Too Human with Nurse Nell
By Danelle
Too Human with Nurse NellApr 22, 2024
77. I Would Never Believe in a Spiteful God
I would never believe in a God or a universe that was spiteful or judged me.
I would never personify the idea of God, an overlord, or an energy of some sort as being hateful.
I think that's incredibly internally abusive
…..and it’s not your fault. AT ALL.
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Religious indoctrination and purity culture pushes this idea that God/the universe/source energy is going to punish you for the “wrong” shit that you do.
Even if you’re not religious, these ideas are in the air you breathe.
Literally that “life” is somehow against you.
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This drives you to be in a trauma response (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) on the daily.
But…. ya know what’s cool??? You get to decide what attributes your god/universe has.
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God/the personification of the energy of the universe is created in your own head. & that's the best news ever. There's no out there, out there. & she/he/they/it can be as real as anything else.
You get to conjure something or someone beautiful as your spiritual guide(s) - a wise, kind parental figure. An energy of the most blissful love. Pure acceptance of every part of who you are, a hilarious magical gnome….
Or stay in fear, lack, and shame by creating an absolute ass-hat persecutory POS as ‘god’ that reminds you of your abusive dad. Keeping the outer (and therefore inner) critic LOUD.
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You get to decide what serves your life best.
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Join me in un-shaming yourself and connecting with your spirituality in a way that works for you, with you
https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/spirit-guides
76. Showing Up When You Feel Haggard AF (and breaking down a coaching review!)
yesyesyesyes. I just traveled and feel haggard and in this episode we are talking a lil about not moralizing feeling "bad." Also, I break down a coaching review I got and why what she said is important
My new free masterclass Healing with Spirit Guides is coming soooooon!!! Sign up here:
75. Full Somatic Coaching Session: Letting the Feeling be Fully Felt
GUESS WHAT I'M DOING!?!?!? I'm so excited about this!!!!!
I've recruited a handful of people to guide through a somatic (body-based) coaching sessions who have consented to SHARE IT with you all
My intention behind this is for you to have an inside look into what my unique and specific style of trauma informed somatic coaching looks like.
Keep in mind, not every session with clients are somatic.
There's sooo much more we pull from and lots of education, nervous system tools, and pragmatic magic that occurs.
And....such a VITAL part of the work i do with my people centers around slowing down and FEELING your emotions in order to process them.
"Every feeling fully felt is bliss" - my boi Joseph Campbell
This is the first session that I'll share. Each session is always so different.
I never know what to expect and am always so pleasantly surprised with what
comes up.
This woman is a somatic practitioner herself and is highly attuned to her body, as you'll notice.
Sometimes processing something moves quickly, and we work something out from start to finish, and even move through other things/patterns/stagnancies. Other times, they are slower, with lots of silence and space, to just BE WITH what is there. All of it is perfect.
When we do somatic work, we are tuning into the unconscious.
So, lots of what we talk about and what I guide through won't make logical sense to the conscious mind, but works out all kinds of kinks, confusion, dysregulation, stories, in the unconscious...which then obviously affects your conscious life in profound ways.
It's pure *magick*
What's cool about watching a session is YOU get the medicine, too. Notice what happens in your body/mind as you witness this & let me know what your
reactions were.
ENJOIIIIII
74. How to Communicate in Relationships Without Being an Ass-clown (in a bad way)
the title says it all
73. Your Second Reaction is Your Authentic One
Come to my new free masterclass Healing with Spirit Guides (/deep inner self)!
This class is FREE!!! Date and time and TBA. If you can’t come live, still def sign up bc you’ll get the recording
72. The True Power of Coaching the Unconscious Mind
Come to my new free masterclass Healing with Spirit Guides (/deep inner self)!
This class is FREE!!! Date and time and TBA. If you can’t come live, still def sign up bc you’ll get the recording
71. Why Mindset AND Body-Based Therapy Work Together
Come to my new free masterclass Healing with Spirit Guides (/deep inner self)!
This class is FREE!!! Date and time and TBA. If you can’t come live, still def sign up bc you’ll get the recording
70: Is Trauma Informed Coaching for You??
My name is Danelle and I’m a trauma informed life coach for women
My work is best suited for women who have been in therapy for a while – perhaps decades, but are still feeling stuck. It also works well in tandem with therapy.
