“The Safe Space” with Deon Stafford Formally "Cafe Conversations"
By Deon Stafford
“The Safe Space” with Deon Stafford Formally "Cafe Conversations"Sep 29, 2021
Who's Right & Who's Wrong?
If a person doesn’t believe as you do, does this make them wrong and you right? I say no. This is a multifaceted world we live in. The intent of your heart matters more to me, than what you believe. I know how to listen, hear, learn, and dump what doesn’t serve me. Who am I to deem you wrong in your belief? And the catch 22 is, this can be flipped around like everything else is often done. The world is filled with duality. Almost everything has an opposite, yet almost every thing is connected. We see what we see, but do we always understand what we are looking at? Do we even question it. No we simply accept what we are told… and because it’s been told multiple times, despite the variations in the tale it’s self, we believe it. But who decides ultimately who's right and who's wrong?
Who Broke The Baby (RIP Harold)
"Who Broke the Baby" The Affects of Childhood Trauma
There is no one more innocent than a newborn baby. This is the only time in their life, where they are blameless, pure, most protected and emotional and mentally stable. Unless, trauma is experience by the mother during the fetal incubation period. If this happens, that trauma can potentially be felt by the unborn child, therefore resulting in trauma being induced before birth. Other thank these mentioned factors, this new born has it made... that is until life begins at birth, and the chance for potentially life changing trauma arises. Trauma is based on life's circumstances, the parents and other people they may encounter in their life. Not to mention, environment, and life's events outside the womb.
Here's what I have found, we all have suffered, dealt with or dealing with some form of trauma or trauma response (Triggers). Many times trauma can go unnoticed, and even unidentified and even ignored. Only to have that same trauma to show up once it's triggered. Trauma can have a negative effects on the body, your mental health, emotional health and your social wellbeing. Trauma can potentially affect your sleep patterns, the memory, self-esteem, and may even cause learning disabilities.
If your or someone you know or think, they may be dealing with or suffering from any type of mental/emotional issues, please seek professional help.
The Healing Body Through Music, Self Discovery and Creativity
In this episode Tee and I discuss how our creative attributes played a part in our healing process. For both Tee and I, we are lovers of music, art, and poetry, hence why we are friends. Ironically, music was a keep component in our healing journey. I know you've heard the saying, "Music soothes the savage beast" right? Well, this is partly because of the frequency the music is in. Music has the ability to not only sooth, but aid in healing as well. Music tuned to 432 Hz is softer and brighter and is said to be easiest on the ears and great for meditation. (repetionsfitness.com)
Creativity aids in self discovery or self rediscovery, because it cause you to channel your energies into creating something new or different or it may spark an interest in something you never thought about before. This was another great show that I know you will enjoy.
Meditation & The Healing Process
Note: This episode is (Part 3) and a continuation of "Surviving The Pain Body" (Part 1) & "Releasing The Pain Body" (Part 2). If you have not had a chance to listen to these to awesome information packed episodes, when time permits, please do.
In this episode, Tee and I discuss how important healing from emotional trauma is for our overall health and how meditation played a huge part in the healing process. We talk about how journaling frees the mind and the spirit and helps with releasing the unspoken pain that we went to. We also share all the tools that helped us to release, to heal, to grow and move forward in our lives. This conversation is a five parts from one conversation. Tee and I also share, our own personal testimonies and talk a little about the power that we flow in now and how much our lives have changed for the better, because we change our outlook on life and how we see life. If you have been going through anything, and you're needing some encouragement and tools to help you get through a dark time in your life, "We got you", please press play.
Disclaimer: The information provided within this podcast should not be considered as medical advise. If you are someone you know is dealing with severe anxiety & severe depression or severe anxiety & severe depression related health issues, please seek professional medical help. Thank You
Pardon This Interruption
Releasing The Pain Body
Surviving The Pain Body
Self Acceptance
April 14, 2022
Stop Being A Human Trash Can
In this episode, I talk about being a human trash can, meaning, stop allowing people to throw up all of their problems on you, stop allow people to transfer their negative energy to you. We all need someone to talk to, but there comes a time, when boundaries have to be put in place. Have you ever had that one friend, who is always going through, or every time you talk to them, they're being negative or always possessing a bad VIBE.
