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Stillness in the Storms

Stillness in the Storms

By Steven Webb
Stillness in the storms podcast is hosted by Steven Webb and will help you to find inner peace in times of difficulty. Through Steven's wisdom and experience in life, he shared stories and tools and techniques to help you find peace of mind when you need it most. Steven Webb has been severely paralysed since he was 18 years old following a diving accident. He uses his own life difficulties to help you overcome yours.
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40 - 'Based on a True Story' - This WILL STOP You ARGUING

Stillness in the Storms

51 - When Caring is Not Enough! Biden, Inauguration and Elvis
We all care, we don't all have compassion. And what does it mean to be real and genuine? It means to be flawed which results in perfection.  Episode I mention is Revision History: Analysis, Parapraxis, Elvis  
January 20, 2021
50 - My 25% Rule to Help You Grow Consciously
We all want to get out of my comfort zone, but we fear the risk it involves. What if there's a way we can grow consciously, grow our awareness by stepping out of my comfort zone but without too much of a risk?
January 15, 2021
49 - 7 Reasons it's Awesome to be Paralysed (DON'T LISTEN IF EASILY OFFENDED)
Yes, you read the title right! You can also watch this on my YouTube if you prefer to see my wonderful face. Although this episode may offend some, and I've been really vulnerable in some respect. It has a real serious note and that if we reframe things instead of looking at them in a negative way, we can really find the gift in anything.
January 10, 2021
48 – How You Choose Your Altitude
You really do choose how far you go in life. Yes you might be held back a little by the headwinds of your situation, but that doesn't mean you cannot go anywhere or improve your life at all. In this podcast I share how I could have easily settled, and through little changes every day I am much happier and going in the right direction.
January 2, 2021
47 - My 3 REALLY EFFECTIVE steps to DEAL with STRESS quickly
Imagine whenever you're feeling stressed, having a simple three-step process that reduces your stress to a level that you can deal with it easily and quickly.
December 22, 2020
46 - Why Your Spiritual Journey to Your Heart is Incomplete
Why do we still suffer after we have taken the spiritual journey to our hearts, starting living from this wonderful new place of love and compassion? Yet, we still suffer?
December 14, 2020
45 - LET IT GO is terrible advice DO THIS INSTEAD
The advice 'let it go' seems to be everywhere. I've even given that advice myself to others and tried to do it myself. However, there is a way better way than trying to let things go. In today's podcast Steven Webb, your host teaches you a different way through his unique humour and perspective.
November 18, 2020
44 - Your Knowledge Is Worthless If You...
This is a big confession time, and I bet you do the same thing again and again. We do all these things and we know better, why don't we do better? In this podcast Steven Webb discusses why knowledge is worthless if you don't do anything with it.
October 25, 2020
43 - I really didn't want to do this
Now and again, you have one of those days, and this was one of them. I really couldn't be bothered to do anything, let alone record a podcast.
October 22, 2020
42 - How to Think Positive Even with a Negative Bias
Just think positive, just look on the positive side of life. Really easy, simple anybody can do it. So why do the majority think in a negative way? It's not as simple as thinking positive, and in this episode of Stillness in the Storms I explained why. Meanwhile, follow me on Goodpods. - or listen on Stillness in the Storms Podcast
October 13, 2020
41 - The Emotion That Stopped Me Living | What's Yours?
I'm sure you've heard of shadows, those emotions and influences that have a large bearing on our lives yet we cannot see them. Nearly 30 years, I had no idea that this one emotion was holding me back. As I share my story of finding freedom, what about you? What emotion is holding you back? I'm Steven Webb, your host, and sometimes we are far too close and when an ex says something that bites. Take notice.
October 6, 2020
40 - 'Based on a True Story' - This WILL STOP You ARGUING
This podcast will blow your mind, it will literally rewrite the way you think and you will stop arguing! That's a big claim, listen to the podcast and I think you will agree. Our memory is flawed, yet we think it is perfect. When we realise the true nature of how our mind works it will have a big impact on your life, and your family and those around you.
October 4, 2020
39 - If My Last Podcast | What Is My Best Advice?
My BEST ADVICE... That's what I discuss on this podcast, and what advice I would like you to remember if I don't get the opportunity to ever share another podcast.
September 28, 2020
If you really want to know how to be healthy, more energy and sleep better. Listen to your body. One of our biggest teachers is our own body, yes your body. It is giving you all the information you need to make wise decisions, yet we very often do not listen to it. In this podcast Steven Webb the host of Stillness in the Storms talks about his body, his paralysed body and how he needs to listen to it a little more deeply than most would have to.
