Maureen Matthews is an amazing woman. At the age of 23, Maureen was diagnosed with an illness that would eventually take her vision. This didn't stop her from becoming one of the first changemakers of the adult industry in Australia when she opened a store that focussed on couples and female sexuality. Maureen also went on to write a weekly column for the Sydney Morning Herald called 'About Last Night'.
In my chat with Maureen, we cover many topics such as maintaining communication and passion during a relationship; resources for exploring and developing sexuality and older-age sexuality. It's worth a listen!
For further information regarding sex education please jump to: https://www.thespicyboudoir.com/we-recommend/
You know the old saying 'if you want something done properly do it yourself'? Well, my next guest, Sandy Lowres, took that to the next level. When Sandy couldn't find a woman's magazine that she actually wanted to read she decided to create one and so Women Beyond 40 was born.
"Women Beyond Forty is more than a magazine, more than a Podcast, more than a website. It is a philosophy that all women beyond forty have incredible hard-won wisdom and have much to offer the world. We want to build a community of like-minded women. Women who want to see more empathy and compassion in the world. Women that want to see other women in the sisterhood rise. Women who want to help make the world we live in a better place for future generations. We aim to make this an inclusive and diverse space and in collaborating with a wide range of women – both those who tell their stories and those that share with us through their writing, editing and creative skills – we hope that others will be encouraged to share of themselves too. We acknowledge that without the generosity, support, love and advice of many women, WB40 would not have been launched."
In my chat with Sandy, we talk about the magazine, attitudes towards sex by older women, ageism, owning our sexuality, giving oneself permission to explore sexuality, going to a sex party, getting flogged by fire and more...
Generally, we have a heart-to-heart conversation. We're not solving the problems of the world, but I certainly hope that listening to our conversation inspires you to seek out the Women Beyond 40 magazine and become involved in some way and perhaps even share your story.
In Issue 4, I have shared my personal story of living with an STI and how I felt all of my hopes for the future were crushed. To know more about that, well, you can subscribe to all issues either by a digital download or hard copy (my preference) or purchase issues individually.
We are always on the lookout for products that will enhance the lives of our customers and we are excited to discover an Australian-designed, vegan product that can help to ease vaginal and vulval dryness – HappyPause balm, made in tropical Far North Queensland! We are delighted that the founder, Sandy Davies, has selected The Spicy Boudoir as a stockist and advocate for wellness during menopause.
Vaginal atrophy and vaginal dryness, along with the associated discomfort, impacts millions of women. Sometimes the discomfort can be a mild irritating feeling when your skin rubs together; other times it can feel like sandpaper grating. You might only feel occasional discomfort at the start of intercourse or battle recurring UTIs. Vaginal dryness impacts each of us in different ways.
Numbing vaginal itch wipes mask the problem, but when the treatment wears off itching returns with a vengeance even more severe due to skin irritation heightened by harsh ingredients.
HappyPause is gentle and eases discomfort. The blend of the really good stuff, such as ethically sourced Direct Micro Expelled hand-pressed coconut oil, with additional plant-derived natural ingredients to seal in moisture, means that your vulval area is soothed with no preservatives or nasties.
Most products on the market are geared towards lubrication which can lead to having 'goop' in your panties and needing to wear a panty liner. Other products can require a prescription from your GP whereas HappyPause is available easily, over the counter, feels great, and has a lasting effect with no icky residue.
So, find your 'sexy' again and get back to living a lush life! Finding a solution to ease the intimate itch that tags along with menopause could be the break you need to confidently shout “I’ve got this!” to the rest of your menopausal woes.
Certified organic cocos Nucifera, cetyl alcohol, glycerol, no preservatives.
Store in a cool, dry place.
For external use. If irritation occurs, discontinue use.
Made in tropical Far North Queensland.
HappyPause is not about making menopause disappear, it is about easing vaginal dryness to help you get your groove back. Listen to Sandy talk about her painful experience using pessaries to overcome dryness and how she decided to take the health of her vulva and overall wellbeing into her own hands.
If your symptoms please see your GP for an assessment, not all irritations are related to menopause.
I truly believe that how we feel about ourselves impacts on our sexual confidence and that's why I was very interested in reading Beautiful Unique Faces. I also wanted to understand why women (particularly people in reality TV shows), decide to have their lips and cheeks overdone. I just don't get it! The book does explain this to me and now I feel compassion for those women.
This episode is for everyone and anyone. Particularly those who are considering having cosmetic procedures such as botox and dermal fillers.
I had the good fortune to speak with Anita East, author of Beautiful Unique Faces. Anita is a professional actress turned nurse practitioner in the cosmetic medicine industry. In this episode, we touch on multiple topics that Anita covers in her book.
Oxytocin is troll bait
Strategies to change your mindset and tap into your inner power of practice, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
Princesses and Queens
The secret knowledge that lives within us, that we can only find when we stop paying attention to external factors.
'Earn the right to sing'
Comparing yourself to others
And you know what? If ever you have doubts about your beauty, read this book. You will then realise that you ARE beautiful.
For further information:
Is it possible for cancer, chemotherapy and sex to co-exist? Yes. Yes, it is.
Not many people would even consider talking about sex and cancer and sadly it's one of those topics that doesn't receive much coverage.
Not many people who were living with cancer and undergoing treatment would consider talking about their experience let alone building resources to help those experiencing the life with cancer.
But then, not many people are like Tess Deveze, The Intimacy OT from ConnectAble Therapies.
You will find this episode very worthwhile and you may just stumble upon important information to help someone in your life too.
