The Trina Glines Podcast - It's about you
By Trina Glines
We often want to believe that any dissatisfaction in our life or marriage is caused by our spouse or others. It can feel easier to blame then own. But once you’ve experienced the power and ability you have to positively affect your marriage and life - THIS changes everything for you.
There is one person we have control over in a relationship, ourselves. How we are choosing to show up in our marriage or other relationships solely depends on us. This podcast is for women and men who desire to learn skills and tools that will positively affect their life and relationships
The Trina Glines Podcast - It's about youJan 21, 2019
46: Do You Struggle to Get Your Needs Met? | 5 Steps to Help You Honor Your Needs
You are human which means you have needs. Today I share with you 5 steps to help you get your needs met. This will increase your ability to be the incredible giver and adapter you are! This will help you to give from a full well instead of being sucked dry. Releasing being in control of everything is so FREEING!
Life is meant to be enjoyed not just survived. You are an incredible woman who has so much to offer the world. Take a moment today to learn how you can increase your happiness in your life by honoring your needs.
45: Geoff Stuerer, LMFT | What is a Secure Attachment?
Did you know that "all the research agrees that a stable, loving relationship is the absolute cornerstone of human happiness and general well-being"? Dr. Sue Johnson (Love Sense) And did you know YOU ARE NORMAL if this doesn't naturally happen in your marriage?
None of us were taught all we need to know to create a secure attachment with our spouse. Do you even know what that means? For over 20 years I had no idea! I am SO GRATEFUL for the learning journey I have been on! It has changed my marriage! And what I have learned is it is a work in progress for us all! This is GOOD NEWS!
Today I share an interview with Geoff Steurer LMFT. He is trained and certified in Dr. Sue Johnson's couples therapy; Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Do yourself a favor, and listen to this interview! It is AMAZING! Most of us weren't given the tools to maneuver through this messy thing call marriage. But we can choose to LEARN tools!
That is how we will work on creating a secure bond with the person we have chosen to spend our life with! (I believe eternity) It is SO WORTH IT!
44: Why Do Marriages Fall Apart? | We Have 3 Options When We Hit a Crossroad in Our Marriage
At times it is fun and so rewarding, other times it's hard, and many times it feels relentless. The choice we make at the crossroads will make all the difference in our happiness and our marriage.
Today I talk about crossroads and the 3 options we have when we hit a crossroad in our marriage. I discuss why people fall out of love. Why marriages end. And how most affairs happen.
I also share how we can avoid those things by choosing to turn right! I invite you to join me in turning right! Listen to this podcast and set yourself up for success!
43: Does Your Man Know How to Win Your Heart? | Tips to Set Him and YOU Up For Success!
Valentines Day is coming up! And did you know that Valentines is the most unliked holiday by husbands? There are often expectations they struggle to meet. Which leaves you disappointed and him asking, "why did I even try?"
Birthday's, Anniversary's, and Holiday's can often bring on those unmet expectations!
Today I want to set you up for success by setting your man up for success! I share what you can do to ensure you and your man have a successful celebration.
Have you ever considered letting your man know what you would like on on these special days? Unfortunately ladies, we often fall to the thinking that if he really knows me and loves me he will know what I like. This is incorrect thinking. He can NOT read your mind. He works differently than you do.
You sharing with him what makes you feel loved and adored on these special days sets him up to win, which means you win too!
42: Todd Olson LCSW | Loving Others Through Loss and Trials
"Some things in life can't be fixed. They can only be carried." Megan Divine
Some people say that life won't give you more than you can handle. I actually don't believe that fully. There have been lots of times that I've had things I couldn't handle on my own, and it took another to help me.
Have you ever struggled to know what to say or do for someone who is experiencing an incredible amount of suffering? Have you ever struggled to find the right words, or know how you can help?
Today I interview Todd Olson, an LCSW who shares with us the heart-wrenching experience individuals have when they lose a child. He shares with us what we can do to comfort and love those who live this nightmare. He also shares with us what doesn't help. What not to say.