September 17, 2020
37 – Today Is No Ordinary Day – 29 Years on
Every year on the anniversary of when I broke my neck, I reflect on my life being disabled, being paralysed like I am and how it affects me. How I can find the gift in what happened, and how I can use it to help others. This year I reflect on the day of my accident, that morning and what did I do on the last day I could walk.
September 2, 2020
36 - Can you be ANGRY and KIND?
Is it really possible to be angry and be kind at the same time? I answer this question on today's podcast, while sharing the story about an argument they could have gone seriously wrong. Have we got anger completely wrong, and should we change the way we see it.
August 10, 2020
35 - Can Meditation Reduce My Stress and anxiety?
We often hear how meditation is the one thing that will save us from everything. It will improve our health, allow us to live many more years, reduced anxiety, and remove stress. Is it really realistic? I'm Steven Webb, the host of Stillness in the Storms. And what a lot of people do not know about me is that I get stressed, and I am a long time sufferer of overwhelm. It is time to talk about it, and how I use meditation to help manage my overwhelm and stress.
August 4, 2020
34 - The Middle Way | Life with less Suffering
Very often you hear in Buddhism about the middle way, but what does it really mean to live the middle way. This podcast is a general chat at the end of a long day, and how I remain positive and optimistic without going into my own suffering.
August 1, 2020
33 - 7 Things We and Governments Should Learn from 2020
What are the things that we should learn from 2020, and not only asked what about the governments? In this episode Steven Webb explores a few things we could all learn, as well as governments from 2020 and the coronavirus/COVID-19.
July 28, 2020
32 – Why You Are Already Living Your Best Possible Life
We may not like the prospect that we are already living the best possible life, but that's the reality. However, it doesn't mean we have to settle for it.
July 19, 2020
31 – Why the 'Spiritual Journey' WILL NOT Reduce Your Suffering
Even before we realised we embark on the spiritual journey, we want to reduce our suffering. Let's talk about reducing suffering rather than the spiritual journey, and perhaps we might get somewhere.
July 11, 2020
30 - How to SOLVE 99% of YOUR PROBLEMS
Solving most of your problems is a big claim. Is it really possible to solve 99% of your problems? I think it is, however you've got to do one thing in order to make that possible. If you don't do what I talk about in this episode you will never be able to get rid of any of your problems. Become a patron: Steven Webb's website:
June 17, 2020
29 - The World DOESN'T NEED MORE LOVE #BlackLivesMatter
So if the world doesn't need more love, what does the world need? When it comes to black lives matter there is a lot more the world needs than a group hug, some loving compassion. In this episode Steven Webb discusses what the world needs more than ever.
June 12, 2020
28 - Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone
How do you expand your comfort zone without too much risk?
June 2, 2020
27 - What to Do When Your Life Doesn't Go to Plan
When life takes a turn for the worst, there is 3 really important things you can do if you don't want your life to spiral out of control. I share a couple stories of my life, and also what I did when I ended up severely paralysed one Sunday night without any warning.
May 17, 2020
26 - When Hugging Your Dragons Is Not Enough
If you want genuine freedom, and not just nice inner peace then you cannot settle for hugging your demons or your Dragons. You have to do something deeper something that takes courage and insight. Becoming friends of your suffering is one thing, learning to use it as the catalyst for your future is your key to freedom. Become a patron:
May 5, 2020
25 - Is there a difference between CARING and EMPATHY
Become a patron - Is there a difference between caring and empathy? Everybody believes they are caring, and almost everybody I talk to believes they have some form of empathy. What is the difference between empathy and caring? And does everybody really have both?
April 29, 2020
24 - The TRUTH behind your 'SPIRITUAL JOURNEY' and you may not like it!
The spiritual journey is not easy, and there is so much information out there telling you that with a little effort you can find inner peace. Is that really the case?
April 7, 2020
23 - 3 Things We ALL NEED to GET THROUGH this Together
This is a difficult time for all of us, not only difficult unusual and we are thrown in circumstances we never thought we would be in. However, there are three things that can help us through this together. Keep your relationship intact, your children balanced, and your family together.
March 31, 2020
22 - How To FACE Your FEAR And ENJOY Inner Peace
I believe we are all frightened at times. In this episode I talk about how we can embrace our fear rather than try to dismiss it and push it away. I'm Steven Webb your host and I've faced a lot of fear in my life, and I share how you can embrace yours and overcome it.
