You can’t push pause on grief.
COVID-19 has brought much distress to families all over the country and changed our daily lives tremendously. In these trying times, it's much harder to deal with the already stressful situations that affect us all, such as grieving the loss of a loved one.
In today's podcast episode, we talk about how we can deal with grief in these COVID-19 times and how our company is adapting our procedures to help everyone stay safe.
We'll also be sharing useful tips from our friend and colleague, grief therapist, Kelly Grosklags.
Death & your financial stability
Dealing with the death of a loved one is stressful enough. But not knowing what to do with someone's finances after the person has passed away poses an additional burden on a grieving family.
What you'll learn:
• One key element you need to know
• What documents you need
• Get a list of who needs to be contacted
What do we need to know?
Surround yourself with people you trust. Others may see vulnerability, so make sure those helping have the right motives and nothing for personal gain.
Consult the right people. Friends and family may have their hearts in their right place, but when someone says "I know a guy who could helpâ€ can create more work with fewer advantages!
Select professionals who specialize in wills, trusts, and estate planning. Avoid real estate lawyers, divorce lawyers, personal injury or criminal attorneys, and others who don't specialize in estate planning as they may not know the tax laws that are constantly changing.
After a loved one dies, many heirs balk at hiring legal help because they worry about the cost. But that's often a penny wise and a pound foolish since advice from a qualified professional could save an estate many thousands of dollars, make the process of settling an estate much easier and help family members avoid potential liabilities.
One of the most time-consuming aspects of tending to the financial affairs of someone who has passed away is gathering the litany of documents that need to be assembled. For many families, this is a nightmare chore due to haphazard record-keeping, poor planning and a lack of knowledge about where critical documents are located.
What are the important papers that one should keep or need: After a person's death, an executor of an estate should collect or order the following documents, at a minimum:
Death certificate(s). All these documents will help you find accounts and assets, and assess outstanding debts, as well as submit claims for benefits and cash payments that may be due the deceased person's beneficiaries and heirs.
Will or trust
Insurance policies (life, homeowners, health, disability, auto, etc.)
Last credit card statements
Investment accounts (IRAs, 401(k) plans, mutual funds, pensions, etc.)
Last checking and savings account statements (including CDs and money-market accounts)
Last mortgage statement
Last two years' tax returns
Marriage and birth certificates (of the deceased's spouse and children)
An up-to-date credit report of the deceased
Who needs to be contacted:
A key next step is to notify all the following places of the individual's death. Each is important for different reasons.
Social Security Administration
The deceased person's employer
Credit card companies
Cancel or Transfer Accounts, Memberships, and Subscriptions
Following someone's death, you don't want subscriptions, memberships or services they'll no longer be using to stay in force. So cancel those immediately, along with credit card, insurance and financial accounts that will be inactive. "If the person was married, transfer the power, electricity and water bills that may be in their name to their surviving spouse."
What is self-care.
How self-care works.
Tips on what you can do about it.
What you can do about it
Be kind to yourself. Love Yourself. Don’t beat yourself up through words, thoughts and deeds.
Get a check-up.
Be yourself. Let those around you know how you are feeling. Let people know if you need space or are not feeling up to something. Let your feelings arise and deal with them. Don’t let them fester.
Sleep is key to healthy healing.
Nutrition and staying hydrated.
Surround yourself with people for who you are.
Pets can also give you a positive boost.
Look around at nature.
Volunteering or donating.
Express your feelings
Music - create a playlist or learn how to play an instrument.
Peer or group counseling
Mike O'Connell talks about guiding you through the pre-arrangement process of a funeral.
FREE PDF Download: 10 things to think about before your funeral.
Learn more on our website: https://oconnellfuneralhomes.com/prearranging/funeral-pre-arrangements/
O’Connell Family Funeral Homes knows families have the best intentions when having to plan a funeral, but sometimes people have different opinions on what they think their loved ones might have wanted - thus causing conflict. Intense emotions, personality conflicts, and financial pressures to pay for services can bring additional stressors.
Pre-arranging your funeral assures that your family will not be burdened with any further grief of making choices that you could make in a pre-arranging session. Pre-arrange today!