software
YouVersion Bible App
Is This Opportunity From God?: 7 Checkpoints for Discerning Divine Opportunities by Joseph Ola
How do you hear God's voice? — a radio programme on Premier Christian Radio in which a lot of people shared how they hear from God.
We've all gone through one challenge or the other and felt, while in the middle of it, that the challenge was specific to us. This podcast exists to bust that myth. You are not alone in your struggles. In this introduction to the NOT ALONE TODAY Podcast, Joseph and Anu introduce what the podcast is about and said a few words about themselves.
The podcast is built around three elements:
You can check out some free resources from Joseph and Anu here: https://linktr.ee/josephola