This means – you’ve done at least some reprocessing work- perhaps work like EDMR, and/or therapy frameworks such as CBT, DBT
You know no one can save you from yourself (I mean u might have deep hardwired fantasies about this but ur aware on some level of that being a fantasy and ps I have some bomb ass tools to work with that fantasy ohhh baby)
You know you’re responsible to work on your shit. You self-aware & motivated to make changes, improve your life and how you feel, but you’re still feeling:
tired/exhausted by your mind
like you cycle through burnout and rest
Not confident (body image issues, social anxiety, critical of yourself, etc)
Still get into fights with your partner about the same things and end up feeling bad
Have that underlying generalized sense of unworthiness/not being enough, especially after you feel like you’ve been rejected, you’ve disappointed someone, etc.
You don’t feel safe even in safe situations
You have a hard time speaking up, knowing what your needs are, or making your needs heard
You put others first
You people please
Let's talk about how trauma informed coaching can help.
69. When You Avoid Pain, You Avoid Life
This thought popped up to me recently - not that it's a new thought or anything - but I FELT the truth of it in my bones.
I have this piece of paper on the wall of my office that says "comfort or freedom." Almost every time I look at it, I cringe. I don't want to choose between comfort or freedom!!!
And yet.......avoiding doing hard things - things that *may* cause us discomfort or pain - are often the very doorways that lead you exactly where u want to go. Let's TALK ABOUT IT
I have a new free masterclass called Healing with Spirit Guides coming soon!!! Sign up with the link below. If you can’t come live, still def sign up bc you’ll get the recording
68. A Unique Way to Find Your Own Answers
Come to my FREE class!!! Healing with Spirit Guides. Date and time and TBA. If you can’t come live, still def sign up bc you’ll get the recording
67. Performing/Masking vs. Safety in Authenticity
ooooooo I love this episode. For the past few months, I've noticed an increase in my own performing and masking (and talk about that). Performing is a way we try to keep ourselves safe. It's deeply innocent and very adaptive evolutionarily. It's also exhausting. In this episode, I talk about how to gently remove your mask and let yourself be seen. I know it's not easy, but I got you.
I have a NEW FREE Masterclass coming soon. Healing with Spirit Guides. It's going to be wiiiiild & fun & weird: https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/spirit-guides
If you haven't watched my FREE masterclass on relationships after trauma, YOU MUST!! We cover SO much ground. Sign up here to get the replay: https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/signup
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66. The Value of a Life Coach
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65. I'm in a Rough Season of Life. This is How I'm Managing.
ok so...I basically made a pact with myself when I first started life coaching to absolutely 100% NOT JUST show the "good times"/pretend like my life and mental health is perfect just so people will pay me to coach them. There's a part of me that STILL believes I can only show up when I'm in a positive state of mind or everyone will think I'm a failure/imposter and be like 'wtf how is she a life coach'???
The stories our minds tell us, L O L :(
So here I am, showing up in my slog-fest of existence at the moment, and sharing how I'm coping with my mind's various dramas.
Just know I am here for you, just like I am here for myself, through it all. We are all just walking each other home in this one (that we know of) precious and wild life.
Book a connection call with me here, I would love nothing more than to listen to you and hear about your life:
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64. Relationships Show You to Yourself
This is....one of my favorite topics. Relationships. The art of Relating.
Relationships will show you your triggers. Oh yes they will. It's up to you to process them in the context of a relationship. And it will grow and expand you even if it hurts like a b*tch sometimes.
Sign up for Relationship Alchemy here: the free class I'm hosting on Saturday, April 13th @ 10am PST. If you can't make it live, you'll be sent the recording https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/signup
63. What Do You See When You Look at Yourself? With Self-Love Coach Juliana
YA'LL. Hold up. I know the COOLEST PEOPLE. Juliana is such a genius, and fun fact (!!) she was my FIRST coaching client ever!!! #honored and #blessed are understatements.
This legend is one of the most grounded, attuned, wise women I have ever known. I'm sooooo excited for you all to tune into this episode. It is literally packed with the most gorgeous tidbits and entrancing rabbit-holes on the RADICAL and rebellious act of self-love, truly seeing yourself and the stories you tell yourself, the mirror as a tool for deep self-healing, shadow work, somatic coaching, and so much more.
Here's her bio:
Juliana Higgins is a Self Love Coach & Mirror Mentor. Her mission is to help you see your true beauty through self-love & mirror work. After 10 years in the fashion industry, she noticed that fashion didn’t have a lasting impact on how women felt. Instead, she helps women feel beautiful from the inside out by going beyond the surface. Through her brand Mystic Mirror Muse, Juliana offers coaching, & candles that bring light to your inner and outer reality.
