The Way We Connect
By The Way We Connect
Exploring the way we relate, date, and communicate. What does it mean to be a human being in the 21st Century? Grab a cup of tea (or wine) and join us as we explore relationships, friendships, family, workplaces, societies, sex, and our relationships with nature, technology, and ourselves. We'll look through several lenses - psychology, sociology, maybe even physics or biology - and invite experts on social connection (in other words, pretty much anybody who has interacted with other people in their lives).
Connecting to Nature: Ecotherapy with Fi Garrard
Why is our connection to nature so important? How can coaching and therapy in nature be more powerful than sitting inside a room? And if we know nature is so beneficial for us, how can we begin to deal with the grief of losing it? Fi Garrard is an outdoor counsellor, youth worker, gardener and dreamer based in Cornwall, UK. Her work is primarily outside and all about helping people connect to and be healed through the natural world. "Whether this is expressing grief about the climate crisis in a group or learning about growing vegetables", Fi says, "every encounter brings us closer to our true nature and healing in our inner world creating, I believe real change in the outer world". As one of my topics closest to my heart, Nature Connection will provide the backbone to the next few episodes. In this episode, Fi and I discuss her work as an outdoor therapist and the transformational power that being in nature can have on her clients, before we delve into the wider issues of dealing with climate grief, trusting in Gaia, and how we might explain our exploitative relationship with the earth.
February 15, 2021
Dealing with Grief - with Jenn M Choi
What is grief, how does it manifest in our lives, and how can we best process it? How does one deal with the loss of both their parents in their early adult years? What are the costs of ignoring grief and trying to power through? Jenn M Choi is a real human who is passionate about creating impact at scale. As a Writer, Speaker, and Content Creator she tells inspirational personal stories and shares practical life + work lessons to empower people. As an Empowerment Coach, she empowers real humans to make BIG ASS changes and design the life + work they dream of. She’s also the Founder of a marketing communications consultancy. Her big dream is to finish writing a memoir on her journey of self-love through the grief of losing both parents. Originally from San Francisco, she’s now cozily settled in Berlin. In this raw and insightful episode, we discuss everything from Jenn's personal relationship with her parents, what it was like to lose them in her late twenties/early thirties, all the way up to reflections on what might happen after death and the importance of having a strong support network.
November 26, 2020
How Psychedelics Can Help us Connect to Self, Others and Nature - Rosie Peacock
What are psychedelics (or 'plant medicine')? How can psychedelics help us to reconnect to who we really are, access deeper levels of creativity, connect to other people and tune in to our connection with the earth? And why are more and more folks over in Silicon Valley microdosing? Rosie Peacock is a Business and Mindset Coach who has also been hugely inspired in her mission by psychedelics. As well as offering psychedelic integration coaching, Rosie is part of an amazing team (including myself) putting together a legal psychedelic retreat in the Netherlands for conscious, creative entrepreneurs - on a private island (date TBC, of course). In this episode, Rosie shares with us her personal journey with psychedelics, the neuroscience behind why psychedelics can have such profound impacts on our mindset, creativity and connection, as well as some of the risks involved. You can catch the unedited, video version of the interview here!
October 28, 2020
Mediation and Conflict (in Quarantine)
What is conflict management and mediation? What is the role of emotions in managing conflict? And how can we deal with conflict in quarantine - when we are forced to spend more time than usual with the people we live with? My guest, Mirella Kreder, is an organisational consultant and mediator, specialised in communication, business psychology and development. She offers business consulting and mediation to all kinds of organisations and individuals seeking such expertise, in the Czech Republic and abroad. Join us as we discuss the field of mediation - from international conflicts to conflicts in the living room, emotional intelligence, and the stresses of living under quarantine. We recorded this episode under the COVID-19 lockdown.
July 01, 2020
How Emotional Intelligence helps us Connect (even in Quarantine) - with Joshua Freedman
What is Emotional Intelligence? How can it help us to connect to ourselves and each other - especially during unprecedented times like these, where we are more physically disconnected than ever before? And how can we face the painful and difficult realities facing us and the planet right now? My guest, Joshua Freedman, is one of the world’s leading specialists on developing and applying emotional intelligence to improve performance. He is the CEO of Six Seconds, the the world’s preeminent emotional intelligence organization, and works all over the world delivering trainer certification programs and keynotes, and supporting practitioners in their life-changing work in business, education, and communities. Join us for a moving conversation on the collective consciousness of this moment, where we discuss the need to turn towards the pain of climate change and to grieve, the vital lessons we are learning during lockdown, and how EQ might be part of helping us to create a better world.