I felt what he shared is applicable to many situations that we might find ourselves in while trying to support others. He also validates what you are feeling if it's you experiencing the trauma.
I want to thank Todd for sharing with us his own personal experience of losing his son, and what he has learned. I hope this interview will help us all to know how we can better support and love those who are suffering from a loss or an intense trial.
To contact Todd Olson: https://www.lifestartherapy.com/
41: Navigating Marriage With Children | Keeping a Marriage Strong While Raising a Family.
Marriage is different once you have kids, would you agree? Raising a family requires a lot of sacrifice from both husband and wife. But do we need to sacrifice our marriage relationship also? I don't believe we do.
It will be different than before children, but it can also be even better.
Our children will bring us our greatest joy and greatest challenges and frustrations. All the more reason to put your marriage at the top of your priorities so together you can enjoy the happy - joyful moments and hold each other up during the challenges times.
Today I share ideas on how you can nurture your marriage while raising your family. It is so important to remember that the two of you came first. Life and the kids will scream louder and demand more of your attention, but you can still give quality attention to your marriage.
As you keep nurturing this life long union (I believe eternity) you are giving your kids the greatest gift you will EVER give them - parents that love each other.
40: Ryan Michler | The Power To Change
Sometimes we can find ourselves stuck in a rut. What we are doing isn't working, but we struggle to do anything different.
We often end up blaming others around us for our unhappiness or frustrations. When really we need to be taking a look on the inside.
Today on my podcast I share an interview with Ryan Michler. Through his own personal story, he learned the value of owning his own part.
He shares, "Has your attitude or thought process or actions produced the desired outcome you want? If the answer is no, you probably ought to consider doing something a little different."
He now helps men do the same in their own lives. His story is inspiring for all. His passion to help others increase their happiness and success in their life is so needed today!
We each only have control over ourselves, but we have an incredible amount of influence on others.
39: The Negative Narrative in Your Head | Learn How To Control It!
If you are human, chances are you struggle at times with the negative narrative in your head.
This voice is always keeping us in the deficit. Everything is past due. It constantly is comparing us and others to a "perfected" version, that doesn't even exist. And this voice is SO good at assumptions.
You can call this voice all different names, I call her The Intense Woman. She is constantly trying to interfere in my life! I am so grateful I have learned how to tame her! Kick her to the curb where she belongs.
Actually, I kick her further than that!
I encourage you to do the same!
Today I share how I have been able to get rid of this negative narrative, The Intense Woman in my head! It is a daily battle, but it gets easier now that I know where she comes from and her purpose! She is NUTS!
My life is SO much better without her! And so will yours be. It does take effort and practice, and most likely we will be fighting her off for the rest of our lives, but the more we notice her, and kick her away, the less she will show up!
38: Ashlynn Mitchell | Finding Strength After Trauma
LIFE often is our greatest teacher. Each one of us goes through experiences that test and try us. Some experiences are more painful than others, but each brings with it a level of new understanding and new growth.
Allowing us to become a better version of ourselves. The lessons life teaches us, really can lead us to a better version of us.
Today my interview is with MamaBear.Fitness. Ashlyn Mitchell shares her powerful personal story of betrayal trauma.
Ashlynn and her husband have opened their lives to share with others the process of recovering from sex addiction and the betrayal that comes with it. Their story also includes their two daughters being sexually molested by someone they trusted.
What I loved about this interview is that the lessons and strengths Ashlynn learned are ones that can be applied to each one of us in our own lives. You or a loved one do not have to be suffering from an addiction to benefit from the lessons Ashlynn shares with us.
Ashlynn is now a personal coach who helps others live healthier lives mentally and physically.
I applaud Ashlynn and her husband for being open about their story so that others have the opportunity to learn from them. So many things Ashlynn shared in this interview have changed the way I think daily. I admire her and her ability to articulate her self-reflection so well.
LIFE is very real and life can be really hard. Life also has the ability to teach us our greatest lessons that will help us become a better version of ourselves. Our greatest growth will often come from our hardest lessons.
Thank you MamaBear.Fitness for sharing your powerful message and for being an example of one who has chosen to live with intention.
