The Way We Connect

The Way We Connect

By The Way We Connect
Exploring the way we relate, date, and communicate. What does it mean to be a human being in the 21st Century? Grab a cup of tea (or wine) and join us as we explore relationships, friendships, family, workplaces, societies, sex, and our relationships with nature, technology, and ourselves. We'll look through several lenses - psychology, sociology, maybe even physics or biology - and invite experts on social connection (in other words, pretty much anybody who has interacted with other people in their lives).
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Mediation and Conflict (in Quarantine)

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Mediation and Conflict (in Quarantine)
What is conflict management and mediation? What is the role of emotions in managing conflict? And how can we deal with conflict in quarantine - when we are forced to spend more time than usual with the people we live with? My guest, Mirella Kreder, is an organisational consultant and mediator, specialised in communication, business psychology and development. She offers business consulting and mediation to all kinds of organisations and individuals seeking such expertise, in the Czech Republic and abroad. Join us as we discuss the field of mediation - from international conflicts to conflicts in the living room, emotional intelligence, and the stresses of living under quarantine. We recorded this episode under the COVID-19 lockdown.
57:53
July 1, 2020
How Emotional Intelligence helps us Connect (even in Quarantine) - with Joshua Freedman
What is Emotional Intelligence? How can it help us to connect to ourselves and each other - especially during unprecedented times like these, where we are more physically disconnected than ever before? And how can we face the painful and difficult realities facing us and the planet right now? My guest, Joshua Freedman, is one of the world’s leading specialists on developing and applying emotional intelligence to improve performance. He is the CEO of Six Seconds, the the world’s preeminent emotional intelligence organization, and works all over the world delivering trainer certification programs and keynotes, and supporting practitioners in their life-changing work in business, education, and communities. Join us for a moving conversation on the collective consciousness of this moment, where we discuss the need to turn towards the pain of climate change and to grieve, the vital lessons we are learning during lockdown, and how EQ might be part of helping us to create a better world.
44:21
May 11, 2020
What is Magnificent Sex? with Peggy Kleinplatz
Are you not interested in sex... or is the sex that's on offer for you just not that enticing an offer? How can your relationship with yourself improve your sex life? And what makes sex truly worth having? My guest today, Peggy J. Kleinplatz is Professor in the Faculty of Medicine and Director of Sex and Couples Therapy Training at the University of Ottawa, Canada, and is a Certified Sex Therapist and Educator. She is Director of the Optimal Sexual Experiences Research Team of the University of Ottawa and has a particular interest in sexual health in the elderly, disabled and marginalized populations. Peggy has edited four books (listed under Resources), including the book we talk about today,  Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers with A. Dana Menard, Ph.D. Peggy's decades of research into optimal sexual experiences have found that what makes sex truly 'worth having' is, perhaps, the opposite of what many of us have been taught by Cosmo or porn. In fact, it may be exactly these expectations that set us up for problems in achieving sexual intimacy. What does make for "magnificent sex" turns out not to be anything to do with toys, tips, or tricks -  the results may surprise you.
56:36
April 28, 2020
How Stress Kills your Sex Drive : Desire, Arousal, and Cold Feet - with Emily Nagoski
Emily Nagoski is the award-winning  author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle. She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. In this beautiful interview, we talk desire, arousal, stress, Dual Systems theory, and all things sexually "normal" and otherwise. Is the secret to good sex desire, or closeness? What about those people who claim we need to maintain healthy 'distance' in order to create mystery, which in turn fuels desire? How can stress kill our sex drive? How has Patriarchal thinking destroyed the way we relate to our own, and each other's, bodies? Why are we more likely to have an orgasm if we're wearing socks?
1:00:52
March 4, 2020
My Journey to Non-Monogamy
How can somebody go from being cheated on, to being non-monogamous? What is Relationship Anarchy? And what do you do when you realise that society's ideas and expectations surrounding relationships don't make sense to you? Kira Williams (they/them) is a genderqueer trans woman, a critical human geographer and a post-doctoral fellow at the University of Waterloo in Canada. Their research focuses on international migration, political geography and analytical methodology.  In this episode, we explore ideas of relationship norms, what it's like when you don't subscribe to society's ideas about romantic relationships, and how Kira's relationship with a woman who cheated on them led them to realise they were non-monogamous. This episode originally intended to look into why people cheat, but instead took me down a completely different road - why don't some people cheat? What keeps people monogamous? And what about those who don't conform to those expectations?
39:02
March 2, 2020
How can we connect to ourselves, to others, and to Nature? with Christina Echevarria
Why is it so important to connect to nature, to others and to ourselves?
55:05
October 1, 2019
Could you forgive the man who killed your father? with Jo Berry
One woman's amazing journey to forgive the man who killed her father
53:33
September 13, 2019
Can "broken" parents raise happy children? - with Ameé Quiriconi, One Broken Mom
How can parents who feel 'broken' or traumatised raise health, happy kids of their own?
54:09
August 14, 2019
Have you ever been ghosted? - with Leah Marshall
A look into ghosting: what it is, why it happens, and how we can move on and evolve from it
56:32
July 22, 2019
Resolving conflict, mediation and Existentialism - with Yannick Jacob
Exploring conflict, mediation and existentialism with Yannick Jacob (Coach, Mediator, Positive Psychologist + Trainer)
1:03:52
June 21, 2019
Safety, street harassment, and trust: How do we create safe spaces and deal will feeling unsafe?
Exploring safety, trust, and what affects the way we react to different situations
1:07:40
June 14, 2019
Healing Collective Trauma - with Patrick Dougherty
How communities, not individual therapy, are the key to healing collective trauma
44:24
June 7, 2019
Wanderlust, Adaptability, Chimps and the Velvet Revolution: What does it mean to connect to a place?
We delve into what it means to be a third culture kid, to connect to a place, and to be a novelty-seeker!
57:51
May 31, 2019
Compatibility Part 3: Does it just happen, or is it carefully built?
We talk to a married couple about what makes their relationship so wonderful, and explore what compatibility really means
46:42
May 24, 2019
Compatibility Part 2: Who says we need soul mates anyway?
Self-love, friendship, and relationship anarchy: two people who have chosen to focus on things other than finding 'the One'
55:19
May 17, 2019
Compatibility Part 1: The never-ending search for "the One"
Where can the search for "the One" lead you?
1:08:20
May 10, 2019
What does it mean to 'fit in' somewhere?
Exploring what it means to adapt, adjust and belong - this time, in Namibia!
40:07
May 3, 2019
Radical Honesty - is honesty always the best policy?
A look at honesty - specifically, the practice of Radical Honesty and how it could transform your relationships
1:02:26
April 28, 2018
Are we neglecting friendships once we become adults?
Exploring the importance of friendships, what it's like to make and keep friends as an adult, and a brief history of friendship
1:05:02
April 21, 2018
Living with my partner and his wife - Exploring polyamory
Exploring polyamory - with a guest who is in a polyamorous relationship with a married couple
47:28
April 15, 2018
Can you be your authentic self at work?
On being our true, authentic selves at work - with leadership consultant David Papa
53:26
April 7, 2018
Projection and Mind Reading
Do we think we know more about people's personality and feelings than we really do - and how does that impact our interactions with them?
49:28
March 31, 2018
Why do people break up?
An insight into why people break up, how to move on from a breakup and whether exes can be friends
1:04:02
March 24, 2018
The Way We Connect - What is it all about?
Who are we? What is this podcast all about? Why are we doing this?
28:32
March 10, 2018