To connect on IG:
@_julianahiggins
For all her links:
https://linktr.ee/mysticmirrormuse
62. Healing The Abandonment Wound
Abandonment is a major wound for us humans. Understandably. Being left when you need support or are in pain is a common human experience, and we actually start to internalize the external experience of abandonment by learning to abandon ourselves.
Abandonment from the outside can come in many forms:
- Being told you’re too much or not enough
- Your feelings are not validated
- When you do not feel heard or seen (and you want to be heard/seen)
- When your pain goes unwitnessed
- When you are struggling and there’s no one to give you want you’re needing in that moment - a hug, a conversation, quiet time, space for expression
It becomes a knee-jerk reaction in moments of pain to abandon yourself and re-create the same behaviors as the caregivers who abandoned you.
This podcast will shine light on how to know when you are abandoning yourself, and what to do instead so you have the experience of being a loving & compassionate ally to all (deeply innocent) parts of you that just need your attention.
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This session is for you if you are:
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T: “You’re so brave – as you guided me down into the scary-ass basement of ghouls within me, you had the energy of “let’s go girl!!” It’s so nice to feel a lack of judgement and open up about things I couldn’t speak to anyone about. With other mental health professionals, I tend to feel some judgement and wonder “am I too much?” – or feel this sense of needing to protect them from my darkness.
Coaching with you was a different experience than anything I’ve felt before. It was crazy.
I’ve never laughed-cried like that before. The relief was that immense. Your wisdom is something I’ll never forget. When we did the somatic practice and talked about a spot in my body where I held very scary, painful trauma, you were so fearless. I’ve always felt afraid of other people’s emotions and the way you held space – with such understanding and fearlessness – was awe inspiring.”
P: “The most unexpected thing was how deep we went in one hour. We touched on things that it took me years to express in traditional therapy. In one session, I realized I wouldn’t die if I faced my pain. In the days since our session, I’ve paused to ask myself, ‘what’s going on in my body and what sensations do I feel?’ I’ve always felt so disconnected from my body and our session took away I lot of fear I’ve held onto."
61. How I Went From Shy to Self-Expressed Queen
The title says it all!! This episode is so near and dear to my heart. I've been reflecting a lot on the fact that my shy child-self would be MIND-BLOWN with how self-expressed I am nowadays. I've noticed in the last 2-3 years, I've absolutely quantum leaped when it comes to authentically expressing myself to others, and in this episode I detail exactly how I did it so you can re-create it in your own life.
Message me on social media to let me know what you got out of this episode!!!
IG: @nurse_nell
FB: Danelle Gal
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60. As Within, So Without - With Spiritual Life Coach Britt Russell
Helllooooooo I got a fresh one for ya!! Britt is a spiritual life coach who I met while we were both working our medical jobs. We connected immediately, and she's been such a light on my path. Like literally when people say "she's such a light in this world," that's how I feel about Britt. RADIANT human who's walking her talk.
In this episode, we talk about:
- Not seeing people as they are, but seeing them as we are
- Numbing out with substances/addiction in general
- Believing you are wrong and broken & what to do about that mindset
- Trusting vs. distrusting yourself
- Shame
- Projection
- Spiritual paradox
- The feeling of being watched inside your own mind
....and more!
Here's her bio: Britt Russell is on a mission to inspire spiritual expansion within your mind by sharing spiritual teachings she’s unveiled along her journey to unlock abundance and inner peace. Trained EMT, Certified Spiritual Life Coach, and Psychic by nature with the ability to feel others beyond their appearance and words. Believer in humanity and advocate for personal empowerment.
Check out Britt's podcast, Through Her Lens. I was a guest on her pod (second episode!) and it was a delight.
Here's the link to listen to her podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4jYIqFKSjcog0ux5TkqtUl?si=4f31b8e5344045ab
Follow Britt on social media here: IG: https://www.instagram.com/britmrussell/
or email her: theworthymindset@gmail.com
59. Rescuing Others is Hurting You (and What to Do Instead)
Welp, here we are again. Talking about how whenever you view someone as a victim and try to rescue them, you end up persecuting them.
If you have ANY attachment to or expectation of HOW they "should" respond to your saviorism, your potential persecution of them only amplifies.
When you are trying to rescue someone from their circumstances/emotions/etc., THEY do not owe you anything.
And this is where it gets hairy, because we deeply expect them to be respectful, listen to our advice, take what we're saying/offering "seriously," be grateful, etc.
