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Are You A People Pleaser? Episode 18

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By Monica Pitek-Fugedi
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Are You A People Pleaser? Episode 18
We all know those people. Maybe we ARE those people. You know, the ones who who don't know how to say no to anyone? On this episode, we are talking all about what makes a people-pleaser a people-pleaser. Is it because they are just nice people, or is there an underlying psychology behind it? Tune in to find out! Don't forget to download the quiz to find out if you have people-pleasing tendencies, and get some simple tools that you can use right now to help you say no! Be sure to subscribe to The MindGal Podcast on any of the podcasting platforms. You can also follow me on social media or shoot me an email with comments or suggestions for future shows! Monica Pitek-Fugedi Copy and past this link to get the quiz:  or go to  instagram: mindgal01 ( twitter: mindgal_ ( pinterest: YouTube
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The 3 Things You Should Absolutely Not Say to Someone with Anxiety. Episode 11
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Fear of Failure
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March 7, 2019
Episode 1: What is this podcast all about?
Sometimes it is difficult to find the time to read articles. Or, maybe you want something to listen to on the way to work, walking the dog, or doing chores around the house. I feel ya. Sometimes I wish I could take an article and turn it into an audio so that I didn't actually have to sit still for the time it takes me to read it. We are in a world of multi-tasking (although I read somewhere that there is no such thing as being able to multi-task, but who knows. I feel like I do it all the time. Like right  now. I am writing this and making dinner at the same time). Part of what I love about podcasts (and I listen to A LOT of podcasts) is that I can listen to them on my 30 minute drive to work. I have found that my attention span is no longer than my commute (and sometimes not even that long). With that in mind, I think the perfect length of a podcast is between 5-35 minutes. I am a bottom line girl, so when I am done with my point, I stop talking. If you think you might like what you hear, please subscribe to the MindGal Podcast on any platform that hosts podcasts. Also, come on over to my Facebook page, MindGal and join the group, Overcoming Barriers if you want to be part of a community that supports each other through life obstacles. Subscribing to this website will ensure that you never miss a blog post, podcast or resources that can help with overcoming anxiety and panic attacks. I promise not to spam you. Thanks for listening, and please feel free to leave comments about what you would like to hear in upcoming episodes! -Monica  
February 28, 2019
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