March 26, 2020
21 - The Three Cultural Poisons and Coronavirus Covid-19
Let's talk about the three cultural poisons and how it showing up everywhere in the world right now with the coronavirus and Covid 19. I'm your host Steven Webb let's take a different approach on living deeper lies. --- Send in a voice message:
March 20, 2020
20 - Where is HAPPINESS?
In this episode of Living Deeper Lives I ask a very simple question: Where is happiness? The answer is far more elusive and complicated than we first imagined. Yet when we find it, it is far simpler than we imagined. Happiness is something that seems to elude many although that is the one thing we are all searching for. I'm your host Steven Webb and I help people with active minds and busy lives enjoy inner peace. Transcript Where is happiness? Try to pinpoint where happiness is right now. I'll just give you a few seconds. It's quite a simple question to ponder upon. And it's something I've been thinking about recently. So, where is happiness? It's not so easy to locate, is it? It's not a place, it's not an object, it's not somewhere out there, it's not a place you need to get to. It's a feeling. So, what is happiness?   That sounds like the question on today's podcast. I'm Steven Webb and this is Living Deeper Lives and also Stillness in the Storms podcast. And this podcast is for you, if you have an active mind and you have a busy life, and you don't have time to sit and meditate for hours every day, but you still want a little inner peace.   Happiness, what is it? Where is it? How do we get it? We all want it as children, what do you want to be when you grow up? Well, I want to be this, I want to be that because we think it's going to make us happy. And as parents, whenever you ask a parent, what do you want your kid to be when they get older, they might say a doctor or something like that. But above all, they always come back and say, “I would like my child to be happy.” And I think that's what we want for our partner, our children, our parents, everybody, we want them to be happy.   But what is happy? What does it mean to be happy? If I asked you when you're happy, so why are you happy? You're very often might mention something on the outside world, “Well, I just got a job promotion or I just got a pay rise or I just passed an exam, got a new car, just start a new relationship” or something or just got out of a relationship perhaps, more than likely, you will mention something externally. You won't look up and say, “I just feel happy.” And then if you say to other people, “What will make you happy right now? What will improve your circumstances right now?”  And, they'll say, “Well, if I had a bit more money, if I was a bit healthier, if I lost a bit of weight, if I gained a bit of weight, if I had a bit better tan.” Nowadays, it’s liposuction, lipo-fillers or either fake eyebrows or a few more likes on Facebook, etc.   And now it's like, I'm not interested in likes, I want the love. I don't want any of the other things, you know the likes, are no longer interesting. And this is really funny, and I talk about the happiness line. And if you imagine a piece of paper, draw a line right in the middle of the piece of paper and then if I say to you that line is your center line, that's the line when you feel normal. You're not excited, you're not in intimate moments, you're not cuddling anyone, you're not feeding any kind of excitement or enlightenment or spiritual bliss or any of those things. And below that line is everything, and you go to the doctors find out you are ill or cannot pay your debts or you're feeling lonely or you're feeling depressed or anything like that has blurred the line.   And depending on whether how far up or down on the scale above and below the line you go, you know, if you're going on holiday, you're quite high up above the line. If you're in bed and having an intimate moment, you're having sex with somebody, you're quite well up above the line. And then the moment you climax, you're like top of the paper, off the paper, off the scale. But then when you go to the doctor's and you suddenly get diagnosed with something that isn't that good, or you hear
March 9, 2020
Dealing with OVERWHELMING THOUGHTS and EMOTIONS   You know that feeling when you want to close the curtains, dim the lights, sit on the floor in front of the sofa bring your legs up, and rest your forehead on your knees.   Suddenly thoughts and emotions have become overwhelming. There happens to all of us, there is no shame or anything to feel bad about.   If you have a big heart, you care a lot and sometimes you going to be overwhelmed with emotions.   How to deal with overwhelming thoughts and emotions is the topic of this podcast. --- Send in a voice message:
March 1, 2020
18 - Best Way to COPE with LONELINESS?
Let's talk about feeling lonely, loneliness is something that seems to be on the rise. In this episode I talk about what it means to feel lonely, and some of the things we can do about it.
February 24, 2020
17 - How to Save Someone's Life! The MOST DIFFICULT Story I've Ever Told
In this episode I share my story of how I tried to commit suicide. Not an easy one to share, however I do it because hopefully it might save someone's life. It might save your life one day, or a friend of yours.
February 19, 2020
16 - Being vulnerable and I CANNOT BELIEVE I have been HIDING THIS!