May 11, 2020
What is Magnificent Sex? with Peggy Kleinplatz
Are you not interested in sex... or is the sex that's on offer for you just not that enticing an offer? How can your relationship with yourself improve your sex life? And what makes sex truly worth having? My guest today, Peggy J. Kleinplatz is Professor in the Faculty of Medicine and Director of Sex and Couples Therapy Training at the University of Ottawa, Canada, and is a Certified Sex Therapist and Educator. She is Director of the Optimal Sexual Experiences Research Team of the University of Ottawa and has a particular interest in sexual health in the elderly, disabled and marginalized populations. Peggy has edited four books (listed under Resources), including the book we talk about today, Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers with A. Dana Menard, Ph.D. Peggy's decades of research into optimal sexual experiences have found that what makes sex truly 'worth having' is, perhaps, the opposite of what many of us have been taught by Cosmo or porn. In fact, it may be exactly these expectations that set us up for problems in achieving sexual intimacy. What does make for "magnificent sex" turns out not to be anything to do with toys, tips, or tricks - the results may surprise you.
April 28, 2020
How Stress Kills your Sex Drive : Desire, Arousal, and Cold Feet - with Emily Nagoski
Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle. She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. In this beautiful interview, we talk desire, arousal, stress, Dual Systems theory, and all things sexually "normal" and otherwise. Is the secret to good sex desire, or closeness? What about those people who claim we need to maintain healthy 'distance' in order to create mystery, which in turn fuels desire? How can stress kill our sex drive? How has Patriarchal thinking destroyed the way we relate to our own, and each other's, bodies? Why are we more likely to have an orgasm if we're wearing socks?
March 04, 2020
My Journey to Non-Monogamy
How can somebody go from being cheated on, to being non-monogamous? What is Relationship Anarchy? And what do you do when you realise that society's ideas and expectations surrounding relationships don't make sense to you? Kira Williams (they/them) is a genderqueer trans woman, a critical human geographer and a post-doctoral fellow at the University of Waterloo in Canada. Their research focuses on international migration, political geography and analytical methodology. In this episode, we explore ideas of relationship norms, what it's like when you don't subscribe to society's ideas about romantic relationships, and how Kira's relationship with a woman who cheated on them led them to realise they were non-monogamous. This episode originally intended to look into why people cheat, but instead took me down a completely different road - why don't some people cheat? What keeps people monogamous? And what about those who don't conform to those expectations?
March 02, 2020
How can we connect to ourselves, to others, and to Nature? with Christina Echevarria
Why is it so important to connect to nature, to others and to ourselves?
October 01, 2019
Could you forgive the man who killed your father? with Jo Berry
One woman's amazing journey to forgive the man who killed her father
September 13, 2019
Can "broken" parents raise happy children? - with Ameé Quiriconi, One Broken Mom
How can parents who feel 'broken' or traumatised raise health, happy kids of their own?
August 14, 2019
Have you ever been ghosted? - with Leah Marshall
A look into ghosting: what it is, why it happens, and how we can move on and evolve from it
July 22, 2019
Resolving conflict, mediation and Existentialism - with Yannick Jacob
Exploring conflict, mediation and existentialism with Yannick Jacob (Coach, Mediator, Positive Psychologist + Trainer)
June 21, 2019
Safety, street harassment, and trust: How do we create safe spaces and deal will feeling unsafe?
Exploring safety, trust, and what affects the way we react to different situations
June 14, 2019
Healing Collective Trauma - with Patrick Dougherty
How communities, not individual therapy, are the key to healing collective trauma
June 07, 2019
Wanderlust, Adaptability, Chimps and the Velvet Revolution: What does it mean to connect to a place?
We delve into what it means to be a third culture kid, to connect to a place, and to be a novelty-seeker!
May 31, 2019
Compatibility Part 3: Does it just happen, or is it carefully built?
We talk to a married couple about what makes their relationship so wonderful, and explore what compatibility really means
May 24, 2019
Compatibility Part 2: Who says we need soul mates anyway?
Self-love, friendship, and relationship anarchy: two people who have chosen to focus on things other than finding 'the One'
May 17, 2019
Compatibility Part 1: The never-ending search for "the One"
Where can the search for "the One" lead you?
May 10, 2019
What does it mean to 'fit in' somewhere?
Exploring what it means to adapt, adjust and belong - this time, in Namibia!
May 03, 2019
Radical Honesty - is honesty always the best policy?
A look at honesty - specifically, the practice of Radical Honesty and how it could transform your relationships
April 28, 2018
Are we neglecting friendships once we become adults?
Exploring the importance of friendships, what it's like to make and keep friends as an adult, and a brief history of friendship
April 21, 2018
Living with my partner and his wife - Exploring polyamory
Exploring polyamory - with a guest who is in a polyamorous relationship with a married couple
April 15, 2018
Can you be your authentic self at work?
On being our true, authentic selves at work - with leadership consultant David Papa
April 07, 2018
Projection and Mind Reading
Do we think we know more about people's personality and feelings than we really do - and how does that impact our interactions with them?
March 31, 2018
Why do people break up?
An insight into why people break up, how to move on from a breakup and whether exes can be friends
March 24, 2018
The Way We Connect - What is it all about?
Who are we? What is this podcast all about? Why are we doing this?
March 10, 2018