37: New Years | 10 - Marriage Goals for the New Year
"The New Year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals." Melodie Beatie
I share with women all the time, YOU are the author of your love story.
I am so excited for 2019! It's going to be a wonderful year!
I would like to invite you to join me with setting some marriage goals. We often set health goals, financial goals, work goals and when we're going to wake up goals, but what about marriage goals? Without a happy, fulfilling marriage, all these other goals mean nothing!
Today on my podcast I share 10 marriage goals for the New Year. You can choose to use one of them or all of them! Whatever you do though, include your marriage in your New Year goals/resolutions. This is the MOST important area in your life you can focus on!
(I released my podcast early since Monday is New Year's Eve)
36: Merry Christmas | 5 Ways to Keep The Intense Woman Away During The Holidays
The holidays can often NOT bring out the best in us.
We, women, are multi-task alerted beings, aware of everything going on around us at all times. Most everything is in past-due mode and our to-do list is always growing.
And the holidays seems to add so much more to our already overflowing schedule. Which often will bring a level of intensity out of us that we really don't want any part of!
The Intense Woman is a REAL being, and she makes our life and all those around us miserable. Kick her to the curb where she belongs!
Today's podcast I share 5 ways we can keep The Intense Woman away during this next week.
I released my podcast early since Monday is Christmas Eve. Merry Christmas to all you incredible women out there that make this world a better place! I hope you all are able to enjoy this time with your families!
35: My Love Story | Dating and Engagement
We may have had a few hiccups but it makes for a great story to tell!
Marriage is two imperfect people coming together and creating awesome IMPERFECTNESS! And boy did I test out the imperfectness!
Enjoy and I hope we make you laugh today!
34: J. Parker Author | 4 Ways to Increase Your Happiness in Your Sex Life
She discusses 4 ways that we can increase our happiness in our sex life.
I really enjoyed my visit with J. I am so grateful for women like her that are sharing a positive message about intimacy in marriage!
You can visit her website at www.hotholyhumorous.com/. She is the author of 4 books; Hot, Holy and Humorous, Intimacy Revealed, Under the Mistletoe; A Short Christmas Story and Behind Closed Doors; Five Marriage Stories.
33: Respect | Why He Craves Your Respect
Today I chat about respecting our man. Why we should and what it looks like.
Showing respect to our man changes EVERYTHING!
As women, we often don't realize we are being disrespectful because we don't relate to respect the same as our man does. Understanding how your man feels disrespect and respect will set YOU up for success!
Choosing to listen to this podcast means you are wanting to be intentional in your marriage! I applaud you!!
32: His Needs vs Her Needs | Men and Women Have Different Relationships With Their Needs
Do you ever wonder how your man can fall asleep anytime - anywhere? What about when your man is hungry, what does he do? Finds food by chance? When you are tired what do you do? When you are hungry what do you do?
The differences in our relationship to our needs are pretty much opposite! Men have an immediate and intense relationship with their needs. Women, don't have a relationship with their needs.
This can make a woman feel like her man is being selfish because women will instinctively take care of others first. Which can cause problems as well.
Understanding this difference can really help you out! You are able to let go of assumptions and stop comparing your man to a version of you. As well as learn how to get your needs met so you can give from a full well.
It is a game changer!
31: S. Bruce Boettcher, MFT | Managing Anxiety Part 2
-Self-care
-Why is anxiety growing?
-Does cognitive behavioral therapy help with anxiety?
-Circumstantial anxiety
-Helping kids with anxiety
-Proactive approaches
30: S. Bruce Boettcher, MFT | Managing Anxiety Part 1
-What is anxiety?
-What does it do to the body, physically and mentally?
-Is anxiety a chemical imbalance?
-Productive anxiety vs unhealthy anxiety?
-4 types of anxiety.
-What are preventative measures we can take to help with anxiety?
Once again tools to help us live a happier life. The chaos marriage and family life WILL bring are a given, so let's learn from a specialist on how we can handle that chaos a little better.