These type of people tend to pull us down, or cause our internal vibration or our VIBE, to lower. I believe that we are responsible for our own happiness, our own joy. These components are not found in people places or things, but within ourselves. Take a listen and leave a comment of your take on this particular topic.
You Are the Creator of Your Reality
It is time that you realize, that you are the creator of your reality. It is time for you to understand, that you are not your circumstances, you are not your failures or your situation. You were created by the 'Master Creator" therefore you are also a creator, it's in your DNA. As you listen to the podcast episode, allow the words to saturate your entire being and inspire you to tap into your greatest potential and your higher self, your God self/God consciousness and your inner creator. It's time to take control now, now let's go.
Podcast Title Intro - "Daily Rituals" by Phoebe Garnsworthy
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Do What Makes You Happy
Tales of a Former Self Doubter "Hey Stop Doubting Yourself"
We all should be dreamers, aspiring to be more than what we are, striving to achieve the ultimate goal in our lives. We to some degree, we are creators, innovators, movers and shakers... but sometimes we are stagnant and stale in our abilities to be great, because, we find ourselves doubting our abilities. Maybe someone criticized your idea, or spoke negatively about a project you were over, or due to life circumstance, you may have lost your zeal or passion for whatever it is that was to be a part of your greatness....
In this episode, we discuss self doubt, and how it has the potential to halt our progress in being great artist, successful entrepreneurs and small business owners, CEO's an all around success. We also discuss ways to stop doubting ourselves and simply be great, because we are!
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It's Okay to Love you... a Little More
Men Get Lonely Too... Pt 2
Contrary to popular belief, most men have been hurt, most men are afraid of commitment and a lot of men are lonely AF. In this episode of The Safe Space, my guy EJ rejoins me for another thought provoking topic on loneliness and and how he as a single man deals with it. What happens when the calls stop, and you can't make a call.... Tune is and see.
Men Get Lonely Too... Pt1
Welcome to "The Safe Space"
I really you hope you enjoy this Introductory episode of The Safe Space, so much so, that you tap the subscribe button and share this episode with family and friends. And uh, yea, be sure to follow me on Instagram @prettygirlmedia8372, for inspirational content, encouraging and enlightening quotes and to get a little close and personal with me!
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To Thine Own Self...
As Polonius, chief minister said to his son Laertes, in one of the most memorable plays written by the great Shakespear, "To Thine Own Self Be True". The first meaning is that someone can better judge himself if he has done what he should or could have done. The second meaning is that one must be honest in his ways and relations. The third meaning is that one must always do the right thing.
In this episode it all about getting to know yourself! being honest about yourself, and changing yourself!! We are a society that loves to fix everybody else, comment on everybody else, talk about everybody else, but I ask you wonderful people!! "What about you" ? What's broken within you, what's off about you? What could you stand to change about you?
I go into a brief detail about getting to know yourself, being true to your self, and fixing yourself, because only you can do the real work. You can see a therapist, a psychologist, a spiritual leader, a Guru or who ever! But less you take a deep inward look and a long visit with you, it's all meaningless. i hope that you can take away from this episode a few things to help you or someone else, because that's what really matters to me. make sure to follow me on Instagram at prettygirlmedia8372 and on Twitter Deon8372 okay! Okay.
Chats w/Charlie
One Hell Of A Conversation Pt1
I'm known for my relationship conversation episodes, like, "Inside The Mind of Love" and my friend EJ, is known for his wise opinions about relationships period. This was a long awaited conversation for me, and it was absolutely awesome to have. If you are a woman, and you are in a relationship or, just starting a relationship, or maybe you've always wondered how some men view relationships. Which ever it may be, you're either gonna appreciate this conversation, or find yourself talking back to your listening device, lol. THIS, episode was one hell of a CONVERSATION, lol.
***This episode was recorded and EJ's crib, so pardon the background, but by no means at all, was the quality of this conversation affected***
One Hell Of A Conversation Pt2
I'm known for my relationship conversation episodes, like, "Inside The Mind of Love" and my friend EJ, is known for his wise opinions about relationships period. This was a long awaited conversation for me, and it was absolutely awesome to have. If you are a woman, and you are in a relationship or, just starting a relationship, or maybe you've always wondered how some men view relationships. Which ever it may be, you're either gonna appreciate this conversation, or find yourself talking back to your listening device, lol. THIS, episode was one hell of a CONVERSATION, lol.