And when they INEVITABLY are not those things, we judge them, criticize them, belittle them.
In this episode, I talk about how to get off of this endless, exhausting cycle.
Follow me on IG: @nurse_nell
Work with me 1-1: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching
58. My Magical Experience With a Somatic Coach
An account of an incredible coaching session I had with a somatic coach (who's getting certified in the VITA method)
Somatic work never fails to blow my mind and allow me to find the answers inside of myself.
The coach I worked with for this session was Verity Mitchell
Her FB is https://www.facebook.com/verity.mitchell.52
Book a consult with me here
57. The Radical Practice of Saying "Yes" To It All: A Convo with Fellow Existential Kink Coach and Nurse Chelsea
I'm so THRILLED to introduce you to Chelsea (if you don't already know this icon). She and I are both nurses and shadow work coaches. She is an oncology nurse, and we met during our Existential Kink coach training. We were in the same coven (small witchy/magical groups) during our EK training, so we spent some solid time together holding space for each other. She is truly a special human, coach, and healer.
This conversation was sooo good, and the word I use to describe Chelsea is an "expander." She is gentle and fierce simultaneously, and when I'm around her, I feel energetically/emotionally expansive and connected. I think you may feel the same or similarly as you listen to this episode.
We touch on:
-The underbelly job that is nursing
-Shadow work and existential kink
-Trauma
-Different types of medicine/medicinal experiences
-The unconscious vs. conscious mind
-Transitions and portals that open as a consequence
-My experience with a psychotic break (or at least psychotic break adjacent)
-What it means to say "yes" to it all, and ride the wave of sensations
-Paradox/non-duality
...and more!!
You can find Chelsea on IG @sohumanwithchels
56. How To Find Clarity and Direction
I think I have a unique take on clarity and direction. Lots of my clients come to me not even knowing what they want, and to me, that's NOT a problem....and it's also understandable. It's part of the human condition to not know what you want. In this pod, I share some mindset stuff and tools to help you re-frame what it means to be "clear" about what you want and where you're going.
Shadow Games, my shadow work course (existential kink and emotional freedom technique) is on sale now. Doors close Thursday, Feb. 15th, 2024. Get it here: https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/Ab2gUZAk
55. Want Peace? Stop Being So Defensive
Oh this is a deep dive. In part 1 of this pod (first 15 min or so), we explore some mental re-frames and create lightness humor around others' opinions of you. In part two (last 20 mins or so), we dive into The Victim Triangle - my ultimate psychological tool for inner peace when it comes to the complexities of interpersonal relationships. This episode is PACKED with value, I hope you enjoy it.
Wanna go deep with existential kink and nervous system regulation? Get my course Shadow Games: https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/Ab2gUZAk
54. Women: You Need To Brag
Seriously. Specifically, you need to brag in safe spaces with other women who are also bragging and celebrating themselves. This practice is RADICAL. It's confronting. It's uncomfortable at first. And damn is it healing.
Come to Cozy Group Coaching - my $16/session coaching group. We are going to be sharing our brags at the top of the call. Join us here: https://calendly.com/nursenell/cozy-group-coaching-1
10 women max per session. 75 minutes per session.
You get coached on a first come, first serve basis. There will be a group activity/meditation, then we get to coaching. You can get coached on anything.
These sessions will be recorded and I will use some of the content to create social media posts/examples of coaching. You will always have the opportunity to consent or not consent to your coaching being shared.
53. Cults and Sovereignty in Personal Development
Twin Flames. Mother God. You know them. You love to hate them. You seek to understand. You are titillated, confused, amused, disgusted. Truth is, you probably have both a cult leader and cult follower within you. It's human. There can be a thin line between personal growth communities and cults. The difference is in: losing yourself/becoming disconnected from yourself & giving your power to someone or something else because ultimately there’s a fear that if you don’t follow this person or this things- you’re f*cked. Let's talk about it.
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Join my $16 cozy group coaching!! January 22, 2024 @ 4pm PST. Sign up here: https://calendly.com/nursenell/cozy-group-coaching-1
If you're ready for a life coaching consult, sign up below (a full hour, talking about where you are and where you wanna be. If you're a good fit for my coaching, I'll offer you a package and tell you about the deets): https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching
If you're scared or not ready for the full hour (lol this is me with most coaches), sign up for a 15 min casual convo with me. This is not a sales convo, just vibes: https://calendly.com/nursenell/15-minute-casual-chat
52. Shadow Work Somatic Practice: All of You is Welcome
Get comfy and let's meditate!! After a brief intro, I guide you into a meditative hypno-therapeutic practice to radically accept and welcome everything that is going on inside and outside of you - to find your inner pillar of groundedness and peace with all-that-is. ENJOY!!!!