To download The Intimacy and Cancer Toolkit please visit www.connectabletherapies.com
You can watch Tess's videos via her YouTube Channel The Intimacy OT
And of course, you can tune in and subscribe to The Maven's Private Diaries on YouTube for more information, resources, products and information about sexuality.
I am pleased to announce our new partnership with Dave Wells, Clinical Sexologist, and The Spicy Boudoir.
Dave will be joining The Spicy Boudoir community to share his knowledge and wisdom about all things sexuality, with a focus on male sexuality, which sometimes tends to take a back seat.
To learn more about Dave and to engage his services please visit: https://davewellstherapies.com.au/
In this episode, I had the privilege to speak with two cast members from jessica drake's Wicked Guide to Senior Sex: Co-created with Joan Price.
I ask Bonnie and Joel what their motivation was for being in the film and what they hope people will learn.
We touch on many interesting topics in our chat, such as dry, male orgasms, swinging, squirting and more. We have a strong feeling that we'll be speaking with Bonnie and Joel again in the future and we certainly look forward to that!
If you would like to purchase a copy of the film you can do so from the following:
Australia and New Zealand:
Too often older persons are depicted in the world as sexless beings, well, that just ain't true!
We are all sexual beings until the day we die!
Two beautiful minds came together and created something very special, a guide to sex for seniors.
This episode is The Maven speaking with Joan Price, senior sex advocate and co-creator of Jessica Drake's Wicked Guide to Senior Sex.
The film is available to purchase for Australian and New Zealand audience via https://www.thespicyboudoir.com/jessica-drakes-wicked-guide-to-senior-sex
Audiences in USA please visit: https://joanprice.com/wicked-sex
In this episode, I’m going to talk about how celibacy…or rather…'abstinence from having orgasms'…helps me to maintain my ability to achieve orgasm.
Yes…that’s right. Abstinence strengthens my ability to orgasm as well as influences the intensity. Sounds incredible doesn't?
Stick around to the end because I’m going to stand on my box of vibrators and deliver a moral to my story.
How do you navigate the loss of a beloved? How do you know when it's the right time to reconnect with your body? How do you deal with feelings of guilt and being unfaithful if you find intimacy and/or love again?
Joan Price has experienced all of this and more when she lost the love of her life, Robert. Knowing that many...many people need to discuss the topic of sex after grief...Joan set about researching the stories of both grievers and non-grievers. Her latest work is the collective wisdom of those stories now cleverly crafted into words written with deep kindness and compassion for others. Her advice is delivered in a manner that is true to the heart of deep emotion and a celebration of joy.
If you are in Australia you can purchase Sex After Grief via www.thespicyboudoir.com and Booktopia. Overseas buyers can purchase directly from Joan: https://joanprice.com/books/sex-after-grief
It was my absolute pleasure to speak with Joan for an hour and this is just a snippet of what we covered. Stay tuned for updates as I will be publishing bonus episodes with Joan in the future.
You can also watch this interview on YouTube Channel: The Maven from The Spicy Boudoir
Despite being a person who is very comfortable with their sexuality and talking about sex, I have never been to a workshop to explore and develop my sexual persona and knowledge.
That is about to change with my participation in workshops conducted by the good people from Curious Creatures. In this episode, I am speaking with one of the facilitators, Roger Butler, about what to expect and what to wear.
My partner and I will be attending 'Fun Little Sex Games' and 'Kink 101'. We're looking forward to sharing this experience together.
Stay tuned to the podcast as I'll be speaking with Roger again next week when I debrief with him about our learnings.
Thank you for listening!
Susan, The Maven
In this episode I am chatting with Richelle Menzies, a Clinical Sexologist based in Hobart, Tasmania.
Aside from her private practice, Sensual Potential, Richelle is also the resident sexologist on BENT FM and has been a guest speaker with renown sexologist Isiah McKimmie talking about non-monogamous relationships and vulvas. Richelle is very well-known in the Queer community for her work. Richelle is a lifetime member of Queensland Aids Council, a member of the LGBTI Health Alliance, the Society of Australian Sexology (SAS), the Australian Counselling Association, the Australian Community Workers Association and the National Disability Practitioners network.
If you would like to work with Richelle you can contact her via her website: http://www.sensualpotential.com.au/
The 101 year old Sexologist mentioned by Richelle is Dr Shirley Zussman.
Pssst...The vibrator mentioned in the podcast is my all-time favourite. It's not your ordinary, run of the mill vibrator, no...it's fit for a Queen!
Click here for the Zalo
My tips for women when dating in the 'adult' online dating-sphere.
You will hear how I approached writing my profile and I hope you find some valuable lessons in how to write a profile that will attract the right person.
Unlike some, I chose to date on an adult site because I could not find mature, like-minded people on the more conservative sites.
There will be a guide for men in the future too.
Susan, The Maven
Wrinkles are important and not just to women seeking a youthful appearance.
My wrinkles mean something that is unique to my life and to erase them would rub out precious memories. Doesn't mean I don't moisturize though, no one likes dry, itchy skin.
What do your wrinkles mean to you?
This episode is dedicated to my Mother, Maggie Tabberer and Joan Price.
I am not a porn star.
I'm a woman who embraces life with kindness, compassion, empathy and lots of bloody good sex.
Not looking for fame, just looking to help others lose their fear to try something different in life - except don't do drugs, that shit is bad for you. This trailer will give you an idea of what topics you'll find in my diaries.
Remember these two things:
Living a life in fear is a life half lived - Anonymous
What would life be if we didn't have courage to attempt anything? - Vincent Van Gogh
I hold these quotes close to my heart and they give me strength to be me. You can too.
Love and light.