What she craves
By Margarita
As i find ways to heal and ways to earn, i want to share them with others
and "love it forward"
What she cravesJan 27, 2022
insta OR income
Why she wants you more - or what you’re doing that make her lose interest
Timelines - for goals & for releasing
How to ask her out - playful or dominant - what works and why
Racists, sexists & homophobes - and how to spot them
Abusers & projection
Champagne privilege
The power of kindness during covid
Forgive yourself FIRST
you can either fix them or fuck them - but not both
Watching two friends try to play rescuer in all their relationships - made me come up with a simple (mocking) reminder, of how playing rescuer is unhealthy - not just because you are treating your partner like a helpless puppy, but you are trying to get love by forcing someone else to change - and why they often didn't ask for it, don't want it
Remember when someone is playing the victim it does NOT mean that they actually want a solution - sometimes they just want attention
#playingvictim #rescuers #enablers #saveyourself #boundaries
Headjobs and Housework
how resentment destroys intimacy when acts of service aren't reciprocated - and how to make her feel appreciated -
The expression, "Happy wife, happy life" - does NOT mean buy her things but behave like you don't care
.... it means ASK what makes her feel loved, ASK if she wants help - ESP if you both work
and do not expect your partner to mother you .... so you get affection because SHE feels loved and wants to return it.
what is the love language of your partner? and how do you make them feel loved? (often we show love in the way we feel loved, and forget that their love language might be different)
#fivelovelanguages #whatmakesmensexy #domesticbliss #helpheraroundthehouse
NOTE - some mention of acts of intimacy between couples - in context of where it breaks down
Beemas, Bad drivers and bad sex
BFO Life Skills Rant
aggressive drivers must be just as inconsiderate and selfish in bed - and other ways we spot this behaviour
Why are people aggressive? why do we enable it? what we really think when they brag about intimidating a stranger
Mild coarse language, use of the "F" word
narcs and the warning signs
why nasty people actually create their own karma - of seeing the world through hateful eyes - and a spatial technique for feeling the warning signs in your body
(sorry about the sound quality, i was at the beach with the dog, and created this for a client on the fly)
women need to stop faking orgasms
explicit - mild - Ask women what they want in bed -
because if you give her orgasms, she willl want more sex AND
she will try more things - it's a win/win
(examples used are hetero couples)
WHY she eats a small meal at an expensive restaurant (Trust me, DO NOT complain)
"Nice guys" vs Good Men
how to spot the difference - why men who tell you they are "nice guys" seldom are - how we know we can trust you - and why we ask about the ex and listen to if you bitch
Green Relationship flags - https://scoopempire.com/green-flags-spotted-what-it-feels-like-being-in-a-healthy-relationship/
why are men lonely
Brief description of why i created this, and how men are lonely and unsure of what women are looking for post #MeToo
BroFlakes & White Nonsense
Upheaval is coming - whether the old boys' club likes it or not - the old system is crashing down -
and those who previously had no rights, no education, no visibility... suddenly have a voice
#incels #trolls #patriarchy #change #veganism #climatechange
are bad drivers just as awful in bed?
if i see you be super aggressive on the road - screaming rage and demanding to be let through and get to the "destination" first -
I will assume you're not only just as aggressive and inconsiderate in LIFE - but that you're like that in bed
eg - how people drive, how people play games - is a clue to other red flags
the ways abusers show their red flags
the things I've learned the hard way about
- gaslighting
- red flags
- walking on eggshells
- blame & justification
- the way the victim tries to rescue
- the delusion that loving them will heal them
and why you don't help them by trying to appease them
(this was a triggering topic for me to speak about - sorry that i struggled and rambled)
magic circle
lighthouse technique
Givers setting boundaries - bc takers do not
Bottling up pain never ends well - for your body, or your relationships
And often we assume others have the same values as us - and get angry when they don't
But..... underneath the anger.. it is usually pain - or a painful belief
#LoveLanguages #narcissism #boundaries
balancing your dopamine & food addiction
brain integration and muscle testing techniques as an alternative to chemically restore harmonious levels of dopamine and serotonin
Rich Roll & AJ podcast - https://www.richroll.com/podcast/chef-aj-363/
fen phen wiki page - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fenfluramine/phentermine
#fenphen #dopamine #gluten #foodaddiction
rescuer and abuser and survival
how can we unlearn the pattern of rescuer and why it starts -
let go or be dragged
what happens when the earth energy is intense - we have to adjust - some people go into resilience and try to push through it
some go into shutdown and overwhelm - and can spiral into addiction
Whenever a loved one feels that something is "too hard" to deal with - it means that it has to be dealt with another way or by another person
eg - if they deal with their anger by shoving it down with cigarettes and whiskey - it will come out in disease
if you deal with your financial problems by ignoring them - then your partner or your bank will have to deal with it
This is also a time of shift in awareness for those who have played "rescuer"
Just like the old paradigm of the "abuser" is no longer infallible - the "rescuer" is no longer viable.. either
change the story and change the past
sorry - the volume is super loud - def turn it down
all of our stories are bullshit at their core - esp if they hurt us - reflect and reframe
and it will change and heal old triggers
intro to SV - BE the lighthouse, not the battery
Steven's mission to empower, not enable - and teach others to save themselves
Joy crushers
some people have a problem for every solution - and, other than avoid them completely - can you use them to create arguments and resolve your own issue as you defend yourself from their negativity?!?
reframing trauma and the stories that trigger us
how we react to the meanings we create and attach to our memories