Find me on IG: @nurse_nell
Tiktok: @nursenell33
FB: Danelle Gal
51. Things I Live By
Yayyyy. I've developed some very healthy and helpful ways to view myself and my life. I have a bunch of things written around my office that I look at every day and felt compelled to share them because they are so good & may help you too
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50. People Pleasing is Manipulative
The truth will set you free :)
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49. Forgiveness is Not for Them. It's For You.
The title says it all, I think????
Forgiveness is not for them… it’s for you!
You cannot expect the people who hurt you to heal you too.
Learning how to detach from the desire for external validation, love, and approval IS power.
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Work with me 1-1: https://calendly.com/nursenell
My shadow work course is on sale now!!!: https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/Ab2gUZAk/checkout
48. Narcissists vs. Empaths: What Pop Psychology Got Wrong
HELLLOOOOO this is a spicy topic!! Today, we are exploring the nuances and complexities of this conversation, including black-and-white thinking when it comes to narcissists vs. empaths, what a diagnosed narcissist actually is, being a legitimate victim vs. spinning in victimhood, and how the pop psychology interpretation of this topic is keeping you stuck.
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Podcast appearance: Nurse Nell- Trauma Informed Life Coach on Somatic Healinghttps://open.spotify.com/episode/5fL4NBsiuPeHOQRwigyK9R...
47. Track Your Menstrual Cycle & Become the Oracle of Your Own Life, bb
This episode is for humans who menstruate. Tracking your cycle is SUCH AN ABSOLUTE MF game-changer...like....the fact that we are not taught this in detail growing up is wild to me. Makes sense tho ya know (*cough* patriarchy *farts*). When I started to become aware of my mood patterns, I could more easily un-shame myself for my thoughts/behaviors/etc. Tune in for the basics of cycle tracking and the different mood phases. Become the oracle of your own life.
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Get emails from me 🧚♂️
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Podcast appearance: Nurse Nell- Trauma Informed LIfe Coach on Somatic Healing
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46. Death, Grief, Letting Go of Control, and Soothing Words
Welp. There's a lot going on right now. Personally and globally. In this episode, I share about some recent losses in my life, rumination, anxiety, reflect a bit on Palestine and Israel, and share something I wrote this morning that was soooo soothing to me and could be soothing to you, too.
Book a trauma informed life coaching consult with me here: https://calendly.com/nursenell
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45. Why You Should Lean Into Being a Basic B*tch
HELLO. This is an interesting topic. If you are a creative type who feels like being "normy" is a death sentence, this episode is for you. Leaning into your basic b*tchness = integration & freedom, while trying to avoid it = isolation & disconnection.
44. Surrending to the Human Experience with Ilana Khin
Sometimes articulating the most simple truths is the hardest thing.
Ilana is so good at articulating deep truths in an accessible, digestible, embodied way
I love this woman. She is a truth seeker & finder & and I appreciate every one of the conversations we’ve had
This episode was therapeutic for me. It felt like a warm blanket. It felt like permission be with What Is.
I’m truly sooooo excited for you to experience her magic, and feel that too.
If you are a human having a human experience I *highly suggest* listening to this episode (lols). For real. I believe whoever is meant to listen, will. Absorb the wisdom in your bones. See what happens ♥️
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Find Ilana on instagram @ilana.khin
43. Un-Shaming: An Underrated Aspect of Trauma Healing
The title says it all :0
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42. MY BOOK RECS - Non-sh*tty self-help, joyful business/marketing, sexi fiction...
HELLO!!!
I LOVE TO READ. Here are a few of my faves of all time.
Genres include:
Non-sh*tty self-help
Joyful & sustainable business/marketing
Money
Sexi fiction
etc.
I'm a trauma informed life coach for women. Sign up for a free consult with me here:
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41. Your Ego Only Wants Good Things (why that's a problem and what to do about it)
Your ego loves to hate negative emotions. Your ego loves to be identified with labels, status, control...
There's a problem though. Your unconscious mind wants everything. And it will fight your ego and your ego will fight it. This will cause constant internal war.
