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Not your blaxk barbie

By Not your blaxk barbie
Notyourblaxkbarbie is a podcast hosted by Topshada where every Tuesday her and her rotating panel discuss everything from dating, self love, sexuality, politics and much more !!! Welcome to our pursuit of happiness!!
@Topshada @notyourblaxbarbie
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Wake me up when 2020 leaves ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฉ
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie Iโ€™m joined by my bestie @weedfairy. We talk entanglement, maternal mortality rates in black women and some ways we plan to advocate for ourselves and last but not least men๐Ÿ™„ wanting to benefit from relationships from women.
July 25, 2020
You gotta be shitting me ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ—ฃ
Welcome to another episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. On todayโ€™s high episode Iโ€™m joined by freshfeen and tiff. We kick it off with some more thoughts the black lives matter movement then jump into a conversation about our love language, have you ever caught yourself tolerating a friend? Nicki Minaj collaborating with 69 and much more!! Thanks for tuning in
June 18, 2020
It's Black lives matter or your mamaโ€™s a hoe!โœŠ๐ŸพโœŠ๐Ÿพ
Welcome to another episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Iโ€™m joined by Sydney from the glow project podcast we jump right into whatโ€™s on everyoneโ€™s mind and the most important movement of 2020 black lives matter!! We also discuss insecure. Nominating Lawrence for fuckboy of the year ๐Ÿ™„ and what quaratine has taught us. This episode is in honor of all those affected by police brutality, racism and a system placed to keep us down! Enjoy
June 6, 2020
Let's dive into the fuckery๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿฅด
Welcome to another episode of not your blaxk barbie. Iโ€™m joined by Justin where we jump right into the Lana del Rey fiasco๐Ÿ™„ (whoever she is) why do white women hate losing to black women so much? Get over it!...not skipping a beat we switch over to relationships, advice we would we could give our younger selves, his views on straight men benefitting off the lgbt community and much more!
May 27, 2020
Fall๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ back๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ Boy ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ
Welcome back to a new episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. On this episode Iโ€™m joined by Shane and twelve we start by giving a quarantine update. How you guys living cause maโ€™am this is ghetto! We then jump into a real conversation about sexual misconduct mostly based off the Chris stylez situation. Fellas could you be friends with someone who has rapey vibes? Jumping into another talk about why itโ€™s so hard for people to deal with rejection and much more! Thank you always like comment share!
May 9, 2020
(Episode 38: Trashyams๐Ÿ‘€๐Ÿคญ
Welcome to another episode of not your blaxk barbie. On this episode I'm joined again by Fairy and Shane for an Intense conversation revolved around instagram removing likes? How does it effect influencers and business owners who use these platforms as a way to make money?, Wasting no time we jump into a real spicy conversation that your going to have to hit play to find out! enjoy lovesย 
December 6, 2019
(Episode 37:) Non common Sexual ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿค”๐ŸŽฏ
Welcome back to another episode of not your blaxk Barbie. After another mental health break Iโ€™m back on the panel joined by weedfairy and Shane. We start the conversation with Shane breaking down his yams appointment ๐Ÿ˜‚ then jumping into the Very controversial topic going around T. I taking his adult daughter to the Gyn to see if her hymen is still in place๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿคจ, we discussed the types of behaviors we avoid when dating, crazy exes, open relationships and much more tune in !!!
November 24, 2019
(Episode 36:)Do it for the Gram ๐Ÿ‘€ ๐Ÿคก
On this episode of Notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada is back and joined by twelve and Kelsey. Jumping right into a discussion about Jay- z becoming affiliated with the NFL, Is jayZ a sellout ?? Popeyes vs chic filet chicken sandwiches๐Ÿ˜• and how the internet pretty much makes the rules. Who exactly are these instagram Influencers influencing ? Hot girl summer updates, Dating updates and much more! Tap in
August 28, 2019
(Episode 35) Who run the world ๐Ÿ™ƒ๐ŸŒ
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada is joined by the fresh feen from the podium podcast. We start off by discussing Alabamaโ€™s controversial abortion law๐Ÿ˜’, should men play a role in a womanโ€™s decision to have an abortion ? His views on abortion overall. The conversation then flows into his thoughts and appreciation for black women minus the wigs ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฉ, dating , baecation payment rules and much much more !! Tap in ๐Ÿ‘‘โœจโœจ
May 21, 2019
(Episode 34) Here to slay โœจ๐Ÿ’…๐Ÿพ
On the latest episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and Amber start off by discussing all of our fave Lewks from the met gala. Black excellence and why pop culture emulates black culture.โœจ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ, the conversation then flows to Ayesha curry RTT interview. Should woman want to be desired by anyone else then her husband/partner ?? ๐Ÿค” we also touch on mental health, discrimination, growing up black and much more !! Tap in