***This episode was recorded and EJ's crib, so pardon the background, but by no means at all, was the quality of this conversation affected***
Take Care of You (Self Care Tips)
One of the most important people in your life... is you! That's why it's important that you are taking care of you! Many of us have families and we're working from home, while homeschooling our kids, all while trying to survive this Pandamdimic! In this episode, are a few golden nuggets to help you remain sane and be the best healthiest you, you can be.
*Meditation Apps: Calm, Sleep Sounds, Insight, Meditations
*Reference YouTube Video By Rowena Tsai: https://youtu.be/WK-sZjuXA6A
*Relational Intelligence: The People Skills You Need for the Life of Purpose You Want
Book by Dharius Daniels
Mental Health Trailer
After The Darkness Comes The Light (It Gets Better With Time to Heal)
This episode is a follow-up episode of a previous episode I did entitled the "Darkest Place". One of the listeners asked if I was gonna do a follow-up on my recovery and how I was coming along since opening up about having a mental break down, so here it is! In this episode I share what I've learned about myself while in therapy, as for as my own fails in regards to not taking proper care of myself. I talk about the fear, anger, low self-esteem and lack of confidence I developed within myself and what I am doing to correct these things so that they never happen again, starting with boundaries and lots of self care. I hope that those of you who listen to this episode can walk away with something that helps you to recognize broken character flaws within yourself that are in need or repair or corrections.
I Survived Covid-19
Church Folk, Saved Folks & Forgiveness
The Darkest Place
Employee Assistance Program (EAP) or BetterHelp (Professional Counceling Services)
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The American Pandamdemic & Racism
The last three months have been scary for some, depressing for others and stressful for the rest of us. During these times we've witnessed prejudice, discrimination, deceptiveness and shoddiness from the media and most of all our own government. hundreds or thousands have been infected, and affected due to Covid-19. But the most alarming thing in all of this, is the fact that it is obviously still illegal to be BLACK in America.
Milk & Cookies
Every human on this Earth have desires, we long for touch, smell, and breath.... But usually that one person who we find ourselves desiring, doesn't desire us the same. In this episode, I promise, it will not be like any other episode that I've done.... I don't think I could have been any rawer or as real, as I was in this episode. This episode is for my beautiful young black sistas that seem to have lost your way, inside the pants of a man. Well don't worry sis, because I got you, and I'm here to reel you back in....
After The Pain
Sometimes finding the right person to share your life with can seem un-achievable, it can appear as though there are more rotten apples that bright red shinny ones. In this weeks episode, I offer my thoughts on finding love after the pain, you know, that break-up that you thought was gonna take you out, or maybe tragedy struck in the worse way, and took love away.... Either way, I come to let you know that there is love after the pain, but you must make sure, you're willing to do the work.
Sunday Takeout w/ Media Marketer JayDee Wiliams
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Inside The Mind of Love series (Love Over 40)
"Quarantine" Some Things I learned, Some Things I Questioned, and Some Things I Sided Eyed...
So, in this episode, I simply took a light hearted approach to the subject, as a way to simply laugh at a none laughing matter, by sharing a few things I learned, the things I'm questioning and some of the stuff I side eye.
In Times Like These
Cornavirus
Looking Back at Cafe Conversations A Year Later
Secrets & Silent Screams (A story of a boy fighting to become a man)
In this episode, I had the pleasure of having a very intimate conversation with a brother by the name of Mr. Kerry Kay, an old neighborhood friend, that came up with me from back in the day. What Kerry shared with me in this interview, I never would have or could have imagined him having gone through, or anybody matter of fact, after all he was a "BOY", who seemed happy. What Kerry shares in the episode was of his own free will and his own act of transparency.
Kerry Ray was born in Dallas Texas, of June 1978 to his parents, James and Rita Ray in this household were three children with Kerry being the middle child. At the young age of 9-10 years old, Kerry Ray, was molested by a friend of the family... multiple times, which turned Kerry Ray, a once happy jolly child, filled with his parents love and joy.... toward a life of destructive and out of control behavior because of what took place in his childhood. After entering middle school Kerry began to indulge in controlled substances off and on, which also played a big part in his path to disfunction, which led to jails and institutions. By Kerry's mid-30s, it was during his time in a correctional facility, he was introduced to an onsite group therapy group. It was there he divulged for the first time the secrets of molestation from his childhood, that helped him to finally begin to break through the shell of pain that had encased himself in for so long. Today, Kerry is a single father of five children and three grandchildren, and in a fight for his life, peace and sound mind. Kerry is a recovering addict also, having tried various kinds drugs, having been a former gang member, a womenizer and mastermind of manipulation. Who today is now, working to develop a spiritual relationship with God as he likes to called him, Allah. For it is through him Kerry has seen and reached peace, humbleness and happiness, This is the story of Kerry Ray.