In this episode I outline how to dissolve the ego's grip on your consciousness so you can go with the flow easier, and quiet the raging war in your mind. :)
Sign up for a free coaching consult with me here: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching
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40. Being Ok Even When Others Aren't is an Act of True Service
In this episode, I talk about perhaps the most important concept in my life currently - a sneaky facet of codependency where you base your emotions around other people's emotions - for example - "I'm not happy unless you're happy" or "if you're angry, I'm angry now too."
This enmeshment and is so common and human, so don't shame yourself for it.
What's important here to note is that this kind of enmeshment isn't helping anyone (empathy is different btw).
Two dysregulated people are worse than one, always. It's a great act of service to learn how to regulate your own nervous system and stay un-enmeshed from other people's emotions, & be able to co-regulate.
It's true self love instead of self abandonment, and in turn, it's so loving towards other people.
Sign up for a free coaching consult with me here: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching
Check out my website here: https://www.lifenursenell.com/
39. Remembering Your Magick with Holly Hamel
I am blissed the f*ck out to share Holly Hamel with you all. She is one of the most unique, grounded, spiritual, honest, authentic souls I’ve encountered.
((I am connected to THE COOLEST people, and for that, I am #blessed, and you are blessed as a result LOL))
It is a privilege to introduce you (if you don’t already know her) to this icon.
Holly is a psychic, intuitive, spiritual coach, magician (magick with a -CK), coach (amongst infinite other labels), and has a 20+ year background in mental health & postpartum counseling.
We were in the same cohort for our Existential Kink coaching training, and she stood out to me from the start.
She is a force of nature and overall wonderful human. Her energy just feels very….good to me. Being in her presence is warming and inviting, AND she tells it like it is. She has a directness and a soothing quality to her. She really does have high priestess energy.
Here’s our awesome conversation together. ENJOIIIIIII!!!!
Find Holly on IG: @holly.high_priestess
https://www.instagram.com/holly.high_priestess/
Holly’s offerings:
https://linktr.ee/HollyHamel
38. Hearing Your Own Voice in Life and Business with Michelle Etchison
I am truly so MF thrilled and HONORED to present this *chefs kiss* human(oid) to you all.
I genuinely laughed hard many times throughout this convo with Michelle, as well as received so many light-bulb moments and downloads.
Ya know that quote by Maya Angelou: “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Michelle's words are sooooo wise and poetic and beautiful AND the thing I noticed soooo strongly was how I felt during this convo.
My body was legit buzzing in such a grounded gentle lovely way, and THAT is the magic of being in the presence of the goddess queen that is Michelle Etchison. Her vibe is immaculate.
I’ve been following Michelle since I started my coaching business- she was one of the first people I was attracted to in the online business space and it has been a f*cking treat to watch her evolution over the last few years. She's a self expression coach and is so incredible at what she does.
She is the real deal. She’s someone who feels -solid- to me. She shows up. She’s brilliant. She’s herself. She exhibits and embodies a kind of feminine freedom that is a permission slip for other women.
Tune in to our pod pod for the magick!!!
P.s. one of my favorite moments of this episode was when Michelle said she feels like the spirit of her business is being run by her first bird, Beau. Consider me obsessed with that type of energy. THAT is what we need in the coaching world & life LOL
You can find Michelle and her offerings here:
IG: @happyhoelife (moved from @michelle.etchison)
Naughty content challenge: https://michelle-etchison.mykajabi.com/naughty-content-challenge
Happy hoe life membership: https://michelle-etchison.mykajabi.com/happy-hoe-life-membership
Michelle's podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3IjxCZQU6Q3hkcZXg0gC4I
1-1 coaching with Michelle: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfEnEJzsV7yduO2PpyXQwpyTFjl-7zb2qKgv_N52fhcBymo2w/viewform
37. What Does "Expand Your Nervous Systems' Capacity" Mean & Why It's So Important
Talking about SUCH an important concept today - what it means to "expand" your "capacity."
Sign up for a free consult with me here: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching
36. Consuming Content and How to Clear Your Channel
Move faster, consume more, succeed harder, grow, grow grow....
& how to clear all the bullsh*t to find your peace.
35. Debt is a Neutral Circumstance
We're talking $$$$ baybeeee
Debt.
What are your thoughts/feelings about your debt?
Let's re-frame. Dissolving the emotional charge around debt is so SO so so important. If you have debt, this episode might change your life.