May 11, 2019
Episode 33: Still I rise, Maya Angelou vibes โœจ๐Ÿ‘‘
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada, Sasha and Melissa discuss what is to be a professional black women when filling in white spaces, our own personal experiences with inequality in the workplace/ school. The conversation then flows into ways to create more spaces to uplift and support each other (building practices, mentoring) dating updates and so much more! Tap in ๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ”ฅโœจ
April 23, 2019
(Episode 32) If you were wondering, mind your business๐ŸŒนโœจ
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Top shada and Erin Ebony have a seat at the table where we breakdown what being a woman means to us? Our favorite LOUD black girls โœจ๐ŸŒน. Terms used in the LGBT/ Trans community๐Ÿ”‘ the importance of self love, creating your own identity and not falling into societyโ€™s labels and of course these Niggas ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„
March 27, 2019
(Episode 31) Thank god we donโ€™t look like what weโ€™ve been through๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝโœจ
On the latest episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. In honor of womenโ€™s history month topshada and Jenny have a seat at the table, where we discuss the importance of sisterhood, overcoming the struggles of teen motherhood๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿฅด, finally becoming career woman, staying glowed up, jordyn woods/ Kardashianโ€™s and much more!๐ŸŽฌ
March 6, 2019
{Episode 30} We were rooting for you!๐Ÿšฎ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ
On the latest episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada is joined by Justin where they discuss everything from Jussie smollet๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ, Ed buck and how privilege plays a big role on how the media reacts to Current events. Grammy talk, little boy in Texas raises 5k selling hot chocolate in hopes to build the wall๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ—ฃ, nyc bans discrimination based on hair and a whole lot more ! Tap in
February 22, 2019
[Episode 29] Going bad on them anyway ๐ŸŽฌ๐Ÿ‘€
On this episode of Not your blaxk barbie. Join me as i go down popular news. Super Bowl, Liam neeson. Why no Nicki slander is accepted on this podcast๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ and we wrap it up with the good bad guys talking about their insecurities. Why woman who want only casual sex are perfect ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ˜‚ and why in 2019 we are not carrying pre existing issues into new relationships, friendships or situationship. Enjoy !! This is part of a lost episode ๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿฅบ
February 6, 2019
(Episode 28): Now we do what we want ๐ŸŽคโœจ๐Ÿ’ง
On the Latest episode of Not your blaxk barbie. Topshada and the panel start it off with answering fanmail๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ญ Would you have an affair with your boss? Your friends father?๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ . How our sex lives have changed since becoming adult adults ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ? What astrology sign weโ€™d never date again? Maintaining your happiness and why weโ€™d never settle because no one on my 600 pound life does ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ
January 23, 2019
(Episode 27): #MUTERKELLY ๐Ÿšฎ๐ŸŽฌ
On the Latest episode of Not your blaxk barbie. Topshada and the panel catch up and discuss the R- kelly docu-series๐Ÿ˜•. Join us as we walk through our experience growing up as black girls. Recognizing how our own culture created a monster. Assatta McGee super fan ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿค• and much more! Enjoy
January 15, 2019
(Episode 26:) Get the fuck out ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ—ฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐ŸŽ‰
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Drama! Drama! Find out what happens when someone crashes the party with a plus one ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜ฉ the good bad guys break down why you should always have your feelings in check ๐Ÿ™„ *fuck that ladies hold it down* and a special appearance by @thefreshfeen
January 9, 2019
(Episode 25): 2018 wrap up ๐ŸŽŠ๐Ÿพ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and the panel discuss best and worst news, best quotes, most hoe-able moments of 2018๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜…,is ass everything gonna still be trending in the New Year ๐Ÿฅดand so much more!! Did some editing Sry for the slight background music party vibes literally๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ
January 2, 2019
(Episode 24): Girls need love ๐ŸŽฌ
On the Latest episode of Not your blaxk barbie. Topshada is joined by a panel of men!! We discuss bad communication between the sexes, finessing while dating, expecting not to expect anything ๐Ÿ™„ meek mills new album๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ , cardi and offset and a whole lot of music talk!!
December 18, 2018
[Episode 23]: Overnight celebrity ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada has a discussion covering the Britney Renner book โ€œjudge this coverโ€๐Ÿ™„. Why Iโ€™m staying away from marriage, men and the games ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ—ฃ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ. Justin gives us on his current cuffing season situation and much more !!!