Here is the link to the video: It's no secret that I am severely paralysed, I broke when neck when I was 18. It left me a C5 complete tetraplegic/quadriplegic which means my arms and legs are both paralysed. To be honest, most of my body is paralysed. It's not something I focus on a lot or at least is not something that I share very often. Yes, I say I'm paralysed, but to go into detail like I have in this podcast is something entirely different.  am a C5 complete tetraplegic/quadriplegic. This is my morning routine, I don't normally share such vulnerability however I think it's time I did. Thank you for listening and subscribing, below you will find links to meditations and my free book that will help you find stillness in the storms of life. Check out my podcast, and if you can support me by treating me to a coffee or supporting me via PayPal that would be awesome.
February 10, 2020
15 - Don't let EMPATHY DESTROY YOU | Healthy vs Unhealthy Empathy
If you care too much, and you find it hard by feelings things deeply this video will help you understand where you are going wrong. Healthy empathy is completely different from unhealthy empathy.   You can support me and tip me if I help -   About Steven Webb  Through my life of adversity, being paralysed, bankrupt and many other times of trouble I have found ways to have freedom, calmness and ultimately peace of mind.  I love my life.  I inspire and transform people's lives all over the world. By helping you to change your perspective, look at things differently and take control of your life I will give you the freedom and serenity back you deserve. Remember that desire to live fully before adulthood took over. It's time to get that back before it is too late.    Website: Facebook: Twitter:
January 22, 2020
14 - Finding Your CORE VALUES and Why It Is so Important
Do you ever wonder what your fundamental core values are? Things like honesty, integrity, understanding, compassion, hard-working, and loyal to name just a few. We all have them, and we all expect others to also have these core values. Especially in the way they treat us. However, do you have your set few? And do you really show up as them in every aspect of your life? Those are the questions I ask in this podcast. Thank you, enjoy the podcast.
January 14, 2020
13 - Why BEING ENOUGH Is More Important Than Perfect
I've spent most of my life trying to live up to perfection. With today's Internet and peer pressure going global the pressure has never been so high to perform and be the best possible version of yourself. Most of the time we have to be even better than that, we have to be perfect. It's no wonder when we fail to hit that mark we feel demoralised, fed up, and like we are not enough. In this podcast Steven Webb talks about not being enough, and how it changed in 2019 for him. The strife of protection was literally stopping him doing any of the things he wanted to do. Being paralyse physically is one thing, being mentally paralysed is a whole different story. You can support Steven by going to or
January 8, 2020
12 - Dealing with Life's Knockout Blows
It's all changing, Stillness In The Storms is now called Living Deeper Lives. How do you deal with life's knockout blows?  You know the ones that knock you on your but, leave you starry-eyed wondering what the hell hit you.  I'm your host Steven Webb, and in this episode, I share the story of when I found out my friend Clare Brooks had passed away. These times have a huge emotional impact on us, so how do we deal with them? If you want to book a chat or treat me to a coffee head over to
December 7, 2019
11 - How to live with a Big Heart without Suffering
One of the hardest things I've had to do since I started to open my heart is to also know what is mine to carry and what isn't. In this podcast, I talk about the development of empathy, from when you are very young to the higher levels of empathy that very few people manage to get to. Empathy can really be a great gift, and as the cliche goes it can also be a great burden if we allow it to drown us. Please enjoy, let me know what you thought. A review would be amazing, and if you could buy me a coffee head over to my website and the link is at the top. Steven Webb - Website Buy me a coffee - Link
November 26, 2019
10 - How to Free Yourself and Become Fulfilled
Do you ever wonder who you have become? In this episode I discussed why that happens, and why we feel very unsatisfied with our lives. Why we become everybody else, instead of that ambitious child that was going to stand out and make a difference. One of the fundamental things about making changes is your ability to understand how you got to where you are. When you understand how you become this person you do not recognise, you then have the gift of what to do about it. Your host Steven Webb, explains with a simple analogy of a glass and how we build up this ego of the person we are, and what we need to do about it. To celebrate 50,000 likes on Steven Webb's Facebook page you can get 50% off the Inner Peace Academy for October 2019 only. Follow this link and use this code OCT19, you will get direct access to Steven for 60 minutes every week in a group call. Not only that, you will have access to all Stevens recorded meditations and a daily video! If you would like to support Steven and become a patron here is a direct link Or perhaps you would like Stevens free meditations head over to his website Steven Webb
October 14, 2019
9 - How 5 Minutes Meditation can Help With Depression
Can meditation really help with your anxiety and depression? In this episode, I  share where you can get a really simple five-minute meditation that I've recorded to help you overcome your feelings of depression. It really is not as hard as we make it. The solutions are often quite simple, and doing them is a different story. I don't know anybody that finds meditation easy, in fact, most people that meditate that I know find it really difficult. If you think too much consider listening to this episode Can Overthinkers Meditate? Don't forget to review, and click to follow and subscribe to my podcast. Website Facebook - YouTube - Twitter