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SHADOW GAMES: Pre-recorded Existential Kink, tapping, and embodiment course:
https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/ikfHzEJy
SHADOW GAMES (payment plan $122 x 3): https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/2nzq6qLn
Work with me♥️ Free consult call: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching?month=2022-05
34. Tools to Overcome Overwhelm
This episode is originally a workshop I taught! I teach 2 simple tools and share some tips about how to deal with/move through overwhelm.
I’m a trauma informed & shadow work coach for women. I specialize in nervous system education & regulation, existential kink, people-pleasing, anxiety, getting out of victimhood, and creating positive spirals of synchronicity in your life. Dm me to apply for a free 45-minute consult (or go to the link in bio bio)♥️
https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching
33. How to Do Byron Katie's "The Work" Without Bypassing
Ah yes. My girl Byron Katie.
Her 4 questions:
- Is it true?
- Can you absolutely be sure it's true?
- How do you react when you believe that thought?
- Who would you be without that thought?
Her 4 questions, on the surface level, can seem simple and like they're just there to gaslight you, but my understanding and experience of The Work at this point is that it's incredibly profound and I've worked through some deep and long-held beliefs by practicing The Work.
The Work is meant to be meditated upon, and felt into. My interpretation is that the questions start to dissolve our grip on beliefs that cause us suffering, and therefore allow us to connect with the truth of who we are beyond our thoughts. It's the SOMATIC/FELT experience of WHO YOU BE underneath your thoughts is what makes this work profound.
It's about your truth, not mine. Don't gaslight yourself by answering "no" to "is it true?" if it's not true for you.
Listen for more, and to learn how to do it yourself :))
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SHADOW GAMES: Pre-recorded Existential Kink, tapping, and embodiment course:
https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/ikfHzEJy
SHADOW GAMES (payment plan $122 x 3): https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/2nzq6qLn
Work with me♥️ Free consult call: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching?month=2022-05
My Podcast: Too Human🛸
https://open.spotify.com/show/0P4ugRsguNYr6oixCXwvtA
My website 🔥https://www.lifenursenell.com/
Get emails from me 🧚♂️
https://crafty-leader-8019.ck.page/0d28551821
Podcast appearance: Nurse Nell- Trauma Informed LIfe Coach on Somatic Healing
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5fL4NBsiuPeHOQRwigyK9R?si=FHrUCeJaR2O2SRixfxVcug
32. WTF Are Spirit Guides? + A Ritual to Connect to Yours
YAY I love this topic.
The seen vs. the unseen. Conscious vs. unconscious.
Your spirit guides can be whoever or whatever you want them to be.
I believe I have a unique take on spirit guides that makes them accessible to anyone.
Enjoi
Get SHADOW GAMES: my pre-recorded Existential Kink, tapping, and embodiment course
https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/ikfHzEJy
SHADOW GAMES (payment plan $122 x 3): https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/2nzq6qLn
Work with me♥️ Free consult call: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching?month=2022-05
My Podcast: Too Human🛸
https://open.spotify.com/show/0P4ugRsguNYr6oixCXwvtA
My website 🔥https://www.lifenursenell.com/
Get emails from me 🧚♂️
https://crafty-leader-8019.ck.page/0d28551821
Podcast appearance: Nurse Nell- Trauma Informed Life Coach on Somatic Healing
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5fL4NBsiuPeHOQRwigyK9R?si=FHrUCeJaR2O2SRixfxVcug
31. The Horror and Profound Beauty of Being Human (with Sherri Hasley and I)
My friend and old client Sherri Hasley and I have an in depth, fun, heartfelt, meandering conversation about trauma, shadow work, the importance of mental health support, Existential Kink, toxic positivity, how psychedelic it is to feel your feelings, and more. Enjoi
She interviews me, but this is a fluid, flowing conversation where we both share our beliefs.
Find Sherri here: https://www.facebook.com/sherri.hasley
https://calendly.com/sherrihasley-lifecoach/30min
My links & info:
SHADOW GAMES: Pre-recorded Existential Kink, tapping, and embodiment course:
https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/ikfHzEJy
SHADOW GAMES (payment plan $122 x 3): https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/2nzq6qLn
Work with me♥️ Free consult call: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching?month=2022-05
My Podcast: Too Human🛸
https://open.spotify.com/show/0P4ugRsguNYr6oixCXwvtA
My website 🔥https://www.lifenursenell.com/
Get emails from me 🧚♂️
https://crafty-leader-8019.ck.page/0d28551821
Podcast appearance: Nurse Nell- Trauma Informed LIfe Coach on Somatic Healing
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5fL4NBsiuPeHOQRwigyK9R?si=FHrUCeJaR2O2SRixfxVcug
30. Overcoming Good Ol' Social Anxiety
I was talking to someone a few months ago who I didn’t know super well.