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"The Unique Show" with Tatiana Unique
In this episode, I had a chance to sit down and talk to new Podcaster Tatianna Unique about her new podcast "The Unique Show". The Unique Show address detail topics that examines the underlying issues of why people are the way they are. Tatiana being a well traveled young and adventurous young woman, who also is currently studying Pre-Law and Philosophy. It's always a refreshing pleasure to talk to such a awesome young person such as Tatiana. This is a episode I'm sure all will enjoy!
"Simply Beautiful" with Certified MUA Keana Hollie
In this episode, certified freelance MUA, and owner operator of LaBella Faces, Keana Hollie, shares some skin care tips to help us keep our skin glowing and beautiful as well as explaining what types of skin care product and make-up we should be using based on our skin type.
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Cyfa Fix "I'm On The Way"
Growing In Grace w/Mahlon Gray
In this episode I got a chance to have a really great conversation with a my former radio mate, Mahlon Gray also known as Ladies Man May. We get into how life and life's experiences can cause you to change, and evolve, through life , and death. We discuss the confounds of parenthood and how it shaped his life and life's decisions. Although Mahlon admits there's still yet work to be done regarding him as a person/man, he shares with us of how he's growing in grace.
Coming Up This Week Inside Thursday Night Cafe Conversations FBL 1/9/2020
On the table this week, we're discussing whether or not educated women make good wives & mothers, we'll also weigh in on the potential possibility of WAR and we'll have a surprise guest stoping by as well. All this and much more this Thursday at 8pm. If you haven't liked us on Facebook, go to facebook.com/cafeconversations72 and like our page, because there's a lot going on and I'm here to talk about it, inside Cafe Conversations "Where Great Conversations Take Place".
Conversations Between Friends
Hey Cafe Conversations! Happy New Year!
In this episode you'll be privy to a great conversation, between my long time childhood best friend and myself, and after all these years, we are are still kicking it strong nearly 30 years later. Come travel down memory lane with us as we reminisce over the things we did as kids, hear about some of our struggles and our accomplishments and hear why after all these years, we're still friends!! This funny heart warming episode, I guarantee you'll enjoy and you'll find yourself laughing along with us.
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The audio is a little off, but we still had a great time.
Thank You & Farewell 2019
This message is from me to you my listener happy new year!! woot woot 2020!!!!
The History of Night Watch
Cafe Conversations Thursday Night Facebook Live/Podcast "Rotational Dating"
In this episode my cousin Jill and I, along with my Facebook Co-hosts from all over, discuss the importance of dating multiple people. Did you know that as a single person who is NOT married or in a COMMITTED relationship, that you SHOULD be DATING multiple people (not sleeping with them, JUST DATING") ? Tune in and find out why, inside Cafe Conversations!
Cafe Conversations Thursday Night Facebook Live!
About a month or so ago, I started doing Facebook Lives for fun and as a way to connect with people. I thought it would be cool to do a recorded podcast with my Facebook Followers as my participating audience. In this episode, we're discussing Lizzo's Laker game twerk that sent the internet and blogs a blaze and should there be privacy in a marriage. If I must say, this was fun, it was different and I hope you enjoy it.
This Season's Holiday Safety Tips
With all the craziness going on in the world today, it's imperative that we are diligent in making sure we enjoy a safe and happy holiday, by staying mindful of our surroundings and if at all possible, doing things as a group. Something as simple as getting gas during daylight hours can save your life! This Podcast show goes over a few of the latest dangers to help you to avoid what could be a deadly situation.
Also, in this episode, there are a few announcements to take note of as well. Until next time!! I bid you all peace!
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Holiday Recap with Jill & Oliver
Jill and Oliver came through to recap our Thanksgiving, the latest cowboys loss, Kanye's latest foolishness and Christmas our up and coming holiday plans!
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