October 1, 2019
8 - How to Control Your Thoughts and Enjoy Inner Peace
So you like to know how to control your thoughts? Sounds good, me too. Well, during my rock bottom as well as the 12 months I spent in bed following my devastating accident I did learn ways in which we can have a little peace of mind from our thoughts. In this episode, I share my rock bottom story, as well as how I occupied my mind in the 12 months after breaking my neck and ending up severely paralysed. It is not so much that we need to control our minds or even controller thoughts. It is more about learning to let them be what they are, and then give weight to the ones we like and allow the ones we don't to continue on their way. Then your subconscious mind will learn eventually the thoughts that you want, as opposed to the thoughts you don't. Don't forget to review, and click to follow and subscribe to my podcast. Website Facebook - YouTube - Twitter
September 24, 2019
7 - Simple Ways You Can Change the World
We all want to change the world, improve it that little bit. How can we when there is so much going wrong in the world today, in politics, natural disasters, climate change, criminal activities rising, and genuinely what feels like the wrong direction? In this episode of stillness in the storms, your host Steven Webb talks about the things you can do that make a big difference. As we approach later life, what becomes important to us is what we did to help others, what we did to improve the world. So, what the simple things can you do today that will leave the world a better place for tomorrow? You can support my podcast by becoming a patron. There is a link on my website
September 16, 2019
6 - 5 Things You Need to Know When You're Struggling
I'm your host Steven Webb, and on this Stillness in the Storms episode you will find out how I ended up just over 7 stone and so underweight that you could see every bone in my body. I share a story that I don't very often talk about. It was when I went bankrupt and lost a computer business that I had started up one of my friends. I go on to share the 5 lessons I learned from the 12 months of struggling. Life can be brutal, it can be relentless, and sometimes we cannot see any way through. I don't know of anybody that hasn't struggled at one time in their lives. So if you've struggled, or you are struggling now this is the podcast to listen to. Become my first patreon - 
August 20, 2019
5 - How to Sleep Even When It's Too Hot to Sleep
In this episode: Making your bedroom perfect for sleep. How to prepare your evening for sleep. What to do when you wake up in the night and cannot get back to sleep. Hints, tips and tricks to fall asleep. Plus, how the military go to sleep in less than two minutes. Sleep Meditation My website Steven Webb Support my work by becoming a patron Patreon Page Intro: Hello, and welcome to my podcast. I'm Steven Webb, and this is Stillness In the Storms of life. It's the podcast that will help you have a little inner peace when you have it least and you need it most.   On today's show, I'm going to help you to get the benefits of meditation, even if you're somebody that cannot shut off your mind. How does that sound? But today, first of all, let's I have a word from my sponsors. Okay, I haven't gotten those sponsors yet, but if you would like to sponsor the show if you would like me to give you a shoutout, head over to and you can support me on Patreon and then I would give you a shout out on the show. If you're a business or you know a business or somebody that really wants to support and help the show grow so I can reach more people, help more people have a little more inner peace - I almost said have a little less inner peace -if you can support the show in any way like that, head over to and you'll see a link to the Patreon site in which you...but not only that, you get videos. Like right now, I'm recording the video of this. And it's very much on the video, which makes it a lot better, a lot more entertaining.    Why did I start meditating? On today's show, why did I start meditating? Let's start with that because it will make sense. Are you somebody that has got a really active mind and your mind goes completely blank when you don't need it to, at the worst times, like recording a podcast? On the other hand, does your mind have constant overthinking when you want it to go blank a little bit, like when you're trying to go sleep or when you try to focus on something or you're listening to a really important podcast or film, but you're tired and your mind is like, just, I can't listen anymore, my neuro synopsis is just saying enough? And then you get the idea that I'm going to sit down and meditate for like 10 minutes. And there you go, boom! Your mind goes into overactive mode straight away.    Well, I started meditating first in my late twenties, but it lasted about four minutes, I believe. I started meditating for the wrong reasons. I thought it would be cool and I thought it might even get me a girlfriend or get me laid - sorry to admit that one. You know, we were all young once, but then when I turned 40, I hit rock bottom and I found myself in a position where I could not sleep. I found myself single and the only thing my mind would do for a long, long time was to go over the questions I had for my ex.   I was mad. If I sat her down for just 30 seconds, it would go like, what are they doing now? What's happening? What are they up to? Why did they do that to you? How dare they do that. And it would go to the craziest times of thinking, which is completely irrelevant, but it gave me no peace whatsoever. And so, I started reading books a few weeks later because I couldn't sleep so I had to almost mask my voice, I had to mask the thoughts in my head. And the only way I could do that was to keep my mind busy or doing something else.   Alcohol did not work. I drunk for about two weeks and after about four days, I doubled the amount. Then about another four days, I doubled the amount again. It got a little bit
August 1, 2019
4 - Can Over Thinkers Meditate?