29: Lisa Brown | The Benefits of Working on Your Part in Your Marriage
28: Listening | Being a Good Listener is a Learned Skill
27: Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, Ph.D | Being a Whole Woman Part 2
26: Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, Ph.D | Being a Whole Woman Part 1
25: What Will Your Love Story Be? | Dedicated to Kay & Leon Glines
24: Shaunti Feldhahn, Best Selling Author | For Women Only
23: Jeff Ford, MS, LMFT | The Soul of a Man Part 2
He steps us through the process of how to help a husband who views pornography as well as how a wife can find help for her.
We end with how we as wives can encourage our husbands to be our Knights in Shining Armor.
I learned so much from Jeff and appreciate the work he does. I don't claim this interview has all the answers for pornography struggles in a marriage but I do believe it is a good base to start from. Thank you for listening!
22: Jeff Ford, MS, LMFT | The Soul of a Man Part 1
21: Good marriage? | Why You Should Keep Working On It!
20: Joree Rose, LMFT | The Power of Mindfulness
Learn the ABCs of mindfulness "Awareness", "Breath", and "Choice".
She teaches mindfulness is the practice of living your life with greater awareness, attention, and intention. It is a practice in which we can become centered in each present moment, anchored in your breath and body, and respond with curiosity to whatever is arising. When practicing mindfulness, we also cultivate gratitude, compassion, and loving-kindness towards ourselves and others, allowing us to go through life with a greater understanding of how to live authentically and in alignment with our intentions.
Joree Rose LMFT Contact Info:
joreerose.com
www.mindfulnessandtherapycenter.com
19: Habitual Reactions | Our Reactions Become Habitual
18: Meet My Man | His Thoughts On the Intense Woman
17: Geoff Steurer, LMFT | Creating a Secure Bond
Every individual has their own attachment style which is influenced by their upbringing. Geoff gives a short explanation of these attachments styles, but then we move right into how we can choose to create a secure bond with our spouse.
A secure attachment style is ideal. And if we do not have a secure attachment style we can actually work towards it. We do not have to be a victim of our blueprints! We can learn an emotionally healthier way of being which will help us become more secure!
A secure bond is based on the answer to this question, "Are you there for me?". The answer must be yes to have a secure bond. Geoff explains the details of this and more!
Geoff Steurer, LMFT
Office: 435-652-4366
Text Him: 435-319-0804
LovingMarriage.com
16: Emotions are Contagious | Act Instead of React
15: Laura M Brotherson | Sex-Vital For a Healthy Marriage:P2
14: Laura M Brotherson | Sex-Vital For a Healthy Marriage:P1
13: Becoming a Whole Woman | Connecting to Your Sexual Being
12: Female Exec Bank VP | The Power in Being True to Yourself
11: Denim Slade PhD, | Connecting to Our Femininity P:2
10: Denim Slade PhD, | Understanding Our Blueprints P:1
We each have our individual blueprints. These are created from our upbringing and our social circumstances. Learning about your blueprints and discovering your attachment style allows you to change behaviors instead of being a victim to your blueprint. We can actually alter them to help us be a healthier version of ourselves! It is empowering! Cognitive Cycles has been a life changing exercise for me. I am so grateful to Dr. Slade for being willing to step us through this process. Denim L Slade, PhD, 321 N Mall Dr Building VW Suite 101 St George, UT 84790 915-245-2518
9: Consistency | The #1 Challenge of Being Human
8: Depression | Understanding Depression and Finding Hope
www.IuriTMelo.com
Instagram: @iuritmelo
7: Love | Creating That In-Love Feeling
6: Dr John Schinnerer | Anger; Choose to Control It Instead of It Controlling You
Dr John Schinnerer Contact Info below:
GuideToSelf.com
WebAngerManagement.com
Instagram: j.schinnerer
Twitter: @johnschin
FB: GuideToSelfCoaching
5: Men and Women | Two Different Species in the Human Race
4: Todd Sylvester | Taming the Bully Inside Our Head
3: The Intense Woman | Where Does She Come From?
after marriage. We feel lost and wonder where our life went. The Intense Woman is a real being. Many women resonate with her. Will you?