As we talked, I felt like my lung channels were narrowing, making it harder to breathe.
I was hyperfocused on what they were saying but surely missing important non-verbal details.
It felt like there was a heavy ball in my stomach pulling me down into the earth, where I could disappear and honestly just….rest for a thousand years.
I felt like everything I was saying was fucking stupid and every movement I made was being watched carefully for any signs that I was an imposter. I had to be careful. Very careful.
Ah yes, good ol’ social anxiety.
I always wondered why in some social situations I had no problem at all – felt totally at ease, happy, excited to be there – having interesting conversations with new people who felt like friends in no time. And why other times I felt like I was going to shit my pants and die.
I realized, for a teeny tiny moment, in that conversation with that human I mentioned above, that there was a program running in the deeeeeeep recesses of my mind, causing the constriction. I heard a voice: “you are stupid” “what are you doing” “no one likes you.”
This voice (that I’m usually unaware of because again….it’s so DEEP!) was literally sending me into a sympathetic nervous system response (fight/flight/freeze/fawn). The hypervigilance, hyperfocus but unaware of important non-verbal details, the sweating, heart racing, frozen-ness. The inability to remember what my favorite book is or a good show I’ve been watching recently. This is a typical stress reaction – the same kind we humans get if we are being chased by a lion.
Listen for more
SHADOW GAMES: Pre-recorded Existential Kink, tapping, and embodiment course:
https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/ikfHzEJy
SHADOW GAMES (payment plan $122 x 3): https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/2nzq6qLn
Work with me♥️ Free consult call: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching?month=2022-05
My Podcast: Too Human🛸
https://open.spotify.com/show/0P4ugRsguNYr6oixCXwvtA
My website 🔥https://www.lifenursenell.com/
Get emails from me 🧚♂️
https://crafty-leader-8019.ck.page/0d28551821
Podcast appearance: Nurse Nell- Trauma Informed Life Coach on Somatic Healing
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5fL4NBsiuPeHOQRwigyK9R?si=FHrUCeJaR2O2SRixfxVcug
29. Life Will F You / My Coaching Style
1. Your mental health matters are taken seriously, and are met with compassion, spaciousness, and care. You are witnessed and fully held.
And
2. You are a fully capable sovereign human being playing a game of human life with the ability to move in a different direction. Even if your conscious mind rejects the experience you’re having, your unconscious mind is having an absolute field day with it.
This dichotomy of seriousness and lightness is how I help my clients. It works.
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When I do Parts Work with clients (identifying different “parts” in ourselves that have their own desires, needs, and purposes), a very specific interesting thing happens:
There is an honoring of each part, no matter how wicked or twisted or hateful…
…and in that honoring comes the blooming of that part - the allowance of letting that part dance in the sun…
…And that part magically transforms into the most innocent, beautiful being.
& if it's not beautiful & innocent, creating a loving space for it to be itself integrates it.
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SHADOW GAMES: Pre-recorded Existential Kink, tapping, and embodiment course:
https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/ikfHzEJy
SHADOW GAMES (payment plan $122 x 3): https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/2nzq6qLn
Work with me♥️ Free consult call: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching?month=2022-05
My Podcast: Too Human🛸
https://open.spotify.com/show/0P4ugRsguNYr6oixCXwvtA
My website 🔥https://www.lifenursenell.com/
Get emails from me 🧚♂️
https://crafty-leader-8019.ck.page/0d28551821
Podcast appearance: Nurse Nell- Trauma Informed LIfe Coach on Somatic Healing
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5fL4NBsiuPeHOQRwigyK9R?si=FHrUCeJaR2O2SRixfxVcug
28. Trauma is Not What Happened to You
...it's how your nervous system reacted to a circumstance.
You are not to be blamed for this reaction - in fact, un-shaming yourself is key in healing trauma.
Join Shadow Games- my FIRST EVER pre-recorded shadow work course!!! https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/ikfHzEJy
Follow me on social media: IG: @nurse_nell // Tiktok: nursenell33
Book a free consult or gift a friend: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching
My podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0P4ugRsguNYr6oixCXwvtA?si=9218b59c82524bf9
I was a guest on this podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5fL4NBsiuPeHOQRwigyK9R?si=BrwrgDsqSyGerYKKwzw-Ww