Can people that think a lot really get the benefits from meditation? Something that would confuse many people when they spend time with me, and even my clients is that I am an over thinker. My brain has this ability to think crazy stuff up almost constantly, and most of the time when I don't want it to. What is it about bedtime? Suddenly everything is important, from how aeroplanes work to what I'm going to buy my niece in six years time for her 30th birthday. It's crazy. In this episode I helped to enlighten us about meditation and how even over thinkers can meditate.
June 25, 2019
3 - Managing Expectations vs Your Inner Peace
So you want inner peace? However, you are still frustrated and others seem to have a different idea. Expectations are everywhere, whether they are of ourselves or somebody else it is not something that we can easily get rid of. In this episode we talk about managing those expectations so they don't get out of hand and you can still have inner peace. Different types of expectations. Should we drop expectations? What are healthy expectations? Moving beyond unhealthy expectations. Transcript Intro: Alexander Pope, one of the greatest English poets of the 18th century said, "Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.: I love that. That's one of my favorite sayings. I'm Steven Webb and this is Stillness In The Storms Podcast.   On today's show, I'm going to share how to stop expectations from ruining your inner peace. We all have these expectations of what life is going to be like, how people should show up, all these stories in our heads of all different types of how life should be. I guess that's the overarching thing of expectations. So on this podcast, we're gonna see why do expectations block your happiness? Should we drop expectations entirely? Why healthy expectations?    So I want to go back to that first quote, 'Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed', Alexander Pope, I guess that's what it comes down to, here on the spiritual journey alone and that is don't expect anything. Should we be really not expect anything from a partner or a family member? Is it really the way the world's gonna work nowadays? Well, we'll explore about that a little later, but I want to share one other quote as well, because it goes two ways. Bruce Less says, "I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you're not in this world to live up to mine.'    I love that quote also because that does the other side of it as well. let's look at why expectations are, where do we have them in life? Well, as we're going through school and we think about careers, think about work, what we're going to do in life, we have expectations of us. Where our lives go and we have expectations of life and career. I can remember at school and whenever I bumped into any family members or people I hadn't seen for a while, it was like, "What do you want to be when you're older?" "What are you gonna do?:"  "How are your exams going?"   Expectations of yourself  And it was all this pressure of, I almost felt like everybody expected something of me, which, in return, made me expect something of myself. Well, if I don't fulfill these things, I'm going to be a failure. And then, of course, when everybody thinks we're going to be a failure, that's what they expect to happen, we kind of create that. Until I was 18 and I ended up breaking my neck and ended up paralyzed, I expected my life to go a certain way. And then ever since then, whenever anybody hears about me breaking my neck, when I was at that age, they tend to look at the alternative or what might have happened. It's almost like they expected a different life that would have been better or would have been like they say, "Well, you would have been really successful. You'd have had a family. You'd have been, done this, that and the other."  And I'm like, "Well, how do you know? I could have been a real bum. I could have added up in a serious car accident and a week later, not even survived the following weeks."    The thing is, we don't know about what are the alternatives, but we have this image in our heads and the story in our heads of how things should be. I've got a daughter and for many years, I had a running narration in my head of how a daughter should be and what she should do and how she should show up and she ha
June 20, 2019
2 - Building the Foundations of Stillness
Why are our foundations so important when getting through times of trouble? In this episode I talk about the importance of building a decent foundation without such you will be disturbed often.
June 13, 2019
1 - Stillness in the Storms of Life
Why did I call my podcast Stillness in the Storms? What can you get out of Stillness in the Storms podcast?
June 13, 2019