December 4, 2018
(Episode 22) : Flip the switch... ๐Ÿ‘ป โœŒ๐ŸพโœŒ๐Ÿพ
On the latest episode of Not your blaxk barbie. Topshada and friends discuss ghosting the new dating trend that was touched on in this seasons โ€œinsecureโ€. Find out who on the panel landed in therapy ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜ฉ, social media stalking ๐Ÿ‘€ n who ended up grabbing back gifts given. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ also a huge birthday shoutout to the baddest puta Joseline Hernandez ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐ŸŽ‰
November 6, 2018
[ Episode 21] : BTS!! ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ
Latest episode of Notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and friends behind the scene episode. Where we revisit Cam the prophet๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜ฉ the ladies on the panel talk about white privilege, popping out babies and find out what mad side chick claimed to have HPV ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ™ƒ
October 30, 2018
[Episode 20] : Anybody tryna buy a heart?๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ’
On this episode of Notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and friends discuss some reasons as to why people are no longer pursuing long term relationship? How long you should date before popping the big question๐Ÿ’ maintaining a good balance between your friendships and relationship and much more!! Tune in
October 2, 2018
[Episode 19]: Two and a half some๐Ÿ˜ต๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ
On this episode of not your blaxk barbie. The ladies have a seat at the table to engage in girl talk. Find out why being shallow will keep you from the best sex of your life๐Ÿ˜ต๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธand listen to me find out my baby cousin had a damn two and a half some ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ
September 11, 2018
[Episode 18]: Shake that ass but watch yourself ๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜ต๐Ÿ‘
On this episode on not your blaxk barbie. Topshada and friends discuss the current ass culture. First time experiences with anal sex, should you send that lemme eat your ass text and much more!๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ˜ต๐Ÿ˜…
September 1, 2018
[Episode 17]: Alexa Play : Everybody Mad ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘€๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿคฃ
On the lastest episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and friends discuss the Tyson Beckford vs Kim Kardashian beef๐ŸŒš. Find out what the guys on the panel really think about women who get tons of plastic surgery? Find out who on the panel would get plastic surgery.? What kinds? And please ladies make sure your butt doesn't stink ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธEnjoy luvs
August 7, 2018
[Episode 16]: Matchmaking or Clout chasing ๐Ÿ™ƒ๐Ÿ‘ฐ๐Ÿพ
On the lastest episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and Justin discuss dating to marry reality tv shows๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ. Everyone looking for a platform and in todays day and age the perfect way to get that is Clout! Justin also reveals he only use to date White guys and why??
July 31, 2018
[Episode 15]: Single. Thirty. Thriving... Glowing painsโœจ๐Ÿคช๐ŸŽ‰
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and Justin have a one on one discussing turning 30๐Ÿ˜… surviving your 20s through the good bad and ugly !
July 24, 2018
[ Episode 14] : Keke do you love me ?๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ‘€
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and friends exchange disastrous relationship stories from someone getting kicked down the stairs๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฃ, Lover vs co worker๐Ÿ˜… all while breaking down ways to keep your keke loving you?๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ”Enjoy luvs
July 17, 2018
[Episode 13] A seat at the table ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿงš๐Ÿพโ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿพ
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and her girlfriends discuss the current hookup culture, past ans current hoe phases๐Ÿค”๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚and Drake having a bloodclot baby on all of us!! Im sick Drake๐Ÿคฎ#wholelottagangshit
July 3, 2018
[Episode 12]: Asking for myself ?๐Ÿ‘€๐Ÿค”
On this episode of notyourblaxkbarbie. Topshada and friends talk about rethinking monogamy with your partner, living a non monogamous lifestyle๐Ÿค” and a breakdown of how to make both lifestyles work ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜ซ
June 26, 2018
[Episode 11]: Retail Me Not ๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿค•๐Ÿ’ฐ
Topshada and friend share retail horror stories. From stinky feet and beating meat tune in ! ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฎ
June 19, 2018
[Episode 10]: " I'm good luv...Enjoy"๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ˜
Topshada and Friends talk about curving being curved, bad breakups and much more !!!
June 12, 2018
[Episode 9]: Who is she to you? ๐Ÿ‘€๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿ’ป
Topshada and Fairy have a one on one session discussing doing background checks, online dating and how to remain sane while dating?
June 5, 2018
[Episode 8]: Players gon Play ๐Ÿ™„ Cheating stories ๐Ÿ—ฃ
Topshada and her rotating panel discuss times they've been cheated on, being a cheater and overcoming it all!
May 17, 2018
[Episode 7]: No sides please! Main course only ๐Ÿ”๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ
Top shada and friends talk threesomes, trusting your partner ๐ŸŒšand ask the question is there a such thing as a "good sidechick"? ๐Ÿค”
May 8, 2018
[Episode 6]: It All Falls Down ๐ŸŒŽ๐Ÿ’ฅ
Topshada and friends discuss the bill cosby verdict, Kanye wacky ass amongst other things race related
May 1, 2018
[Episode 5]: Dip it low pick it up slow๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ‘‚๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘‚๐Ÿพ
Top shada and friends make it nasty ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ”
April 24, 2018
[Episode 4]: Social media- What you really sign up for? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ
Topshada and friends talk about social media and the affects on todayโ€™s society
April 17, 2018
[Episode 3] :Teach me how to love ๐Ÿ’ฆ๐Ÿ™‡๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ
Topshada and friends dicuss ways to keep sex fun whether by yourself or with a partner
April 10, 2018
[Episode 2]: Dating 101: do we really have to?๐Ÿ™„
Topshada and friends discuss the doโ€™s and donโ€™t of dating and sex amongst other things.
April 6, 2018
[Episode 1] :The Pearls have been snatched
When you canโ€™t find anyone to follow you have to find a way to lead๐ŸŒน
March 27, 2018